i am not dating (too old, too broke, etc.) back in the days when i did date, i dated individuals. black, white, tall, short, whatever. i have never dated a group or a class. they were all individuals who i connected with. for a black woman to date a white individual is her business. for a black woman to date white men is pathological. the reverse is also true.
I gree with CarrieMonet. Her story sound identical to mines all I see is interracial dating. I don't have anything in common with a white man and I never will. We could start off good but there is going to be that point where we are going to disagree completely on something whether it is politics or how to raise our child and will be because he wasn't born black and I wasn't born white. We will always look at life differently. I am also not attracted to white men at all, I am not attracted to pig tone skin, the look of naked white people on TV or movies sickens me, especially when they show thier saggy butt's uke2: . But that's just me. Aisha
Hmmm...interesting... funny how these topics always seem to resurface lol... I believe sista Queenie voiced it best... personally...I am truly "alone" if I allow myself to be with the same "white man" who has oppressed the blood that has birthed me. To my sista vj57...I have quietly watched these threads and sista...i respect your opinion truly...though i have one small question...if the Love of God has moved you so much and "blessed" you so...why do you seem so antagonistic? I do wish you happiness my sista i mean that sincerely for I know I am not possible of finding that in anything BUT the brothas that share our ancestral essence. In my humble opinion...if you are truly "happy" you have accomplished quite the historical feat indeed.
Though I can't speak personally from a womens perspective, I understand the deep rooted feelings or should I say the lack of feelings for persons outside of our race. What influcences our choice for a mate? I believe a lot of our values are formed by the way we are brought up from childhood. During our childhood many myths and stereotypes are introduced to us. Until proven otherwise many of these myths and stereotypes will be driving force of our opinions of people outside our race. I believe a woman asks herself certain questions to find that suitable mate. Some examples are; Does he love me or does he lust me? Can I trust him? Will he protect me or let me fend for myself? Will he make me feel good or will he hurt me? Will he take care of me? Is he involved with someone already? etc..... Some questions are answered upon first encounter like; Is he fine? Is he sexy? Is he well groomed? etc...... My point is enough positive answers to these question will determine a suitable mate no matter their race. I definately don't think it's a good idea to be alone. Personally I'm married to a sister but there are attractive white women, I just wouldn't marry one. Peace Radical Faith
Get Him Vj57! Late in the game and old topic, but...I don't know what sista put Manasiac's clothes in the car and burnt them? or threw hot grits on you, but that one comment sure did reek of "Bitterness". Sometimes the very things we run from in life...catches us later on in a head-on collision! I think we have enough foreign women right here in America! And some of the women in these other countries you hang your hat in? -don't forget are Americans too. We are everywhere you run to to get away from us. Including right here in this forum. -And not all evil. to answer question posed. Don't prefer whitemen at all.