My old man comes from a family of things being proper. Such as if his grandparents argued noone slept on the couch. I think some of us remember the kind where the lady stayed at home while the man bring home the bacon. He also belives that a woman should be seen not heard which I agree. O.k I have kind of given you a little of his background. I am stuck on this you scratch my back, I'll do yours. Well everytime I initiate I am turned down. But when he wants it I comply. (Fellas) do you like it when your woman initiate intimacy? (Ladies) do your man have a problem when you initiate? Or do you think its all about being in my proper place as a woman! Please give me your views, and advice!:SuN024::em2300::nuts::bully:

Do you think it is wrong or improper for a woman to initiate sex!



nevar,

Since you are my Friend, even though I am not accustomed to airing out personal matters in public:); I will however, leave a brief opinion. The Man is to satisfy his Wife/Women in every way, repeat, every way, it is as simple as that!

imo, it should be a partnership in all things!

old values - new values; which are "better"?

if she "has to" help with the "bread winning" (to get more faster or because this economy mostly requires it to survive) then she should, i feel, have similar "rights" in other areas.

if she is to bear some of the responsibility for making things work/making ends meet; she should be able to share in the "perks".

"seen but not heard"? hell no!! what, she's supposed to be a silent partner? if she has to "bear the blame" for whatever, then she should be able to share the fame!

and why the heck can't she say "i got an itch, honey; let's scratch it!"??

it's supposed to be a partnership; two people coming together to form a single entity called Family. ... but there we run into the "proper" vs "improper" dichotomy: "shacking up" or marriage. (not suggesting, nor asking, which is involved here - that wouldn't be quite polite.)

"it's a new day" ... and it mostly sucks; look around ...
if the Women are still "supposed" to fulfill this old role, then the fellas should be fulfilling that old role of holding together/building the community/family ... "but" ... again; look around ...

if the Women are still "supposed" to fulfill this old role, then the fellas should be fulfilling that old role of holding together/building the community/family ...


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Do you think it is wrong or improper for a woman to initiate sex!


my answer is NO!

(Fellas) do you like it when your woman initiate intimacy?




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if the Women are still "supposed" to fulfill this old role, then the fellas should be fulfilling that old role of holding together/building the community/family ...
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thank you, brother james

It's never wrong in a pure good wholesome relationship / marrage
I think it's a turn on when women strike first and then willing to take it to the sheets

Man and woman share in the same morals sexually evenly is never wrong don't matter
who intiate it first long as the two are sharing souls together .

u can initiate me, babyyyy......:10900:

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You so crazy!!!



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Seriously tho....

I am the type of woman, that needs to be with a man that honors and respects my power as woman.....that means to me, that if I should feel something at anytime, that I have the right to speak and act upon it, should I choose.

Most men are probably tired of always having to be the iniators...we are all human animals grazing this pasture of life....and if I decide I am ready to graze over my mans way......shooo...then ima graze. Cas I aint got da time, to play tha "lil woman"

*Note: Graze my mans way...not anybody's way; lets not get it twisted :)

BUT, it is in my opinion, that a man that is scared or against his woman iniating....may be scared she might get good at it, and start iniating else where...

Let the church say Amen!

Seriously tho....

I am the type of woman, that needs to be with a man that honors and respects my power as woman.....that means to me, that if I should feel something at anytime, that I have the right to speak and act upon it, should I choose.

Most men are probably tired of always having to be the iniators...we are all human animals grazing this pasture of life....and if I decide I am ready to graze over my mans way......shooo...then ima graze. Cas I aint got da time, to play tha "lil woman"

*Note: Graze my mans way...not anybody's way; lets not get it twisted :)

BUT, it is in my opinion, that a man that is scared or against his woman iniating....may be scared she might get good at, and start iniating else where...

Let the church say Amen!




Amen

You go Girl!

Seriously tho....

I am the type of woman, that needs to be with a man that honors and respects my power as woman.....that means to me, that if I should feel something at anytime, that I have the right to speak and act upon it, should I choose.

Most men are probably tired of always having to be the iniators...we are all human animals grazing this pasture of life....and if I decide I am ready to graze over my mans way......shooo...then ima graze. Cas I aint got da time, to play tha "lil woman"

*Note: Graze my mans way...not anybody's way; lets not get it twisted :)

BUT, it is in my opinion, that a man that is scared or against his woman iniating....may be scared she might get good at it, and start iniating else where...

