hi everybody.

I know that I am the oddball, for doing this, but how do you feel about putting off sex for marriage?

I am an 18 year old pretty good-looking male. Due to my strong Christian faith, I am remaining a virgin until marriage. Unfortunatley, Ive never met a nice young lady that is doing the same.

Ladies my age are sleeping around and going out with the "thugs" instead of choosing good, God-fearing, respectful, and sweet gentlemen like me. I wait paitiently for the Loed to put that special someone in my life, but Ive never been in a relationship because I cant find the type of girl that I want and fear I will never meet this girl.

What do you all think of this?

hi everybody.

I know that I am the oddball, for doing this, but how do you feel about putting off sex for marriage?

I am an 18 year old pretty good-looking male. Due to my strong Christian faith, I am remaining a virgin until marriage. Unfortunatley, Ive never met a nice young lady that is doing the same.

Ladies my age are sleeping around and going out with the "thugs" instead of choosing good, God-fearing, respectful, and sweet gentlemen like me. I wait paitiently for the Loed to put that special someone in my life, but Ive never been in a relationship because I cant find the type of girl that I want and fear I will never meet this girl.

What do you all think of this?

Brother SomeDominican ... Welcome Welcome Welcome !!! ... :wave:

I think it is very admirable (among other great and positive things), that you stand so firmly rooted regarding what type of situations you want to put your own body in!

That is great! :toast:

There is absolutely nothing wrong with doing ONLY what you want, when you want, with your body (mind, soul, and Spirit too)!

Be patient Brother ... you're still young ... and i'm sure she's out there!

As you said, many young (and old) folk are partaking in all kinds of krazee, dangerous, life threatening sexual experiences / experiments ... with and to their own body. You should be very proud of yourself for taking such a noble position!

I'm sure your Parents are Proud ... cause i am, and i aint even your Parent! :love:

Again ... Welcome! Thanks for joining us, and please make yourself at home, because you are!

Much Love and Peace.

:heart:

Destee

hi everybody.

I know that I am the oddball, for doing this, but how do you feel about putting off sex for marriage?

I am an 18 year old pretty good-looking male. Due to my strong Christian faith, I am remaining a virgin until marriage. Unfortunatley, Ive never met a nice young lady that is doing the same.

Ladies my age are sleeping around and going out with the "thugs" instead of choosing good, God-fearing, respectful, and sweet gentlemen like me. I wait paitiently for the Loed to put that special someone in my life, but Ive never been in a relationship because I cant find the type of girl that I want and fear I will never meet this girl.

What do you all think of this?
you have not met her because you are not ready for her. she will arrive when it is the time.
why do you think of girls at 18? if you want to put off sex until marriage why not put off worrying about sex until marriage also?

at your age you should be someplace getting an education.

:thanks:Thanks for the welcome and the feedback. My parents are proud of me, especially being different from all the other teens out there.

I am getting an education, brotha james, I am in my senior year of high school and have my first year of college almost done, I am going for my MBA.

I am getting an education, brotha james, I am in my senior year of high school and have my first year of college almost done, I am going for my MBA.
my point is that young people worry about sex way too much. it is a distraction and it gets them in trouble.
if you believe in god then believe that when the time is right you will have your soul mate.
you do not have her now because it is not the time now. you are too young.

for now, keep your nose in a book.

my point is that young people worry about sex way too much. it is a distraction and it gets them in trouble.
if you believe in god then believe that when the time is right you will have your soul mate.
you do not have her now because it is not the time now. you are too young.

for now, keep your nose in a book.

I guess you're right, but sometimes I get very impatient not even getting any attention whatsoever from females, much less gtting into a relationship that has a slight chance of leading into marriage

I guess you're right, but sometimes I get very impatient not even getting any attention whatsoever from females, much less getting into a relationship that has a slight chance of leading into marriage

yes, i been there. let me tell you something. when you have an MBA and a booming career, you will be beating the females off with a stick.
again, you must wait until it is the time. when that time comes you will look back on this time and laugh. that is what i did.

right now you are too young. it is not the time for you. if it was the time she would be there.

forget about females and maintain a 4.0

yes, i been there. let me tell you something. when you have an MBA and a booming career, you will be beating the females off with a stick.
again, you must wait until it is the time. when that time comes you will look back on this time and laugh. that is what i did.

right now you are too young. it is not the time for you. if it was the time she would be there.

forget about females and maintain a 4.0

well when im making the kind of money I hope I will be making, I dont want any golddiggers trying to get with me.

