Why do black woman say their are no good black men left?

Black women do out number black men overall but men slightly out number women under the age of 64 due to a higher rate of male births and females only out number males by a wide margin from the age of 65 and above because they usually have a longer life span. Even when you account for men in prison and those that are gay it still pretty much evens out to an even number of males and females because their are black women who are gay and black women make up the majority of female imates and the numbers are increasing .

I think a lot of black women believe their are so few black men because of the false info they find in the media and their own worse fears.

I recon they say this because they are tired of so many black men expecting them to lead, fight, make all the decisions, and make money ON TOP of having and raising thier children.

I can direct you to a couple of threads that would provide excellent examples of why so many of our women are fed up with American black men and think so many of us are triffling and shiftless.


Most women won't tell a man how he should behave because she figures he should already know and doesn't want to insult him. Many of our sistaz want strong powerful domineering men who can take charge and lead....but are too shy to admit this for fear of being criticized by others in the community.

So many black men become confused at what sistaz really want from them.


A few vicious vipers take advantage of this confusion and vacuum of authority by inserting their own agendas and concepts of how black men should behave and this only leads to more misunderstanding and failed relationships.


Until black men and women IN AMERICA (because blacks elsewhere don't have this problem) learn their proper roles, they will remain in a state of perpetual confusion and despair when it comes to relating to eachother.

Why do black woman say their are no good black men left?

Black women do out number black men overall but men slightly out number women under the age of 64 due to a higher rate of male births and females only out number males by a wide margin from the age of 65 and above because they usually have a longer life span. Even when you account for men in prison and those that are gay it still pretty much evens out to an even number of males and females because their are black women who are gay and black women make up the majority of female imates and the numbers are increasing .

I think a lot of black women believe their are so few black men because of the false info they find in the media and their own worse fears.


I think SOME women say this because they are looking for SINGLE men their age and the older you get the less likely you are to find older men who are single. Common sense would tell us there are a lot left...but I do think that would depend on where you live.

Personally I have never felt as thought there aren't any good men left...I know quite a few of them! :number1:

I think some black women over look whats right in their faces instead of always looking outward or for things they can't even give or offer a man themself. If people simply take the time to get to know each without looking only at what you look like, what you have or have not and seek for whats inside... then maybe some will open their eyes and find there's plenty of good black men. :flowers:

Not only do good black men exist, they exist in significant numbers!

I totally agree there are lots of good black men
many women just pass them by due to what kind of job they have
and their income these good men get looked over often ...............

What's the definition of a "good man"?

Clearly there are some men in America who our sistaz consider good and positive but wouldn't get the time of day from our sistaz in Canada because of their mentality and behavior.

And I know black men from Senegal who from what I've observed are pretty popular with Senegalese women but can't even get a date here in America.


Is "good" the same as being attractive....what is good?

Who decideds whether or not a man is good and worthy?

We can view statistics all day…but in real time, there is a lot of mismatching and male to female imbalance in the average social setting (including the progressive and the cultural). It doesn’t matter if it is the last cultural function you went to, the church, book signings or any other formal or informal occasion…you can choose to look at this calculatingly or randomly…Black women are finding themselves sometimes heavily outnumbering Black men, when they are in the public and sometimes private social arena and then they find a lot of these brothers are with a sister already or married.

Most Black men see this imbalance in numbers also, even though statistics may say it doesn’t exist, in a real body count. Its not only good and/or righteous Brothers, but just Black men numbers in general (visual observation). We can argue statistics all day, but there is definitely a real time social phenomenon going on…that is easy to observe.

I think the definition of a good man..depends on the woman..every woman has different definitions of what a good man is.

amen :flowers: :spin:





yes there are....
and its what you believe...

i mean youre blessed when one is comming youre way and there is a match
the click the melt... :love: "'the one "" the one you become one with or are one with...


but i heard they do excist..

and its up to the woman to start beliving in that....



in God





right now i dont...

i,m sorry ..but i will hopefully one day :weights:








but Point treu they do excist :flowers:



cause god excist.










Lovelibertylady:heart:

I got me a good brother..and he wasn't the type that was on my "list"..I said I would never be with a man who had kids or been married before. Man if I would have stuck to my "list", I would have missed out on a beee u tiful thing.

Good black men exist all around us, i have noticed that it is because of our particularly vain nature that, most are overlooked. In my life I have had the pleasure of dating three good men, having known many, one of which im marrying.. the ones that passed me I only was to wrapped up in myself to notice, or came at the wrong time when I wasnt ready for what they were offering, or wrong place... when I was with another man, on the night of my engagement party (long time admirer, that was always a good friend) never noticed him either. But I had to get over myself, and actually look at a man for his potential rather than.. his curent status. BUt theres no myth, I believe that most men are good men.. they jsut may not be good for you. BUt to somebody! :hearts3:

Good Black Men and Good Black Women Do Exist.

The real question is, will we keep them when they come in our lives, or will we shun them away because they are too good to be true...

Good Black Men and Good Black Women Do Exist.

The real question is, will we keep them when they come in our lives, or will we shun them away because they are too good to be true...


My sentiments exactly

*hey everybody* im new 2 this place....& i jus wanna say whas up?! ;)

welcome shimmerpimp08 to destee.com
surely here you will meet and greet many

great men are every where just take a moment and look around .

I believe that most men are good men.. they jsut may not be good for you. BUt to somebody! :hearts3:

I missed this before, but this is a really great point Poetic!

Poetic

I agree also....

It all depends on the individual and what they personally like.


But I think there should still be some standards set so that out tastes and desires in a mate don't become perverted and we start finding immoral and decadant people attractive....as is the case through out much of the black community in the West.

peace,

Of course "good black men" do exist, but I think that a lot of brothers are not exactly sure what a woman means when she says she wants "a good black man". Given the fact that most women say this, but then end up with the opposite...................could leave a brother a little confused on the definition of "a good black man"

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Of course "good black men" do exist, but I think that a lot of brothers are not exactly sure what a woman means when she says she wants "a good black man". Given the fact that most women say this, but then end up with the opposite...................could leave a brother a little confused on the definition of "a good black man"
I've had to reconcile with the fact that since childhood I've been lied to by the educational system and society in general about what is and isn't expected of me as a man and how I should treat women.

Almost everything I was told by "official sources" have turned out to be inaccurate.

Too often "good" means "wealthy".

A man can be abusive, ugly, and a lying cheat....but as long as he's got plenty of money (but not stingy with it) and a nice ride, he's a GOOD black man.


*On their way to the bus stop 2 women ignore the black man who is trying to give them the word out of the bible.

....they blow off the well dressed black man who is trying to sell them a Final Call.


But when some dope dealer with bass so strong it rattles the change in their tight pockets comes rolling by in a Benz with a woman in the passenger seat they start rubbing thier chests and getting hot.

They stand their looking at him and his woman in disgust, face all twisted up:

"See daaaaang, why come all da "good menzes" always snatched up???"

I think the definition of a good man..depends on the woman..every woman has different definitions of what a good man is.
Of course,everyone has his own definition of the perfection in the other sex!!!Some like fat one,other tall and so on and so forth.I totaly agree with you

The do exist! (like the M&M people)

LOL!!!! :lol:

When I first read this, I have to admit that I didn't get it.......Until I saw an M&M commercial on TV the other night.

That was really funny, sister. I wish more sisters that I encounter had that cute humor like this.:fairy:

PEACE