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Black Relationships : Black WOMEN don't want thugs...Not at all.

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  1. MsInterpret

    MsInterpret Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I was out and this chick came up to me and said hi and what not, I vaguely remembered her. So I asked one of my girl friends if that was so-and-so's child's mother. Now her child's father is an old friend of mine from back in the day. He's 30-something still gang banging, smoking wet, locked up, every time you see him he's high and saying or doing something stupid. I told my friend what the heck was she thinking having a baby with that guy, that must be a disaster....HOT MESS.

    No black WOMAN in their right mind wants a man who can't hold a job down, in and out of jail, dresses like a hoodlum, can't talk/walk right, high or drunk all the time, has multiple kids mothers, disrespectful, and uneducated....NO WOMAN....hence I said "Woman".

    The chicks that I know who want these men love drama, because that's what these men will provide.

    Black WOMEN don't want drama...they want peace of mind.

    The ones that want thugs don't have respect for themselves, so they already don't expect respect from the thugs.

    Black WOMEN have respect for themselves and command respect from others....It's expected.

    There is nothing hotter than an educated, goal-oriented, respectful, loyal, hard working, educated black man....Nothing.

    I'm sick of hearing black men say that black women only want thugs, because that is not true. You're just going after the wrong females. Or it's not that they want thugs, they just might not want YOU personally.
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    Then are you at least willing to admit that there are a lot of females 'not in their right minds' that seem to love, if not invite, drama? Because if sisters en masse wanted an educated brother, Mookie wouldnt be getting any. And we both know, he's still getting a lot
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    MsInterpret Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Yes and I believe vice versa....There are more thugs to go around than educated black men....(to those who wanna jump on that I'M NOT SAYING THERE AREN'T GOOD EDUCATED BLACK MEN)....Society and media portrays blacks as being dramafied and love is about having drama...And people feed into that....I think I heard Paul Mooney say something about you have to be careful of this Media because people believe what they see....

    Anyways, I'm not speaking about ratios...I'm saying that BLACK WOMEN...not little girls, chicks with low-self esteem, females with no common sense...have NO desire to be with thugs.
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    Most true real black women don't have time for guys like this because they see them as
    a hold back / down fall and destructive , I agree they want a husband a friend a lover one
    who can provide and maintain one who can strive and love , while the media do give many of us
    black men a bad rap sheet because this how they want society to see us , there are just as many
    good men to serve a woman needs .

    Thug life is a stack of wannabe who thrive on the life of another who have been fooled
    brainwashed and misguided , and they do get there share of sisters , many taken young
    before they can manifest a mind or get there thinking priorty in order .......these guys hit
    the young and not ready females .

    No woman want them nor what they offer which is not much but trouble/hurt&pain
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    Black women only marry at a ~30% rate. That isnt too promising, is it?
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    Well look at who the black men are marrying....

    Again this thread is NOT about ratios.
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    "Anyways, I'm not speaking about ratios...I'm saying that BLACK WOMEN...not little girls, chicks with low-self esteem, females with no common sense...have NO desire to be with thugs."

    THAT MAY BE TRUE.

    but tell those little girls, chicks with low self esteem, and females with no common sense that they're not BLACK WOMEN. i know a lot of them, especially in the south, who--as my nephew says--will not speak to a man if he doesn't have a little thug in him. sure, we may be generalizing...but in order to make such a general statement, there must be a lot of them out there JUSTIFYING THAT STATEMENT.

    the bad part is that, after getting one, they try to change him into a gentleman...and get upset when he doesn't fall in line. LIKE THEY DON'T KNOW THAT THAT'S NOT WHAT A THUG IS.
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    First off you can't fix anyone...They have to fix themselves...And anyone who knows this, is not looking for a THUG...and that person who knows this, is a WOMAN....

    Black WOMEN are not looking for a guy to fix...They want him packaged and ready to go as a MAN....Women are not looking to show a boy how to be a man...They don't have time for that.

    Again, these other chicks that you speak of are not WOMEN...They're chicken-heads...Let that go! Why would any man be so concerned about a chicken-head who doesn't want them? These chicks don't know what they want...PERIOD...again, why be so concerned about a chick who doesn't know what SHE even wants? Are looking to fix her too?

    I know you men can't seem to comprehend this, cause you hold on so dear to the fact that females overlook you for thugs...and you want to throw a pity party that no one wants to come too...But the reality of it is yes some females want thugs, and YES there are women who want you too...

    However, as I said before...It may not be the thugs they want...it may be that they just aren't into YOU.
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