we live in a U.S population where children embrace
three different racial heritages :eek:

in the future, interracial dating will be coexistent of
itself whether you like it or not

it's here to stay family :)

think about it:

African-American, Asian, Latino(most recent development)

African-American, Asian, East Idian

African-American, Italian, White (faith evans prime example)

African-American, Philipino, Cuban/Jamaican


ALL OF THESE INTERCHANGES AND THERE'S MUCH MORE!!!!

do yourself a favor and stop being concerned with the
race card because trust me you will eventually give yourself
a striking headache :confused:


:lol:


peace
pd

....well said.....

i couldn't agree with YOU more ;)

:lol:

pd

I gotta agree myself .......nuff said !!

I think we should all get along but a white man getting in my panties is not the way to get along, is that all some people think aout is sexing with the other race, can't we think of something new, that is as old as Moses in the Bible dayz. We have people in other countries starving and this is all some people can think of is splitting that vanilla shake. There is much more to life than mixing, wining and dining the white women. But for those who want to do that so what? What's so big about mixing; you speak of it like it's the ultimate pleasure... I think if you love each other it should not matter what race they are, race always has to be an issue .

I think some people act like a homo when they talk about mixing, you don't have to tell every body, (yea I'm mixing up!!!!!) like homosexuals say hey I'm gay!!!!

I think who really cares??? If you like mixing that's not new or something so different like your sleeping with an alien from outter space, that is a human so whats the big deal?

The RACE CARD??? Bi-racials are nothing NEW!!! We have been around a long time!!! I was called black in the 60's, 70's, 80' and 90's....Now all of a sudden I am not black anymore!! LOL
I am now MIXED or bi-racial. The problem is that since the late 60's, many self hating black men have been heading to the suburbs with their white women and having MIXED children. Your white wives have formed organizations like PROJECT RACE in which they single handedly want to eradicate race and racism. What the real deal is, is that these women realize "d-oh, I have a black child and please call them anything but black"!!!!! Very SAD. Lenny Kravitz had a black mother of substance that raised a black man that was prepared to enter the world. Many of these WHITE wives have NOOOO clue.

A few years ago I met an attractive black man in Los Angeles. "I usually don't date black women," he told me, "but I find you intriguing." I guess he thought I should be flattered, but instead I was disturbed. Rather than see me as his equal, he saw me as some sort of scientific oddity

An AOL website claims that most white females that make over 50K a year don't want to date black men. That's probably true, but I'm not particularly surprised or concerned. As a black woman, I'm more concerned with black men who refuse to date other black women.

Is love blind?
A few years ago, I met a very attractive, articulate, professional black man at a charity event. I was so excited to meet him that night that I even added a comment about him during the speech I gave later that evening.

Following the speech, I eagerly approached him at his table. He smiled and we talked for a moment before he politely introduced me to his girlfriend. I was disappointed that he was involved in a relationship, and to be honest, I was even more disappointed that his partner was a very, very average looking white woman.

Despite my disappointment, we exchanged business cards and agreed to stay in touch, which we did. Over the years, my new friend told me about the difficulties of his relationship. His girlfriend apparently had repeatedly cheated on him, which actually surprised me. From my perspective, the girlfrien definintley had the better end of the deal. She had no reason to be cheating on my friend.

For the life of me, I could not understand why my friend was so upset about the end of this relationship. From my narrow perspective, he should have been happy to be free to find a better partner. But love doesn't let go easily. My friend was heartbroken, and I was confused.

I had tried to make my friend into something he wasn't. I had wanted him to date black women also, like himself, but he seemed so uninterested. I had learned something new about interracial dating. Some black men simply aren't interested in other black women.

Another friend, a successful black professional, often complained to me that he could not find black women of his "caliber." Black women, he said, were often loud and difficult and uneducated with 2 or 3 children. After searching for a year or two, he settled down in a relationship with a white woman who worked as a nurses assistant. It seems my friend was actually less interested in his partner's caliber than in his race.

