Okay – I usually don’t start threads like this but it did strike a curiosity within. My cousin was talking about this blog that she thought was good. It’s like she visits this site every day faithful when she wakes up gets her coffee and so forth. Well I went to her house and stayed the night with her because I’m out of town. She shows me this site so I start going through it looking at the title of the topics and I came across one that really sparked my attention. The title of this topic was “We’re in a state of emergency, There’s a shortage of good D…” so while she was in the kitchen cooking up some breakfast – I clicked on the link and told her which one caught my attention and she said “yeah – I really like that topic” so I continued to read the story. To make a long story short the premise of the topic was about men having good D as they like to put. They are saying that Mr. Good ‘D’ is not even Mr. Okay ‘D’ anymore. They are stating that men don’t take the time out to please women because men can pretty much get it anywhere and women are just throwing it out there. It is for this reason that men don’t pay attention to women sexual needs like we used to in the 90’s and early 2000’s. Now after reading this article as I like to put it, I had to read the comments naturally. The first woman to comment blamed this lack of satisfaction on food and the diet of men. Another woman went on about women faking a good time misleading men which builds up their egos and make them think they are doing more than what they are doing. As we all naturally know another woman got on there talking about size and she badgered a specific place which was weird because other woman started chiming in on this same state agreeing with her so I had my laugh because they sparred no punches (just ruthless). Then there was one that said it’s because of the music that men are not carrying about how they treat women sexually. Yet all of this still keep up with the subject “We’re in a state of emergency, there’s a shortage of good D…”. As I keep reading one thing that started standing out to me more and more is that these women appeared to have multiple sexual partners and I’m talking about the very women that are actually commenting. Now what I find amazing is that some of the comment suggested that women are just giving it away yet the very women who were writing about this issue seemed to be giving it away as well yet distancing themselves from and I quote: “those type of women”. It appears to me in their pursuit to find this so-called good D they’ve become part of the problem. My cousin and I began to discuss this issue and I can actually hear her getting upset. Now as a man I can’t possible understand what these women are going through and so forth yet as a man I find it most important to know what sistas are going through to help rectify the problem . Maybe I’m from the old school but the very women who are complaining about these problems seem to fit directly into the classification of women just giving it up in their pursuit for sexual happiness. Could it be that the women who they refer to as “those women” is doing the same thing that they are doing which in turn make it easy for brothas to just get it and go? If a man puts it down and she find that ‘good’ as they like to call it yet she gave it up swiftly, what category as a man should we put that woman in? In or eyes she’s not wifely material – because we are thinking if she give it to us this easy then the next man that comes alone can get it just that easy in her pursuit for happiness. Again, I might be from the old school but part of sexual pleasure is a mental thing as well – and it deals with the energy surrounding the environment of these encounters. I personally think one of the misconceptions that women have about men is that we are strictly logical creatures but in reality we are more balanced then they think which is to say we are logical & emotional. With all of this being said it brings me to the point of discussion. Why should a man spend all of his energy putting it down when she’s passing it around? If sex is all a woman want and it is all that man wants, should he be the object of ridicule because he had sex and bounce to the next? Should he suffer the mental abuse of being talk about because she didn’t get hers? It takes a lot more to please a woman then it does a man and if it’s just a sex thing then his objective is not to please her unless he’s trying to stroke his ego – again they are both in it for the sex only!!! This means he is not obligated to pleasure her because he’s not connected to her mental – it’s like every woman and man for themselves type of deal. This is very selfish grant it – which is why I don’t get involved unless It’s going to translate into something more. Why should he spend his time laying it down on someone who is not going to be around? This sexual liberation that women are experiencing seems to come with a cost or lost if you will. It appears that the more liberated the women become the more not involved men can choose to be. All this sexual liberation thing is doing is giving women the opportunity to throw their bodies around if they so choose and call it fun without being labeled hoe – but through their personal explorations it’s making it harder for women who choose not to be a part of that system. Not only is it making it hard for women but it’s making it extremely hard for men to commit to one woman when there are a thousand to choose from. Note: women if you want to keep that so-called Mr. Good D around then you have to understand a few things about us and one is that once a man gets what he wants – then it’s on to the next especially without a mental connection. A lion hunts down his meal, he eats and goes looking for more food – he doesn’t stay around to pamper his last meal – he moves around looking for the next. He doesn’t do this with a lioness because she is not prey, she is not sport or for the hunt, she is on his level which is to say – if you act like prey then you will be treated as such, but if you act as though you are on the same level then you will be treated with respect. The irony of sexual liberation is that it’s actually becoming a prison that has rules which can’t be escaped. We men are calling all women of today ‘The Liberated Woman’ which is a singular statement. This suggests that all women fall into this category even if they are not a part of it. This simply means that all women are sex objects because that is how the liberated woman is presenting herself. So this goes back to the Mr. Good D, if men are actually seeing women like this – a statement that women have fought to make in their fight for equality then the consequences of this fight must be accepted as well. There is no reason for a man to care about a woman’s emotions when sex has been converted into a purely physical thing. A man that is connected mentally will try to please this woman physically, emotionally, and spiritually and while there are other factors which can be a problem in the process of sex such as physical attributes of the man, or even the woman (note: women complain about size and so forth but men have complaints as well – we are not vocal about it or choose to publicly humiliate a woman about it) he will in turn give it his best shot. I feel that this is a no win article that the women wrote and the responders responded to - they seem to fit into the same category.