Gentlemen.....(& Ladies too!)

I am curious to know, the above question. If you had a woman workin the power suit, and makin More Money Than You....could you handle it??


.....or would that affect your Manhood?


Let me go a step further......

What if your Woman was very sucessful, and thought it might be a good idea for you to play opposite of her, and stay home with the children, cook, clean, and take care of house? In this new age of times, could you handle it?


....and how would that Affect Your Sex Life? This is a three part question....Please answer all!!!

Love you!!

:spinstar:Apple

Gentlemen....

I am curious to know, the above question. If you had a woman workin the power suit, and makin More Money Than You....could you handle it??


.....or would that affect your Manhood?


Let me go a step further......

What if your Woman was very sucessful, and thought it might be a good idea for you to play opposite of her, and stay home with the children, cook, clean, and take care of house? In this new age of times, could you handle it?


....and how would that Affect Your Sex Life? This is a three part question....Please answer all!!!

Love you!!

:spinstar:Applegood question my sister now here's my answer...i would be ESTATIC if my wife made more than me[are you kidding me?]more of my money in my pocket,you see the problem is E-G-O it shouldn't matter who makes the most money in the household[as long as she isn't throwing it in his face]but alot of blackmen can't help feeling that his manhood is threatened because his woman makes a few dollars more[how sad]..brothers WAKE UP-this is a new day the black woman is better educated today and well prepared to go and make that dollar my advise...SMILE.

in the past I would said "no way in hell," but now that I've matured and realized that money doesn't equate to manhood, I don't mind it as much. I can't lie I would still like to make more than wifey, but it won't kill me if she's the bread winner..........

It wouldn't bother me at all. I know Sisters have more opportunities in this world than I ever will. That system was put in place during slavery and still exist today. Brothers need 2 get off the euro-centric bandwagon of basing their manhood by the white man's standards. White men believe that they r all powerful and r superior 2 the woman. Money doesn't make the man, ya know.

Hotep

Brothers need 2 get off the euro-centric bandwagon of basing their manhood by the white man's standards

this is true, although the same can be said for the sisters as well......

baby can make as much money as she want as long as she remember to bring it home to daddy.....:dance:

Hey fellas....thanks for the feedback....I am glad to see we have some mature new age men in tha House...and James, you a trip daddy!

But uh...Fellas? The Thread has 3 Questions.....come on now! So you answered the first one.....WHAT about if the woman wanted you to play opposite her? And WHAT about THA SEX? Can your women be bringing home the bacon AND runnin the bedroom??? Ha Ha Ha....Im laughin just thinkin about it!!!!


Yall betta come back and answer these questions!!! I will HUNT YOU DOWN.

:hulk:

and it never became an issue

it was never "thrown" in my face

so

i'm blessed

i doith my own thingith, woman or no woman....:jump:

Men....lets have a GROUP MEETING shall we?? :grouphug:


There are THREE Questions here....how come I cant get any answers to the other two??


:hulk::hulk:

i could stay home cook and clean if that's what it took

and the sex will be better

since i'm not burning energy traveling

lol

but i would feel better pulling my weight

Thank you So'ja :kiss:

I can regain my sweetness again....a man has finally decided to cooperate, lol


When I get home So'jo.....can you wear one of those cute little aprons? HA HA HA....


Now remember soja sweetie, theirs alot to do while at home! You've gotta cook, wash clothes, mop the floor, vacuum, dust, iron, get the kids of to school, pack lunches, make it to the grocery store and dry cleaners, and be my emotional support when I come home from a grueling day at the office.... can you handle it?

Come on....a so'ja like ya'self....I know you can!

But I will let you work tha bedroom!

Gentlemen.....(& Ladies too!)

I am curious to know, the above question. If you had a woman workin the power suit, and makin More Money Than You....could you handle it??

Yes i could handle it , why ? because we are a team we work together and
it would never cross me that she hold anything more then me she just get
a better pay scale then i , beside i would love for her to make more then
because she love to spend and buy nice womanly things.

.....or would that affect your Manhood?

No.....why should it !!! I am a Man and one who can work in many way
that would asure our happiness / security and enjoyment in life.

Let me go a step further......

What if your Woman was very sucessful, and thought it might be a good idea for you to play opposite of her, and stay home with the children, cook, clean, and take care of house? In this new age of times, could you handle it?