Why couldn't he just tell the truth? He did not want to date a black women!! He wanted a white woman instead. To catch his eye, a black woman would have to be twice as gorgeous and twice as successful as an average white woman!!!

A sensitive issue
Although some would prefer to sweep the issue under the rug, interracial dating is still a very controversial subject in the black community. Yet anyone who dares to question almost any form of interracial dating is immediately challenged, criticized and dismissed by the "PC police." Those involved in interracial relationships are often the most sensitive about the issue when questions are raised.

For the record, I think adults should be free to date whoever they want. I have dated a virtual rainbow coalition of men in my life, including blacks, whites, Latinos and Asian-Americans. Today I prefer white men, but I would not entirely rule out the possibility of dating someone of my own race.

Interracial dating doesn't bother me. Nor am I bothered by segregated dating, as when whites prefer other whites or blacks prefer other blacks. I think this is a natural extension of our comfort levels with people like ourselves. Nevertheless, such preferences — particularly when they become absolute exclusions — could reflect some level of sel loathing.

Why do we exclude our own?
What does concern me is when black men consciously choose not to date other black women. I can understand when a black man dates outside of his race. I cannot understand when a black man refuses to date within his race. Such exclusion, it seems to me, is rooted in deep self hatred.

A few years ago I met an attractive black man in Los Angeles. "I usually don't date black women," he told me, "but I find you intriguing." I guess he thought I should be flattered, but instead I was disturbed. Rather than see me as his equal, he saw me as some sort of scientific oddity.

Of course there are intelligent black women out there. Anyone who says otherwise hasn't looked or isn't interested in looking. That's why I get so frustrated when I hear black men announce they've "given up on black women!!!" after an unsuccessful relationship. "Black men have too many issues," one white woman told me.

All relationships have issues. In fact, interracial relationships must often navigate through difficult questions of racial comfort and sincerity that don't appear in most same-race relationships. In interracial dating, we often find ourselves asking, "Does this person see beyond my race or will he show his true colors when the chips are down?"

Whatever issues white men face, self hatred is not one of them when it comes to their racial identity. That's why I'm more concerned about black men excluding other blacks than I am about white men excluding other whites from their respective dating pools.

In a culture that devalues black males and elevates white males, it is not likely that white male racial self-exclusion is rooted in self hatred than it would be with black males. After all, white men have no reason to hate themselves in a society that reinforces their privilege. Black men, on the other hand, are repeatedly assaulted by messages that communicate our alleged inferiority.

Let's face it — why should I chase somebody who doesn't want me? I have no interest in spending my time trying to get a prejudiced black man to look at me in a bar . I'd rather spend my time talking to that cute, intelligent white man.

Black men in general could care less about their community and it's all the woman 's responsibiltiy to raise the children that the 2 of them brought into the world .

There are many black men out there that are super , but those types are all taken/married.

What should we do if all of the black men are gone and there are none available because they could care less about the black female?

All the excuses in the world will not sit very well with the young generation of black people.

The black males come out of the womb searching for a white of the opposite sex and you better believe the black females will do the same, what ever we do, we learn from what our males have done to us, so they will began to start having thier first set of children by white men, instead of black men fathering their first child, like the old generation. I guess it's time for a change in society and our race as black as it is ; is wiping out every second of the day, when the black females turn their back on black you can Kiss the black race goodbye, we have tried to hold on for too long and we are getting tired,fed up of the black male, fed up of waiting or wanting to exhale. Black males have now given up on black females and when black females do the same their is no turing back, because the black communities will be a thing of the past. That time is not far away I see our community no more already, after a while their will be no black men for black women to choose from at this rate. Morenisis your statements are true ,and thanks for sharing that good wisdom and tough knowlegde.:toast:

Morenisis you said:An AOL website claims that most white females that make over 50K a year don't want to date black men. That's probably true, but I'm not particularly surprised or concerned. As a black woman, I'm more concerned with black men who refuse to date other black women.


