I wish I WOULD have done this one, but I didn't. I found this on the Internet. Since it was marked 'Anonymous', God knows the writer's identity...and I would not think to take credit from him, but to praise him for his words of wisdom...

LADIES CHECK THIS OUT!

"IN SEARCH OF A SISTER"

We are looking for a sister. We are looking for a righteous sister. A real righteous sister. Not one of those teary-eyed girls watching General Hospital who thinks the only love worth striving for occurs at first sight and will be breathless with passion by the second commercial.
We are looking for a sister who will take time to know a man, and to understand him, and to make intelligent choices about the future they can have together. We are looking for a real righteous sister who embraces passion and wisdom.

We are looking for a righteous sister who knows how to give unconditional love-not just demand it. We are looking for a righteous sister who will communicate without screaming or accusing, who will listen without trying to think of snappy replies, and who will not perpetuate female sterotypes by using hormonal imbalances as an excuse to act ugly.

We are looking for a real righteous sister. An all-grown-up, ain't scared of committment, ain't scared of honesty, and knows it's time to save the race righteous sister. A good mother, good wife, good lover, good worker, strong supporter, intelligent, innovative righteous sister.

A righteous sister who realizes Nintendo is not a mother, BET is not a wife, and Fabio is not her husband. And accept equal responsibility for the relationship righteous sister...and ask how a brother's day was righteous sister. A generate some sympathy for a brother when he's down righteous sister...a righteous sister who knows how to tell a good joke, and how to take one.

A righteous sister who is confident enough about her looks that she doesn't have to be two hours late for every appointment because she was primping in the mirror. A righteous sister who realizes that if she's beautiful inside, tidy outside, and healthy, then $400 worth of makeup, jewels, and designer fashions are just covering up her real loveliness. A righteous sister who doesn't compare every brother she's ever met to that last immature fool on Oprah.

A righteous sister who is an example to all around her of what a black woman should be in times like these. A righteous sister whose soul is pure, mind is keen, heart is warm, and body is reserved for the one and only person she will spend her entire life with.

A righteous sister looking for a man of comparable qualities. A righteous sister who will encourage such a man's interest in her, instead of casting him aside for the nearest crotch-grabbing, illiterate convict who just happens to have a Corvette, a credit card, and a Billy Dee Williams smile.

A read a book and sing a tune righteous sister...a righteous sister who loves black men and protects black children. A righteous sister who doesn't dog her man-especially in public. A turn Melrose off, put down Denzel's latest Ebony cover, put away the shallow, sugary Harlequin romances, and let's talk instead and build some tender, realistic love that will stand the test of time righteous sister.

A tell your man-instead of just your homegirls-when you're hurting righteous sister. An "I realize you aren't a mind reader, so I'll tell you what I want" righteous sister. A sister that is open. A sister who can move toward her goals and toward her man's and toward heaven. A sister who is not intimidated or confused when a man opens a door for her, or pulls out a chair for her, or shows her old-fashioned respect.

We are looking for a righteous sister. We used to call her "a good sister." A sister who loves her people. A sister who doesn't take advantage of a gentleman by hitting or slapping him when she knows he wouldn't dream of retaliating. A sister who doesn't make wild, abusive comments when she knows how hurtful they are. A sister who knows that time and tenderness with her man are more important than the latest gossip on the phone. A sister who says: "I made him feel good. I showed him how much I love and cherish him." A sister who is caring and sweet. A sister who realizes that gentleness and femininity didn't have to die with women's liberation, no more than chivalry had to die with Sir Galahad.

A sister who says: "I made him feel so accepted and happy and free that he feel asleep in my arms and his heartbeat sounded like the ocean after a storm..." We are looking for a real good sister.

We are looking for a sister who will turn the ships around. A sister who will go into the schoolhouse, the church, the home, and the social centers, and turn the ships around. A sister who will go to the places where it is open season on our children and turn the ships around. A sister who will hear the whimper of babies born with AIDS or addicted to crack and turn the ships around. A sister who will see the people sleeping on the street and turn the ships around.

A sister who will support the marches in the street, and the protests at city hall and the school board, and who will turn the ships around. A sister who will remember how freedom feels and turn the ships around. A sister who will together with the warriors and march-if only to cheer the warriors on-down to the edge of the sea and turn the ships around...turn the ships around...turn the ships around...and this time, turn the ships around...


