What constitutes relationship baggage?

Any input is appreciated.


MaddSistahlyLove!
Coco:heart:

is what is brought into a relationship which has to be dealt with or tolerated

:happens:

anything

so is your partner willing to endure that baggage with you

is the baggage long-term or can it be dropped off soon?

everyone carries baggage from relationship to relationship everyone

how much you're willing to put up with, is another thread

and example of baggage is baby mama/daddy drama
bad credit, drugs, unhidden agendas, and darkside personalities:hammer:

but most of all you know what baggage is trust me

are you writing a thesis or something?

you know asking question you know the answer to already

hahahhahahahahahahahaa

you know i had to get you lol

peace my friend

is what is brought into a relationship which has to be dealt with or tolerated

:happens:

anything

so is your partner willing to endure that baggage with you

is the baggage long-term or can it be dropped off soon?

everyone carries baggage from relationship to relationship everyone

how much you're willing to put up with, is another thread

and example of baggage is baby mama/daddy drama
bad credit, drugs, unhidden agendas, and darkside personalities:hammer:

but most of all you know what baggage is trust me

are you writing a thesis or something?

you know asking question you know the answer to already

hahahhahahahahahahahaa

you know i had to get you lol

peace my friend

everything he said...................in my opinion if one's baggage is a tad bit too heavy, then it's best that they are left alone, until they can unload some of it. I see too many people that aren't ready for relationships, because of personal problems hop into the dating game like it ain't no thing. This really can only make those problems worse and more complicated..........Then after that relationship tumbles to the floor they bring that baggage into the next relationship and hold resentment towards an individual who isn't even responsible for any wrong doings..........and the cycle continues.

What constitutes relationship baggage?

Any input is appreciated.


MaddSistahlyLove!
Coco:heart:




cocobutterskyn,

Coco, just in my view, there is no baggage in a real relationship, love conquers All, for real!

Greetings All!

In the end....to me....seems the stuff we call "baggage" represents our Memories of Experiences we've had while on this planet.

Those "Experiences" include our thoughts, feelings and actions (things we've done in our life)...in relation to others we have interacted with.

It is the painful/hurtful experiences that get labeled "baggage" and must be discarded from the memory banks. As if that is truly possible.
I know that the power of the feeling/emotion connected to the thoughts/event(s) is lessened over time when it is adequately and appropriately expressed.

That's all I can say for now. Thanks for the question!


M.E.
:hearts2:

Baggage is pretty simple really....its having a stinken attitude that smells up tha joint, and having a bunch of hangups based on past expierences...

Doesn't get any more basic than that...


:argue:


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a stinken attitude that smells up tha joint,

YEP!...

The other people's STUFF*...aka ish....or

SugarHoneyIcedTea

One nother thing interesting thing about "baggage" is....people tend to see/smell OTHER'S people's stuff more efficiently than their own!
Guess we get used to our own smell....heck...we only been carrying it all our lives...

M.E.
:hearts2:

YEP!...

The other people's STUFF*...aka ish....or

SugarHoneyIcedTea

One nother thing interesting thing about "baggage" is....people tend to see/smell OTHER'S people's stuff more efficiently than their own!
Guess we get used to our own smell....heck...we only been carrying it all our lives...

M.E.
:hearts2:

This is so tru, so tru.... We are quick to see the others with tha critical eye...while our baggage is hangin' out ta dry....

So’ja Man, Yes I do know what relationship baggage is. I just want to know other’s thoughts on it and toss about some helpful dialogue.

I want to touch on something Jahari Kavi mentioned,
in my opinion if one's baggage is a tad bit too heavy, then it's best that they are left alone, until they can unload some of it.
Is some baggage good, as a precautionary measure? Especially when we’re suppose to learn from our experiences?

Example: If trust circumstances sank a prior relationship, would entering a new relationship short of complete trust be unfair to the relationship?

Clyde, I would agree with that if both parties are devoted to love.

