Truthfully, this is all that is needed to be said on the matter.
Not ALWAYS and I would venture to say, seldom. If this was a universal practice, I think we would see more Black women seeking relationships outside of their race IF they were only interested in who would be the best provider for her and their offspring. If a Black woman restricts herself and her "mating" to just viable Black men, I would suspect there would be (are?) a lot of lonely Black women in the world.
Ratio-wise, there are more women to men, so competition is fierce for that reason alone. When you add alpha qualities such as who can better provide for her and her children, then the gap widens further.
I believe that a woman's natural mating instincts have become dull and desensitized to a large degree, caused by the commercial media hype of the modern world. Today, sex is something that you do like its a recreational drug. Today, there's hardly any waiting period after meeting someone before sex happens. So do Black women really know who they are having sex with? Many people will tell you they're picky about who they mate with, but something tells me that when tested and the urge hits...not many really practice what they preach.
Not many women would choose to die alone because she couldn't find someone that met every quality that she desired in a mate. Sometimes much is sacrificed to have a warm body to lie next to at night.
Destee, this is not true on many levels. I can not count the times where I have had Sisters that just want to take care of me, buy me things, pay my rent and all that stupid ish. Yes I'm complaining about that. A lot of Brothers might not complain but I wasn't raised like that. A brother I grew up with once made a comment when I was 23 years old that never left me....in fact, I spoke with him about that last month and he don't even remember the conversation, but what he had said to me was; "the only thing that lives off of somebody elses @ss is a tick, a leech and a crab and they are all blood suckers." It never left me...and so I've always had issues about a woman doing anything for me that I can do for myself.
However, on the other hand....maybe I was doing something for them that I was unaware of or could not see at that time. All things are not tangible and it is often the intangible that has more value than the tangible. So what we may call a good provider is in itself a question that has a few boarders to it. If we say "material value as in money, then that's a form of providing....but then so is inspiration, motivation, communication, spiritual bonding and other things. If I provide you with those things that matter to you, then I could equally be called a good provider....so it's all perspective in a great sense.
yes! if hes not the best provider now, he has great potential for later. (in school completing degree.. or old rich parents on thier last leg) lol
You may as well just hang out at the basketball games....you know you can hook em in and from what I've seen, a few of them need a woman to guide their lives for them outside of Ms. Becky!!