--Author Unknown


That's the kind of sistah I am looking for!!!


Postscript--Every Single Brother and Sister ought to read this one and reflect!

Mike Ramey:love:

man dis was one that took me home i wanna gal like dis too
hell i'm reflecting

Hey bro: WHEN you find her, Invite the family here to the wedding...cause I know that you will be shouting!

Mike Ramey

WELL Y'ALL GET READY COZ I THINK I DONE FOUND HER !!!

Boy oh Boy Mike........ I love it......As A Woman, this pretty much the way that I have turned out......A sort of Homie Lover Friend..... Sometimes people don't see what is right in their face because of the bling bling across the road......By the time they finish chasiing that oh so blinding light......aand realize that it was all a facade, it's usually too late.......SORRY FOR THE BLIND........

The poem is right on time. However, many men seem to only look for that women after they have dealt with many of the other kind. I hope more and more men will look for this woman from the beginning.

Thank you for sharing!

....and I'm glad that all is going well with you.

Mike Ramey

My brotha...this was...jus...Lovely :)

...triniti424...go ahead and spread the word.

Mike Ramey

Peace and love. I think about the relationship bet male and female, I think of it this way. It should be a time to know one another, a time to see the inside of a person. Male or female we sometimes have an ulterior motives. What we should be and how , we shouldn't be, if it's a real unconditional love.


A PERMANENT LOVER

A permanent lover is what I?m trying to find.
I don't want to just make love to your body.
I want to make love to your mind.
I know it will be like a lovely melody.
I will surely look. I will surely see.
Pleasure deep down inside of you, where it?s supposed to be.

Open your mind, to realize the bible reads "if you knock the door will be opened." "if you ask you will receive.
If you seek, you will find."
You see physical sex is just a casual thing.
The reason I don't rush you is because I don't want just a one night fling.

I know. Deep down inside is where all your secrets hide.
But not from me and there will be no mystery.
I can tell if you are bona fide or just going along for the ride.
I know how to treat you properly and you will see.
Like the queen you are, with respectability.
To me you seemed like the reasoning kind.
So I will go slowly inside and captivate your mind.

Listen really close at what I?m about to say.
I want you to remember these words each and every day.
I don't want to rule you.
I don't intend to abuse you.
I just want to intertwine your mind with mine.
I will wait for my relief and for you to give me the sign.

It may take me a little time, but as surely as there is a god above!
If you're not contrary, we can have real love.
If you are for me as sure as the sun shine bright.
I'm gonna say this outright.
After I hold you next to me, all through the night.
When the morning comes, I know you will, see the light.

If you knew the things . . . I've seen.
You would know exactly, what I mean!
Making love to your mind is something I would love to do all the time.
This emotion is like a sweetscentedbreeze and a glass of wine.
I find just having sex in your mind is oh! So divine.
And if for some reason these things don?t come true
So what! I'm still for you . . .
And because your kind of love can never be overdue.
There's no other girl I can think of.
That's worthy to receive this kind of love.
....but you!

Freedoms press 2003 Anwar Aswad Amir



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I had to add this in defense of the brothers. This is not an excuse to change the fact that some brothers don't know and don't understand how to treat the female to include their own mothers.
Look at brothers and try to understand a displaced man in a stolen land. I am one.


Just a Man

He is just the man he is.
Never just the man you want him to be.
No matter how you gripe or complains.
He’s just the man he is.
Never just the man you want him to be.
But a man all the same.
Through the slave ship
And his one way trip
into the middle passage
Then slavery and brutality
Victims of brainwashing and trickery
Being psychological and emotional abused
Victims of the murderers and the hanging on the trees
He was a victim of Manipulation and incarceration.
He saw the destruction of the African family.
Through all this.
He manages to survive.

No matter what society says:
He deserves Respect more than any man.
You must understand
No matter how much you complain.
He was born from a woman.
His first teacher was a woman.
Most never being raised by a man.
So no matter how you want him to be
Or what you want him to be.

He is not spic -and-span.
He may not process a big fine car
He may not be a movie star
He may not have diamonds or pearls
Or other wealth in this material world

He is what God created and society manipulated
Separating him from his Afrikan Consciousness.
Not being aware of the Respect and dignity afforded the woman
In this life you must try an understanding
by looking through God’s eyes
Realizing you brought him through
He was born from you
Mother of creation
And in God’s eyes.
He is just a man.
Not what you want him to be.


Copyright 2000 Anwar Aswad Amir

Okay, I have pondered, reflected, and now... I reply.

The woman you are looking for is not a " Righteous Black Woman" she is a fictional creation in the minds of those who have suffered through inadequacies bestowed upon them in their youth.

Those who have had disappointment take the place of Nurturing, those who have had yearning prevail over satisfaction.

You are not looking for a Righteous Black Woman but a dream... a dream differed .
See, a Righteous Sister does not have time for the teary -eyed General Hospital love, she is busy loving herself when no self respecting man is present to caress her with gentle unconditional, deserving LOVE.

She is not taking time to know and understand the man who will "make intelligent choices about their future together, she is taking time to know herself enough to know that she has to make her own intelligent choices about HER future.

That would ensure her embrace of passion and wisdom!
Would you be able to deal with a sister who is "all grown- up", cause she never was scared of commitment, honest and has BEEN saving the race from the underground railroad to the sistah hookin up your fish and grits on the hotplate in your dorm room before final exams.

She has to think of snappy replies and scream and accuse because for so long she has been dehumanized to the pathetic point of comparison to the lowliest beast of the jungle and the beaming maid who "don't know nuttin bout birthin' no babies" the pain is severe and the cost is high. We pay it and deem it necessary to share our triumphs with our scars bared and our tongues loose!

The righteous sister knows that the MAN in her life no matter what color is aware that Lewd sexual innuendos are not love, and a child support/alimony check is not a husband and Halle Berry aint thinkin bout yall cause she's been broken before too and its a long way back from hurt.

Who is to say what a black woman SHOULD be in these times when we are constantly shown and viewed by society at large as OTHERWISE! Otherwise is not REALITY.

She loves her man in public and provides him with the reverence he has EARNED and lays nestled in his arms reading her Ebony WITH the Denzel cover and feels safe and secure knowing that he is Secure and God Fearing enough to know that there is nothing sexier (not even Denzel) than a PRAYING MAN!

Because if he can Love God with all his being, he understands what it takes to be equipped to see the TRUE Righteous
sister.
And when that Righteous sister gets with that righteous man, the oceans will recede and roll forth in the mighty power of true love and worth, the marches and protests will be empowered by the sight of a man and woman who are bonded in truth leading the unity that was intended, and when they come forth together in such a GODLY way that their blessings, and obvious flow of love, and majesty are displayed, they will appreciate each other in such a thunderously passionate crescendo that they will say AMEN! ha!

That sister will remember, enjoy, and embrace her freedom and his too, for one without the other is void. Don't look for a sister... look INTO a sister.

Anwar Aswad Amir ...between you and Mr.Mike...this thread becomes more and more of a neccessity :)

...out in the highways and byways. Only trouble is, some sisters forget that there are some 'bad' sisters out there as well...amongst the good ones.

However, I choose to be on the optimistic side...because all it takes is for one good love to make the bad ones a distant memory!

If you keep looking down, you won't find love...you will find the ground of your despair! Keep looking UP!

Rich...my main man knows what it's all about....the Master of Moderators Everywhere...

Mike Ramey

Much respect Mike! Peace and love!

When the brothers and sisters stop judging by the cover, a lot of the story will be revealed, while reading the book. We are a visual people in a materialistic society. We try to impress others. We should learn about a persons past. We must give the person a chance to choose. So often its just a sexual attraction. We have ulterior motives.We are not going to tell her we just want sex. We may tell her we lived in Calafornia for ten years, but not tell her it was spent in San Quentin state prison. She is not going to tell him about the hardtimes and her bad times, her abused times and the times she played other men. Both the brother and sister deals with betrayal. The brother could get played, the sister can get played. Our sisters wants equal this and equal that. It is very hard for some brothers to accept a sister that acts like another brother. A sister can be indenpedent and still process femininity traits. Brothers take time to know her. Sisters find out who he is.

To right this position we are in on this western hemisphere.Both the male and female is equally to blame. We know we we enter a relationship, if it's going to be unreal or not. We must learn to be truth and respect one another. Let's learn to address rather than impress.

Thanks for adding a more realistic view Hollywood.