if you were in a club and got talking with a handsome nicely dressed brother but then when the subject got onto "so what do you do for a living?" and he answered "i am not working at the moment". would you instantly but politely thank him for a nice conversation and leave? or would you continue chatting regardless? surely a woman views a potential partner/husband as a long term investment? for example, say you were out shopping for a new outfit and something caught your eye in the shop window and you could afford to buy it. so you go in and try it on and it fits like a glove! so you pay for it and go home. few weeks later you are invited to a party, so you put on your outfit but then you notice a flaw of some kind on the jacket! would you change your mind and not go to the party? or would you still go regardless? but on the way you start thinking what your friends will think of you? perhaps you are known as a woman that always looks her best and never settles for anything less? would you be prepared to lower your standards and risk being embarrassed and questioned by your friends saying "honey didn't you notice the flaw on your jacket? in the same way friends finding out that you are dating an out of work man could cause you embarrassment...would you be prepared to suffer that or would it not bother you what friends say?