Serious Question. For those of you who have little children (sons, daughters, nieces, nephews,cousins, etc) What would you do if you walked in on two LITTLE kids trying to "hump" One of them being your child. -Back in the day, it was called playing "Mommy & Daddy" OR "Playing House". What would you do? How would you react?

Sometimes, little kids who have "seen" what they shouldn't have seen(whether by TV, Other little kids, or Watching a parent or parents who are not careful in the home) will try to experiment what they see. So it happens. Again, what would you do? How would you react?

Hmmm! I'll put it like this, the "belt" is not just for keeping your pants up!

Hmmm! I'll put it like this, the "belt" is not just for keeping your pants up!

I disagree with you here. It depends on their age, 3 year olds doing "show me yours" are just being innocently curious. My son showed the neighbor girl his at 3, I sat him down and explained that we don't show people our private parts. He wouldn't have understood if I'd just gotten angry and spanked him. They don't know what they're doing is wrong unless we explain it to them at that age.

Not the 1st time we've disagreed Indya!

Not the 1st time we've disagreed Indya!


I keep hoping some day you'll see the light and realize I'm always right. :rolling:

I first try to teach this very thing is wrong and very private, also i try my best to
express the wrongs and rights the do's and dont 's to my children and never
try to duplicate what they hear or see from T.V / or streets /and any other means
as far as parents that's what doors and locking it for (Privacy) so children can't
walk in , i don't think i would lift my belt but i would give a deep good talking too
next time my belt do the talking for me , children can do and say things you would
never believebut they so lovable.

I keep hoping some day you'll see the light and realize I'm always right. :rolling:

Oh Really? Don't hold your breath waiting for that one Indya! Spanking should always happen in conjunction with verbal correction. Sweetbrown can choose to talk to the other parent(s); however, in today's time parents are not as responsible as they used to be in terms of monitoring/caring about their children's behavior (as one who works with teens & parents everyday I know this). As a result, her primary concern...her only concern is the conduct of her children. She can try to monitor what her child watches to prevent this from happening again; however, this a preventative measure, and does not address the immediate situation. Spanking is used to address serious behavioral issues, this is not throwing away food or having a tantrum. The situation calls for a more serious approach.

In today's time children are having sex as young as 8 years old! Indeed young girls are having their periods as young as 8 years old, and getting pregnant at 10 & 11 (in some cases even young). It is extremely important to cease such behavior before it continues. Spanking is appropriate when children are too young to fully grasp the danger of certain behaviors. Are you going to give your 3 year old a sex education class Indya? Do you really think a 3 year old will really understand what you are telling them? I have a child around that age, and I watch her class mates (day care center)....most can't even complete a sentence! Punishments and verbal corrections are more appropriate when children are older, and better capable of understanding its meaning.

Children learn things by two methods. One is by imitiation or play and the other is by repetition or practice. For children to play "house" or "mommy and daddy" is obvisiously imitiation of what they have seen. This is why it's very important what images our children are being exposed to. As parents not only must we monitor our homes but other homes or centers where our children spend their time as well. If a child is pretending to have sex by humping another child there are some serious issues going on. Sure many children have done this and maybe they turned out fine but it goes back to the question, what has that child been exposed to? As adults if we walk in on something like that we should without blowing up question the child or children as to what they are doing, if they understand what they are doing and where they learned it from? Only once you've gained satisfactory answers to these questions then you sit the children down and explain the reality of what they were imitating. Also you find the source of the imitated behavior and eliminate it from that childs life by any means. If it's someone elses child is displaying this type of behavior then address the issue with their parents imediately. If this is your child behaving this way after you've talked about it then like Brother Pan said it time for some negative reinforment. i.e. the belt, the switch, the paddle, hotwheels racing track(old school), etc. Spare the rod and spoil the child. Either way there are effective ways of dealing this situation.


Peace

Radical Faith

In this case, The older child 9 Knew better. Was definitely acting out something he'd seen upon a FOUR year old who didn't know better. -That's unbelievable. FOUR? I would be SO FURIOUS. They were cousins. The parent, mom of the four year old. Single Parent. Hysterical. Whooped them Both and Scolded them too. ( " I better not ever catch y'all doing something like this again!) And that was that. She ask me what would I do? Was she right in whooping them and scolding them? I Really had to think about it myself. 9 years old? That's old enough to know better. So he definitely would've got the belt! Especially if he were a relative. I probably would've sat my 4yr old down and had a good talking to with her. What's the minimum age do you began having talks about "sex" with little children who outgrow the "no showing private parts" talk? Because the 9 year old seems to need one of those.

In this case, The older child 9 Knew better. Was definitely acting out something he'd seen upon a FOUR year old who didn't know better. -That's unbelievable. FOUR? I would be SO FURIOUS. They were cousins. The parent, mom of the four year old. Single Parent. Hysterical. Whooped them Both and Scolded them too. ( " I better not ever catch y'all doing something like this again!) And that was that. She ask me what would I do? Was she right in whooping them and scolding them? I Really had to think about it myself. 9 years old? That's old enough to know better. So he definitely would've got the belt! Especially if he were a relative. I probably would've sat my 4yr old down and had a good talking to with her. What's the minimum age do you began having talks about "sex" with little children who outgrow the "no showing private parts" talk? Because the 9 year old seems to need one of those.


When you first posted and said little children I thought you were talking about very young children 3-4 being involved. Now I've got to change my answer.
The nine year old definitally knows better than to do this and should be spanked after a long lecture about what he did. I would keep an eye on this child around other younger children since he's obviously been exposed to things he shouldn't have been.

I started talking with my kids about sex when they asked about where babies come from. Opportunities come up when you have pregnant family members or someone is changing a baby and they notice the difference between girls and boys. I think 7 yrs old is when they start getting curious about things. I told them, but didn't get graphic (if you know what I mean).

When you first posted and said little children I thought you were talking about very young children 3-4 being involved. Now I've got to change my answer. The nine year old definitally knows better than to do this and should be spanked after a long lecture about what he did. I would keep an eye on this child around other younger children since he's obviously been exposed to things he shouldn't have been

Well I guess this is an admission that PanAfrica is always right!

Well I guess this is an admission that PanAfrica is always right!

It's a draw!! She said little chidren which I took to mean 3-4, I stand by my first response for this age group spanking isn't always necessary at this age. Since she said 9 yrs I had to change my answer to spanking, and keeping a sharp eye on what he's doing.

in that case the 9 yr old would be still trying to sit down from the
power of my belt , it was an act the 9 yr old seen of heard about
funny what kids take in fully so as parents it's a must to beware and careful
what one do and say around children and in today's time kids are much
smarter and advance ....

Something is definately going on with that 9 yr old...
I'own think a whoopin' would be enough.
His parents need to find out why he's acting
out this way.... maybe he's been or is being
sexually abused himself... that is way beyond "curious".

Much...
peace & Love
Akilah :spinstar:

I definitely agree with Akilah. As parents we always assume that at a certain age a child should know better but if these subjects such as this one has never been talked about, how can they know? There is a deeper issue going on right here and believe it or not it is time for a lot of us to stop ignoring these generational curses and start breaking them. There is a reason for this type of behavior and we can't always stop a spiritual thing with a physical reaction. Yes, I definitely believe in spanking but I also believe in talking too.
If a child feels that they are going to be spanked for most things that they do they become accustom to it. So they won't talk because they were never given the opportunity to do so. If we listen most kids will talk.

Good insight Ireadastory & Akilah!