That is really interseting maybe women who are black should not date a black man either when we make 50k, it seems we are not valued by them until our pocket book is PHAT

I adore REAL black men. And they love me too. They are friends, family, and heros who are NEVER haunted by the truths that I pen, because they live as shining exceptions to them. To those brothers who are my enemies, whom I disrespect and loathe with passion and glee: If the shoes that you find herein fit you, then lace them up and STEP OFF!!!

For every single mother, there are MORE absent fathers! For every exhausted grandmother, forced to rear her grandchildren, left by the selfish, abusive, incarcerated, there are MORE grandfathers who have been absent for DECADES! For every Black woman who dates white men, there are FAR MORE brothers who date white women exclusively. Whoopi Goldberg is bashed for dating rich white men, while O. J. Simpson is praised as some hero for marrying (and murdering) a teen-aged waitress who was a high school dropout.

I adore REAL black men. And they love me too. They are friends, family, and heros who are NEVER haunted by the truths that I pen, because they live as shining exceptions to them. To those brothers who are my enemies, whom I disrespect and loathe with passion and glee: If the shoes that you find herein fit you, then lace them up and STEP OFF!!!

I just saw the movie "Deliver Us From Eva" and it was very cute/funny. The men in the theater seemed to really like it since they sure were laughing. What I liked about it is the fact that it showed BEAUTIFUL black women. Just something that has been avoided until recent years (thanks John Travolta). These women exemplify just a small portion of the beauty, passion well roundedness of the BLACK women I have known and currently know. Women just like any other woman of any other race. I hope we see more examples in the MASS MEDIA of just how stunning black women are (although I am fair, in my opinion, the darker, the more beautiful)...I hope every SELF HATING BLACK MAN (if not applicable, move on) that has settled for the fat, greasy haired white girl, the one with a perpetual hole/run in her panty hose and a stick up her butt thinking she has a prize when poor baby really has a self hater...Again, I hope these SELF HATING BLACK MEN cringe in their seats and kick themselves in the a s s for hating and dogging their entire race of women (Again! if not applicable, move on!). To thine own self be true...if this offends you, then it's probably you I am referring too...I would hate to be you and look myself in the mirror!! No woman, white or light-skinned black deserves to be used by you scumbags as a trophy to soothe the pain of your soul......LOL.

Black women need to realize that these men don't hate black women, they hate themselves. The reflection of themselves that they see makes their skin crawl. DATE OUT LADIES and EXPAND the pool of men that you have to CHOOSE from. Don't be a pan on the smorgasbord line for BLACK men to pick over. Especially those same black men that EXCLUSIVELY date WHITE.

^5 you are right:toast:

OK now being a sista' from multi-racial background myself I just had to add this...Love, Hate, STUPIDITY & IGNORANCE;) see no color. My father wanted nothing to do with me...though he was a beautiful black man he wasnt a very bright one. But if I deny myself my African rivers I deny myself oxygen to live! ANd though my shade runs thin I love who I am black and all else with in my blood. BUT let me say that I am a sista in the presence of many and I mean MANY other sistas and I 90% of the time got negative responses. :confused: My grandmother taught me to believe (and she aint Black) that being human period was a blessing because we all come in different shapes sizes and shades but God is good in that he only sees love. But let me tell ya'll there are just as many ign'ant sista's as there are brothers who refuse to see the blessings in the rainbow that is Beatiful Black people. And at the same time...there are those brothers who have just found their godly blessed love in the body of a white woman. And heres the real deal if a brotha' aint wise enough to see the gold in his treasure box...he's not worthy to posses it! :shades:

I totally agree w/ morenaseis & Abisha.

