hi everybody.

I know that I am the oddball, for doing this, but how do you feel about putting off sex for marriage?

I am an 18 year old pretty good-looking male. Due to my strong Christian faith, I am remaining a virgin until marriage. Unfortunatley, Ive never met a nice young lady that is doing the same.

Ladies my age are sleeping around and going out with the "thugs" instead of choosing good, God-fearing, respectful, and sweet gentlemen like me. I wait paitiently for the Loed to put that special someone in my life, but Ive never been in a relationship because I cant find the type of girl that I want and fear I will never meet this girl.

What do you all think of this?

hi everybody.

I know that I am the oddball, for doing this, but how do you feel about putting off sex for marriage?

I am an 18 year old pretty good-looking male. Due to my strong Christian faith, I am remaining a virgin until marriage. Unfortunatley, Ive never met a nice young lady that is doing the same.

Ladies my age are sleeping around and going out with the "thugs" instead of choosing good, God-fearing, respectful, and sweet gentlemen like me. I wait paitiently for the Loed to put that special someone in my life, but Ive never been in a relationship because I cant find the type of girl that I want and fear I will never meet this girl.

What do you all think of this?

Brother SomeDominican ... Welcome Welcome Welcome !!! ... :wave:

I think it is very admirable (among other great and positive things), that you stand so firmly rooted regarding what type of situations you want to put your own body in!

That is great! :toast:

There is absolutely nothing wrong with doing ONLY what you want, when you want, with your body (mind, soul, and Spirit too)!

Be patient Brother ... you're still young ... and i'm sure she's out there!

As you said, many young (and old) folk are partaking in all kinds of krazee, dangerous, life threatening sexual experiences / experiments ... with and to their own body. You should be very proud of yourself for taking such a noble position!

I'm sure your Parents are Proud ... cause i am, and i aint even your Parent! :love:

Again ... Welcome! Thanks for joining us, and please make yourself at home, because you are!

Much Love and Peace.

:heart:

Destee

hi everybody.

I know that I am the oddball, for doing this, but how do you feel about putting off sex for marriage?

I am an 18 year old pretty good-looking male. Due to my strong Christian faith, I am remaining a virgin until marriage. Unfortunatley, Ive never met a nice young lady that is doing the same.

Ladies my age are sleeping around and going out with the "thugs" instead of choosing good, God-fearing, respectful, and sweet gentlemen like me. I wait paitiently for the Loed to put that special someone in my life, but Ive never been in a relationship because I cant find the type of girl that I want and fear I will never meet this girl.

What do you all think of this?
you have not met her because you are not ready for her. she will arrive when it is the time.
why do you think of girls at 18? if you want to put off sex until marriage why not put off worrying about sex until marriage also?

at your age you should be someplace getting an education.

:thanks:Thanks for the welcome and the feedback. My parents are proud of me, especially being different from all the other teens out there.

I am getting an education, brotha james, I am in my senior year of high school and have my first year of college almost done, I am going for my MBA.

I am getting an education, brotha james, I am in my senior year of high school and have my first year of college almost done, I am going for my MBA.
my point is that young people worry about sex way too much. it is a distraction and it gets them in trouble.
if you believe in god then believe that when the time is right you will have your soul mate.
you do not have her now because it is not the time now. you are too young.

for now, keep your nose in a book.

my point is that young people worry about sex way too much. it is a distraction and it gets them in trouble.
if you believe in god then believe that when the time is right you will have your soul mate.
you do not have her now because it is not the time now. you are too young.

for now, keep your nose in a book.

I guess you're right, but sometimes I get very impatient not even getting any attention whatsoever from females, much less gtting into a relationship that has a slight chance of leading into marriage

I guess you're right, but sometimes I get very impatient not even getting any attention whatsoever from females, much less getting into a relationship that has a slight chance of leading into marriage

yes, i been there. let me tell you something. when you have an MBA and a booming career, you will be beating the females off with a stick.
again, you must wait until it is the time. when that time comes you will look back on this time and laugh. that is what i did.

right now you are too young. it is not the time for you. if it was the time she would be there.

forget about females and maintain a 4.0

yes, i been there. let me tell you something. when you have an MBA and a booming career, you will be beating the females off with a stick.
again, you must wait until it is the time. when that time comes you will look back on this time and laugh. that is what i did.

right now you are too young. it is not the time for you. if it was the time she would be there.

forget about females and maintain a 4.0

well when im making the kind of money I hope I will be making, I dont want any golddiggers trying to get with me.

