You said: Sister in all honesty, you have some idea of what this might entail. It’s not that all the women have to be at home, or work outside of the home, for a workable solution can be found within the sisterhood that is most productive and speaks to everybody’s best talents and contributions. For example, I think women with higher education and are professionals will function slightly different than those who are entrepreneurs, or a rural situation would be different than an urban situation. Like I said earlier, this is more about collective and communal living rather than just a lifestyle choice of merely a man with multiple wives. Joyce: Oh...I see where you are coming from. The wives who for example might be a doctor or a lawyer get to go to work and help the husband bring in the money. And the ones who are less educated or have no formal training as far as occupation goes get to stay home and raise the doctor's children and keep the house clean and cook. Then if hubby needs a back rub They can also assist him there. Yep, that's unification alright. Good luck on find women who will settle for this type of arrangement. A brotha would have a easier time getting 5 white women for an arrangement like this. Because if a black woman doctor is making good money, have her own home and drive a BMW, she is not likely to feel a need to be married to a man with 6 wives. She won't be that desperate for a black man when there are others who may suit her just as well. Just like you said earlier, the polygamist does not have to operate strictly by the old traditional ways, there can be some flexibility. Well sistah gurl might go for some flexibility too...in another direction.
If Black women are already having issues finding available men, why would you want to have 5 brothers of your own? …what about your sister friends? But I guess you are a liberated Black woman with rights…right?...so let us know how it goes, I’ll send a few soul brotha’s your way, if I ever find any brother who would entertain living that type of unique lifestyle. Why wouldn't I? I never had a problem with finding available black men. I don't think sistahs are having a problem finding available black men. They must be finding them because our out of wedlock birth rate is off the charts. So they are finding something because a sistah can't get pregnant by herself. It's finding good available black men that's the problem. I would only want 5 of them and the sisters can have the rest.:x: That would be a nice set up...money, wine and love of different flavors. You said you would help me . Why don't you become one of my husbands. I feel you are a good black man. Will you marry me? I'm cute...great personality...healthy (you know that's important cuz brothas don't like a woman who has potential for becoming a doctor bill) and you would get to enjoy my company in privacy on Tues, Wed, and Sunday. How about it?
If this same woman sleeps with a collegue who she knew was married then what would she be? THIS I CAN SPEAK ON I WORK IN A HOSPITAL ,IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME! My friend's mother holds a phd in psycology; she was the 2nd wife when she married her husband, in addtion to her own property, she NOW owns a restaurant at the Main airport in Lagos, this was her inheritance after her husband passed.
If this same woman sleeps with a collegue who she knew was married then what would she be? THIS I CAN SPEAK ON I WORK IN A HOSPITAL ,IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME! She would be his mistress rather than his wife. More convenient setup for the woman don't you think? The husband lavishes all kinds of gifts on his mistress while the wife gets second rate treatment. Yes, that is a very popular setup here in America. My friend's mother holds a phd in psycology; she was the 2nd wife when she married her husband, in addtion to her own property, she NOW owns a restaurant at the Main airport in Lagos, this was her inheritance after her husband passed. And your point is???
Sister Joyce, there is no ONE-WAY to define ANY relationship. Again you prefer to use only extreme views and situations in your rebuttals. And outside of those who dogmatically set up these distorted polygynist arrangements dominated by patriarchal tyrants, I’m aware of various polygynist situations whereas the women are very intelligent, well educated, and successful. For the most part, women with high aptitudes, intelligence, and possibly even highly educated will probably comprehend this arrangement greater than those who are not. Dr. Patricia Dixon, who wrote the book, We Want For Our Sisters What We Want For Ourselves, Polygyny~Copartnering: A Relationship, Marriage and Family Alternative, is a college professor! If all sisters strive for out of life is a diploma, a higher salary, and an expensive car note (as in a BMW) they will not probably understand much else about a holistic life. I know too many financially successful Black women who feel unfulfilled with just their BMWs and PhDs. This is one of the main issues in our community, and that is the shortsightedness and despiritualized thinking of our women. Education has replaced the intuitiveness, mother wit, and common sense of our Blessed ancestral mothers. peace