I am now dating for the first time in my life outside of my race, it does not feel like I am outside of my race, this experince is so wonderful, I never want to turn back. I am treated like I never have been treated in my whole life, home boy is a mandingo too,hehe. There are so many lies and sterotypes surrounding sex and everything else when it comes to dating outside of the races, but truthfully I have found out there is no difference, no difference at all. If there is any difference I would say , now I am truely treated like a Queen, and I'm never turning back again. I don't hate my own but this love is like a fresh glass of water in a dry desert.:love: I needed that for a long time and couldn't find it within my own race, and God gave me the courage to reach out,and taste the rainbow. I am no longer afraid to date non-black because they don't bite, it actually feels good to the soul. To all you sis. out there if Prince Charming has not arrived maybe you are looking in the wrong color, venture out these guys are fine and know how to please a woman not only in bed but soulfully as well, many of them know how to have a good time, and they know how to love because they love themselves.(Too all of the bros. that know how to love Kudos to you and much respect):love:

I want to say a special thanks to blackeyes:)

Abisha...gyrl your wisedom is beyond your age!! But let me add on one more thing...it aint about lookin for love "out of your race" its about looking for LOVE period...real raw true love...100% fulfilling-only-true-love-being kinda love. For me that is in my brothas...and i wish nothing but the same for you as well sister.

I will always keep that in mind, and I really appreaciate the support, and I am happy I have tasted a different flavor,Real Love is the flavor not a color.

I'm happy for you Abisha...it takes a humble heart and a true love to see that. Unfortunately some people would rather see it black/white and though i would have hoped you happiness amongst our own...its all good I wish the best to you and your new found love :)

I've been reading this thread for quite sometime and decided that enough was enough. I mean, what the HELL! The amount of hypocrisy thats been spilt from particular members has reached ridiculous proportions. Members such as Abisha, Morenaseis, Trinity et al. They continue to rant about their dislike for "self hating black men" who choose to date white women, yet they themselves our in relationships with white men. Excuse me? They like to say that black men who date white women only do so because they feel inferior. Yet when a black women is with a white man...well thats a different story! They even advocate for black women to "date outside" because there "aren't enough good blackmen" yet jump on black men who use similarly pathetic excuses for dating white women. What your truly saying is that its NOT ok for black men to be with white women because they our self loathing, but it IS ok for black women to date white men because they are broading their horizons. Yeah, real logic isn't it?

By the way I'm a black male who is NOT in an interracial relationship and NEVER has been! However I do think that the B.S that has been going on this thread has got to stop!

I've been reading this thread for quite sometime and decided that enough was enough. I mean, what the HELL! The amount of hypocrisy thats been spilt from particular members has reached ridiculous proportions. Members such as Abisha, Morenaseis, Trinity et al. They continue to rant about their dislike for "self hating black men" who choose to date white women, yet they themselves our in relationships with white men. Excuse me? They like to say that black men who date white women only do so because they feel inferior. Yet when a black women is with a white man...well thats a different story! They even advocate for black women to "date outside" because there "aren't enough good blackmen" yet jump on black men who use similarly pathetic excuses for dating white women. What your truly saying is that its NOT ok for black men to be with white women because they our self loathing, but it IS ok for black women to dating white men because they are broading their horizons. Yeah, real logic isn't it?

By the way I'm a black male who is NOT in an interracial relationship and NEVER has been! However I do think that the B.S that has been going on this thread has got to stop!

Hmmmm...b4 I begin I will say welcome to you my brotha because I dont think I've ever encountered you before...
Having said that...
My brotha you have greatly misunderstood me...it saddens me that you would jump to such conclusions without having questioned me...
my responses were addressing sista Abisha and her own personal struggles...I have NEVER been with a white man though my whole life I have been propositioned...I have NEVER sought out to be with a white man though many of my own blak brethren encourage me to...I DO NOT desire to be with a white man now, later, or ever...I also do NOT look at love as black/white...I look at love, as... love through the eyes of a young blak sista...and the Lord knowing my heart knows the desires of my soul and where my passions lie alongside melanin rooted rivers...I can not speak for others but I also can not comdemn a sista or brotha who has chosen to seek love with a white counterpart. Thats their decision...not mine...I dont know the reasons why others do what they do but I do know myself....I know that when my soul seeks comfort and my heart hears peace it is rooted in the mind body and soul of my blak brotha...I apologize if you have been offended but believe me when I say...that was never the intention...

Hmmmm...b4 I begin I will say welcome to you my brotha because I dont think I've ever encountered you before...
Having said that...
My brotha you have greatly misunderstood me...it saddens me that you would jump to such conclusions without having questioned me...
my responses were addressing sista Abisha and her own personal struggles...I have NEVER been with a white man though my whole life I have been propositioned...I have NEVER sought out to be with a white man though many of my own blak brethren encourage me to...I DO NOT desire to be with a white man now, later, or ever...I also do NOT look at love as black/white...I look at love, as... love through the eyes of a young blak sista...and the Lord knowing my heart knows the desires of my soul and where my passions lie alongside melanin rooted rivers...I can not speak for others but I also can not comdemn a sista or brotha who has chosen to seek love with a white counterpart. Thats their decision...not mine...I dont know the reasons why others do what they do but I do know myself....I know that when my soul seeks comfort and my heart hears peace it is rooted in the mind body and soul of my blak brotha...I apologize if you have been offended but believe me when I say...that was never the intention...

Trinity I apologize for including you in the group of women who bash black men for dating interracially but then go along and do the same thing. It's just that I grew sick and tired of this group bad mouthing us black men saying how "self hating" we our yet they are doing exactly what they chastize us for doing. Let me tell you a secret the myth that there is a shortage of "good black men" is just that...a myth. Good black men are everywhere it's just that they live in the shadow of the "thug" who is seen as the epitome of black manhood. In fact many good black men feel that they're underappreciated because what black women seem to be looking for is "thugged out" baller, rather than a hardworking resonsible man. I personally remember how hard it was to get black women to notice me instead of all the thugged out brothers who I knew were going to impregnate these women, then run like hell!

Yet know we have many female members saying that its ok to pick white men because "there aren't good black men ". They claim that all the "good" men have been taken by white women, prison or are gay. Well if this is their perception of "good" black men they probably had a low opinion of black men in the first place. What about black women who choose white men, how come that is not discussed as much. Black women always come with the b.s that they don't abandon the race as much as black men. But if you look at history you'll see that there has been more miscegenation between white men and black females than between white females and black males. Yes many slave women were raped by their white masters; but many willingly chose to sleep with massa inorder to gain special favor and priveldge. These members forget that black men could not so much as look at a white female without facing some VERY serious consequences! Whilst it was ok for white men to sleep with black women and father mixed-raced children whom they quickly abandoned ( and they ride us for abandoning our kids). How do you think the one drop rule came about. It was to protect white men from having to take responsibility for having fathered a child with black women.

So lets put things into perspective before we start bashing each other ok.

my brotha...I understand your frustration...but if you look around here...its a pro-black site...and though the topic of black/white relationships comes up...many of our Destee sisters come to defense of our beautiful blak kings...we love yall...Lord knows I love yall lol :) and yet when other sistas or brothas choose to seek companionship outside blak royalty...I cant condemn them...or bash them either...dont you see my brotha... in giving this topic too much of our precious energy we validate it and all I can say to those who choose to be with who they do is...May your happiness be genuine and your love divinely blessed and may your soul TRULY be at peace...because just like there are kingly brothas like yourself around...the Queens awaiting their royal blak soulmates, like myself, await the day when their blak king completes her humble heart.

Chukwuemeka, you held it down....well said. This whole double standard is B.S....I've never been with a white woman in my life and **** sure never plan to. I am commited only to my black women but if a sista is going to crossover while chastising black men for doing the same thing, then she makes herself look like a straight hypocrite. Either you're O.K with "intergrating"-relationships or not...NO EXCUSES. And this whole Black women are expanding their horizons is only half of it. I've been told by many sistas that part of the reason is to get back at black men for getting with white women. I can understand many of my sistas frustration, however if you're with a white man, then you're in no position to point your finger at the brotha with the white girl.


