I am not passing judgement on you. I am going by what you are actually saying that anyone can read from your own words. I am sure you just didnt expect anyone to challenge you on your own assumptions. You made it personal by stating openly that I was offended. Yet, now you are complaining about my response to your own offense. I stated clearly what I objected to in your statement then you are the one who decided to write a personal narrative about your own family situation. And if you left my name out of that perhaps I would not have responded. This is an OPEN forum. So, yes I have a right to fix my brain or my mouth to respond openly if I so choose. As for the "millions" of black women you speak of, in the context of this thread, I dont know what youre talking about because I dont know "millions" fo black women who find white men "compelling". Just as I dont know "millions" ob black men who find white women compelling. I only know of a few black men and women who are intimately involved with white people and they tend to use the same stereotypical arguments to justify and rationalize the choices they make in selectively choosing white people for mates. Ok. Im "bordering on pathetic". If you say so. But I say and do nothing out of spite because there is no reason to be spiteful. As previousy stated, Im not into white women and dont find them compelling. In fact I have a message from a friend of mine who loves Black men and is obviously an exception to the "millions" of which you speak.