Well, at least you can relate and youve been through some of the stuff i've been through

I have a 4.25 GPA

Well, at least you can relate and youve been through some of the stuff i've been through
many brothers have been through it. i think it is a test.
some of us get so distracted by sex we never accomplish those things that we set out to do.
it tests your beliefs. if you truly believe then you know that you will not be forsaken.
when your time comes, it will be there for you. the greatest wisdom is to be able to wait until it is your time.
keep the faith. stay on course. do not let the coochies distract you.
your day in the sun will come.

many brothers have been through it. i think it is a test.
some of us get so distracted by sex we never accomplish those things that we set out to do.
it tests your beliefs. if you truly believe then you know that you will not be forsaken.
when your time comes, it will be there for you. the greatest wisdom is to be able to wait until it is your time.
keep the faith. stay on course. do not let the coochies distract you.
your day in the sun will come.

that *** was so BIG

it changed my life's direction

there's no foolproof way avoid certain things

just live and learn and observe

stay true to you without losing you

that *** was so BIG

it changed my life's direction

there's no foolproof way avoid certain things

just live and learn and observe

stay true to you without losing you

thanks

You dont sound like just some dominican to me!

You sound very noble, and admirable, and I think it is quite remarkable what you have set out to do.

You are confident, and it shows. Go ahead boy, with your bad self making those A's! I am a student myself, and that is alot to focus on. Adding sex to an equation can sometimes bring un-necessary drama, that a man of your caliber does not need.

When finding a mate, my suggestion is finding one of like values. You can't go wrong there. Just set your sights on someone, who has determind the same path as yourself. And you seem very bright; you'll be able to see what women are real, and what women just want to be a tick on your pathway to success.

Welcome, SD!

You dont sound like just some dominican to me!

You sound very noble, and admirable, and I think it is quite remarkable what you have set out to do.

You are confident, and it shows. Go ahead boy, with your bad self making those A's! I am a student myself, and that is alot to focus on. Adding sex to an equation can sometimes bring un-necessary drama, that a man of your caliber does not need.

When finding a mate, my suggestion is finding one of like values. You can't go wrong there. Just set your sights on someone, who has determind the same path as yourself. And you seem very bright; you'll be able to see what women are real, and what women just want to be a tick on your pathway to success.

Welcome, SD!


aww, thanks im flattered:qqb023: I had thought I had found real women before, but they just ended up breaking my heart:qqb020:

Heartbreak will happen, regardless if you are a virgin or not. It will usually hurt even more if sex was involved. Its just part of life. I feel as if heartbreak occurs, so that when we really find that special one, we will really appreciate them.

i think it's really important to examine a persons values before getting involved with them. But like they say...all is fair in love and war. Never give up on love. You dont have to look for it it will find you, when you least expect it.



:hearts4:

I really appreciate your character and your convictions. This is the type of character and convictions needed throughout the black community to rebuild our families and to stop this out of control 70% out-of-wedlock childbirth rate, fatherless homes, and dispropotionate HIV/AIDS rate.

I realize that according to social norms, you are the oddball, but let me assure you that the broad path leads to distruction. We have "progressed" from a 27% out-of-wedlock childbirth rate in 1964 to a 70% childbirth rate today. The "thugs" you mentioned are the result of fatherless children or children with fathers who are not properly influencing their children to lead productive lives.

I have a suggestion for you.

The Conference on Evangelizing Black America (COEBA) is a group of very conservative churches that minister prodominately to African Americans. They are all independent churches, but they are affiliated. Nationwide, there are relatively few of them but most are in Virgina. Some are in Arkansas, Memphis, Tn and several other places. There is a list on their website. http://www.coeba.org/mserver/CChurches.aspx

I have no doubt you will find young ladies in these churches that share your character and convictions. I have no doubt they are praying for someone like you and sometimes discouraged at the possibility of ever finding a REAL MAN who understands that manhood has nothing to do with making babies then walking away from them. They are looking for someone who understands that marriage is "until death do they part".

