Brother, are you still a little hurt from your experience of being passed over?
I think that by now Mrs. Panafrica has soothed all those hurts away and put his mind at ease
Sis, I know some older BW stay with the man because they've been taught to "stick by your man" through thick and thin. Many times in my life, I've heard Black women be applauded over and over for that by others in the community. Maybe that woman didn't do much else, but she "sho stuck by her man."
Also, sometimes the women have invested their youth, vitality, energy, time, money, etc in the man and in that relationship with him and they don't want to leave their investment.LOL Then too, some of the (older) women feel that they can't get another man, especially these days when so many young Black women are having such a hard time finding a husband, and there are other factors and many times more than one.
I agree with this analysis 100%!!
The question becomes how do we come to this realization?
What event could smack us into this reality hard enough to force a behavior change?
Somehow "Marriage is for white folks" has become the mantra of not only children and wanna be players but the most "conscious" "adults" among us too.
since that, 'i wants me a huuuuusband' has never crept from my lips. I don't know what to tell you. To have a king is a beautiful thing. IMO Kings are made, groomed, taught about the country they will rule and the laws that govern it, allowed to grow and blossom into their full potential before they come to the thrown. I guess it depends on how much work you trying to put into the King and when you catch him during that journey... i guess... queens as well...
i did... essentially i meant that one day your queen will come... that's all sam.. i in no way meant to minimize the difficulty.
tell me then... what is marriage??? i would surely like to know b/c obviously i got it wrong the first time.
i listen... do that doesn't pertain to me. if i do anything i listen... i'm just saying... a lot of the time... people hear you even when you think they aren't listening...
once again... i dont' know what to tell you... all i know is if he/she doesn't want to be married and doesn't see the purpose in getting married then said person should not be married.... end quote
let me answer you with your own words...