The video: If the boy didn't do anything, this was wrong; if he did, then the correction along with uncle's use of the camera and boy to send a message to others about gang bangin was a good thing. You say that it's a slave mentality - it's the slave mind? How is that when all races spank (as correction), and wrongfully beat (out of other issues), and it was done before slavery? You say that it may be a cause of violence in black youth? I ansered that in one of my previous posts. The majority of violence in the black community comes from drug use, drug dealing, gang/turf war; along with music that implants those same ideas. What about blacks before the 70's? You want to talk about children being violent? Who do you see on Nanny 911, talk shows, in public, etc. being violent? Kids who don't get spankings! And they're being violent towards their own parents! Blacks used to look in disbelief at white children who would act extremely violent towards their parents and siblins. Blacks had never experienced this because they did one thing those white parents didn't, spank their children consistently! These kids even go to the point of threatening their parents and siblins with knives. Those violent blacks you speak of would never touch their parents! After the whole media push of "don't spank your kids," less and less blacks now spank their kids. Now you see blacks who are being abused by their children, something that would've never happened decades ago. And that's what they get for following what's made popular. Part of the media manipulation was: "Studies show that children who get spankings are more likely to be violent when older." What they didn't tell you is who they studied, how they studied them, who conducted the study and who they have ties to, who financed the study, and so on. Could it be that this is true, if it is true, because more of the children who receive spankings are located in environments which contain more violence (are exposed to more types of other violence), blacks for instance, than those that do not? Like I said, who did they study? Did you know that if you spank/correct your child the right way when they're young, the less you will have to spank them in their later years (pretty much never)?
I spank my child when it's warranted, and I dare anyone to tell me anything about it. Already, it's evident to him that I'm not letting him do whatever he wants and that there are consequences for doing the wrong thing. Still, he doesn't fear me; he adores me. I love being able to go out in public, knowing my child won't act out. Unfortunately, I hate that I can't go out in public without seeing other people's kids act a fool. It's funny, because when my son (3.5) sees those kids misbehaving, he'll say, "Mom, that's being bad!" Now tell me it's not a shame that a 3 year old can see when a child needs discipline, but their parents can't! I have no problems with the YouTube video, and if Black parents and families would start keeping their kids in line more, kids today wouldn't be so out of hand. The whole "don't spank your kids" thing started being pushed hard when I was a kid, and it's only turned out a generation of spoiled people who refuse to be accountable for what they do. I'm not letting that happen to my child.
I still say that it is neither the black parent nor the kid... It is the environment that your living in .... No No No Not your local neighborhood but social and political environment... Basically most of you work so darn much and have time to think so little that beating and spanking is really the only time you have to correct many of the situationz.... Plus the embarrassment of all the people around seeing your kid act in front the public ... itz got to be a tough thing when you have such a representation to uphold..... See society makes it tough for people; in many countries children have time to run and play and tire themselves out .... Plus the children dont have all these thingz around them that are to expensive for them to have so there is no longing and lust for thingz they or you cant afford which is really embarrassing.... So as long as people dont have thingz in the world because they cant afford them there will always be embarrassment and anger because the child ask for these thingz and goes crazy because they cant have it .... Itz not the parentz fault that is working two or three jobz while the child baby sitz themself at home with the television which showz him all the thingz he or she doesnt have and the parent is already angry from dealing with work and paying billz and now going to the grocery store and this kid is crying and and and........ then comez explosion time.... But dont worry they torture the parent as well with thingz on tv they cant have such as long hair and the american dream which every one wantz to be happy... I know i like to be happy ..... It is frustrating .... and yezz I was being very sarcastic with my comments... But to be real ... My point is this In a evil world people only come after you when your doing something right... That would make sense in a evil world ... wouldn't it ???? So basically as a group of people the black community has been growing out of old conundrums that the world wants to have us fall back in.... How do you know your child doesnt have a illness Or look at your water systems they are full of lead and tonz of toxins ... dont you think this would alter the actionz of your child ??? Think about were they dump all the pillz once some one findz out that the pillz were bad for humanz???? Think about the pollution in the air and birdz falling out of the sky ???? But it has no affect upon you or your children??? Now to put this all together many of timez children are asking why am I dealing with all that plus my parent is alwayz angry.... Wouldn't it be a good thing to suck up that little tantrum the child is having knowing the future annnnd present they are dealing with ???? Think about how much deal with every day and realize that children as small as they are or as big as they are .... are dealing with the same stress and problems that you are and more ..... But you would never know it.... this is not the world us olderz dealt with as a child .... This is world were people pick up children off the street and rape molest and kill them... This is world were the media only covers it if it putz their child through college ... Or buyz them a Benz.... Dont let the last day that you saw your child be the day you remember beating them or softly spanking them.... Do what you want I just state my opinion .... WHAT YOU SHOULD BE ANGRY ABOUT IS...... YOU DONT GET ENOUGH TIME TO HEALTHFULLY MATURE YOUR CHILD MENTALLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Much love and light... And if any thing seems out of line from normal talk on this post please skip it because I have noticed "not on this site" people on OTHER sites that are administrators or what ever will change your wording around if they did not like what was said... I say this because DESTEE site is awesome but internet is " a free and open market for attacks and hackers" Think about it the best hackerz work for the antivirus companies... How do I know.... I went to computer school with some of them....
That could apply to some people, but I don't care what your environment is, you should always discipline your kids. I'm able to give my child a nice home in a peaceful neighborhood, we don't struggle, and I STILL spank him when it's needed. And yes, even at 3, it is needed. I don't have to work 2 or 3 jobs, and the life of a freelance writer allows me the chance to not only provide well for my child, but homeschool him; he never has, nor will he ever, be taught by the TV. And STILL...I spank him when there is a reason to do so. As for not being able to afford things...even if you have disposable income, just because your kid wants something doesn't mean he should get it. What my child knows is 1) acting a fool won't result in him getting what he wants, 2) he can't have everything he wants, and I don't have to provide a reason for refusing to buy him something. We live in the burbs, in central Texas. The kids we see at the store are not impoverished, they just get to do what they want because their parents let them. I stopped taking my child to Gymboree because the kids there would act up each and every week, for no reason at all. What would the parents do? Nothing. They'd just sit and expect the instructor to deal with it. Were it my kid that started throwing paint because she didn't get the brush she wanted, I would not have just sat there... I said it in my last post: this "don't spank" mess really got going when I was a kid (I'm in my mid-20s now), and most of my generation is a mess because of it. The generation of kids we're raising won't be any better unless we stop trying to be their friends and start laying down some rules and discipline. Others can do what they want with theirs, but mine isn't being taught that the world revolves around him.
I do agree with the various wayz to disciple children.... So therefore I agree to disgree with other partz of the the statement... But I am happy that you and your family are doing well in the tough timez.... Much love and light to you and your family...