If one is married or is involved in a relationship and then have a severe case of amnesia...do you think they would choose or love the same mate again as before the amnesia?

Or do you think that love is a one-time phenonmenal that would bypass the same two people on a second pass in life?

phenonmenally NO ! coz as such set into da mind
of destruction, one's pure love never die to the love
of one's mate the sweet memories stay within da
soul and heart as tyme pass and lost of direction
is found in affectional memory soon self love will
be restored.....

now if one pass away to the new found home surely my
heart tells me that the love that was left on earth will
remain in da living heart but the soul of dead will pass on
to the new life which GOD set forth and truely the spirit
will be waiting with a place for their mate

see pure love has it's own place
we can't understand it
forth it's not for us to try
only the Father knows
and our emotional feeling
and the heart of our soul
guides us in this direction
hope dis answer somewhat of lost love due to amnesia...

now da

Hey $$RICH$$ that was awesome! Others I've asked said basically the same that "true love" will find itself again even on the second pass in life (due to anmesia or some other memory altering condition).

Love is some powerful stuff huh? lol

yeah!!! love is a power that few know of and many
wish to learn but this kinda love is deep within one's
heart that live in da soul and carries to da spirit
we call it true love .... but the answer is yet known

only he knoweth da answer he giveth us da knowledge
and wisdom to learn pure love see if ya love one self
u will love ya mate no matter what !!
yeap ! some powerful stuf indeed

kemetstry: Exactly! That's probably how I should have asked the question..."a stranger walks up to you and say "I'm your finance'" ROTFLOL!

I've thought it would be very difficult too, but most people I've posed this question to have said that love will find it's way back even on the second pass.

Second question: Given the scenario...who do you think would have the hardest time coping....the amnesia victim or the partner (they would at least know they love the person, thus the frustration level might be higher...wouldn't you think?)

most def both will have it hard and a long way back to where
it once was in most cases it only gets better the second tyme
round ....ya heard it from top flyte )))>>>>

I never have believed that you only find love once. I do think you'd love people on different levels, different intensities...but that there is not just one "soul mate" per person. Love's arrow :darts: can and will find you at any given time.

As for the amnesia thing, there have been studies that proved some people's personalities changed when they lost their memories and because of that they were not even attracted to their spouse anymore. Some people even lost their desire to be a parent after memory loss.

I never have believed that you only find love once. I do think you'd love people on different levels, different intensities...but that there is not just one "soul mate" per person. Love's arrow :darts: can and will find you at any given time.

As for the amnesia thing, there have been studies that proved some people's personalities changed when they lost their memories and because of that they were not even attracted to their spouse anymore. Some people even lost their desire to be a parent after memory loss.

That's deep CarrieMonet...I also believe that there is not just one "soul mate" per person...question, does love find you or do you find love?

Your amnesia comment is very interesting....very interesting.

That's deep CarrieMonet...I also believe that there is not just one "soul mate" per person...question, does love find you or do you find love?

Your amnesia comment is very interesting....very interesting.

I think that when you're totally ready for love but not exactly looking something just clicks....planets must line up and things just happen that you're not expecting. I honestly do not think it's possible to look for love. I think it's all the LOOKING that has caused people frustration...because they desire love and a relationship, but don't realize you can't force something to happen that is not there....

So I guess in my own opinion...love finds US.

I was watching a special on television recently where a black couple had a huge issue with Amnesia. The woman began losing her memory for no apparent reason...finally waking up one day not recognizing her own family. After being diagnosed with Amnesia she was sent home to her husband who tried to MAKE her remember him and their kids. He'd show her photo albums, etc...but it didn't trigger her memory. When interviewed alone on camera (before they sought out therapy) she admitted she couldn't figure out how she ever loved him, she wasn't attracted to him, didn't like his personality, but thought he was a nice man. She wouldn't touch her baby which was about 9 months old, she said she didn't like kids...but they had 4!

So I guess from viewing that documentary, I feel you would NOT choose the same person over again if you had amnesia. If you did, it would be rare.