My oldest daughter is married, but I have 4 younger daughters (the oldest of which is 7, so they are not eligible :-) ) who I am praying for their mate now. My oldest son is in bible college now. The college he chose to attend has strict standards on boy-girl interactions, but those attending volunteered to be there and willingly submit to those standards. My wife and I are praying for his mate as well. Sure, we want him to have a wife who meets the criteria on a "checklist", but far more importantly, we want him to have the one and only wife that God has prepared for him.

My oldest daughter has a fantastic husband. He is a real man and excellent father of our grand children. My wife and I have a long and pleasurable marriage. I say that to insist that I am 100% convinced that doing marriage and family God's way is the only way to go. I could care less what social norms are or rather my children are considered the "oddball" by popular culture. I think it is "odd" for folks to abandon strong, solid families in favor of this BET/MTV HIV/AIDS, fatherless homes, anything goes mentality. It is clearly destructive to the individuals involved as well as our society, culture, race, and nation. The stats speak for themselves, just look around.

Sorry for the rant, but "family" is my passion and opposing popular culture in defense of strong nuclear families is my pet peeve. If more youth were like you, we could turn every negative social condition around quickly. If all youth were like you, we could do it by the end of today.

I really appreciate your character and your convictions. This is the type of character and convictions needed throughout the black community to rebuild our families and to stop this out of control 70% out-of-wedlock childbirth rate, fatherless homes, and dispropotionate HIV/AIDS rate.

I realize that according to social norms, you are the oddball, but let me assure you that the broad path leads to distruction. We have "progressed" from a 27% out-of-wedlock childbirth rate in 1964 to a 70% childbirth rate today. The "thugs" you mentioned are the result of fatherless children or children with fathers who are not properly influencing their children to lead productive lives.

I have a suggestion for you.

The Conference on Evangelizing Black America (COEBA) is a group of very conservative churches that minister prodominately to African Americans. They are all independent churches, but they are affiliated. Nationwide, there are relatively few of them but most are in Virgina. Some are in Arkansas, Memphis, Tn and several other places. There is a list on their website. http://www.coeba.org/mserver/CChurches.aspx

I have no doubt you will find young ladies in these churches that share your character and convictions. I have no doubt they are praying for someone like you and sometimes discouraged at the possibility of ever finding a REAL MAN who understands that manhood has nothing to do with making babies then walking away from them. They are looking for someone who understands that marriage is "until death do they part".

My oldest daughter is married, but I have 4 younger daughters (the oldest of which is 7, so they are not eligible :-) ) who I am praying for their mate now. My oldest son is in bible college now. The college he chose to attend has strict standards on boy-girl interactions, but those attending volunteered to be there and willingly submit to those standards. My wife and I are praying for his mate as well. Sure, we want him to have a wife who meets the criteria on a "checklist", but far more importantly, we want him to have the one and only wife that God has prepared for him.

My oldest daughter has a fantastic husband. He is a real man and excellent father of our grand children. My wife and I have a long and pleasurable marriage. I say that to insist that I am 100% convinced that doing marriage and family God's way is the only way to go. I could care less what social norms are or rather my children are considered the "oddball" by popular culture. I think it is "odd" for folks to abandon strong, solid families in favor of this BET/MTV HIV/AIDS, fatherless homes, anything goes mentality. It is clearly destructive to the individuals involved as well as our society, culture, race, and nation. The stats speak for themselves, just look around.

Sorry for the rant, but "family" is my passion and opposing popular culture in defense of strong nuclear families is my pet peeve. If more youth were like you, we could turn every negative social condition around quickly. If all youth were like you, we could do it by the end of today.

wow, thanks. I pray that other youth may turn their life over to Christ like me. It would change today's generation.

I also pray that I can find a nice, young, christian lady that is waiting until marriage. I know that I am a REAL MAN that can treat a lady like a queen, but like you, I also oppose todays' culture with sexual images, fornication, and materialism.

Great topic...I'm 16 years old and a junior in high school...I'm a virgin by choice though I had some very close calls...the last one was like two weeks ago...

Honestly, I doubt that I will be a virgin until marriage or even by the end of high school (if not by june lol)...however, my main focus now is for continual metaphysical progress, economic opportunities, graduating on time, going to a good college, and all of that...if it happens, it will be with the right females who will come to me...

Thinking about that too much has messed me up alot!... lol...so i have eazed^ and been chyllen...there is more females than males and if your mind is right and style is tight you are set...

