Brothers, please tell me the benifits and downfalls of being a player:juggle: There are some smoove ones, but they are the minority. What is so good about confusing Becky with Shaquanthe', and Talonda? Who would want that type of responsibility? You have one chick trying to cut your tires, one trying to cut your throat, and the state county cutting your check from child support-stemming from playing around with one too many females. Let's Discuss. Any playa's, ex-playa's, shot-callers, pimps, hustlas, ballers care to testify? Feedback please?!?!

I dont see a downfall
Your life is what you make it
If you keep woman that are ghetto
Have no kind of manners
Then thats what you want a lot of B.S. in your life
Yet if you keep woman that have class-knows how to carry herself
Have some ghetto yet knows how to turn it on and off when needed
Thats a woman to keep usually stress free

Alot of the woman I dtae are involved
So there are no strings attached
You still have issues from time to time
Where even though she is involved she gets jealous
When that happens you need to cut her loose
Its nothing like have a woman that is drama free
Preferably with no kids thats perfect for me

I dont see the word love as meaning anything
Its just a word to me now
Its like saying goodbye and see ya
Its another word to me
Woman get to caught up in love
They get caught up fast and easy

You can sell anyone a dream with the right words

I sware there is so many times
Woman dont know what I have
Dont know what I am about
But cause of my look they love it
Its too easy for real it really is

P.S. I saw the movie Hitch
I tried the giving a chick money
To get her to approach like get me a drink
To draw her away from the others
She threw my money and snapped
Dont try this fellas-LOL

I don't profess to be a playa but I do have a few lady friends whom I get together with from time to time for fun and whatnot...........on your thing about the child support....I took care of that 3 years ago 1 thing is for sure I ain't having any more kids........
now downsides.......serious ones.....possibly bumping into her man or one of his homeboys.....so ladies if you got a man tell us.......but everybody has to know their role and stick to it.........that's why I have lady friends they're not my women we're just friends with benefits of course and everybody is happy with that .......for upsides.........hell it's all upside if you ask me..........getting to experience different women (not necessarily sexually either) there's nothing better than that ...........gotta be honest though can't lead a lady on or make them no fake promises let her know what role she plays if shes cool good if not she can get on.......anyway......not a playa just a dude that loves the company of women.....




MississippiRed

I dont see a downfall
Your life is what you make it
If you keep woman that are ghetto
Have no kind of manners
Then thats what you want a lot of B.S. in your life
Yet if you keep woman that have class-knows how to carry herself
Have some ghetto yet knows how to turn it on and off when needed
Thats a woman to keep usually stress free

Alot of the woman I dtae are involved
So there are no strings attached
You still have issues from time to time
Where even though she is involved she gets jealous
When that happens you need to cut her loose
Its nothing like have a woman that is drama free
Preferably with no kids thats perfect for me

I dont see the word love as meaning anything
Its just a word to me now
Its like saying goodbye and see ya
Its another word to me
Woman get to caught up in love
They get caught up fast and easy

You can sell anyone a dream with the right words

I sware there is so many times
Woman dont know what I have
Dont know what I am about
But cause of my look they love it
Its too easy for real it really is

P.S. I saw the movie Hitch
I tried the giving a chick money
To get her to approach like get me a drink
To draw her away from the others
She threw my money and snapped
Dont try this fellas-LOL

You're a maintenance man!
I love that play, but you see the right women captured his heart and he fell in love:love: :love: :love:

I dont see a downfall
Your life is what you make it
If you keep woman that are ghetto
Have no kind of manners
Then thats what you want a lot of B.S. in your life
Yet if you keep woman that have class-knows how to carry herself
Have some ghetto yet knows how to turn it on and off when needed
Thats a woman to keep usually stress free

Alot of the woman I dtae are involved
So there are no strings attached
You still have issues from time to time
Where even though she is involved she gets jealous
When that happens you need to cut her loose
Its nothing like have a woman that is drama free
Preferably with no kids thats perfect for me

I dont see the word love as meaning anything
Its just a word to me now
Its like saying goodbye and see ya
Its another word to me
Woman get to caught up in love
They get caught up fast and easy

You can sell anyone a dream with the right words

I sware there is so many times
Woman dont know what I have
Dont know what I am about
But cause of my look they love it
Its too easy for real it really is

P.S. I saw the movie Hitch
I tried the giving a chick money
To get her to approach like get me a drink
To draw her away from the others
She threw my money and snapped
Dont try this fellas-LOL

I see you're honest, and blunt..I can respeck it tho'. I ain't madatcha:golf:

I dont see a downfall
Your life is what you make it
If you keep woman that are ghetto
Have no kind of manners
Then thats what you want a lot of B.S. in your life
Yet if you keep woman that have class-knows how to carry herself
Have some ghetto yet knows how to turn it on and off when needed
Thats a woman to keep usually stress free

Alot of the woman I dtae are involved
So there are no strings attached
You still have issues from time to time
Where even though she is involved she gets jealous
When that happens you need to cut her loose
Its nothing like have a woman that is drama free
Preferably with no kids thats perfect for me

I dont see the word love as meaning anything
Its just a word to me now
Its like saying goodbye and see ya
Its another word to me
Woman get to caught up in love
They get caught up fast and easy

You can sell anyone a dream with the right words

I sware there is so many times
Woman dont know what I have
Dont know what I am about
But cause of my look they love it
Its too easy for real it really is

P.S. I saw the movie Hitch
I tried the giving a chick money
To get her to approach like get me a drink
To draw her away from the others
She threw my money and snapped
Dont try this fellas-LOL

Somebody must have hurt you bad!
Of course a woman is going to get attached eventually!
Are you honest with these women?