(by the way I am not defending brothas with white women, Im totally against interacial-relationships but I just get tired of the Black male bashing)

I've been reading this thread for quite sometime and decided that enough was enough. I mean, what the HELL! The amount of hypocrisy thats been spilt from particular members has reached ridiculous proportions. Members such as Abisha, Morenaseis, Trinity et al. They continue to rant about their dislike for "self hating black men" who choose to date white women, yet they themselves our in relationships with white men. Excuse me? They like to say that black men who date white women only do so because they feel inferior. Yet when a black women is with a white man...well thats a different story! They even advocate for black women to "date outside" because there "aren't enough good blackmen" yet jump on black men who use similarly pathetic excuses for dating white women. What your truly saying is that its NOT ok for black men to be with white women because they our self loathing, but it IS ok for black women to dating white men because they are broading their horizons. Yeah, real logic isn't it?

By the way I'm a black male who is NOT in an interracial relationship and NEVER has been! However I do think that the B.S that has been going on this thread has got to stop!

Many women can learn from the mEn , when God made man he made the man to be the head, there are many black men who are and have actively sought outside of the black race, and the black women have been afraid and suffered long enough with no man at all. God made us beautiful too so we should date .We should learn from our counterparts who have taken the lead to show us that there is no difference in race when it comes to love. Although I never bashed black men for doing it, I have found the love they have been fighting for all this time, and that love has no color and I have found

a love that sticks with you through thick and thin,
a love that is not for the S*x
a love that is not based on the color of your skin
a love that does not doubt you
a love that does not force you
a love that will not stop loving you because you have children
a love that you don't have to beg them to stay
a love that willingly takes you hand and helps you through thick and thin
a love that understands....
a love that is not based on the color of your skin.
One who loves me despite of my imperfections

Why should I be treated like it's a priviledge to have a date since I have kids ,
When you have kids some think Ooh, she just laid up and had babies and they throw me away, not knowing my babies came from a marriage of 12 years . I was advised that I Married a Mookie and I should not have had children and should not have married a Mookie. What was I suppose to do give all my children away to the Foster care system and start over fresh?Some women have done that but that is not my cup of tea!

The love I have now never asked and when he found out it was not even an issue.

You would have never caught me now or in the past hating on brothers that date outside, I have always said if that is what makes them happy let them do as they please. In the past a certain member brought up Mookie , and I defended black males to the point that I was percecuted for doing so. If you saw my poem , that was a hurt I felt because I waited for black love for years and I never met Mr. Right in my color, It just did not happen for me. It is not anyone's fault for that. I stopped looking and that is when Mr. Right found me. Now matter how long you live in life, you learn. I am not perfect and have made many mistakes in a life time and nobody on this board can point fingers at anybody claiming perfection, you are not perfect and probably make mistakes everyday. Hidden mistakes that others can not see.

But go ahead and claim perfection
As you can see I am not and will never claim to be, I have learned from many mistakes,and one of them was looking for Mr. Right in a black man, when I should not have looked for Mr. Right at all, he came to me, women should not have to actively seek men, and if you want to condemn me for learning so be it. This is my life's expereince and not yours. You could never know how I felt unless you have walked in my shoes, that is not possible so you don't know my plight.

I will not accept the charges you have brought against me or deny the charges you have spoken against me,

MY POSTS SPEAK TO THIER READERS AND MANY PEOPLE KNOW WHAT I AM ABOUT BEFORE POSTING SUCH A NEGATIVE IMAGE ON MY NAME. DO AS YOU PLEASE I AM NOT HERE TO DEFEND OR FIGHT, BUT SHARE SOME OF MY LIFE EXPERIANCE. IF WE DON'T LEARN FROM EACH OTHER WHAT ARE WE HERE FOR?