If she felt this would be good and she very sucessful , yes i could do that
and be the best at it , from how i was raised and what i learned i could make
a very good at home man , i'll only be doing what i do anyway , I cook / clean
wash/take care children / shop and even have her bath water ready why not
after all she is my mate and my heart , yes i could handle it with ease , I can do
everything from house task to comforting her getting her relaxed for bed
yep and rub her tired feets.....

....and how would that Affect Your Sex Life? This is a three part question....Please answer all!!!

it wouldn't affect it at all why should it , i'm still that same man
love / partnership / soulmate/ is bigger then said , when it comes
to our sexual pleasurement it won't change or make me feel any less
then who i am and what i am ......A true REAL MAN when it's
showtime in the bedroom i'm the bread winner no doubt.

Love you!!

:spinstar:Apple

This only if we come to agreement and see it would be good or best for us
as a team that i sit home and do the at home things that is required it don't
take nothing away from me , I'm still working basicly all day at home meeting
daily task.......I could work even part time if i could fit it in.....this only if she
is far much better off and it wouldn't hurt us as a team in stride to fulfill our goals
and we are comfortible .............But i would love to be the one working doing what
a man should do for his family and mate /love or wife.

Thank you So'ja :kiss:

I can regain my sweetness again....a man has finally decided to cooperate, lol


When I get home So'jo.....can you wear one of those cute little aprons? HA HA HA....


Now remember soja sweetie, theirs alot to do while at home! You've gotta cook, wash clothes, mop the floor, vacuum, dust, iron, get the kids of to school, pack lunches, make it to the grocery store and dry cleaners, and be my emotional support when I come home from a grueling day at the office.... can you handle it?

Come on....a so'ja like ya'self....I know you can!

But I will let you work tha bedroom!

after i've been cooking and cleaning and feeding kids

YOU BETTER LET ME RELEASE ALL OF THAT ENERGY BUILD UP
ON YOU IN THE BEDROOM LATER THAT NIGHT

you wouldn't want the mail lady keeping me occupied while you're at work

you better hit me up so hard i don't even want to look @ another woman

lol

HANDLE YO' BINESS!

Ok, I for one have no problem at all with any of this. In fact, I have always for a good part of my life been in this position. It never had an effect on my manhood and when she got home the house was clean, laundry done, food ready to eat and bath water waiting for her when she opened the door. Later that night I made sure she was inspired to go out to work and couldn't wait to get back home. She was making over a 100,000 a year and saw no need for me to work. I saw no need for me to work and began developing my other skills which she/they equally appreciated since it always had something to do with them anyway in one form or another.

How good am I? I'd be willing to say that I can out clean you, out cook you, out iron you, out decorate you, out sew you and maintain a home better than you all around. Don't mean to brag but what it is is what it is. Now most women don't really like these skills in a man because that means that she got to step up her game to really be with me. In other words, outside of the kitty kat...I don't in all actuality need a woman to do nothing for me at all. I know I need her for balance but with me there has to be that stimulation mentally. There has to be that drive. There has to be an energy about her that motivates, inspires, stimulates, surprises and challenges me on various levels. I'm too old to know better and too young to be getting old, so her stuff got to be right. Mr. Mom all day !!!...laughs.

outside of the kitty kat...I don't in all actuality need a woman to do nothing for me at all.

:SuN020: word....

if my woman made more money than me, it would not bother me at all as we are one working toward a common goal. Is that a hypothetical statement capable of being true, some may ask.....well the truth be told, after getting out of the military, my wife made more money than me. Problem? Hail Naww!! My attitude, git it all!! Our sex life, uhhh does 3 kids 2 years apart speak for anything?:congrats: In other words, GRRRRRRRRREAT!!! No intimidation at all, what's one is for all. As far as the part, whether it affected the "manhood". I feel that if one is intimidated by the mate making more, then perhaps there is an overall problem in the relationship deeper than the span of money. Whether the problem is "esteem" or just problems between the 2, leading to a contest type of affair, it's one that is problematic. I was all the more proud of mine and would express it.
As the man, if I got home first, yes, I'd cook, & I did other things such as wash clothes, shop, clean, get the children ready for school, to include doing my daughter's hair with all the pretty little trimmings. Manhood affetcted...hail to tha nawww!!

Good question..I saw this an had to participate in my navigation. Good topic Sweet.

didn't even see the last part, lol

What if your Woman was very sucessful, and thought it might be a good idea for you to play opposite of her, and stay home with the children, cook, clean, and take care of house? In this new age of times, could you handle it?


....and how would that Affect Your Sex Life? This is a three part question....Please answer all!!!



no....that's all, lol. I've never been a "stay at home" all throughout the day person. I want my own career and I don't want anyone taking care of me........

yes indeed so there you have it all the answers .....