Well, at least you can relate and youve been through some of the stuff i've been through

I have a 4.25 GPA

Well, at least you can relate and youve been through some of the stuff i've been through
many brothers have been through it. i think it is a test.
some of us get so distracted by sex we never accomplish those things that we set out to do.
it tests your beliefs. if you truly believe then you know that you will not be forsaken.
when your time comes, it will be there for you. the greatest wisdom is to be able to wait until it is your time.
keep the faith. stay on course. do not let the coochies distract you.
your day in the sun will come.

many brothers have been through it. i think it is a test.
some of us get so distracted by sex we never accomplish those things that we set out to do.
it tests your beliefs. if you truly believe then you know that you will not be forsaken.
when your time comes, it will be there for you. the greatest wisdom is to be able to wait until it is your time.
keep the faith. stay on course. do not let the coochies distract you.
your day in the sun will come.

that *** was so BIG

it changed my life's direction

there's no foolproof way avoid certain things

just live and learn and observe

stay true to you without losing you

that *** was so BIG

it changed my life's direction

there's no foolproof way avoid certain things

just live and learn and observe

stay true to you without losing you

thanks

You dont sound like just some dominican to me!

You sound very noble, and admirable, and I think it is quite remarkable what you have set out to do.

You are confident, and it shows. Go ahead boy, with your bad self making those A's! I am a student myself, and that is alot to focus on. Adding sex to an equation can sometimes bring un-necessary drama, that a man of your caliber does not need.

When finding a mate, my suggestion is finding one of like values. You can't go wrong there. Just set your sights on someone, who has determind the same path as yourself. And you seem very bright; you'll be able to see what women are real, and what women just want to be a tick on your pathway to success.

Welcome, SD!

You dont sound like just some dominican to me!

You sound very noble, and admirable, and I think it is quite remarkable what you have set out to do.

You are confident, and it shows. Go ahead boy, with your bad self making those A's! I am a student myself, and that is alot to focus on. Adding sex to an equation can sometimes bring un-necessary drama, that a man of your caliber does not need.

When finding a mate, my suggestion is finding one of like values. You can't go wrong there. Just set your sights on someone, who has determind the same path as yourself. And you seem very bright; you'll be able to see what women are real, and what women just want to be a tick on your pathway to success.

Welcome, SD!


aww, thanks im flattered:qqb023: I had thought I had found real women before, but they just ended up breaking my heart:qqb020:

Heartbreak will happen, regardless if you are a virgin or not. It will usually hurt even more if sex was involved. Its just part of life. I feel as if heartbreak occurs, so that when we really find that special one, we will really appreciate them.

i think it's really important to examine a persons values before getting involved with them. But like they say...all is fair in love and war. Never give up on love. You dont have to look for it it will find you, when you least expect it.



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I really appreciate your character and your convictions. This is the type of character and convictions needed throughout the black community to rebuild our families and to stop this out of control 70% out-of-wedlock childbirth rate, fatherless homes, and dispropotionate HIV/AIDS rate.

I realize that according to social norms, you are the oddball, but let me assure you that the broad path leads to distruction. We have "progressed" from a 27% out-of-wedlock childbirth rate in 1964 to a 70% childbirth rate today. The "thugs" you mentioned are the result of fatherless children or children with fathers who are not properly influencing their children to lead productive lives.

I have a suggestion for you.

The Conference on Evangelizing Black America (COEBA) is a group of very conservative churches that minister prodominately to African Americans. They are all independent churches, but they are affiliated. Nationwide, there are relatively few of them but most are in Virgina. Some are in Arkansas, Memphis, Tn and several other places. There is a list on their website. http://www.coeba.org/mserver/CChurches.aspx

I have no doubt you will find young ladies in these churches that share your character and convictions. I have no doubt they are praying for someone like you and sometimes discouraged at the possibility of ever finding a REAL MAN who understands that manhood has nothing to do with making babies then walking away from them. They are looking for someone who understands that marriage is "until death do they part".

