BTW - did it ever occur to you that you may be surrounded by a bunch of dumb females? i have a long term relationship with a woman. i'm grateful for that. if for any reason, i should lose her, i would not try to get another woman. she is my last. why is that? it's just more trouble than it's worth nowadays. you go through all the trouble to get a woman, and what you get is not that hip. i think women have priced their selves out of the market. what you get is not worth what you have to go through to get it. if you are smart enough to be a tech and you've read a few books, you just may be flying over their heads. everyone is telling you to get out of town, if you want to catch fish, you got to go down to the river. you can't change society and you sure can't change women, but you can change your own head. that's why i'm recommending therapy.
You remind me of this other guy on another board that I frequent. He says similar things. You make some interesting points...I'll try to think about it. I have decided to go and see a head doctor. I'll try to find a black guy with the hope that he can relate somehow and tell me what I need to do.
What's up Solo, I've been listening to what you have been saying and trust me I feel for you. The dating game these days have definitely changed there is a certain mode of thinking from men and women and there are to many games being played by adults who are acting like children. Know with that being said I too have and still is classified as being a nice guy, but I still don't have any problems when it comes to dating. Know it has not always been like that trust me I've been dissappointed numerous times before and had my share of lonely nights especially my first two years in college. One of the things that I first had to recognized is that alot of the blame fail on me and not just the women I was trying to pursue. I don't know you personally but just reading some of the things you've said you seemed to be to intensed. Man I think you need to learn to loosen up and relax and not take the opposite sex so serious. I know you said you are not a clubby type of person but you may want to try and hangout a little bit more. I'm also not a clubby type dude but another alternative for you maybe something like going to a nice bar or a jazz club, or a local comedy club. You see most of the people at these types of places are looking to socialize more than shaking their tails. So if you're a little nervous about dancing then this could be some great places to meet women because most of the women at places like this reallly appreciate a man who is clean cut, and intelligent because 9 times out of ten there looking for good conversation. Also I'm not trying to play devils advocate but I'm not saying you should be a booze hound but there's nothing wrong with drinking a little when you're out. I consider myself to be a social drinker and it also helps me to loosening up and relax. One more last thing and I hope you don't take this the wrong way but forget about a relationship right know that's going to come. Personally I think you need to get laid so if you don't have any prospects who can take care of this for you. I would recommend a good clean call girl, are maybe a beautiful stripper from one of Alabama upscale clubs. By the way do you even go to any strip clubs in your city.