What does the mold for love look like? When we think of our ideas about love, where do they come from? Who were your relationship rolemodels?

[quote=Sodwn2earth]What does the mold for love look like? When we think of our ideas about love, where do they come from? QUOTE]


It should come from our parents, but unfortunately...

Music, black love stories,poetry and my imagination of how it should be through heartache.

What does the mold for love look like? When we think of our ideas about love, where do they come from? Who were your relationship rolemodels?


My parents. Both were terminally ill yet still built together. One survived ...the other did not. I learned alot about taking another for granted and not doing that. Having empathy for another and learning to grow together. Knowing what is truly important in life.

I could say more but I'd like to see more from others.

Without any doubt the mold of love was passed down by my parents
from the teaching of respect and honoring as well loyality but often
each person mold there own way of love for what they feel is important
and being able to bond together as life long mates .

But most part love has no teacher , we basicly learn it as we grow ...

PEOPLE ON HERE SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF THEMSELVES.

THIS IS THE TOPIC WITH THE LEAST RESPONSES. OH HOW WE LOVE DRAMA. WE'RE NOT INTERESTED IN SOLVING OUR PROBLEMS, JUST BITCHING ABOUT THEM. IF THIS WAS A POST ABOUT BEYONCE'S WEAVE THERE WOULD BE THOUSANDS OF RESPONSES. BUT A POST THAT CHALLENGES US TO OFFER SOME SOLUTIONS AND GENERATE POSITIVITY....NO ONE CAN ANSWER.

PEOPLE ON HERE SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF THEMSELVES.

THIS IS THE TOPIC WITH THE LEAST RESPONSES. OH HOW WE LOVE DRAMA. WE'RE NOT INTERESTED IN SOLVING OUR PROBLEMS, JUST BITCHING ABOUT THEM. IF THIS WAS A POST ABOUT BEYONCE'S WEAVE THERE WOULD BE THOUSANDS OF RESPONSES. BUT A POST THAT CHALLENGES US TO OFFER SOME SOLUTIONS AND GENERATE POSITIVITY....NO ONE CAN ANSWER.

I didn't see this thread, but agree it is an important one. My rolemodel for relationships came from my parents. It was from them I learned both the beauty and importance of black love. Their marriage made me want to seek the same, and I've been blessed to find the same.

Could it be that most don't value the morals of love and how
they come to grip of it why no one can speak to it.!

Could it be that most don't value the morals of love and how they come to grip of it why no one can speak to it.!

Or, they may simply have no good role models for relationships to talk about.
I think a lot of folk would be hard pressed to come up with one couple who they would truly model their very own relationship after. Even if your parents never divorced, their relationship may not be the relationship that you
personally would want. I personally would say my parents, but also Ruby Dee & Ossie Davis because they were married for such a long time - working side by side for civil rights and in the cinema - weathering societal and personal storms.

What does the mold for love look like? When we think of our ideas about love, where do they come from? Who were your relationship rolemodels?

Though I think there IS a generic standard, I also believe, that it's in the eye of the beholder

Or, they may simply have no good role models for relationships to talk about.
I think a lot of folk would be hard pressed to come up with one couple who they would truly model their very own relationship after. Even if your parents never divorced, their relationship may not be the relationship that you
personally would want. I personally would say my parents, but also Ruby Dee & Ossie Davis because they were married for such a long time - working side by side for civil rights and in the cinema - weathering societal and personal storms.

I agree here ......I've seen many relationships where i would say wow i would love to be in one like them
seem so perfect and sweet , when ever i see two people in love together i feel a warm feeling
and then i look at myself and just wish but i also know love has no face or teaching
love can be pain and broken and yet love can be grand and fulfilling we just don't know who or when!

We learn love as we live and grow so yes we will cross bumps to get there.

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It should come from our parents, but unfortunately...

lol, mine DEFINITELY doesn't come from my parents. That's no disrespect towards them (I love them both), but growing up I've learned probably more of "not to do" than "do" when it comes to relationships......

What does the mold for love look like? When we think of our ideas about love, where do they come from? Who were your relationship rolemodels?

Love=Mostly lust, money, and greedy ambitions in our society...

They come from the very sexist and patriarchal West who always and still have a unstable family institution which they have contaminated the rest of the world with...definitely including us Black people...

Relationship role models?...my maternal grandparents I suppose...and stable, smooth, happy, and healthy polygamous relationships...

WELL THIS IS AN EASY ONE MY BIG MAMA AND BIG DADDY!! 55 YRS OF WEDDED BLISS AND HEADACHES (LOL) I ADMIRE MY GRANDPARENTS AND HOW MY GRANDFATHER WORKED TWO FULL TIME JOBS AND TOOK CARE OF MY GRANDMOTHER AND ALL 10 OF HIS CHILDREN. WHAT A HARD WORKING MAN HE WAS, AND HE LOVED MY GRANDMOTHER TO DEATH. I WILL MISS THEM. I MODEL MY RELATIONSHIPS AFTER THEM FOR SHO"!

modeled my self from my parents mold but knew i had to set my own goal to be my
own rolemodel as i grew into this thing call love

my family have taught me love in how it will demonstrate it's power; my sister taught me about patience, and compassion; my mother has taught me about service and faith; my father has taught me about speaking up for myself and respect; my baby's father has taught me about honoring myself, my instincts and boundaries, my son teaches me about the power of love the is present in the now, and how love can move mountains; I have taught myself forgiveness and strength, and to believe in myself. I yearn for love to demonstrate the power of protection and loyalty.

While no one characteristic is love, it is my greater understanding that love is all. Love is simply all that exists to encourage us, foster our support, and nourish our life energy.

WELL THIS IS AN EASY ONE MY BIG MAMA AND BIG DADDY!! 55 YRS OF WEDDED BLISS AND HEADACHES (LOL) I ADMIRE MY GRANDPARENTS AND HOW MY GRANDFATHER WORKED TWO FULL TIME JOBS AND TOOK CARE OF MY GRANDMOTHER AND ALL 10 OF HIS CHILDREN. WHAT A HARD WORKING MAN HE WAS, AND HE LOVED MY GRANDMOTHER TO DEATH. I WILL MISS THEM. I MODEL MY RELATIONSHIPS AFTER THEM FOR SHO"!

:spinstar: These were truly beautiful testomonies here. I enjoyed reading very much...

my family have taught me love in how it will demonstrate it's power; my sister taught me about patience, and compassion; my mother has taught me about service and faith; my father has taught me about speaking up for myself and respect; my baby's father has taught me about honoring myself, my instincts and boundaries, my son teaches me about the power of love the is present in the now, and how love can move mountains; I have taught myself forgiveness and strength, and to believe in myself. I yearn for love to demonstrate the power of protection and loyalty.

While no one characteristic is love, it is my greater understanding that love is all. Love is simply all that exists to encourage us, foster our support, and nourish our life energy.