Hey y'all
this boy likes me alot & i like him too but i get the feeling he's seeing how far he can go wit me. about 2 weeks ago during school he asked 2 meet with me so i did & then he was trying to kiss me etc and he sed "i hope it goes further" and i was like WUT!? i'm not even going out with you yet right now im jus getting to know u. anyway every since then ive been finkin about it so much i like him and i want to continue to get to know him but i dnt want to get used bcos my virginity means so much to me and i dont want to lose it to any boy for now. on the fone hes so sweet to me, hes buying me a giant teddy and he's writing me a song because hes gd at rappin , mcing woteva u wana call it, and thats rly sweet seeing as were not going 2getha but at the back of my mind im thinkin is he tryin to be sweet n do fings 4 me so he can get it my pantiez . & also i've heard rumours about his frend going round to girls and hvin regualr sex wid dem. Neway what do i do? + plus if the kissin and that happens now wot is there to do wen we go out?? coz as i sed i don't want to lose my virginity to nayone right now. Please help yall thanx

Hey y'all
this boy likes me alot & i like him too but i get the feeling he's seeing how far he can go wit me. about 2 weeks ago during school he asked 2 meet with me so i did & then he was trying to kiss me etc and he sed "i hope it goes further" and i was like WUT!? i'm not even going out with you yet right now im jus getting to know u. anyway every since then ive been finkin about it so much i like him and i want to continue to get to know him but i dnt want to get used bcos my virginity means so much to me and i dont want to lose it to any boy for now. on the fone hes so sweet to me, hes buying me a giant teddy and he's writing me a song because hes gd at rappin , mcing woteva u wana call it, and thats rly sweet seeing as were not going 2getha but at the back of my mind im thinkin is he tryin to be sweet n do fings 4 me so he can get it my pantiez . & also i've heard rumours about his frend going round to girls and hvin regualr sex wid dem. Neway what do i do? + plus if the kissin and that happens now wot is there to do wen we go out?? coz as i sed i don't want to lose my virginity to nayone right now. Please help yall thanx

Lil' Sis'- Don't fall for that Bulls***, Boys are always gonna be "NICE" and start Buying you "Gifts" n' things just to get what they want out of you. Always go with your gut feeling and right now, it's telling you that he's just trying to use you for his OWN good!. I know that you like him a lot, but please, don't let him or any other Boy trick you by using "Sweet" Poems and other material possessions to get your goodies out of you. Just observe him, when you push him away(when he goes for something other than your lips) how does he respond?. Does he seem to get annoyed or does he give up in a calm way?. If he is Patient with you, then perhaps you got yourself a keeper, I don't know how long he will hold out but still, he's a keeper. Now, on the otherhand if Home-Dude acts all frustrated and Cops' an attitude- He ain't worth it Girlie!. This Cat will either try to force you to have Sex or he will go to extreme measures e.g. slipping you a pill, getting you drunk or even Rape. Soo, be wary Lil' Sis' and Good Luck!.


Hey Keep Us Posted Okay? and if you need any more advice, hit me-up ' cause I know where you're coming from!.

Itz really (and i'm sorry) a pity to see that whatever a boy can do u just guess that itz for havin' sex!Itz true thatwhen we,boyz,are in luv,we luv with our heart,our soul and...our body!We can't avoid it because we are human!If you just put in ur mind "this guy wanna have sex with me,datz his only interest",then u should leave him and stay alone because NO BOYZ don't desire their girlfriends,otherwise they don't luv them!
Be more comprehensive;no one will enforce u if u don't want to
Stop wondering about the topic;itz not worth it.
Peace for ya sista

if you are hearing that he is going around and haveing sex aith multiplae girls youneed to get away from that. you dont deserve a guy who is ging to give himself to every pritty face that walks by. you need to find some one that youcan trust, someone that isnot going to just try and get into your pants. i have been at that point to and at the time your thinking why not lets just do it right (im still a vergin) but it can go far but youhave to say no you will regret so much if you give youself away now. you should save yourself for somone that youreally love. i hope some o this helps you and good luck.

