- Nov 2, 2009
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It is this TWISTED mentality that drives the problem of fatherless homes within the Black community. That irresponsiblity that you speak of encompasses fathers who "give up his choice" as well as any feeling of responsibility from the moment he releases his sperm.
that's an interesting phrase. "give up his choice". That's actually what
the abortion issue looks like when it's translated to a male context. We don't
get pregnant. Abortion has to do with terminating unwanted pregnancies in
women. The larger issue is Unwanted Pregnancies. Our conversation
on the man-side should be all about, like you said, "giving up his choice"..
controlling his sperm. Men involved in the debate over what goes on in a
woman's body, is in my opinion, an example of being out of context. That's
there conversation, ours is about what we can control. And that
doesn't mean that we can't offer our opinions, but it means that the bulk of
our time and energy should be focused on the part of the equation that
we can most directly affect. Our men and women are both parts of
the equation but they both have different roles that they need to respect.
And by roles I don't mean the position held in the household, I mean what
you specifically are: father, brother, son, uncle, etc.. But the way we talk
about these things is so general and objective that roles and responsibilities
get confused..