My oldest daughter is married, but I have 4 younger daughters (the oldest of which is 7, so they are not eligible :-) ) who I am praying for their mate now. My oldest son is in bible college now. The college he chose to attend has strict standards on boy-girl interactions, but those attending volunteered to be there and willingly submit to those standards. My wife and I are praying for his mate as well. Sure, we want him to have a wife who meets the criteria on a "checklist", but far more importantly, we want him to have the one and only wife that God has prepared for him.

My oldest daughter has a fantastic husband. He is a real man and excellent father of our grand children. My wife and I have a long and pleasurable marriage. I say that to insist that I am 100% convinced that doing marriage and family God's way is the only way to go. I could care less what social norms are or rather my children are considered the "oddball" by popular culture. I think it is "odd" for folks to abandon strong, solid families in favor of this BET/MTV HIV/AIDS, fatherless homes, anything goes mentality. It is clearly destructive to the individuals involved as well as our society, culture, race, and nation. The stats speak for themselves, just look around.

Sorry for the rant, but "family" is my passion and opposing popular culture in defense of strong nuclear families is my pet peeve. If more youth were like you, we could turn every negative social condition around quickly. If all youth were like you, we could do it by the end of today.

I really appreciate your character and your convictions. This is the type of character and convictions needed throughout the black community to rebuild our families and to stop this out of control 70% out-of-wedlock childbirth rate, fatherless homes, and dispropotionate HIV/AIDS rate.

I realize that according to social norms, you are the oddball, but let me assure you that the broad path leads to distruction. We have "progressed" from a 27% out-of-wedlock childbirth rate in 1964 to a 70% childbirth rate today. The "thugs" you mentioned are the result of fatherless children or children with fathers who are not properly influencing their children to lead productive lives.

I have a suggestion for you.

The Conference on Evangelizing Black America (COEBA) is a group of very conservative churches that minister prodominately to African Americans. They are all independent churches, but they are affiliated. Nationwide, there are relatively few of them but most are in Virgina. Some are in Arkansas, Memphis, Tn and several other places. There is a list on their website. http://www.coeba.org/mserver/CChurches.aspx

I have no doubt you will find young ladies in these churches that share your character and convictions. I have no doubt they are praying for someone like you and sometimes discouraged at the possibility of ever finding a REAL MAN who understands that manhood has nothing to do with making babies then walking away from them. They are looking for someone who understands that marriage is "until death do they part".

My oldest daughter is married, but I have 4 younger daughters (the oldest of which is 7, so they are not eligible :-) ) who I am praying for their mate now. My oldest son is in bible college now. The college he chose to attend has strict standards on boy-girl interactions, but those attending volunteered to be there and willingly submit to those standards. My wife and I are praying for his mate as well. Sure, we want him to have a wife who meets the criteria on a "checklist", but far more importantly, we want him to have the one and only wife that God has prepared for him.

My oldest daughter has a fantastic husband. He is a real man and excellent father of our grand children. My wife and I have a long and pleasurable marriage. I say that to insist that I am 100% convinced that doing marriage and family God's way is the only way to go. I could care less what social norms are or rather my children are considered the "oddball" by popular culture. I think it is "odd" for folks to abandon strong, solid families in favor of this BET/MTV HIV/AIDS, fatherless homes, anything goes mentality. It is clearly destructive to the individuals involved as well as our society, culture, race, and nation. The stats speak for themselves, just look around.

Sorry for the rant, but "family" is my passion and opposing popular culture in defense of strong nuclear families is my pet peeve. If more youth were like you, we could turn every negative social condition around quickly. If all youth were like you, we could do it by the end of today.

wow, thanks. I pray that other youth may turn their life over to Christ like me. It would change today's generation.

I also pray that I can find a nice, young, christian lady that is waiting until marriage. I know that I am a REAL MAN that can treat a lady like a queen, but like you, I also oppose todays' culture with sexual images, fornication, and materialism.