IMO.....
Playa ship is a none winning thing no matter how sweet they are or respectable
they true black woman will come out nobody want to be second & third and today
nobody want to take chances .
When i was a teenager i did my thing and found out it wasn't cool or make you
any better the only thing is a man get pat on the back in the game a woman get
low rated for playa ship
when i made 21 i was in the PLAYBOY CLUB as a member
i found out while i was playing i was missing out , so you don't win in the long run
in this game just end up used , and selling yourself short of a good thing that
seem to always be watching from afar.

Today in the game of playa ship is a death trap a open book to destruction
and a cheap thriller
Don't get me wrong some know how to play the game , but what they forgot
is while they playing the game of being a playa they getting played ...........

Peace & love
$R

Turned my player card in a long time ago. To be a player implies one would have to be playing in a game. This is were the problems begin. Playing with a woman's emotions, dignity, womanhood or sexuality is not a game or a laughing matter. Infact playerism is the sort of thing that strains the relationships between black women and black men. Playerism does nothing but feed into a man's dark inhabition and lustful fantasies. You reap what you sew. This is how we continue to remain in a cycle of a generational curses.



Peace...

Somebody must have hurt you bad!
Of course a woman is going to get attached eventually!
Are you honest with these women?


Yup truely honest
Most of them are dating someone
I really prefer that cause that dont expect much
That usually want the same thing I want
You have too be honest it saves alot of the B.S.
:weights:
:deal:

Turned my player card in a long time ago. To be a player implies one would have to be playing in a game. This is were the problems begin. Playing with a woman's emotions, dignity, womanhood or sexuality is not a game or a laughing matter. Infact playerism is the sort of thing that strains the relationships between black women and black men. Playerism does nothing but feed into a man's dark inhabition and lustful fantasies. You reap what you sew. This is how we continue to remain in a cycle of a generational curses.[QUOTE]


Well said brotha Radial Faith. I totally agree, but I am a pleasing by nature so I am inclined to give the sista what she is askin for.

Sista Spicy Brown, I give you feedback from a black man that is making that transition from being the "ladies man" to being a "family man," and even though I love challenges this is one of the tough ones. As I look back on why I fell into the hype of being a "ladies man" or the "playa" I think that one of the benefits for me was to have the best of both worlds. I honestly dreamed of having more than one "special lady." It was my fantasy to know that I was intelligent, charming and good looking enough to occupy 2 premere women at the same time. That dream came to a crashing hault when the tire slashing and the stalking began. To me, the downfall is that there are real feelings involved and it makes you feel less than a man to hurt a woman that bad. Fortunately I never had to deal with the baby mama situations.

My thing was always open honesty. I made it a habbit to NEVER lie to those women while I searched for 2 "premere women." The toughest lesson I learned about dealing with women is that your actions speak volumes over the words that you think are so suave and manipulative. When I was younger I couldnt understand how a woman could be mad at me about seeing other women when I told her from the beginning that I had no desire to be in a relaionship. My mother asked me one question, "Did you sleep with her?" she said, "If the answer is yes, then you're dead wrong!" She told me that when you have sex with a woman, to them its a legal binding contract, so if you dont plan to be with them then dont sleep with them! It took me a while, but I finally understand.


By the way how many of you agree with what mama told me? Of course every situation is different, but for the most part how do you all feel about that?

Turned my player card in a long time ago. To be a player implies one would have to be playing in a game. This is were the problems begin. Playing with a woman's emotions, dignity, womanhood or sexuality is not a game or a laughing matter. Infact playerism is the sort of thing that strains the relationships between black women and black men. Playerism does nothing but feed into a man's dark inhabition and lustful fantasies. You reap what you sew. This is how we continue to remain in a cycle of a generational curses.



Peace...

:spinstar: :spinstar:

Yup truely honest
Most of them are dating someone
I really prefer that cause that dont expect much
That usually want the same thing I want
You have too be honest it saves alot of the B.S.
:weights:
:deal:

So since you've had your heart broken,you refuse to let your guard down again right?
That's something I have always wanted to know.
Why when sisters get hurt she's somewhat bitter but she loves again but when a brother gets his heartbroken, it's like fluc thes b#tc#es and it takes him forever to love again,cuts off all emotion,if he chooses to do so!