What I want to know is are there men who actually would and have? How did that work out? Is it a double standard or is it nature intended?
Thats a good point. But why did our ancestors move towards polygamy rather than polygany....seems as though it was something more right and beneficial with polygamy. Also with our people here in amerikkka, being colonized and under european culture,norms, and environment, which has produced deadly and decadent social norms that would destroy you sisters, i don't think sisters with multiple husbands is a good idea. Also since it is the job of the nubian mother as a teacher and nurturer of the child, the scenerio you envision would not be fruitful or beneficial to the child or community(village) at all.....why would you be in multiple settings and with multiple men, rather than you and the women of the community(village) combining together to raise and teach the children morals and culture, while the men are the protectors and "hunters"........ Thats a balanced and universally moral and rightful way of raising a child(children) and "black" nation(community) MA'AT
Thank you Chinelo for your response. You mean to tell me a woman who has two husbands cannot do all the things you mention above in your statement? So a woman who has two husbands/partners can’t be a loving and nurturing and a teacher to her child or children? The woman can still commune with other women in the village can still teach her child or children morals and culture. The only difference is that she has a 2nd husband. Also She would have two men who would protect/hunt for the family instead of one and women do out live their partner(s) majority of the time. if one partner dies she would still have someone to provide for the family. There some cultures in Africa that do practice polyandry or something similar to it. I can see the balance in the nature of it... just like a bull in a field that has mated with 10 cows or lion with his group of female lions and etc... It make sense if you look at it like this.
I was speaking to a man who is in the same faith as you and I. I asked him what it is he looks for in a woman and he noted that he did not want to have any disagreements on what our role would be in the home i.e he would expect me to work. Not a part of Islam anymore I still think it does make more sense as you do for the women to raise the children vs leaving them with strangers to work. I could see if we had a community where everyone knew everyone and families were there for each other, then yes, the children would be in good hands and around positive influence. He said if we teach our children they can go anywhere but I don't think that is necessarily true. Children are influential at such ages I'll say up to high-school, they need their mother all the time to be conditioned and nurtured the right way. My mother was always working and I felt she was unapproachable; she seemed tired too tired to talk from the day. If I have to I will, but honestly I hate the idea unless its really necessary. Men need to qualify themselves to be able to get jobs to provide where a woman doesn't have to contribute financially in my opinion.Why have to undo the mental crap your kids are programed with day to day never mind the friends they may make and have more influence than you when you're not there.our children need us emotionally more than a lot of us think.