Do y'all thang, man. As for me.........well research shows, Black people come in many different shapes, shades, and sizes, and um................ima get with as many of those women as possible........the fine ones, at least. lol

young people of today spend way too much time on sex and not enough on building a foundation for they future.
sex is a trick which is used to distract and keep you from success.
put your head in a book and keep it there.
sex is always available, so why trip?

young people of today spend way too much time on sex and not enough on building a foundation for they future.
sex is a trick which is used to distract and keep you from success.
put your head in a book and keep it there.
sex is always available, so why trip?

True and at the same time, its more of a society problem than a generational...but yeah sex can be and has been used as a trick to distract us...

True and at the same time, its more of a society problem than a generational....

i was addressing the young world here.

my position is that sex is a lot of fun but it is not important. no one, to my knowledge, has ever died from lack of sex.
you will die from lack of food. you will die from lack of shelter. you will not die from lack of sex.

many nationalists are anti sexual. i am not anti sexual but i do think sex needs to be downgraded from a position of such importance that it interferes with other things that are actually important. we do not need to be spending so much energy on sex. we need to focus on nation building. sex will always be there.

i think owning your own means of production is a lot more sexier than sex. running your own business is a lot more fun than sex.
sex is the occupation for losers who do not have anything going on in their lives. ain't nothing really happening in the club.
unless you own the club.

hi everybody.

I know that I am the oddball, for doing this, but how do you feel about putting off sex for marriage?

I am an 18 year old pretty good-looking male. Due to my strong Christian faith, I am remaining a virgin until marriage. Unfortunatley, Ive never met a nice young lady that is doing the same.

Ladies my age are sleeping around and going out with the "thugs" instead of choosing good, God-fearing, respectful, and sweet gentlemen like me. I wait paitiently for the Loed to put that special someone in my life, but Ive never been in a relationship because I cant find the type of girl that I want and fear I will never meet this girl.

What do you all think of this?


I do applaud your discipline and fortitude. These are the attributes of a leader! They are very necessary for your success in life. HOWEVER, waiting until you are married to have sex has a NUMBER OF CONS. We know the pros of not having children, avoiding disease, and not having the distraction. But, nobody has mention the cons.

1) The mistake of attributing so much power and taboo to sex.
A. Sex is our way of procreating and a NATURAL function of our nature.
When we give it as much power as to say it is the end all, be all to
our relationships with each other AND with God we are WRONG.
2) If you and your partner find that you are NOT SEXUALLY COMPATIBLE after your marriage...Divorce is EMINENT!
A. Think about it...you have given this much power to sex...once you
are having it.... and one OR BOTH of your are not satisfied there will be sadness in the marriage. Once you are feeling unfulfilled; EVEN IF YOU DON'T CHEAT, you long for fulfillment. If you have to get divorced to receive it, you will. I grew up in church and EVERY CASE OF PEOPLE remaining virgins ended in divorce because of the sex (or lack thereof).
3) You may NEVER find a VIRGIN who is compatible to you.
A.I have a friend who is 40 this year...still looking. He has started dating women whom are not virgins because he KNOWS that the chances of him finding one who he likes to spend time with is slim to none.
B. Why waste half your life looking for a woman that you may end up marrying because she hasn't had sex...but she isn't appealing to you in other ways?

I realize that your religion causes you to believe what you believe about sex, but I suggest you dig deeper into your religion and the truth or ask some of us on this forum who know the truth about your religion and many others. This is really meant out of love...it is not meant to confuse. In fact, YOU may disregard this...it is meant for the older members for what they teach their children.

i was addressing the young world here.

my position is that sex is a lot of fun but it is not important. no one, to my knowledge, has ever died from lack of sex.
you will die from lack of food. you will die from lack of shelter. you will not die from lack of sex.

many nationalists are anti sexual. i am not anti sexual but i do think sex needs to be downgraded from a position of such importance that it interferes with other things that are actually important. we do not need to be spending so much energy on sex. we need to focus on nation building. sex will always be there.

i think owning your own means of production is a lot more sexier than sex. running your own business is a lot more fun than sex.
sex is the occupation for losers who do not have anything going on in their lives. ain't nothing really happening in the club.
unless you own the club.


This post is certainly on point.. I agree with you here- James..

