How do you tell an Ex to leave you alone after you have already told them to leave you alone?

She left me for unknown reasons, but I said you leaving are you sure? She replied, "Yes, I am." My response was, "You are not coming back its over."
Now she realizes she made a mistake and will not stop calling me and coming by my house. She is determined for us to "work things out", but Im not we are done. How do you get a person like this to get the point?

many will not get it until you take legal action
like a restrain order , some simply let them know rudely to get the
picture and some will show 'em by being seen a lot with the new love
people react to this differently , but which ever way you feel best for you
do so and GOOD LUCK

Rich is correct. Get the order. :danger: You never know about stalkers. They can get violent. Seeing you happy makes her upset, and she wants to know really why you seem to be Ok without her. The restraining order will protect you later, if she came up and tried to get physical. No calls have to stay 100 yards away from you or something like that.

I don't think this situation calls for a restraining order just yet. I would get her to leave me alone, by leaving her alone. Brother Godssoulja if you have caller ID, then simply don't pick up when she calls. Better yet change your phone number. If you don't make yourself available to her, then she will eventually get the hint.

get the order of protection.

I don't think this situation calls for a restraining order just yet. I would get her to leave me alone, by leaving her alone. Brother Godssoulja if you have caller ID, then simply don't pick up when she calls. Better yet change your phone number. If you don't make yourself available to her, then she will eventually get the hint.

exactly...don't answer the phone when she calls...don't answer the door when she stops by...the more you talk to her the more she will think that she has a chance to get back in....

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khasm

I think that you should ignore her with caller ID, change your number, ignore her when she comes over even if it means that she humiliates herself in front of the neighbors. If this fails to work get a restraining order!!

I will add a little twist to this she is the mother of my 5 year old son.

I will add a little twist to this she is the mother of my 5 year old son.

You're screwed bruh!!! I would suggest you give her another chance for the sake of your child, but it seems home girl left you for another guy and wants to come back when that didn't work out. She is the mother of your child though. D@mn dude you're screwed.

Don't take her back...ever. She left you even though you guys were a family, so it was definately for someone else. Never trust a woman that does that. You still have your son even if you're not with her, so you might have to make a complaint on her. Definately don't give her another chance. Get a restraining order if you can. That will keep her away. I'm not sure how that works though, since you guys do have a child together. At least let her know that if it continues, that you'll seek some type of action against her. You can take care of your parental responsibilies without having her in the picture, so don't be pressured iinto doing something that you now will not work. There are millions of miserable people that are together for the sake of the child, so that's not the answer.

I will add a little twist to this she is the mother of my 5 year old son.

You left out the most important piece of information Godssoulja!! Well as BigTown so elloquently put it...you're screwed!

smh...ur stuck for 13 more years dun...sorry to hear it

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khasm

You left out the most important piece of information Godssoulja!! Well as BigTown so eloquently put it...you're screwed!
why you leave out that little fact?
you playing games with us?

You're going to have to keep your relationship strictly about your child only. You will have no choice but to stay in contact with her. For life. You must not let her use the child as a weapon. Once you have spurned her enough that's what she's going to do. Never let your son see you and her at odds with eachother. Whatever you do, do not give in and do not sleep with her again. Even Christian man surcome to the wiles of a women sometime. Stay prayed up Bruh.


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Radical Faith

You're going to have to keep your relationship strictly about your child only. You will have no choice but to stay in contact with her. For life. You must not let her use the child as a weapon. Once you have spurned her enough that's what she's going to do. Never let your son see you and her at odds with eachother. Whatever you do, do not give in and do not sleep with her again. Even Christian man surcome to the wiles of a women sometime. Stay prayed up Bruh.

Good advice brother Radical Faith...much more helpful than: You're screwed!

don't open the door when she comes by, don't answer the phone when she calls, if she sends you a letter..return it..don't allow any room for her to com eback into your life since you clearly don't want her.

don't open the door when she comes by, don't answer the phone when she calls, if she sends you a letter..return it..don't allow any room for her to com eback into your life since you clearly don't want her.

Nita she is his son's mother...he can not do that!

Nita she is his son's mother...he can not do that!


Exactly! I may have seemed insensitive by saying he's screwed. When there's a baby involved, you'll be making sour lemonade for the next 18 years fella. You just have to deal.

That's my "BIG" opinion.

Nita she is his son's mother...he can not do that!

Don't know how I missed him mentioning his son because I read the first page...but yeah this makes the situation more complicated. I guess you just have to be firm with her and let her know you only want to be there for your son and that's it! You may have to even get someone to go pick up your son for you if she refuses to hear you out.

Brother Pan, there are some fathers that do exactly that... leave the mom and the children too

Thanks for getting me on the right track.

Don't know how I missed him mentioning his son because I read the first page...but yeah this makes the situation more complicated. I guess you just have to be firm with her and let her know you only want to be there for your son and that's it! You may have to even get someone to go pick up your son for you if she refuses to hear you out.

Brother Pan, there are some fathers that do exactly that... leave the mom and the children too

Thanks for getting me on the right track.

No problem, you country girls have a one track mind!!

No problem, you country girls have a one track mind!!


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I see why no guns are allowed in the forum now....cause somebody just might catch a flesh wound to their right butt cheek.....j/k...lol

I need help yall she still wont go away talking to her just dont work! :insane:

I need help yall she still wont go away talking to her just dont work! :insane:

She worse than roaches..goodness, I don't know what to tell you to do about her. If she still won't get the hint she's probably in denial and reality wont sink in until you find a way to make her understand or move on in another relationship..what way to make her understand.. I don't know but I hope she will get the picture soon.

Brother Godssoulja does your ex have custody of your son? If this is the case, you are going to have to walk on egg shells for the foreseeable future. Children bond people together for life! That bond remains long after the relationship ends. It is important for you to maintain a professional relationship with your ex. Try to be friends, that would be best for your son anyway. However make sure you don't entertain your ex's advances. If you keep things cordial, hopefully she will eventually get the hint & stop trying to recapture old times.

Hmmm....well, what I would do is this.On the days that you are scheduled to see your son, have someone else pick him up and take him to you. I would do this only if I wasn't trying to see her at all!. If you want to keep a friendlier approach about it, pick him up and notice I said pick him up, that way you can control how long you stay. If you don't like the atmosphere then you are free to leave- ya'dig?. Parading around with a new Love interest will only make her obsess about you more so I really wouldn't recommend doing that. Tell her once more that you are not trying to be with her in a relationship again and leave it at that. If need be, get the restraining order- you will still be able to see your son.Good Luck!

bad sex will get rid of most people. :grin:

bad sex will get rid of most people. :grin:

LMAO!!! Thanks James...I needed that laugh for sure! But this is soooo true!

Tried that James anything I do thats bad is good to her lol. :thinking:

Tried that James anything I do thats bad is good to her lol. :thinking:


Then it sounds to me like you need to get a restraining order.

Then it sounds to me like you need to get a restraining order.


*sending soulja some garlic and daylight* maybe she'll fly away...and stop sucking your blood, sounds like a vampire to me.