Black Relationships : Do Black Females ALWAYS look to mate and create with the best PROVIDERS?

Discussion in 'Black Relationships' started by Destee, Jul 22, 2012.

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    Peace and Blessings Family,

    I have often wondered about this, and Brother Orisons mentioned the same, prompting me to start this thread.


    I don't believe it is what Sisters ALWAYS do, especially given the economic stranglehold many Brothers face.

    Should Sisters be doing this, mating only with men that can PROVIDE the best for her and their offspring?

    What would our communities look like right now, if Sisters made these kinds of choices only?

    Who exactly would she mate with, when Brothers have higher unemployment rates than all other people?

    How much mating would Brothers get to do, if Sisters actually lived up to this?

    Looking forward to a great discussion ... Thanks Brother Orisons!

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    Though historically, this has been true. Our community shied away from this some time ago. I dont see them flirting with the smart nerds





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    Well just by looking at the stats regarding single parent households, black females are among the highest - I would have to say no. I see this all as a plan to see black woman mating outside of their race. Remember it is her womb which is coveted by the world. Through her, the other races can prolong their existence, because all of europe and most of asia have declining birthrates. To sustain a population, the birth rate must be above 2.1. For example koreans have 1.3, while nigerians have 7.52. I think if sisters only mated with the best provider and was not loyal to the race, we would assimilate the same way the native american has. Basically a society of biracial, confused individuals. If shtf tomorrow for example, where would these peoples allegiances lie. From what history has taught me, it would be the side who is not economically restrained (whites, asians etc).

    But besides all that, I do feel woman should go with the best providers who they LIKE (no golddiggers here). I`ve found if women feel secure with you both financially and mentally, they will mate with you. It just so happens that by design we have been made the worst providers. but to be honest, i think sisters are too loyal. I rarely see a sister out with someone other than her race (except if she is whitewashed). Its really the brothers who disappoint me really.
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    to put it simply....no

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    yall sistas are just a trip....
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