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Black Relationships : He didn't put his hand on my lap he put it in my lap, lol!

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    Asomfwaa

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    I see it differently.

    I do not see any reason why a man would neither hate his blackness nor hate women in this society.

    I mean--this indoctrination is crazy.

    Turn on the nightly news and you think that Black men are cannibals.

    Turn on the nightly porn and you think that women are four holes and a hole. (Don't ask!)

    And believe me, Black men watch news and porn.

    The rare that do not likely watch the afternoon's music videos which tell them that Black women have all ten holes and three can fit a foot (DON'T ASK!)

    Seriously, Black is beautiful means a lot. What they say--if you're not on that Black stuff, you're on that whack stuff.

    Consciousness means a lot, IMO.

    FYI -- I messed up and saw some scenes from "For Colored Girls." I missed most of it; but I saw this brother sweet talking this sister in front of her house saying "Can I come in?" and I thought "What a creep." Sure enough, that brother rapes that sister later in the movie. Sometimes, when the signs say "Creep" like "Can I come in?" or "You are so beautiful, I just want to stare at you longer" (SUPER CREEPY) it means that, that dude's playing a game with few rules.

    I met a sister on a train and she kissed me right then and there. I spoke a bit more and she was a nymphomaniac. Kudos to me (though I backed out.) But doing weird stuff like kissing strangers on trains means a lot--just like running your hands up a woman's legs in a movie theatre.

    I'm not going to lie and say that I never heard of a little foreplay in a movie theatre (I don't really know because I do not attend the theatre) but think of it this way--if you didn't move, he would have been up in the il na na. That's expected. Why? Because that's why you moved. He was going up your leg--remember that. That's just called a tease.

    Like, when a guy wants to kiss a woman on the lips, sometimes, when he is young, he kisses her cheeks or forehead first. You see?

    This brother didn't want to touch the inside of your legs. He figured, he can entertain himself in the theatre.

    To his part, that's what couples do in the theatre--it's nice, dark and public. But that's some weird fetish that you don't need to attach to.

    I say that you need to teach this Brother he messed up.
     
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    Wow! So much negative reaction to a touch between thighs…to the outside of clothing…so far away from the golden gate. I don’t know how old the two of you are but I’d venture to say that I’ve been guilty of such behavior on numerous occasions. Yes, men are looking for sex. Yes, men want sex from the woman they’re interested in. does that mean that that’s all they’re interested in? NO. Was he testing the waters…trying to see how far he could go? Of course he was. Again, that’s what men do—I’m assuming he’s in his early twenties. Like so many others, I could trample on the man…tell you he’s a piece of scum that you should never see again. But that would be hypocritical of me. Instead, I’ll co-sign Destee/skuderjaymes’s comments…and add that, if you are serious about a relationship, the two of you should have a conversation about expectations and ground rules. That man is at his sexual peak. Of course, he wants sex…and there’s nothing wrong with that…as long as he have self control. But if, as you’ve indicated, you really don’t want to be touched…you should make that clear to him…and see if he wants to accommodate your particular peculiarities.

    At the end of the day, you two need to talk about where you’re at.
     
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    OOOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHH!

    LOL

    He was trying to put his hand in the cookie jar LOL

    Yeah I would slapped that hand so fast...And I would have told him str8 up "Don't touch me!"

    I've been called a b****, an a**, rude, yada, yada...by men...Do what you gotta do if that means keeping that guy's hands off of you.

    I would have said, "Thanks for trying to grope me you perv."
     
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    Well he finally called me a little while ago, I was going to call him, but I decided he should be the one to call. He did, and I answered and he started off by saying that he apologized for making me uncomfortable. He had no idea that a hand between the leg would make me so uncomfortable, and that he in no way was trying to touch the "cooter", his words not mine lol. Then I told him that I don't like to be touched, to me touching is extremely intimate no matter how small a touch, then there was a loooong silence. Finally he said, so what do you mean by small touch, because I touched your leg and you were fine with that. (You were right Destee. :)) I told him that my knee was okay, but it still made me a little squeamish. Then he paused again, and said okay, you do know that is weird, and then he caught himself and said unless something has happened in the past to make you feel that way. I said no, nothing happened, I guess I am just weird. I laughed, he laughed, and then he asked me out for coffee tomorrow morning, and promised that he would put a sticky note on his door so that when he left in the morning he could read it, and it would say, do not touch the goddess. It made me smile. So, I won't stress it, and I will see where this thing takes us, I am kind of.....hmmm what's the word.....I can't think of the right word, but I am mildly amused and interested. Haven't felt like this in a minute.
     
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    Well good for you
     
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    The guy was just being a man and he compromise it won't happen again
    good luck and i hope it bring better news this time out !
     
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    Well, I do not trust people twice.

    But then again--I have been single for quite a minute, so . . ..
     
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    - LOL -

    you should be a little more than 'leary of him'. What man alive is thinking about sex while watching the muppets.......I mean, was miss piggy turning him on or something? lol

    Maybe you should buy him a miss piggy doll and watch his reaction. If he starts to reach for your right thigh again, get up outta there.....lol
     
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    Wait a moment.

    Since when was Miss Piggy not sexy? ;-)
     
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