I see it differently. I do not see any reason why a man would neither hate his blackness nor hate women in this society. I mean--this indoctrination is crazy. Turn on the nightly news and you think that Black men are cannibals. Turn on the nightly porn and you think that women are four holes and a hole. (Don't ask!) And believe me, Black men watch news and porn. The rare that do not likely watch the afternoon's music videos which tell them that Black women have all ten holes and three can fit a foot (DON'T ASK!) Seriously, Black is beautiful means a lot. What they say--if you're not on that Black stuff, you're on that whack stuff. Consciousness means a lot, IMO. FYI -- I messed up and saw some scenes from "For Colored Girls." I missed most of it; but I saw this brother sweet talking this sister in front of her house saying "Can I come in?" and I thought "What a creep." Sure enough, that brother rapes that sister later in the movie. Sometimes, when the signs say "Creep" like "Can I come in?" or "You are so beautiful, I just want to stare at you longer" (SUPER CREEPY) it means that, that dude's playing a game with few rules. I met a sister on a train and she kissed me right then and there. I spoke a bit more and she was a nymphomaniac. Kudos to me (though I backed out.) But doing weird stuff like kissing strangers on trains means a lot--just like running your hands up a woman's legs in a movie theatre. I'm not going to lie and say that I never heard of a little foreplay in a movie theatre (I don't really know because I do not attend the theatre) but think of it this way--if you didn't move, he would have been up in the il na na. That's expected. Why? Because that's why you moved. He was going up your leg--remember that. That's just called a tease. Like, when a guy wants to kiss a woman on the lips, sometimes, when he is young, he kisses her cheeks or forehead first. You see? This brother didn't want to touch the inside of your legs. He figured, he can entertain himself in the theatre. To his part, that's what couples do in the theatre--it's nice, dark and public. But that's some weird fetish that you don't need to attach to. I say that you need to teach this Brother he messed up.