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Higher Standard Required : Study Group Warning - If You're Disrespectful There - You Lose Your Ability to Post in Those Forums

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  1. Destee

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    Peace and Blessings Family,

    I'm really outdone ... yall have outdone me ... almost ... :)

    I think I may be able to solve this problem ... weed out those who really have no desire to be respectful of others.

    If I have to fuss at you about being disrespectful in ANY ONE of the Study Group Forums, you will lose the ability to post to any of them! You'll still be able to read the discussions, but you will not be able to post to any Study Group or start a thread in any of the Study Groups.

    I will not babysit your behavior, teach you how to be respectful, or wait on it.

    If you aren't demonstrating that with every post ... you'll lose access to share in those forums.

    In fact ... i may extend it to the Main Spirituality Forum too ... i'll hold off on this part though, since doing the above may be enough to solve the problem.

    Okay ... who's gonna be the first one that loses the ability to post in any of the Study Group Forums?

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    For the record ... a MUCH HIGHER STANDARD is required for participation in the Study Group Forums.

    What you can get away with in another forum, the Main Spirituality Forum, will not be tolerated in the Study Groups.

    If you have to ask if it is okay to post something there, you probably shouldn't do it ... post in the Main Spirituality Forum.

    If you must preface your comments with ... "i don't mean to diminish or disparage" ... post instead in the Main Spirituality Forum.

    I'll add more as i think on it, but all has been said a gazillion times ... and i won't be saying it a gazillion more.

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    If you can't deliver a higher standard of respect for your Sisters and Brothers in the Study Group Forums ... please don't go in there ... for you will surely lose your opportunity to post in them.

    I'm kind of excited that i think we've found a solution to the problem ... YAAAAAAAAY USSSSSS ... :toast:

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    If you must ask for a definition of respect or disrespect, you should not post in the Study Group Forums.

    A higher level of respect is required in them, and if you need a definition of plain ol' respect, you're in trouble.

    I'm not teaching you what respect is. I just don't have the time or wherewithal ... i simply do not.

    It is required, and you need to demonstrate your ability to interact manifesting it ... and it's all on you.

    If you can't do that on your own ... stay out of the Study Group Forums ... or lose the ability to post in them.

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    Study Group Forums are for studying, sharing, and learning about that particular life choice or path.

    They are not a place to diminish, disparage, and talk negatively about other paths.

    If that's what you want to do ... do it in the Main Spirituality Forum ... your posts will be in good company there.

    If I find threads like that - from this point on - they will be moved to the Main Spirituality Forum, and you may lose the ability to post in the Study Group Forums.

    This community is all about us respecting each other, and those forums require the highest levels you can muster.

    If you aint got it like that, can't pull that off ... it just aint in you ... please don't go into those forums.

    Every path has a right to exist, discuss, share, and grow on destee.com, in a peaceful, respectful environment ... and i intend on delivering that to each one represented here ... with or without your help.

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    BUT, you entered the 'study group forum' and asked what could be viewed as a disrespectful question when you asked 'atheists' "do atheist meet?" or something to that effect. the question alone suggests that you are obviously NOT an 'atheist' and if the question was posed by an 'atheist' in the christian or muslim sub-forum to muslims or christians, surely you would have chastized that poster for doing such..........right?

    A higher standard for one, is a higher standard for all............in a balanced world!
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    Brother Info ... the difference between your assessment of disrespect and mine, is that i have the responsibility for maintaining the high standards found here, in fact i set them, as well as the ability to lock someone out of those forums if i determine they are being disrespectful ... and you do not.

    It's going to be my call to make, not yours.

    I don't want to babysit you or anyone's behavior, and will be minimizing the time i spend on such, as best i can.

    The decisions will be quick, with as little of my energy or effort as possible, being given the situation.

    You and every Member are subject to the way i manage this community, and it's been this way for 14 years.

    So ... shoot your best shot ... do what you think ... and i'll assess the situation.

    If you're doing anything that i consider disrespectful in the Study Group Forums ... you'll lose posting privileges.

    If you find a post or thread that might be in violation, report it, and i'll take a look.

    I don't know what else to tell you ... the Study Group Forums have a higher standard ... and i'm gonna insure they maintain this Spirit ... the same Spirit in which Brother Kemetkind started them ... the same Spirit in which we've always managed them.

    Nothing is new ... except the consequence for violating ... if you don't violate, it won't impact you.

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    Cool, i understand all of that but i'm trying to figure out what it was that you found disrespectful in my thread that you had to move it?

    You haven't stated what it was that you deemed as 'disrespectful'. All i see was an intelligent convo going on. Am i wrong....

    Can you show me/us the quote (s) where the disrepect in my thread happened and or who it was from? please, so a brother can understand. I mean at that point there were only about 8 posts to the thread and it was mainly myself and brother MS234 on the mathematics of balance & intelligence?
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    No ... i won't show you ... i won't teach you ... i won't labor with you or anyone regarding respect in any of the Study Group Forums.

    No ... i will not. As i already said, i will be spending as little time as possible managing this area, the time it takes to click a button ... no more.

    I will provide no explanations. This consequence is new, so i'm giving it time now, explaining ... but soon ... one won't even get this.

    From this point forward, if anyone gets their post or thread moved from the Study Group Forum to the Main Spirituality Forum, count it as a strike.

    I think i may give 3 ... before removing your ability to post in these forums at all ... but i may give only 1 or 2.

    If you need me to hold your hand regarding respect ... stay in the Main Spirituality Forum ... for there will be none of that here.

    As I've thought on this, these forums were never meant to look like the Main Spirituality Forum, it was to be different ... and it will be.

    A much higher standard required ... only the very elect ... those able to manifest respect at the highest levels ... can participate within.

    If you don't know what that is ... how that looks ... how it is presented ... stay out of these forums.

    The Study Group Forums are for those wanting to study Spiritual / Religious Belief and Non Belief ... in the very best manners.

    If your post or thread gets moved, or your privilege denied, just know that you failed to live up to the standard.

    I will not explain my decision, or walk you back through your own actions that led to it.

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    If that's the case and you can't, or refuse to show the same respect that you expect to be shown than clik any button you like. All i did was ask to be shown where the disrespect was in my thread for future reference, you know so it won't happen again and i'm met with hostility and threats?

    You're going on and on about respect, but refuse to show me where anything but that was shown in that thread.....?

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