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Beauty - Hair Care - Fashion : How Can I Soften My Hair

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  1. river

    river Watch Her Flow PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Hey fambly,

    I've been wetting my hair real good in the shower and pulling the tangles out with my fingers cause that is easier to do while it is wet and helps me to pick out a bigger fro. If I braid it at night the ends will be too straight for a fro in the morning, whereas if I w t it I can pick it out and shape it and it will curl up tight and neat when it dries. Well today I had maintenance to come look at my tub because it was running slow. He found a lot of hair in the drain.

    I don't like standing in two inches of water when I'm trying to take a shower so I don't want my tub to get slow again but what can I do to soften my hair so It will be more manageable?
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    Hmmmm Sister River ... perhaps a drain strainer hair catcher thingy ... ??

    I did a brief search and found a few of them ... i just searched "drain catcher" in google, but i'm sure if you made the keywords more focused, you could find even more.

    Here's a link to one, that is less than $3.00, and you can probably find something like it at your local hardware store.

    http://www.thegreathardwarestore.com/ProductDetails.asp?ProductCode=682727&click=2744

    I too like to untangle my hair in the shower, and probably need to get one of these myself!

    While my suggestion won't make your hair softer, it may help solve the problem.

    Love You!

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    If you want your hair to be healthy, on a regular basis is essential. Conditioners consist of three major components: emollients, which soften and smooth your hair; moisturizers to increase the water content of your hair; and proteins that strengthen each hair shaft. Making your own homemade conditioner allows you to add essential oils which customize conditioners for a range of hair types and needs. Its the best way to insure that you have a natural hair conditioner.

    2-3 tbsp. warm water // 2 tbsp. protein powder // 1 tbsp. aloe-vera gel // 1 egg yolk // 5 drops clary-sage essential oil

    Egg yolks and other protein, such as supplemental protein powders conditions smooth and soften as well bond the hair shaft produces resilient, shiny hair that's able to resist tangles.
    Also you can try using Mayo .....................Mayonnaise can be served as an conditioner and softener that will leave your hair easy to manage.
    These are a few things i know of that works without all types of stuff that will do damage to your hair !
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    river Watch Her Flow PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Yes, I do need something to strengthen my hair because if it is in the drain then it's not on my head so there's already a problem plus even though water makes it more manageable there's still a lot on my pick on top of what went down the drain. My hair is naturally very soft and even though it is thick the shaft is smooth not course but as I have said elsewhere it curls up so tight that Moses couldn't part it.

    Because of this humid climate here in Northeast Texas whatever I use will have to have some kind of preservative. I tried making natural conditioners before with disastrous results. They don't rinse out well and what is left becomes rancid. Where I live even things like potatoes and onions have to be kept in the refrigerator or they will mold.
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    Greetings Sister River....

    Believe it or not I had an afro at one time... and it was way out there...what i used was a product called pink-oil..it is an conditioner/moisturizers..it worked for me...that was some 25-30 yrs. ago I don't know if it's still on the market now.

    Lilpea:1on1:
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    river Watch Her Flow PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Hay bigppea,

    Yeah, I remember pink 0il. That was waay back there with Jordache jeans and Where's the Beef
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    yes pink oil / pink lotion they still sell and on the market , a good product too that will
    do it.
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    Once or twice a month, I do an old-fashioned hot-oil treatment.
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    For you, beloved

    My Sister, I greet you in peace - and with a huge - HUGE load of frustration. I just spent some time typing up a lovely reply and for some reason it couldn't go through and disappeared when I clicked post reply. Dang it all. And my bad for not copying the text first, should've learned my lesson.

    But I love you, so I will type it up again.

    My Sister, I greet you in peace.

    What you must do, if I understand your predicament correctly, is get a good conditioner and perhaps a good leave-in conditioner. You want to make sure of two things when you are out to get this; 1) it's from a black owned company (principle of FUBU - for us by us, products made with your hair in mind), and 2) that it's as organic as possible (you don't know what ails your scalp, if anything, so don't add to the trouble with ingredients you can't pronounce).

    In addition to the conditioners, get a good shampoo.

    My favorite conditioners and leave ins are found at www.qhemet biologics.com (without the space, beloved). As far as I know, it is black owned - at least partly. Check out their amla and olive heavy cream and the detangling ghee. They have some nice shampoos, but haven't tried them.

    Another company I support is OYIN, see www.oyin handmade.com They have a few products you should try, I can recommend the juice and berries leave in (the scent will place you on a cloud). The frank juice and burnt sugar pomade might be something for you to invest in, but I haven't tried those. They are very helpful so send them an e-mail.

    Then, another company I like but rue (they don't ship internationally so I can't get anything from their selection) is www.treasured locks.com.- My Sister, go check out Taliah Wajid's selection, she has a range called black earth and a product called total body shampoo (it's BLACK, go GET IT) and I recommend it highly (despite the laurel sulfates, do contemplate this). The conditioner is also lovely, but alas, it goes too quickly so I would be apprehensive in getting it. It's a site with so many hair care products, and a section dedicated to guides - so check them out for tips.

    Of course, you have to try www.carols daughter.com, black owned with a wide range of hair care products for us. If you are unsure about their ingredients just send them an e-mail with an inquiry, they love you.

    Finally if you don't find anything you like there, try www.vegan essentials.com. Check the hair care section and try the Giovanni range. The Nutrafixx product is exceptional, leaves your hair silky soft. They have excellent leave-in conditioners too, so do try it out (check the lovely ingredients list).

    And, Sister CherryBlossom is on point with her hot oil reccomendation, it's just that this can be arduous to do everyday. What you can do every other day or so is simply pour some olive oil or melted shea butter over your head at night then wash it out in the morning. Just make sure you have lots and lots of shampoo.

    And do remember, Queen Sister River, that you can find customer reviews of most of these products on youtube. Just type in the manufacturer (oyin or qhemet) and you will find tons of Sister giving their opinion).

    I'll leave you two videos here to watch, one for Qhemet Biologics:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=80USyxONEDU&feature=related

    and one for OYIN Handmade: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L_mqNy3L9EQ&feature=related

    I hope that is of assistance, my Sister.

    Peace, protection, guidance and oneness.

    - Ikoro
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    I actually don't like shampoo. The laurel sulphate is drying. When my hair was loose (nowadays, I rock locs) I used to do the 'no poo' method. It made may hair solf, managable and curlier than I thought my hair would ever be.

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