Black Relationships : Dominant Women Submissive Men...HUH?

[Feather]

My recent separation has caused me to question my sexuality and get to know myself more. I never knew until recently that there is a classification of Sub and Dom in regards to sex and relationships . I was surfing the net and came across questions to ask your partner. I didn't know what masochism was and I looked it up and discovered the term BDSM and all the other terms and fetish associated with it. It appealed to me. I read more and realized that some of it is just plain nasty, to each his own smh.

Dommes are dominant women. I thought a woman should be nurturing and not so masculine. We have testosterone in us but just the amount we need. When we go overboard I think its not behaving like a woman. oddly some men like that. It would be interesting to know why that is? Some women talk to their men like they talk to their kids which is sad, and some men put up with it. What is it in a submissive man that is appealing to a domme?

I have realized that I'm a submissive in and out of the bedroom. Being a submissive does not mean that a woman is a doormat!!! She does stand up for herself, she does have confidence, and she is a leader when the situation arises. I used to feel that my personality was a weakness, it is not. The essay below shed light on a lot of me I didn't understand before. Are you a submissive? Are you a male dominant? Its nice to understand your nature better it can improve your sex life, marriage, and be a guide to you seeking the right spouse. I posted a read for men who have never heard the term DOM before too or who may be ignorant of these terms as I was lol. May this benefit you.

http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:99Bz2OMRrJIJ:www.pickupguide.com/layguide/alphamale.htm dominant male&cd=9&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us&client=firefox-a

http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:GOevPFB2CewJ:www.geocities.ws/charrickandwillo/psych.htm a submissive's nature&cd=7&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us&client=firefox-a

 

[Shikamaru]

My opinion only :

Each individual has complementary masculine and feminine energies in various allocations.
In general, men utilize and express more masculine energy and females utilize and express more feminine energy. Great shock, right?

Even within such groupings, there will be great and wide variation. There will be some men who exhibit more feminine energy and some women more masculine energy.

There are also various archetype expressions within each energy as well i.e. mother, warrior, father, queen, jester, maiden, etc.

My favorite masculine archetype is that of the king .

Strength, wisdom, competency, domineering, master. command, imperial, power .....

The trick, in my opinion, is balance and appropriate utilization of such energy when needed.

 

[jamesfrmphilly]

i think BDSM is somewhat far out and not for regular folk.

 

[Feather]

btw the read on the Dom perspective is not given as the title of the text is, how to get laid lol. There are just a lot of good points he makes which is why I still suggested any man who isn't familiar with what a Dom is to read it, and it has humor hope you guys like it

 

[Shikamaru]

I'm more into Taoist Sexology and Tantra as opposed to the BDSM, dom/sub biz.