What is your constructive point?

Black men in general could care less...-that gem Abisha? Forgot it? That implies most or all Black men.

my blak brethren...why is it that we continue to give this subject so much attention...
...so there are those who choose to seek companionship elsewhere...
...and there are sistas who bash brothas with white women & then play the same game...
...and there are brothas who bash sistas with white men & then play the same game...
...my thing is...who cares? Let those who choose otherwise...do. I wish them the best & happiness & all that good stuff because thas a territory I would neva choose to explore.

At the end of the day...I know that I love my brothas and need them because I and he are one...I can not exist without the him and he can not carry on without me...plain and simple, simple and plain...and there are SO many other brothas and sistas who feel the same way...a great majority of them are here at Destee...
so why continue to feed this frivolous fire...I dont look at "color" either because there is only one option for my souls sustenance...

the blak beauty that made me will sustain me...

so why should we care that others bash or blame or banter on about black/white relationships...let them...in my opinion fueling the fire is like sending an army to kill a fly..

but thas my lil 2 cents...

With all due respects to the brothers-if you flip the gender in that particular and a few other posts made by a brother(s), the objections from the sisters(including the IR minded ones) WOULD have immediately came in with 2-5 times the numbers as soon as that was posted on page one than the 3 brothers that responded to this topic on page 3. That is the nature that boards work. And brothers do take their time to respond, sisters-almost immediately.

With all due respects to the brothers-if you flip the gender in that particular and a few other posts made by a brother(s), the objections from the sisters(including the IR minded ones) WOULD have immediately came in with 2-5 times the numbers as soon as that was posted on page one than the 3 brothers that responded to this topic on page 3. That is the nature that boards work. And brothers do take their time to respond, sisters-almost immediately.

lol yeah I noticed that too but I've said my peace...movin on now... :rolling: lol

I am happy that I was never one of the people who bashed IR dating, I never thought I would be an IR dater and it's not something I tried to do , it just happend.

:deal:I am apart of an African forum and it consist of Africans from the continent and all over the world. There is this one particular topic called Why I don't date black men. The person that wrote it seemed to be problack but then she talks negatively about black men. She prefers white men only. I have never in my life have heard anyone put down their own people in the way that I feel the person has did. I love black men and I can't see how someone can speak badly about them. There is good and bad in every race I don't think that white men are better then black men. She seems to embrace the white people which is insulting. www.africaforum.com

There is a ignorant Nigerian female who made this comment:
I'm a nigerian female who was raised predominantly in england and america (i left nigeria when i was 4 but spent a year there when i was 6) and from what i have experienced personally and witnessed, I simply must say that the majority of black men are unworthy of black women.
From their sexual preference for light-skinned and white women, to their infidelity and mistreatment of dark-skinned women, black men worldwide are a poor, poor match for black women.
Black women have internalized black pride and insist on 'sticking with their own race' yet give a black man a small amount of money and who does he go searching for? a white woman. Give a black man a choice between 'nappy hair' and biracial or caucasian hair and what does he choose? definitely not nappy hair. Pair a black man with an equally black woman and how does he treat her? with disrespect and disregard, yet give him a light-skinned or white woman and he holds her in the palm of his hand like the rarest jewel.
I personally have never been mistreated or disregarded by black men but let's examine the reasons why: 1) I only associate with other races, predominantly white and when black men see this, they automatically accord me higher status since i 'simply must' be better than other blacks to be accepted by whites. 2)I speak with a sharp english accent and thus seem more caucasoid in personality 3) I am naturally very slim and tall so I fit the eurocentric standard of beauty 4) I have very long hair which further associates me with eurocentric beauty. Thus when I see black men approaching me, I know exactly why they are doing this and I dont bother even looking in their direction. The reason they find me so attractive is because in spite of my dark skin, I seem sufficiently eurocentric.
I love my black beauty and support my black sisters which is why I am so enraged by black men. Black men are the original sellouts, just give the black man in your life a chance and you'll see. Black women have been complicit in their own mistreatment for much too long. I personally advocate exclusive interracial dating for black women because judging from asian women's experience, men of our race will only begin to appreciate us when there is competition and we are no longer a dime a dozen. Stop competing and say good riddance to bad rubbish.
I have never and will never date a black man. I have a gorgeous macedonian boyfriend who LOVES not just tolerates my super-nappy, super-thick hair and is just so interested in my yoruba culture and language. And black men in my life dare not treat me with disregard because they know I have alternatives.
Black women, racial solidarity is beautiful but equality is even better. Stop giving black men the right to walk all over you, only to leave you for the nearest 'high-yellow' female!