Because of my strict religious upbringing, and the structure of my family, etc..I was expected to remain a virgin until marriage. I was taught traditionally.. that sex was only for the married folks etc, etc. And not that I disagree- completely-- per se..lol.. But this begs the question of fornication. Is this only a biblical view??....idk..

Anywhoo I got side tracked around the age of 17 and the rest, as they say, is history.. I did managed to maintain a 3.7 throughout my college career however. I saw 1st firsthand what the sex-frenzy could do and what it did to my friends/fam/classmates... Not saying that I'm above them or better than them in any way.. I was able to keep my priorities on target.. But of course.. I had my moments...

All in all, it's a decision you'll have to come to terms with.. I'm not too adamant about preaching don't do this, don't do that.. I rather you (or anyone of our youth) to be informed.. And make sure whatever you do, make an informed decision.. always being smart, wise, and educated..

I do applaud your discipline and fortitude. These are the attributes of a leader! They are very necessary for your success in life. HOWEVER, waiting until you are married to have sex has a NUMBER OF CONS. We know the pros of not having children, avoiding disease, and not having the distraction. But, nobody has mention the cons.

1) The mistake of attributing so much power and taboo to sex.
A. Sex is our way of procreating and a NATURAL function of our nature.
When we give it as much power as to say it is the end all, be all to
our relationships with each other AND with God we are WRONG.
2) If you and your partner find that you are NOT SEXUALLY COMPATIBLE after your are marriage...Divorce is EMINENT!
A. Think about it...you have given this much power to sex...once you
are having it and one OR BOTH of your are not satisfied there will b sadness in the marriage. Once you are feeling unfulfilled EVEN IF YOU DON'T CHEAT, you long for fulfillment. If you have to get divorced to receive it, you will. I grew up in church and EVERY CASE OF PEOPLE remaining virgins ended in divorce because of the sex (or lack thereof).
3) You may NEVER find a VIRGIN who is compatible to you.
A.I have a friend who is 40 this year...still looking. He has started dating women whom are not virgins because he KNOWS that he the chances of him finding one who he likes to spend time with is slim to none.
B. Why waste have your life looking for a woman that you may end up marrying because she hasn't had sex...but she isn't appealing to you in other ways?

I realize that your religion causes you to believe what you believe about sex, but I suggest you dig deeper into your religion and the truth or ask some of us on this forum who know the truth about your religion and many others. This is really meant out of love...it is not meant to confuse. In fact, YOU may disregard this...it is meant for the older members for what they teach their children.


:terrific:

I was able to keep my priorities on target....

this is the great danger of the sex craze. once them hormones start pumping you may find yourself completely off the track. i know i did.
it can take you years to find your way back to where you were heading in the first place.

i was addressing the young world here.

my position is that sex is a lot of fun but it is not important. no one, to my knowledge, has ever died from lack of sex.
you will die from lack of food. you will die from lack of shelter. you will not die from lack of sex.

many nationalists are anti sexual. i am not anti sexual but i do think sex needs to be downgraded from a position of such importance that it interferes with other things that are actually important. we do not need to be spending so much energy on sex. we need to focus on nation building. sex will always be there.

i think owning your own means of production is a lot more sexier than sex. running your own business is a lot more fun than sex.
sex is the occupation for losers who do not have anything going on in their lives. ain't nothing really happening in the club.
unless you own the club.

Truth

This post is certainly on point.. I agree with you here- James..

Because of my strict religious upbringing, and the structure of my family, etc..I was expected to remain a virgin until marriage. I was taught traditionally.. that sex was only for the married folks etc, etc. And not that I disagree- completely-- per se..lol.. But this begs the question of fornication. Is this only a biblical view??....idk..

Anywhoo I got side tracked around the age of 17 and the rest, as they say, is history.. I did managed to maintain a 3.7 throughout my college career however. I saw 1st firsthand what the sex-frenzy could do and what it did to my friends/fam/classmates... Not saying that I'm above them or better than them in any way.. I was able to keep my priorities on target.. But of course.. I had my moments...

All in all, it's a decision you'll have to come to terms with.. I'm not too adamant about preaching don't do this, don't do that.. I rather you (or anyone of our youth) to be informed.. And make sure whatever you do, make an informed decision.. always being smart, wise, and educated..

