when ya first get together to share a friendship and convert
it into a partnership as it transform into a beautiful relationship
and both mates wish to savior there sexual bliss
by not having sex yet .....Will dis hurt the relationship?
and what can they do to keep the sexual bliss at bay
do they mastabat or what!.....i would be bitting my nails off
coz i would be in need ....hummmmm! wondering mind!:confused:

O.k. $$RICH$$, I believe you are asking about Celibacy in a steady relationship. I can fully relate. How could Celibacy possibly "hurt" the relationship??? If you place more emphasis on one another's genitalia than you do on one another's spirit which makes you who you are, then you don't belong together in the first place. Not being a man, I cannot really say what men feel and don't feel or how their wholistic selves function, but speaking for myself as a woman, I will say the following:

A) I recognize and appreciate the fact that I am not some beast that is at the mercy of my most base inclinations, such as carnal temptation. I am a human being who has full control over my will.
B) Human sexuality is not a physiological thing, but a biological thing that is ALL in the mind. It is the mind that moves the body, not vice versa. The body neither moves the mind nor itself. Therefore, I believe that the desire to "have sex" is purely in the head, and it is deception.

People don't really want to have sex, per se, they want to experience love. That's the bottom line. Therefore, when you speak of feeling "unable to wait", and of "masturbation", that's all confusion. You cannot receive the love you need via self-gratification, in any of its forms, be it masturbation or simply one-way sex. So unless you get a grasp on the Truth that tells you that love, not sex, is the only road to bliss or satisfaction, then you'll simply remain entangled in an enslaving, debilitating cycle of futile attempts at achieving a concrete and lasting satisfaction.

Again, the goal is Love, and the satisfaction is reached through discovering and sharing love. Therefore, to answer your question about what the two mates can do to keep the carnal tendencies at bay, they can share affection (in innumerable ways) without actually copulating. Rather than share an erotic kiss, that is precipitated by carnal desire, a kiss of affection can be shared. Affectionate caresses not aimed at achieving sexual arousal can be exchanged. You can relate to a person using affection in all kinds of ways without actually perceiving them as a "piece of meat". If you don't LOVE the person, then you have no business thinking about having sexual intercourse with them. If you feel inclined to want/seek/have sex with folk you don't love, it is because you have no overstanding of what intercourse and life are all about.

Leaving intercourse where it belongs--'til later--only enables one to develop a solid overstanding and appreciation of his/her mate, which will pave the way for the union to be what it should be, rather than create an inevitably bumpy path to failure.

That's my 2cents. I'm hopeful that you overstand.

Nia dis well put and fully understood i agree coz within da mind
sexualiy is temptation of emotional feelings and a thought
sent to the mind wave to lust ......thank ya sweetie .....