This only if we come to agreement and see it would be good or best for us
as a team that i sit home and do the at home things that is required it don't
take nothing away from me , I'm still working basicly all day at home meeting
daily task.......I could work even part time if i could fit it in.....this only if she
is far much better off and it wouldn't hurt us as a team in stride to fulfill our goals
and we are comfortible .............But i would love to be the one working doing what
a man should do for his family and mate /love or wife.


Hummmm! Very nice, indeed! I see many men here are on the same page! That says alot! Your versatility as a man $$Rich$$ is a very desirable thing!

after i've been cooking and cleaning and feeding kids

YOU BETTER LET ME RELEASE ALL OF THAT ENERGY BUILD UP
ON YOU IN THE BEDROOM LATER THAT NIGHT

you wouldn't want the mail lady keeping me occupied while you're at work

you better hit me up so hard i don't even want to look @ another woman

lol

HANDLE YO' BINESS!

No....I would not want you lookin at the mail, newspaper, or Fed-Ex lady, LOL! Not in my house, that I pay the bills fo! Oh no! You gots to get outta MY house son! Ha! :getout: And she betta not be there, if I come home on my lunch break eitha, on theirs gonna be hell to pay!
Yes, you will definitly need to release all that energy in tha bedroom. Moppin floors and cleanin up can be a beast! :qqb013:

Oh! and and tha lil apron.....I meant, butt naked in it!! :em2100: HA HA HA! Isn't that how you fella's want your woman?....butt naked, in a pair of pumps and a thong, presenting a hot plate of food to you when you get home?

WELL, the workin gurl feels no different. I want ya butt naked too! Uh...minus the pumps and thong....:qqb011:


Ok, I for one have no problem at all with any of this. In fact, I have always for a good part of my life been in this position. It never had an effect on my manhood and when she got home the house was clean, laundry done, food ready to eat and bath water waiting for her when she opened the door. Later that night I made sure she was inspired to go out to work and couldn't wait to get back home. She was making over a 100,000 a year and saw no need for me to work. I saw no need for me to work and began developing my other skills which she/they equally appreciated since it always had something to do with them anyway in one form or another.

How good am I? I'd be willing to say that I can out clean you, out cook you, out iron you, out decorate you, out sew you and maintain a home better than you all around. Don't mean to brag but what it is is what it is. Now most women don't really like these skills in a man because that means that she got to step up her game to really be with me. In other words, outside of the kitty kat...I don't in all actuality need a woman to do nothing for me at all. I know I need her for balance but with me there has to be that stimulation mentally. There has to be that drive. There has to be an energy about her that motivates, inspires, stimulates, surprises and challenges me on various levels. I'm too old to know better and too young to be getting old, so her stuff got to be right. Mr. Mom all day !!!...laughs.

WOW! Keita! I see you and $$RICHIE$$ are on tha same page, Dang bruh! You gonna outcook, outclean, out-do-everything huh? Besides da kitty, you don't need me huh....dag homes! he he he! I need to step my game up, you say? I especially liked when you said "I need her for balance but with me there has to be that stimulation mentally. There has to be that drive. There has to be an energy about her that motivates, inspires, stimulates, surprises and challenges me on various levels.

Hmm though...you say you need for her to mentally stimulate you...she may be thinking the same thing, since your at home, and she probably comes in contact with a lot of "stimulating" men at her job, who may find her rather delicious.....Hummmmm!

:SuN020: word....

James...I thought you didn't need tha kitty? Aint that your philisophy. Isn't that your motto here on destee? he he he!



if my woman made more money than me, it would not bother me at all as we are one working toward a common goal. Is that a hypothetical statement capable of being true, some may ask.....well the truth be told, after getting out of the military, my wife made more money than me. Problem? Hail Naww!! My attitude, git it all!! Our sex life, uhhh does 3 kids 2 years apart speak for anything?:congrats: In other words, GRRRRRRRRREAT!!! No intimidation at all, what's one is for all. As far as the part, whether it affected the "manhood". I feel that if one is intimidated by the mate making more, then perhaps there is an overall problem in the relationship deeper than the span of money. Whether the problem is "esteem" or just problems between the 2, leading to a contest type of affair, it's one that is problematic. I was all the more proud of mine and would express it.
As the man, if I got home first, yes, I'd cook, & I did other things such as wash clothes, shop, clean, get the children ready for school, to include doing my daughter's hair with all the pretty little trimmings. Manhood affetcted...hail to tha nawww!!

