- Jun 8, 2004
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I tuned in kinda late on the VIBE awards the other night... I don't watch t.v. except to check out the ballgames and documentaries on PBS... I came across the awards while scanning the channnels... They were honoring the best video sista in those scandalous and infamous little short soft porn joints we all love to hate. The winner of the award was a sista by the name of Ki Toy, or something like that, and she was mad chocolate gorgeous, and brickhouse doesn't even begin to describe her voluptuousness...
Anyway, it started me to wondering just HOW sistas feel about their own voluptuousness, for lack of a better expression... I know how I, as an African man feel about it, but I wonder, having dealt with the typical well-built sister over the years, how BLACK WOMEN actually feel about their endowments... Growing up, my mother was always counseling my sisters to wear girdles and nonsense, and not to wear their clothes too tight, as they were, all of them, well put together... I actually think, as I look back on that, my mother was teaching them to be TOO self-conscious of their African physiognomy, as well as teaching them unconsciously, to hate their bodies.
I think a whole lotta African American mothers instilled this kind of thing in their daughters, though unknowing the profound damage they were doing to the girls psyches... I think a lot of the thinking of Black women concerning their daughters, was to protect them from the crackas who were notorious for attempting to exploit African women... Unfortunately, this teaching had a price, and the price was a certain kind of self-loathing some sisters have about their bodies... My question to sisters on an intellectual level is, do you truly believe your bodies are beautiful? And do you believe African men think of your bodies as beautiful?
I say this knowing that the internal reigns supreme over the physical, but as they are ONE, and one does not exist without the other, they are the same(smile!) So don't Go there...(smile!) If you choose to answer this question, attempt to answer it honestly, as it might serve to educate some brothers out here...
Peace!
Isaiah
Anyway, it started me to wondering just HOW sistas feel about their own voluptuousness, for lack of a better expression... I know how I, as an African man feel about it, but I wonder, having dealt with the typical well-built sister over the years, how BLACK WOMEN actually feel about their endowments... Growing up, my mother was always counseling my sisters to wear girdles and nonsense, and not to wear their clothes too tight, as they were, all of them, well put together... I actually think, as I look back on that, my mother was teaching them to be TOO self-conscious of their African physiognomy, as well as teaching them unconsciously, to hate their bodies.
I think a whole lotta African American mothers instilled this kind of thing in their daughters, though unknowing the profound damage they were doing to the girls psyches... I think a lot of the thinking of Black women concerning their daughters, was to protect them from the crackas who were notorious for attempting to exploit African women... Unfortunately, this teaching had a price, and the price was a certain kind of self-loathing some sisters have about their bodies... My question to sisters on an intellectual level is, do you truly believe your bodies are beautiful? And do you believe African men think of your bodies as beautiful?
I say this knowing that the internal reigns supreme over the physical, but as they are ONE, and one does not exist without the other, they are the same(smile!) So don't Go there...(smile!) If you choose to answer this question, attempt to answer it honestly, as it might serve to educate some brothers out here...
Peace!
Isaiah