Date Rape has happened to a lot of men and women and it may have even happened to you. Since it is so commonly NOT reported, What is the next step after you have been raped by someone you know and/or trusted?
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if a date rape me ,i'm calling da law
and lock her butt up!:eek:

Kem only 13% of victims report that they have been violated, so there are a lot of victims that have not "Duh!" reported it.

I think they more so be into it
til they realize what happen
yes their is many whom wish
not to report it coz they r in
a (I wanna forget this mood)
sexually abused in any way
hurts da spirit & heart to a point :(

Yes this is true...sometime's they can already be in the act of love making/sex and in the interim, for Whatever REASON she/he asks them to stop. It is when that party refuses to stop when it becomes rape. Because it started off as consentual sex doesn't mean he /she has the right to violate the other person. AND it doesn't make it the abusee's fault!!!!

I am a 19 AND 5 year survivor of "date (gang) rape". I immediately reported it...two of the four guys were arrested...one skipped town and supposedly became a priest (now he's a dentist at a hospital here in Buffalo). They found three of them guilty of raping/sodomizing another woman but when I went to court, the case was no billed. Which means I testified on my behalf, told the whole truth about being "involved" with one of the assailants but it was a fifty/fifty split. So therefore it didn't go to trial...but I believe that was a blessing from God.

Please...do not take this as me spreading my personal business among these pages. I am not ashamed of what happened to me...it was degrading and killed my self esteem but if I didn't go through...I wouldn't be the strength I am today.

This is...I AM a LIVING testimony...

o.k personally if a woman raped me, i wouldn't call the law for fear she wouldn't rape me again :D

Afridancr,

I must thank you for being so brave
and sharing. Your living testimony may
provide help for someone else,
again Thank You!
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sexe... I gotta say that the reason (i believe) that the majority of victims do not report the incident is fear. Fear of what will happen to them, fear of what their families and friends will think and fear of not being believed. I think that this is something that will never be changed and that people will always have to deal with the violation on their own. It's sad and depressing, but that is the world we live in.
*Emma*

you are welcome. That is all I can hope for~ to be able to help someone who may also be going thru.

It may be unfortunate but everything happens for a reason. There is no rhyme or reason when it comes to God and His plan and purpose for our lives. Maybe ministering to abused/raped women through dance and poetry is my calling. I just don't know.



Kemestry NO I didn't get crisis counseling. I got GOD our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ Yahweh Counseling!!!!!!!!!

INDEED GOD WATCHIES OVA YA NO SHAMELESS THOUGHTS
SPEAKETH WHATS REAL AND HOW YA SOUL FEEL .............
YET I MUST SAY HOW SORRY I AM TO KNOW SUCH
NO MAN OR WOMAN HAVE DA RIGHTS TO TAKE WHATS NOT
TO BE TAKEN LESS GIVEN
NOW SOUELY IT WASN'T YA FAULT AT ALL YA ESTEEM WILL
GROW AGAIN YET ONE MAY NOT FORGET ........YA EVERY SO RIGHT
IF IT WAS ME I THINK I WOULD HAVE LOST IT ......!!!!!

Sexe1 ... great question and topic. I almost missed this! AfriDancr/Aminita/SweetiePie ... thanks for sharing your story. I too think that others reading it will be encouraged, uplifted and not feel alone because they may have and/or are going through the same.

I was not "date raped" but I was "almost date raped" ... I fought back and he gave up, frustrated and defeated ... ultimately choosing to throw me into a wall and walk out ... rather than continuing to unsuccessfully try to take my stuff. It was a most terrible experience. He did assault me and I should have called the police ... but I didn't. I was too scared. After the initial layer of shock wore off, I pryed myself out of the sheet rock (landing perfectly between the 2x4's) and immediately got up and locked the door ... thanking God that it wasn't any worse than it was ... praying that he wouldn't come back and finish the job. ** I bought a gun just in case I had to kill him. Thanking God that I've never seen this man again.

Looking back on it now, I'm sure he would have been charged with something had I called the police ... but at that time, I couldn't see that. All I could see was that ... perhaps, if I told on him ... he'd be more angry and really try to do me harm.

I also thought that if I called the police ... it would appear that I was at fault ... because I had allowed him to visit me. I had welcomed him into my home.

Also, I'm not suggesting that "fighting back" is the answer for all such situations ... it's just that it worked for me. A female must do whatever she feels is necessary to stay alive, keeping her injuries to a minimum.

I think too, how she reacts ... who she tells ... what she does ... after being so mentally, physically and spiritually violated ... will vary as well. My Mother and I are/were so very close. There were no secrets that I had from her. As a matter of fact, she knew all my secrets ... yet I couldn't call her that night and tell her what had happened to me. We were miles apart and I knew it would only make her worry. So I stayed up all night, afraid to go to sleep ... waiting for daylight ... bearing this burden alone.

God is Good.

This happened many years ago. I do think such violations should be reported immediately, even though I didn't report mine.

Again ... great topic Sexe1!

:heart:

Destee

** On my very next payday, I bought this gun ... then went to the shooting range to learn how to handle, care for and use it effectively. How dare someone think they are going to just take my own stuff from me ... never again.

Thank you again to Rich, Kem,
Jhiah, Afridancr, Destee, Aminata,
Euphoria for sharing your thoughts
and comments on this subject