well thanks at least for being honest...I personally Feel Better to be in a relationship when I am working rather than not...
In Other Words cursed Heart what you are saying is you Treat men you date well and expect the same in return right?
Lots of good Black men are looked over because of curcumstances. I would take the time to speak with the brother to ascertain who he really is. I doubt that could happen on first contact, unless he's carrying himself in that manner. i.e., playa, scrub, etc. But if im interested...I will not be rude or hasty, if the brother is showing interest in me. There will be enough time to go there! Im out having fun and maybe he is too....I don't like to be judged, so I'm not quick to do so. Especially on this nite!
I know this thread was directed at sisters, but I have a message for men. If my posts needs to be moved, just give an objection. What I am about to relay is my opinion (given my opinions are most peculiar). Humans are status seeking creatures. Employment is servitude. To base your life or self-worth on the kind of servant you are in society is a recipe for disaster. Employment is someone giving you something. Is that employer also giving you your value? Self-worth? Character? Are these not attributes that should come from within and not without? Men, in my opinion, desire their own kingdom. To build a kingdom requires property and resources. A man must acquire property and resources that is his own, absolutely. To maintain a household requires property and resources. Being a man contains the attributes of self-reliance, self-producing, and internal driven. Employment is a means to an end and not the end itself. Money is a tool. Do you rule it or does it rule you? Some men talk about gaming women. Show how much of a mack you really are. Stop gaming women (which is certainly not good) and game these systems out here if you are a true mack. Play the game. Play the game to win.