You know i've thought that so many times, hearing it out side of my head makes me see it...... To a point........ I will value myself more, well I have been lately.
I would venture to say that it's your fault. It always struck me as odd when argumentative women or plain and plaid women, to me, would be jubilant and jovial, to others. Sometimes, it's just a matter of what you're looking for and how you really rate the woman's personality. So to speak, when your force upon another woman a discovery of her personality, the woman is not for your intimate relations. Truly, your intimate relations near instantly expose themselves, contrary to the Philosophy of Dating. In other words, you're dating the wrong women. I knew a woman who learned to argue from her Father and was very terrible at bickering over nothing, but would be giddy and like a chipmunk with her friend. Even cheated on me with a man with whom she could be giddy and chipmunk like . . .. There's a lesson there. I do recommend, however, that you be kind to everyone (at least at first.) And curtail on the cuss-words (entirely.)
I don't know..For myself, I don't like to argue with the guy I'm involved with. I don't even like to debate about anything at all if there is no reason too. I recall dating a guy awhile back and that was all he ever did. He always found something to argue or debate about and we would end up in these ridiculous back and forths. It's a turn off. Especially to date someone who always wants to have heated discussions, and who always thinks they're right...If I'm dating that person I want to be able to communicate with that person and not feel attacked or always on the defense with them...I don't want to be at war with the one I should feel comforted by. As for why SOME women are hard to talk too, because I don't believe all women are. Some women are defensive because of past relationships, or maybe they were brought up in a household where it was like that....There could be lots of factors...But mainly that's their defense mechanism. I think people need to take responsibility for themselves when they find themselves in the predicament of always dating one type of person. If all the women you date are hard to talk, maybe the true issue lines within yourself.