LOVE WILL FINE YOU , LOVE IS FOREVER TRUE SOME DO LOSE THE LIGHT
OF A HEART OF A SOULMATE FROM AMNESIA AND SOME DON'T I'VE SEEN
IT HAPPEN BOTH WAYZ , I'VE WORKED WITH MANY WHO MIND TWIST IN
A MOTION .........

Goes to show you just how important our memory is to us.

I bet she felt the same way about him the first time they met and started dating lol ... then she got to know him and loved him since...4 kids? and she doesn't like children? I'm now wondering if she had a happy marriage before the amnesia, maybe she was frustrated with everything (the husband, kids, marriage, etc) and her lost of memory caused her to go against that which she had....still, I find that very interesting, make you wonder about some things, like why is it that we forever have fond memories of good relationships, but want to quickly (and usually does) forget the bad.

:thinking: Now what was that girl's name that broke my heart? :lol:

Firstly, I don't think that "love" is an accident. It doesn't just "happen" or come out of nowhere. The emotion "love" grows over a period of time after we determine what our needs and desires are and someone comes to us who can fulfill those needs and desires. They then become the recipients of our loving feelings. I think that "needs" and "desires" are two combinations or ingredients necessary to feel "love". And I'm strongly leaning toward the belief that both ingredients are required at the same time for love to be genuine. I can "need" you but that doesn't necessarily mean that I love you. I can desire to have you, but that doesn't mean that it's because I love you. Oftentimes though, I believe some people make the mistake in confusing needs and desires as love.

Secondly, I believe that because we are sources of energy, we have the ability to attract other sources of energy in the form of certain people to us. These individuals can possess the qualities that we admire and can grow to love. On the flip side, we can also attract negative energy to us as well which I believe that we should always be careful of what you pray for.

Thirdly and lastly, I think there's a lot of truth in the old saying, "it's a thin line between love and hate." What that tells me is, everyone of us has the capacity to either love or dislike qualities in the same individual, it just all depends on the "chemistry" that's the most compelling at the time that determines which one will weigh heavier than the other. In terms of amnesia changing how we feel about someone...I think what happens is, it changes the chemical balance and causes us to think and feel differently.

That's my unscientific approach to the question!

Queenie :spinstar:

In terms of amnesia changing how we feel about someone...I think what happens is, it changes the chemical balance and causes us to think and feel differently.

That's my unscientific approach to the question!

Queenie :spinstar:

Quiet as it's mentioned, memory is probably the foundation of everything we are. Without memory you don't have a clue of who you are or what you are about. If you think about it, everything outside of the current second of our life is stored in our memory, we live in our past and the vehicle we use to travel in our journey of life is memory. I can see how someone with anmesia can possible not love the person they have loved for eons, they have no "history" with that person, no memories to reflect back on how the relationship evolved into love. It probably would take some time to develop the relationship into love again, if at all.

Someone (I think it was Kemestry) raised a scenario that any of us can possibly relate to with this amnesia question....how would you react if someone came to you and said we are married and have been for X #years and have three kids? ... I think I get the point now :spin:

Goes to show you just how important our memory is to us.

I bet she felt the same way about him the first time they met and started dating lol ... then she got to know him and loved him since...4 kids? and she doesn't like children? I'm now wondering if she had a happy marriage before the amnesia, maybe she was frustrated with everything (the husband, kids, marriage, etc) and her lost of memory caused her to go against that which she had....still, I find that very interesting, make you wonder about some things, like why is it that we forever have fond memories of good relationships, but want to quickly (and usually does) forget the bad.

:thinking: Now what was that girl's name that broke my heart? :lol:
Supposedly they had a great marriage. At the time of the documentary...their marriage had improved and the woman was starting to remember SOME things. But the husband had mad patience...and he loved her a lot, which helped her recover. The kids were hurt more though, they were too young to understand what was going on.

I'm really happy for them. The husband's love and patience played a BIG part in helping her regain some of those precious memories, no doubt.

Yeah, I can imagine what the children were thinking and went through believing that their mother not only didn't love them, but didn't even like children. I'm really glad that this story has a happy ending.

Thanks for sharing that story, it helped me realized that memory is a critical component of our lives and I should be about the business of making my time and the memories worth remembering.