Truetothecause,
It is the painful/hurtful experiences that get labeled "baggage" and must be discarded from the memory banks. As if that is truly possible.
I know that the power of the feeling/emotion connected to the thoughts/event(s) is lessened over time when it is adequately and appropriately expressed. I agree. That’s what creates the HEAVINESS un-dealt with hurt feelings

Sweet apple pie
The make up of baggage is “simple” it the unpacking that kicks butts.


Thank you all, I appreciate your thoughts:)


MaddSistahlyLove!
Coco:heart:

Is some baggage good, as a precautionary measure? Especially when we’re suppose to learn from our experiences?

Example: If trust circumstances sank a prior relationship, would entering a new relationship short of complete trust be unfair to the relationship?


Yeah nothing is wrong from learning from experiences, the problem comes in when you allow your bad experiences to control your actions, thoughts and thought process. Lately I've been running into a number of females who allow past experiences to kill any chance of a healthy mature relationship. They spend so much time worrying about the negative, that they forget about the positive standing right in front of their faces (that would be me, lol). At the end of the day no one wants to be in a relationship if their partner doesn't trust them. A lot of times I can tell a female doesn't trust me through her actions alone...........she doesn't even have to actually say "i don't trust you," lol. Life is about trial and error.................you gotta be willing to take some chances, otherwise an individual could end up being old and lonely watching re-runs of "Murder She Wrote" and "Matlock"................

What constitutes relationship baggage?

Any input is appreciated.


MaddSistahlyLove!
Coco:heart:



When you carry something negative, from a previous relationship around with you into all succeeding relationships. Thus making the new guy pay for the old guys sins

When you carry something negative, from a previous relationship around with you into all succeeding relationships. Thus making the new guy pay for the old guys sins















*jahari says......"please don't make me pay!!!!"*

Yeah nothing is wrong from learning from experiences, the problem comes in when you allow your bad experiences to control your actions, thoughts and thought process. Lately I've been running into a number of females who allow past experiences to kill any chance of a healthy mature relationship. They spend so much time worrying about the negative, that they forget about the positive standing right in front of their faces (that would be me, lol). At the end of the day no one wants to be in a relationship if their partner doesn't trust them. A lot of times I can tell a female doesn't trust me through her actions alone...........she doesn't even have to actually say "i don't trust you," lol. Life is about trial and error.................you gotta be willing to take some chances, otherwise an individual could end up being old and lonely watching re-runs of "Murder She Wrote" and "Matlock"................
10-24-2008 04:39 PM

Jahari,
I feel its important for men and women to have conversations about
issues that plague relationships. Sometimes discussions can be like
a mirror giving reflections of what we might be doing wrong or right.

I think when it comes to the issue of baggage a lot relate it to women.


Kem,
Thanks for breaking it down. Always nice to see your id and text,

Thank you Gentlemen:)

Be Blessed!


MaddSistahlyLove!
Coco:heart:

So’ja Man, Yes I do know what relationship baggage is. I just want to know other’s thoughts on it and toss about some helpful dialogue.

I want to touch on something Jahari Kavi mentioned,

Is some baggage good, as a precautionary measure? Especially when we’re suppose to learn from our experiences?

Example: If trust circumstances sank a prior relationship, would entering a new relationship short of complete trust be unfair to the relationship?

Clyde, I would agree with that if both parties are devoted to love.

Truetothecause,
I agree. That’s what creates the HEAVINESS un-dealt with hurt feelings

Sweet apple pie
The make up of baggage is “simple” it the unpacking that kicks butts.


Thank you all, I appreciate your thoughts:)


MaddSistahlyLove!
Coco:heart:





cocobutterskyn,

Thank you for agreeing with me. I had never thought about the other person, maybe that is my problem:), a one man Band!

Yeah nothing is wrong from learning from experiences, the problem comes in when you allow your bad experiences to control your actions, thoughts and thought process.

I AGREE!:heart:

When you carry something negative, from a previous relationship around with you into all succeeding relationships. Thus making the new guy pay for the old guys sins

I AGREE!:heart:

B A G G A G E - WHAT DOES IT SPELL??:weights: