Black Relationships : Baggage?

[sweet apple*pie]

Baggage is pretty simple really....its having a stinken attitude that smells up tha joint, and having a bunch of hangups based on past expierences...

Doesn't get any more basic than that...





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[truetothecause]

a stinken attitude that smells up tha joint,

YEP!...

The other people's STUFF*...aka ish....or

SugarHoneyIcedTea

One nother thing interesting thing about "baggage" is....people tend to see/smell OTHER'S people's stuff more efficiently than their own!
Guess we get used to our own smell....heck...we only been carrying it all our lives...

M.E.

 

[sweet apple*pie]

YEP!...

The other people's STUFF*...aka ish....or

SugarHoneyIcedTea

One nother thing interesting thing about "baggage" is....people tend to see/smell OTHER'S people's stuff more efficiently than their own!
Guess we get used to our own smell....heck...we only been carrying it all our lives...

M.E.

This is so tru, so tru.... We are quick to see the others with tha critical eye...while our baggage is hangin' out ta dry....

 

[cocobutterskyn]

So’ja Man, Yes I do know what relationship baggage is. I just want to know other’s thoughts on it and toss about some helpful dialogue.

I want to touch on something Jahari Kavi mentioned,

in my opinion if one's baggage is a tad bit too heavy, then it's best that they are left alone, until they can unload some of it.

Is some baggage good, as a precautionary measure? Especially when we’re suppose to learn from our experiences?

Example: If trust circumstances sank a prior relationship, would entering a new relationship short of complete trust be unfair to the relationship?

Clyde, I would agree with that if both parties are devoted to love.

Truetothecause,

It is the painful/hurtful experiences that get labeled "baggage" and must be discarded from the memory banks. As if that is truly possible.
I know that the power of the feeling/emotion connected to the thoughts/event(s) is lessened over time when it is adequately and appropriately expressed.

I agree. That’s what creates the HEAVINESS un-dealt with hurt feelings

Sweet apple pie
The make up of baggage is “simple” it the unpacking that kicks butts.


Thank you all, I appreciate your thoughts


MaddSistahlyLove!
Coco

 

[Jahari Kavi]

Is some baggage good, as a precautionary measure? Especially when we’re suppose to learn from our experiences?

Example: If trust circumstances sank a prior relationship, would entering a new relationship short of complete trust be unfair to the relationship?

Yeah nothing is wrong from learning from experiences, the problem comes in when you allow your bad experiences to control your actions, thoughts and thought process. Lately I've been running into a number of females who allow past experiences to kill any chance of a healthy mature relationship. They spend so much time worrying about the negative, that they forget about the positive standing right in front of their faces (that would be me, lol). At the end of the day no one wants to be in a relationship if their partner doesn't trust them. A lot of times I can tell a female doesn't trust me through her actions alone...........she doesn't even have to actually say "i don't trust you," lol. Life is about trial and error.................you gotta be willing to take some chances, otherwise an individual could end up being old and lonely watching re-runs of "Murder She Wrote" and "Matlock"................