Well, to answer your question... My father -I don't know his mother, because quite frankly I don't know him. He walked away from my mother and I, when I was 2-years-old and never looked back. Just two years ago, I spoke to an older brother of mine for the first time in 17-years. My father's son - a Jr. and all. He came back into my life and stole $600 from me and my boyfriend. I don't speak to him anymore. My uncle - yes, he has a mother and a father. We call them the King and Queen of our family. They live in a suburb - somewhat of a sickening, picture perfect town in NJ. His excuse or reasoning for being a heroin addict, or a thief, or an adulterer? I couldn't tell you. I don't know where he learned such behavior from. My step father and youngest sister's biological father - his parents are divorced. Dad was in the air force, his mother a doctor. My step father was also in the air force. After 10 years of marriage between my mother and him - domestic violence, alcoholism, and drug addiction led my mother to divorce him. He now is one of those prosperous black men I talked about, making over $100,000 a year, single, and a crackhead. Just a few years ago he took my mother to court to have his child support lowered, because my mother is a prosperous and successful black woman herself, so he felt there was no reason for him to have to pay as much as he does. He sees my 15-year-old sister once every month. My ex-boyfriend and father of my unborn son - he has a dead beat dad that lives less than 10 minutes away from him. A reformed crack head mother. But he was raised by both of his loving grandparents, in a house, on a decent street in my city. Why he turned to selling drugs and whoring himself out, I don't know. According to omowalejabali, I simply attracted these men Please. I could write a memoir about the sorry black men I've come in contact with. Cause you better believe, it doesn't stop there. I got some scenerios people thought they could only see in movies. As do many other black women. And the experience(s) I have with the two white men that have been in my life, have been positive. So again, don't knock me or judge me for having an opinion like the one I have.