How could anyone say such a thing?

that is so sad to read...:(

I guess the comments that she made makes her feel good about herself. She said it as if it was nothing. I personally would not date out of my race. I love black men and feel that they treat me with respect. I don't feel like they degrade me or put me down. I don't feel as if they use me but they treat me like the Queen that I am. I am loyal and faithful to them. I feel like the person that wrote the entry might have picked up a bad apple. I don't agree with the fact that she judges all black men the same. I don't think that it is fair. Feeding off of stereotypes as well will cause a person to miss out on a good man. I feel that there is good and bad in every race.

For a person to speak against brotha's is offensive. I just can't figure out why a person acts in such a way. If a person chooses to date out their race then I feel like that's their loss.

i don't date a race i date a human being i am an african american,irish(my family were what they call mores),cuban female. i was taught to always see what was on the inside besides it's all the same when lights go out

i don't date a race i date a human being i am an african american,irish(my family were what they call mores),cuban female. i was taught to always see what was on the inside besides it's all the same when lights go out


Great Post Joker!!

it's not the same and never will be with lights on or off
there is no backing to it when it come to mixture of races we have truely lost our way from HISTORY and our culture as well our ancestors ..................................
loving within your own race is the most powerful thing
we can do as many venture off we lose our strong hold
this is a nother piece of struggle we face and not really dealing with it .....black on black
truely it's not the same i dis agree !
we need to fine ourself again ..........this not how it should be but i understand it's reality because so many
lost the way and jump off the path ...sad !!!

Some of us only practice what we are taught (passive) and others practice what we learn (aggressive). This thread is merely an opinion poll, a collection of ideas and different perspectives. It should not be perceived as an indictment of anyone's guilt or innocence, nor a declaration of right or wrong. What works for some may not work for others. Even though we have something significant in common, we're not all the same. Therein lies the beauty of our diversity.

Peace.

I agree with that NNQueen .....
and it's sad so many have forgotten where they came from
i will always say that and how our women put bruthas down
cross dating from race to race is not the answer ...............
each own ...

I agree with that NNQueen .....
and it's sad so many have forgotten where they came from
i will always say that and how our women put bruthas down
cross dating from race to race is not the answer ...............
each own ...


Wow what a thread racial slurrs against our own :puke: that is not good at all. We have to uplift each by telling the truth and that is totally not true brothas usually love all flavors, and in some cases opposites do attract, because sometimes brothas of lighter complexions love the sistas that are very dark. I think people should love who they want and not be riddiculed about their choice. Maybe she waited 4 years like I did and just got fed up, I have 3 kids and I figured that is why I got no dates from brothas, I would even go out of the way to get attention in some cases, but they always promised to call me and they never did. I don't think it was because they wanted a white woman , I don't know why I could not answer why I was not swept off of my feet by a Dark n Handsome counterpart. I must admit I was approached by Tall Dark n Handsome but he was also a married man. :hammer: I don't go for those :puke:

you are well felt and surely out here is your mate within
everyone holds the right to love who they wish
but i still say stay at home that one is closer to you then u
feel...well heard and taken sistah

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