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~The Things We Do For Love~

I was always the one when I was younger saying what I wouldn't do for love. You couldn't pay me to fight over a guy, (still wouldn't to this day) let alone stalk him. I was always the “sane” one of my friends I thought. Trust me, I've seen it all... From screening his calls to driving 5 hours to Kentucky as a kidnapped accomplice to beat up a woman, my girlfriends lived RAW! I was the one laughing, saying what I'd never do. I know now more than ever, to never say never WHATEVER U DO!

What drives us to such extremes in Love? Why do we feel the need to take ourselves WAY out of our character to receive and maintain love? Why is it so important to us? You'd think in a society that was programmed not to care for one another, treat one another with dignity and respect, raised in such a society that's the breeding ground for “looking out for self”, you'd think the element of “LOVE” and everything that goes along with it would be for the birds!

Yet, the nation profits heavily off of “Love” I mean, look around you... Valentine's Day, Sweetest Day, “Anything we can think of to get u to spend your money on it and say u brought it out of love” Day, Jewelry commercials, romantic “chick flicks”, and last but certainly not least, every kind of love song you can think of by 1 out of every 3 music artists out here in heavy rotation on every radio station. Now don't get me wrong, I love a good love song, sung by the right person just as much as the next gal. But Denzel Washington said it best in Spike Lee's movie: “Mo' Betta Blues” when he said: “What the world needs now... IS NOT ANOTHER **** LOVE SONG!”

Awww, come on, don't frown at me. You know what I mean. All these love songs do is give most of us something to complain about. Create a fasad and a fantasy for us to take into our homes with our very much so real mates, and impose this man's or woman's views upon them. I mean think about it, he ain't Brian McKnight, and she ain't Keisha Coles. That's not who you love and u know! I'm not gonna play myself, I know the difference between love and lust. (That's another blog for another day.) I mean, take a long hard look at reality. Have u ever asked yourself why are most celebrity couples breaking up or not even in stable relationships from the jump? You would think if they were loving there mates as well as they sing about, they would be happy right? And NOTHING else should matter right? WRONG!

The world would be such a better place if we all practiced what we preached and attempted to teach. Reality shows us that we are far from perfect and this is where truth starts to do her thing.

But no, no, no... they got some of us out here looking for someone to pay our “Bill Bills Bills”, and looking for some one to “Cater 2 U” Looking for the “Greatest Love” or just “Love”. Then before u know it, you've “Fallin” for the “Seduction”, u all “Caught Up”, and now u gotta “Let it Burn”! Man... the things we do for love! Or is it really...

All the books we read, seminars we attend, love stories we watch, relationships we compare our own to, and we STILL haven't got the picture. STILL haven't let truth do her thing. We would much rather stay in a relationship we know is senseless out of fear of not being loved and being alone, rather than be still and “Wait For Love” We would much rather lie to one another, cheat one another out of the love experiences we rightfully deserve, and steal our precious time from one another out of FEAR. I believe one of the biggest misconception we have as a people is what true love is.


Love is TRUTH, and “Truth Is”... most of us don't know what love is. How to love, so u jump from relationship to relationship, leaving your mark on each person, in search for someone to “Teach Me” as oppose to doing what you really suppose to be doing, which is LEARNING YOURSELF, because already lying there within u, is the TRUE ESSENCE OF LOVE! “Truth Is”... most of us begin our search for love out of FEAR. Oh honeybaby, guess what? LOVE and FEAR CAN NOT LIVE TOGETHER! This is why relationships fail drastically time after time. Because of FEAR. Fear is what someone once said is “False Evidence Appearing Real” and if this is indeed so, why, oh why would u want any of that, anywhere near the one u love, let alone your own heart?!

Sadly, we don't even know that over 60% of all our actions in life are implemented out of some strain of FEAR. They messed us up bad ya'll, more than we could ever imagine, yet u see the product out our enslavement in your everyday lives. “If I don't pay my light bill, there goes my electric...” FEAR “If I don't do it, some other chick will...” FEAR “If I don't do my job right, they'll fire me!... FEAR “If I don't be all s/he needs me to be, they'll leave me! FEAR

While, some of these things may happen, how do we know our worrying about it, you know, giving it energy and what not, is not the very element of which was the CAUSE of that EFFECT? If the universe responds to energy we put out in to the atmosphere, as the law of attraction states, is this not what we have done to ourselves? Started a cycle of worry, heartache, pain, 100% owned and operated by FEAR? Oh honeybaby, I'm just getting started, u might need to bookmark this one...

Let's dig into some truth, but first, u know me let's smile a bit first...

Anyone who know YG, knows I'm all about love. Just the very thought of love sends me soaring. You know what I'm talking about... When they enter the room, you get butterflies... when u hear their voice, your face just lights up like a pretty little gloworm... oh, and when u kiss... mmmmmmm... talk about a 4 alarm fiyah! You don't care where ya'll go, as long as you're together, you'd give your up that light bill money in exchange for a plane ticket to get to her, or gas money to drive the both of u to a nice bed and Breakfast for the weekend. When they cry, you're ready to knock out whoever did it, even if it's yourself, LOL. When he's mad, u just wanna make it right, so hmmm, that might take all night. LOL You could be having the worse day ever, I mean everything u could possibly think of that could have gone wrong has, but when u see her/him, that makes it all worth it.