I do applaud your discipline and fortitude. These are the attributes of a leader! They are very necessary for your success in life. HOWEVER, waiting until you are married to have sex has a NUMBER OF CONS. We know the pros of not having children, avoiding disease, and not having the distraction. But, nobody has mention the cons.

1) The mistake of attributing so much power and taboo to sex.
A. Sex is our way of procreating and a NATURAL function of our nature.
When we give it as much power as to say it is the end all, be all to
our relationships with each other AND with God we are WRONG.
2) If you and your partner find that you are NOT SEXUALLY COMPATIBLE after your marriage...Divorce is EMINENT!
A. Think about it...you have given this much power to sex...once you
are having it.... and one OR BOTH of your are not satisfied there will be sadness in the marriage. Once you are feeling unfulfilled; EVEN IF YOU DON'T CHEAT, you long for fulfillment. If you have to get divorced to receive it, you will. I grew up in church and EVERY CASE OF PEOPLE remaining virgins ended in divorce because of the sex (or lack thereof).
3) You may NEVER find a VIRGIN who is compatible to you.
A.I have a friend who is 40 this year...still looking. He has started dating women whom are not virgins because he KNOWS that the chances of him finding one who he likes to spend time with is slim to none.
B. Why waste half your life looking for a woman that you may end up marrying because she hasn't had sex...but she isn't appealing to you in other ways?

I realize that your religion causes you to believe what you believe about sex, but I suggest you dig deeper into your religion and the truth or ask some of us on this forum who know the truth about your religion and many others. This is really meant out of love...it is not meant to confuse. In fact, YOU may disregard this...it is meant for the older members for what they teach their children.

Great points

hi everybody.

I know that I am the oddball, for doing this, but how do you feel about putting off sex for marriage?

I am an 18 year old pretty good-looking male. Due to my strong Christian faith, I am remaining a virgin until marriage. Unfortunatley, Ive never met a nice young lady that is doing the same.

Ladies my age are sleeping around and going out with the "thugs" instead of choosing good, God-fearing, respectful, and sweet gentlemen like me. I wait paitiently for the Loed to put that special someone in my life, but Ive never been in a relationship because I cant find the type of girl that I want and fear I will never meet this girl.

What do you all think of this?you are to be commended young brother in this day and age for you to have such restraint is very cool,now let me hip you to something,when you find that special someone[and you will]make sure that she knows her way around the kitchen because it's nothing worst than a woman that can't cook and all that sex ain't gonna do you much good when you come home from work and she's sitting their looking good with no food on the table..stay strong young brother.

all that sex ain't gonna do you much good when you come home from work and she's sitting their looking good with no food on the table...

i have known sisters to lay themselves out on the table and put a cherry on top.......but i digress

i have known sisters to lay themselves out on the table and put a cherry on top.......but i digresshaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa,james you ain't right.

virgin until married?
hahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.....
*eyes starting to well up*
hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha....



my stomach hurts now....heheeeeeee!


one love
khasm

virgin until married?
hahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.....
*eyes starting to well up*
hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha....



my stomach hurts now....heheeeeeee!


one love
khasm
lol!...dayum

good.good.good.good.good.good:smash::toast:


yes.yes.yes..wait wait wait wait ...God is great and big ...


He will send you the one on his time...


and you will be blessed...

dont listen what others say listen to what youre creator says ..

he knows what is good for you ..

and that what you are doing is GOOD:toast:

I am 25 years old and still a virgin. Guys ask me why am I still a virgin and I tell them that I am not ready, and that sex is not on my mind. They are baffled as to how i can go without thinking about sex or craving it. That's because my mind is so focused on other things that that doesn't even cross my mind. Just stay focused on what you set out to do. When the right time comes, you will know.

I am 25 years old and still a virgin. Guys ask me why am I still a virgin and I tell them that I am not ready, and that sex is not on my mind. They are baffled as to how i can go without thinking about sex or craving it. That's because my mind is so focused on other things that that doesn't even cross my mind. Just stay focused on what you set out to do. When the right time comes, you will know.

Respect

I am 25 years old and still a virgin. Guys ask me why am I still a virgin and I tell them that I am not ready, and that sex is not on my mind. They are baffled as to how i can go without thinking about sex or craving it. That's because my mind is so focused on other things that that doesn't even cross my mind. Just stay focused on what you set out to do. When the right time comes, you will know.