Let the church say Amen!


chuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuch


On a real it's kinda sexy when a woman initiates.....I find it very flirtatious......and I'm a flirt myself, so I enjoy the sexual mind games...............

thanks to all who have replied!:luvu:

^^^^*jahari wonders if that's an initiation of some sort?????*

First of all, I can't get past the "women should be seen and not heard" statement. But he do wanna hear you makin noises in the bedroom right? He don't want you to just lay there and be seen, does he? Funny, I always thought that was just a rumor??? Anyhoot, back 2 da real business. How could it NOT be proper?? I mean, it is your "I AM WOMAN", your sexuality. Its natural these days to GO FOR IT! Ya know? We give off those pheramones, (dang did I spell that right?) We human beings react to it, these scents. We snuggle up close to it. Take in deep breaths of it.. Its intoxicating, like a love drug. Its the mating call. That is your way of lettin know him that your READY to MATE! Just that simple. Being denied by your parnter is like puttin your fire out! What he needs to do is get them cookies while they HOT and quit playin! God forbid if you close up the cookie shop on him! As a woman with THE power, its important to be able express that. Gettin turned down too many times,is NOT a good thing. It can make you start to question yourself. It doesn't feel good either. But what does feel good is when you can use your power to seduce your man right out of boxers, hmmmm ummm, yep, that's right! You should be able to express when your feelin sexxy and want him to partake of your fruits, its your RIGHT! ;) AMEN!

My old man comes from a family of things being proper. Such as if his grandparents argued noone slept on the couch. I think some of us remember the kind where the lady stayed at home while the man bring home the bacon. He also belives that a woman should be seen not heard which I agree. O.k I have kind of given you a little of his background. I am stuck on this you scratch my back, I'll do yours. Well everytime I initiate I am turned down. But when he wants it I comply. (Fellas) do you like it when your woman initiate intimacy? (Ladies) do your man have a problem when you initiate? Or do you think its all about being in my proper place as a woman! Please give me your views, and advice!:SuN024::em2300::nuts::bully:

I love to role play with my man so I get to be the dominant one alot.also it depends on what type of relationship you are involve in.I know for your man to turn you down can be very damaging to your esteem.honey you better tell that man to loosen up and let you be [YOURSELF A MUST]in any relationship that's worth having.

you are so right on that. I wish any man can explain the fabrics of a Man!

Looking at the men's responses in this thread you can see that they claim to like women initiating. What I'm not hearing being said is what are the men thinking during and after the female boldness. Are you thinking the woman is a freak? Are you wondering where she learned to do whatever? Are you gonna maintain the same level of mental respect and courtesy that you did prior to the activities?

Come on men these questions are real. And no politically correct responses. Ain't like we can come and slap you in the face.


Peace.

Ain't like we can come and slap you in the face..
:SuN047:but you would if you could.....

:SuN047:but you would if you could.....

You scared?

You scared?

:SuN015:yep....

im with you on that point. if she did say inititate say on the first night would you respect her in the morning. I thought men didn't like women that are easy!

im with you on that point. if she did say inititate say on the first night would you respect her in the morning. I thought men didn't like women that are easy!

Tell the truth and shame the devil. I am convinced that men do not know what they want. You get downright freaky with a man tonight... You get filled in 'jump off' or 'cut buddy' staus tomorrow. Makes me think twice about being the intiator. I will, however, let a man know that tonight is the right time.

I am convinced that men do not know what they want.

:SuN035: some of us don't....

:qqb019:OK, WE ARE TALKIN ABOUT INIATING SEX WITH YOUR MAN! NOT SOMEONE YOU JUST STARTED DATING RIGHT? I THINK IF YOU USE COMMON SENSE IN THIS AND STOP BEING UPTIGHT ABOUT IT, IT WILL FLOW NATURALLY. OBVIOUSLY, MY THINKIN IS, ME AND MY MAN AT THE HOUSE, IM HORNY , I WANT SOME RIGHT NOW, IM GONNA HANDLE MY BIZNESS! NO QUESTIONS ASKED, AND I WOULDNT CARE HOW HE LOOKED AT ME THE NEXT DAY. HE MIGHT BE THINKIN **** I GOT A GOOD WOMAN AND A FREAK!! THE BEST OF BOTH WORLDS! IF I WAS JUST DATING SOMEONE, IT WOULD DEPEND ON WHERE WE ARE IN OUR RELATIONSHIP! IF ITS GONNA BE SOMETHING, THEN I MAY CONSIDER GOIN FOR IT, I AINT NO PUNK! SOMEONE I JUST MET, HE AINT GETTING THE BEST OF ME FOR A WHILE.. HE'S GONNA DO THE WORK TIL THE TIME PREVAILS.... THAT'S IT, THAT'S ALL, THAT SIMPLE.. ANY MORE QUESTIONS??? :kickball:

Why not see her the same way as the night before ......yes i would see her the same way
infact even better because we connected ......shoots i don't give myself up like dat
but if she special yes got me and i will see her no differently