If the woan I'm with thinks that it is ok to hit me, I'm gone. And it wouldn't be because I'm scared to hit her. It's because (1) she doesn't love me at all, (2) she's trying to get me to act against her out of anger, and (3) if I do that, I ruin both of our lives because by hurting her, I hurt my future as well as hers. And she can call me a punk whatever all she wants to. That's what crazy chicks do to get you trapped by your pride. You don't have to fall for that trap, and that's all it really is - a TRAP, a trap that only FOOLS fall into. I refuse to make jail my future over being seduced by anger-inciting physicality or giving in to the feling ofhaving to defend my pride from her mouth. She ain't worth it!!! As I am leaving, I pray for her, and leave it in god's hands. Either she will make the choice to change once I leave or continue her cycle of attracting abuse to her life. If that's my wife, that's immediate grounds for separation, and we WILL NOT get back together unless she agrees to counseling, because I WILL NOT have the spiritual sicknes of "addiction to abuse" in our home. Abuse is not welcome in our home or in our bed, period. And if that makes me less of a man to you, then you're the problem and you've got to go.
Reading these posts, I feel two ways. Don't hit back cause the cops will side with her irregardless , however if you hit first ladies and you get back. Well the old rule applies,don't put your hands on people. A lot of dudes in here are on some goody two shoes. I mean how many men would just walk away if she hits you hard, draws blood,or strikes your Gentiles ? At that point,perhaps a slam against the wall,an arm lock,or better yet a call to 911.Females exploit the double standard,a man who allows him self to be hit and hurt is a punk. Personally my last relationship I ended cause the arguments got bad,I think she wanted me to hit her,so i left before she tried to bait me by hitting me.
My honest opinion about domestic violence, and violence between the genders was once. A man under NO circumstances should put his hands on a woman.... Life has taught me other wise. No one (male or female) has the right to put their hands on another individual in malice. Unfortunately, in this day and age there is a misinterpretation of weakness and strength among the sexes. SOME ( and I emphasize SOME) women think that there is no accountability for their actions. Example: Woman disagrees with how a man handles a conversation with some third party. Man refuses to argue and rather than continue walks away. Woman feeling disrespected follows Man and antagonizes further, resorting to putting fingers in face, and even slapping. Society dictates that because the MAN is a MAN he should walk away and leave said female alone, and that would be correct. But what about the incidents when dealing with a man who believes "don't put your hands on me, and hand's won't be put on you"? Is woman's instigation of circumstance overlooked due to gender? Is that fair? I'm not advocating violence against women, or anyone else. But what about accountability? There's a cartoon where a little boy agitates a lion repeatedly, and by the end of the cartoon the lion eats the boy. Now socially everyone would agree that that's what happens when you foolishly agitate a lion. If a bully oppresses a classmate and the classmate stands up for himself, we all agree that the bully got his just desserts. But when dealing with the sexes. There is no such. The reason being that naturally Men are most times bigger, and stronger, and capable of greater violence. If that is known then, and I say this objectively, why place yourself in a potential danger to prove a point, or to "express yourself". Why don't SOME women walk away and see that maybe this person isn't the person for you? I feel life tests men enough, the last place, and the last person you as a man want testing you is your woman at home. People who are together are to be on the same team. SO WHY TEST? I feel that some women in situations like this come from backgrounds where violence was common in the home, and are victim of a warped view of affection. The ramifications of which could in some cases could be dire. A lot of women are lacking accountability for their actions. If a woman can't hit another woman without consequence, and don't appreciate when a man doesn't impute physical consequence. Where would need for change come from? Until a burned some won't believe fire is hot. It's sad but true. In some instances, regretfully. Some women may need to take what they've dished. This excludes women who have fallen for a man who has security issues and feels it makes him more of a man to "CHECK" his woman. That woman IS a victim, and needs to flee and get help. No one deserves to be the "lightning rod" for another persons aggressions. NO ONE!
I am a firm believer in the concept you don't hit each other regardless if you male or female. Parents who raise their boys not to hit girls, should raise their girls not to feel its okay to hit boys..because later on in life they will think its ok to hit a man