Sweetie, keep on keeping on. I really want to take a minute to applaud you. So many of us run headlong into sex at the drop of a hat. You do our community a service by thinking about the man whom you wish to be intimate with. That is a beautiful thing. I am already sorry for other who tease you about it. And if I have anything to do with it, that whole attitude is going to change. I lecture young folk so much on irresponsible sex.

But you not only show personal responsibility with your actions. You show a responsibility to family and your community. We all owe you a debt of gratitude.

young people of today spend way too much time on sex and not enough on building a foundation for they future.
sex is a trick which is used to distract and keep you from success.
put your head in a book and keep it there.
sex is always available, so why trip?


James, I think that this is something nearly impossible for young people to grasp because it's actually the ego that rots the brain and leads us astray. It's what got the human mind focused on sex in the first place; and the human ego is more rampant in our youth than at any other time in our life span. This is why youths, especially girls, will not listen to their elders, because their elders are telling them that they need to think about their future instead of sex.

Their ego is not trying to hear this. So I think that we need to take a different approach and point out the trouble that our ego leads us into, rather than sex itself. Sex itself is not a bad or irresponsible thing, not even in youth. It's a bad thing when we engage in it by signals coming from our ego rather than from our brain. We need to teach our young about the tricks that our ego play on us. If we can do that effectively, than they may listen to reason.

Holding onto virginity or withholding sex until marriage is not the answer that will protect us, because it will not guarantee a harmonious relationship or solid family structure. Nor will it protect us from AIDS, as millions of faithfully married people have died from it as a result of their unfaithful spouse bringing it in on them. I lost 3 women in family to AIDS, one of whom was faithfully married, and the other two in monogamous relationships. Their man or husband brought it in on them. And now they're gone.

Everything we do can be either triggered by our ego or our brain. When our ego is running the show, then traumatic problems will surmount no matter what. This is why children from what appears to be a solid family structure are being abused and grow up to be abusers. While children from single parent homes grow up to be happy and productive citizens.

Getting what we want out of life has no connection to social conditioning in any form. Religion, virginity, marriage, and a higher education will not secure the kind of life we want to live if we will allow our ego to run the show. Sound thinking, good decisions, persistence, and faith in ourselves is what will get us what we want. The ego is the middleman who stands between us and our higher selves. Religion teaches that the devil is a real guy, but he's not. The devil is simply the human ego. Our built in middleman. This is what we have to try to make our children understand, and some old folks too.

James, I think that this is something nearly impossible for young people to grasp because it's actually the ego that rots the brain and leads us astray. It's what got the human mind focused on sex in the first place; and the human ego is more rampant in our youth than at any other time in our life span. This is why youths, especially girls, will not listen to their elders, because their elders are telling them that they need to think about their future instead of sex.

Their ego is not trying to hear this. So I think that we need to take a different approach and point out the trouble that our ego leads us into, rather than sex itself. Sex itself is not a bad or irresponsible thing, not even in youth. It's a bad thing when we engage in it by signals coming from our ego rather than from our brain. We need to teach our young about the tricks that our ego play on us. If we can do that effectively, than they may listen to reason.

Holding onto virginity or withholding sex until marriage is not the answer that will protect us, because it will not guarantee a harmonious relationship or solid family structure. Nor will it protect us from AIDS, as millions of faithfully married people have died from it as a result of their unfaithful spouse bringing it in on them. I lost 3 women in family to AIDS, one of whom was faithfully married, and the other two in monogamous relationships. Their man or husband brought it in on them. And now they're gone.

Everything we do can be either triggered by our ego or our brain. When our ego is running the show, then traumatic problems will surmount no matter what. This is why children from what appears to be a solid family structure are being abused and grow up to be abusers. While children from single parent homes grow up to be happy and productive citizens.

Getting what we want out of life has no connection to social conditioning in any form. Religion, virginity, marriage, and a higher education will not secure the kind of life we want to live if we will allow our ego to run the show. Sound thinking, good decisions, persistence, and faith in ourselves is what will get us what we want. The ego is the middleman who stands between us and our higher selves. Religion teaches that the devil is a real guy, but he's not. The devil is simply the human ego. Our built in middleman. This is what we have to try to make our children understand, and some old folks too.

she actually posted something that i agree with. i must be getting senile.
somebody mark down the date. let me go take my blood pressure.
somethings wrong with me. oh well.