How does it feel? Good? Warm and fuzzy all over? That's love. No fear what so ever in that. If so, than we have a bigger problem than I thought.

“Truth Is”... we bring that fear when we focus on losing this feeling of love. I'll let u in on a little secret I learned... Although I do not believe I'll put a end to world wide worry with just one blog, I will say this... If by chance we put as much energy into continuously spicing up, and building on the love we have already, than we use on worrying about losing it, how would we have time to think about everything else? I mean, I might be creating another problem, like a overpopulated nation, by giving u the goods, but hey, we are already over the limit so why stop now?!

In all seriousness, what it really boils down to is training ourselves and unlearning the cycle of dysfunction they imposed upon us and our ancestors. I thought u knew... everything in society is subliminally attacking your precious mind, which then starts the trickle down effect into your body, and spirit! This is not accident, and believe it or not, u do have control over your own mind! “Turn Off the Radio”, and engage in some “Mind Sex” Turn off the TV and turn on your WOMAN. Turn off the cellphones, and turn on your MAN. Turn off the computer, untangle yourself from the World Wide Web... of deception, and turn up the heat!

I never saw a “I” in “We”, and even in French, “we” me “yes” so from the very beginning, u have agreed to every term of your union, and not even knowing it. Now all u have to do is realize your power as sacred men and women and take it back. Reclaim your divinity. Find the true essence of love inside u, then shine it on your mate. When in a sacred union, u are a reflection of one another, so wouldn't u want to reflect, and radiate of pure, unconditional love?

No, sorry, love is not all happy times, love is not sheer bliss and roses all the time. If u looking for that, turn back on the TV, and Radio, and live in their fantasy. Cause that's the only place you'll find it. And here's the kicker, it's TEMPORARY! Cause on average, most songs only last between 3mins 55 Sec, and 4mins 30secs, and most TV shows, movies, and jewelry commercial only last between 90 seconds and 2 ½ hours, so have fun. I'd rather go for the upgraded version, a lifetime of love and all it's components. My currency? Well I only have... love, truth, overstanding, trust, care, concern, dreams, tears, some fears, knowledge of what I have to offer, all that I am willing to give, all that I am, and ever will be. Not enough? Well, I have something else, but that's like Pandora's Box, the surprises are inside, and the secrets stay within the eyes that see with.

“Will u take that journey with me?” Is what I plan to ask my prospective husband. I mean cause baby, “Truth Is” I'm not perfect, I will say things, I will make not so good choices,I will cry, I will yell, I order dinner every now and then, I might be tired some nights, I'll cramp once a month, I say: “I don't care” when deep inside I really do, I'll forget the guys are coming by to watch the game, and I'll fuss at u being late for the baby's Dr.'s appointment, I might even complain about u working so much or so late.

Yet I will love u unconditionally, stand by your when your right, and I shall not be moved even when u r wrong. I may not be a super model, but I'll surely lace your dreams, and you may not be rich, but the best things and life can't be brought with currency. I bet u though I was gonna say free, nope, that's another big misconception, cause everything in existence comes at a cost.


It's cool, u can use my lines if u like, but if u get married behind the usage, Imma need a invite to the wedding. Also keep this in mind on the way to the alter... The amount he spent on the ring, wedding, honeymoon house, car, could not/should not ever equate to his love. If u spending more time building the guest list than u are the foundation to the house of love u are attempting to build on, everything that will enter it will weigh it down, and it will eventually crumble. And trust and believe, it's much harder re-building on a unstable foundation than it is on re-building on a solid one. You'd have to tread softly and investigate every angle of the unstable foundation, and 9 times out of 10, by then u have damaged it more, and it's not even worth saving.

I want a house that my grand kids will benefit from, so I'm gonna take my time, construct my blueprint,(know thyself/the essence of love) learn the business, (what is marriage, love, and commitment) pull the right investor, (the mate) enlist some positive contractors (friends and family)to assist in the building, get the right materials ( patience, overstanding, trust, clear communication, truth) and get to work.

It's a long process, takes time to implement the entire plan. But hey, I'm willing to take my time, and do it right the first time. Cuts down on repairs over the years. Yea sure, some things will break, but nothing that can't be fixed. The house is always gonna need some kind of work, but I'm willing to do the work. And man... just the thought of the finished product keeps me going.
What about u?


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Tranquility

I wasn't sure what to say to this one babygirl,
I've been a sucker for love for a few
I was a sucker for love very recently when it came to you
You threw my ring in my face really for no good reason
It seems like you change your feelings much quicker than the seasons
I wish I could do that what Shellie said about you was right
You'd rather spend your time living a fantasy, than letting me bring it to real life
Imma go getta baby, it's aight, I'll bounce back
My daddy told me they come a dime a dozen, and I got a baker's that's fact
Wifey material, yea, right whateva dat
bull**** we'll see
Who gonna wife you, not old boy that's true
I wanted to love you, and you let him make a fool out of you
That's too bad, I'm not even sad feel sorry though for your kid
You turned your back on all of us because of something this ***** did
Do ya thang ma, continue to isolate
I hope you mend the hole in your heart before it's too late

CTOWNZ FINEST CHRIS BENZ