Hotep Brothers and Sisters
How are you intimate with your significant other without having sexual contact? Do you think intimacy is a lost art? Do you think people think that the only way to be intimate is through sexual contact?

Hotep Brothers and Sisters
How are you intimate with your significant other without having sexual contact? Do you think intimacy is a lost art? Do you think people think that the only way to be intimate is through sexual contact?
i think sex is overrated in that regard.
sex may be one form of intimacy but it is not even the most important.

these forums are full of laments from people who have plenty of sex and even marriage with people and find they don't know that person very well.
for me it's all about knowing and liking what you know.

it's about communicating and sharing.

being able to talk and be heard and understood.
i've had sex with people who i never talked with and talked with people who i never had sex with.

the intimate thing is to hear and be heard.

Hotep Brothers and Sisters
How are you intimate with your significant other without having sexual contact? Do you think intimacy is a lost art? Do you think people think that the only way to be intimate is through sexual contact?

Intimate,
mann.. i uesd to think that only meant sex... till i met a man that showed me that.. simple acts like, bathing eachother, and washing eachothers hair in the shower.. lotioning eachothers body, or... him oiling my scalp.. has become some of the most intimate moments outside of the normal cuddling, and hugging..kissing..and sexual moments. I dont think its a lost art, i jsut think there needs to be more of it... we recently started trying tantra.. which is beyond my wildest.. in intimacy... it forces you to connect and surrender. I think when people say intimate.. nowadays they are refering to sex.. i guess, we are coming to a point where the only intimate moments are acheived thru sex.. luckly there will still be women like you and I Nisa to preserve it.. :grouphug:

Hmm I like both of the responses :) :)

YEA,I CAN DOG THAT OILING AND LOTIONING PART!SERIOUSLY!


:yo:

YEA,I CAN DOG THAT OILING AND LOTIONING PART!SERIOUSLY!


:yo:


Gimme a foot rub :)

can you be intimate over the internet?

Intimacy means close association by definition, so technically if you loved your mother and father you are intimate with them.

Intimacy has been degraded to the level of sexuality, which in my opinion is just false. I do not need to be in a womans guts to be close to her.

Just my Opinion

Intimacy means close association by definition, so technically if you loved your mother and father you are intimate with them.

Intimacy has been degraded to the level of sexuality, which in my opinion is just false. I do not need to be in a womans guts to be close to her.

Just my Opinion


In her guts? wow.. :pie:..maybe you can say i dont need to have sexual intercourse with a woman to be close to her..but guts... :uhoh:

Hi Nisa!

I like communication, it’s extremely important. I like my lover to be extremely smart...Actually I like mental sex. Exploring each other in this way, I love that. While I couldn't ignore real/good sex but I know I need a reflective lover. I give plenty of sex to my partner when he teach me, when he delight me. So many people date or marry insensitive, boring and secretive people; it brings so much unhappiness, in sex and romance!

can you be intimate over the internet?

Hotep Brothers and Sisters
How are you intimate with your significant other without having sexual contact? Do you think intimacy is a lost art? Do you think people think that the only way to be intimate is through sexual contact?

The best intimacy between lovers is sort of informal …it should be reflected in you and your environment; a lot of giggling and laughter, and even sometimes a nice sort of relaxed silliness born from familiarity. When you kind of keep each other entertained and relaxed. Incense/resins, candles, fresh cuts the norm, not a once in a blue moon thing …a woman who loves to read to you sometimes, especially good poetry. …a constant and uncanny meeting of the minds. Good music always, in between the solitude and silence. That right kind of looking at each other, when you know, you have what you want and need in the other; you can feel that. When you look at each other or sometimes even think about each other, almost at anytime or anywhere and get aroused mentally, that’s an intimate connection.

…When you have something worth talking about between your interludes of lovemaking. And not a conversation of insecurities …”do you really love me” “I want to be assured again” over and over again.

Intimate lovemaking is not a performance, but a deep sharing of passion and a caring sensuous feeding of each other’s libido. When you turn over at night and touch and smell the fragrance of their presence....well...

Even, with all the special oils, soaping in the tub or shower and the certain intimate attire and so forth…there is really something natural and simple about good intimacy.

Peace

Well… well… well, Brother Sun Ship you are a very ROMANTIC man lol... honestly! :D

Brother Jamesfrmphilly, why shouldn't we "love" via the Web? When 2 persons are very sensitive and open to each other. They have sympathy and enjoy flirting with each other on message boards or in private messaging what is it? It’s a Web romance!

Vacations!

I'm always traveling...

Outside the country and around the country.

For some reason a lot of women find that adventurous and erotic and love to go with me where-ever I'm going whether it's San Diego or Montreal.




Also, the way I drop knowledge about politics and religion....some women find it stimulating.
Especially when they've just met me.

But the difference is the women I date never get tired or bored of traveling with me and staying around in different places; while it only takes a few weeks for them to get tired of my passionate and zealous beliefs on religion and politics.

can you really be intimate on line? really, really?

The best intimacy between lovers is sort of informal …it should be reflected in you and your environment; a lot of giggling and laughter, and even sometimes a nice sort of relaxed silliness born from familiarity. When you kind of keep each other entertained and relaxed. Incense/resins, candles, fresh cuts the norm, not a once in a blue moon thing …a woman who loves to read to you sometimes, especially good poetry. …a constant and uncanny meeting of the minds. Good music always, in between the solitude and silence. That right kind of looking at each other, when you know, you have what you want and need in the other; you can feel that. When you look at each other or sometimes even think about each other, almost at anytime or anywhere and get aroused mentally, that’s an intimate connection.

…When you have something worth talking about between your interludes of lovemaking. And not a conversation of insecurities …”do you really love me” “I want to be assured again” over and over again.

Intimate lovemaking is not a performance, but a deep sharing of passion and a caring sensuous feeding of each other’s libido. When you turn over at night and touch and smell the fragrance of their presence....well...

Even, with all the special oils, soaping in the tub or shower and the certain intimate attire and so forth…there is really something natural and simple about good intimacy.

Peace


Sheesh,that was an intimate response lol..loved that :hearts3:

can you really be intimate on line? really, really?
okay, okay.. james.. i see your inner child was begging for the answer to this less than intriguing question.. yes you can be intimate online.. its called an intimate conversation.. one in which your thoughts unwind and and you become surrounded in thought... and intrigued so by the apple of your eye.. if not but for only a min.. two people can immerse themselves... and unwind.. so that it becomes titilating. Achieving intimacy.. so that when the conversations over, you take a breath... and have to sit back and jsut.. reflect.

I think that being intimate has to do with a lot of things you and your lover may do, and that doesn't necessarily mean sex. It can be the way he or she holds you, the way he kisses you, the way he or she knows how you are feeling deep down inside; even though on the outside you could be putting up a front, it could be the way he or she looks into you eyes and it just makes your whole body tingle. That is what intimacy entails for me at least for now, till I find that right person to give my virginity to.