Good question..I saw this an had to participate in my navigation. Good topic Sweet.


Nice thoughts Blas!! So, 3 kids 2 years apart...yea! It was some serious thumpin' going on, fo sho! Now What if your woman was makin the money, AND turnin you out in tha bedroom....HA HA HA...I tickle me! Could you still look at yourself in the mirror!! HA HA HA HA...Im so sorry! But if I was a man.....oh Hell Naw!! My woman would not be makin mo' money than me, and turnin me out it the bedroom!!! That might be a lil' too much power for one woman to have!!! :SuN033:

didn't even see the last part, lol



no....that's all, lol. I've never been a "stay at home" all throughout the day person. I want my own career and I don't want anyone taking care of me........


You know Jahari, I can appreciate your honesty here, and I respect you for that. Thats very manly of you to say, that you want a larger purpose outside of the home. I am not mad at ya! I think to myself, I would want a man to be open to being at home...but somewhere in the deep caves of my mind...I would rather him not be at home. I can be kinda traditional in that way. I think I would like it for a little while...but then, I would start to feel kinda...weird. Like...uh, somethin aint right here. ha ha ha!!! But what about the bedroom J? Baby....you have one more question. It's okay sweetie, you can respond AGAIN! LOL

I mean, If I am makin so much money, we can get a housekeeper. I think I would need my man to at least have a part time job, like $$Rich$$ suggested. Call me pigheaded....but I dont think I would like to tell my friends, colleagues, and family, that my man stays home. Although, if your gonna be butt-naked like so'ja......lol:thinking:

And Keita....shoot daddy! he sound so good, he might need to open up a bizness on tha side or somethin!! HA HA....He claim he can do er'thang! And Blas said he can handle his woman makin more than him, but I dont know if he could handle stayin home.....

Naw ....i don't want my plate by a naked woman and i'm not gonna bring her a plate
wit my stuff swanggin everywhere....nope but i'll slap on dat apron and do dat thang
round da house you'll thing another somebody done it or i paid a cleaning do all service
but i'm one man that don't want his baby naked when i get home i like to undress her myself
and carry her to the shower .

awwww...now thats sweet $$Richie$$ but come on now! You would like it every now and then!!! TRUST ME. :em2300:

Only ......ONLY if i'm already at home in a room or something.....not me coming home to it...nope! not once.....

James...I thought you didn't need tha kitty? Aint that your philisophy. Isn't that your motto here on destee? he he he!
true, no one needs it. some just think they do.
it is important to learn what you actually do need and separate that out from your desires.
that will restore your balance.

Gentlemen.....(& Ladies too!)

I am curious to know, the above question. If you had a woman workin the power suit, and makin More Money Than You....could you handle it??


.....or would that affect your Manhood?


Let me go a step further......

What if your Woman was very sucessful, and thought it might be a good idea for you to play opposite of her, and stay home with the children, cook, clean, and take care of house? In this new age of times, could you handle it?


....and how would that Affect Your Sex Life? This is a three part question....Please answer all!!!

Love you!!

:spinstar:Apple



insecure child?:?: All 3 can be answered like this. My manhood is NOT tied to any monetary things either my own or my partners. me? I expect people around me to do well. I dont cvet ANYTHING. I want my people to do well. Dang, it would be great to be a backgroung player to a NUBIAN Queen. And I or my ex were ALWAYS working out the house with our kids.

Hmm... this is interesting.

Myself, I've been working this out with my fiance for a while now. I do not think that money should have anything to do with manhood in any way or shape what-so-ever. This is a common method from society, that equates manhood with money. Manhood, to me, means much then that. If we are truly at the point where it means that being a man in this world, means that you are the "suit-wearer" or the "money bringer".... many male would have acquired it, but that does not make them a man.

With that, I have urged and pushed my fiance to out perform me. If you can bring more money into the house, then Do it! Why should I feel less then a man because of money being made. Gosh, that's helping me.

Going further, I want to be a "stay at home dad". I feel like this is a tougher "job" then most in the world anyway. I know that I can handle it, but the issue that I have under my roof, is that my fiance can't seem to handle it. She seems to think that she almost belongs in the house or that she would do a "better job" then myself. (Which is a slap in the face to me.) Yet, I will still strive to accomplish so.

Sex life, I don't feel like that should be something that interferes with the money making. Now if neither of us are making money, sure that stress can stop that life, but no..... I can't allow such a thing as money to rule over various "-hoods" in the house.