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trust me, if he likes you, he wont try to get you to do anything you're uncomfotable with. You just be wise, watch and wait and you'll see the true Him eventually. Be patient, you have plenty of time, no need to rush anyting.

trust me, if he likes you, he wont try to get you to do anything you're uncomfotable with
he did try to kiss me the other day but i tld him i dint feel comfortable & i said that "u kno im shy" & he was kool with that and everything.

No lie. After you turn him down he will mess around. Some will wait about thirty days and then the true self surfaces. Kissing leads to arousal, and he can't help that.. neither can you. Groping then peeling of clothes. The natural progression of things. Peer pressure, desires from you to have him around and his pressure to stay can also bear on things.

When I was a teen. I once left a girl I cared for who didn't put out. She put out later for a guy who promised to marry her. Just doing my own selfish thing cost me a great relationship and woman. For me it was a score thing. It has become that more now. Just what I believe.

Is it time to surround yourself with freinds that respect your wishes, and not call you different, or treat you funny based on your wishes? How far do you go, after the moment starts, guys find it hard to pull back once aroused. Then loose interest once desires are fullfilled. Call us shallow it may fit.

Welcome to Destee.. Babyshy1

Hey y'all
this boy likes me alot & i like him too but i get the feeling he's seeing how far he can go wit me. about 2 weeks ago during school he asked 2 meet with me so i did & then he was trying to kiss me etc and he sed "i hope it goes further" and i was like WUT!? i'm not even going out with you yet right now im jus getting to know u. anyway every since then ive been finkin about it so much i like him and i want to continue to get to know him but i dnt want to get used bcos my virginity means so much to me and i dont want to lose it to any boy for now. on the fone hes so sweet to me, hes buying me a giant teddy and he's writing me a song because hes gd at rappin , mcing woteva u wana call it, and thats rly sweet seeing as were not going 2getha but at the back of my mind im thinkin is he tryin to be sweet n do fings 4 me so he can get it my pantiez . & also i've heard rumours about his frend going round to girls and hvin regualr sex wid dem. Neway what do i do? + plus if the kissin and that happens now wot is there to do wen we go out?? coz as i sed i don't want to lose my virginity to nayone right now. Please help yall thanx

Females, girls, ladies, women.... are EMOTIONAL BEINGS. I know your virginity means a lot to you. It is a gift that should only be given to someone that is truly worth it. Most of the time.. that person should be YOUR HUSBAND. There are emotional consequences for having sex with someone that is not married or committed to you. Truly get to know yourself. How will you feel the day after when you call and he does not answer.. because "he got what he wanted from you"... how about.. if you see him with another female. What about if you get some type of STD... Having sex does have physical and emotional consequences. What does he want from you other than sex?

Men.. value women more.. by how men and boys... they HAVE NOT slept with. You are not to be test driven like a car.. you are a future Queen. Always love and respect yourself first.

Good luck :)

Good. If he's willing to wait and not rush into things, he's a man worth keeping. I think alot of our youth are trying to grow up too quickly. I know I did when I was a teen. As I lQQk back I wish i had taken my time with some thins. There's nothing wrong with taking your time. It's bettter to be safe than sorry. Peace and Blessings lil sister.
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he did try to kiss me the other day but i tld him i dint feel comfortable & i said that "u kno im shy" & he was kool with that and everything.

The real deal is that if he is into sex or has had sex before then he is most likely to venture out with somone else and hide it from you. You hold on to your virginity Little Sis and keep ya head above the sex issue. You will know when it's time to give yourself to the right one and I hope it's when you have goten yourself together and you use protection. Men will somtimes wait until a woman is ready and some will not wait, Then you have others who will wait until u are ready and won't pressure u but they are sexing somone else while they wait 4 u. You have alot to loose and that is somthing you cant regain or replace once it's gone. So just do you and take ya time.

i agree with brutha python beware of it .....

i dont know if he want you for sex but wait till the right one come along till you lose your virginity, your virginty is the most precious thing you can have, theres a lot of girls out there right now that wish that they still would or waited for that special someone. Some boys wouldnt buy things for girls to have sex with them, but then again some boys do that. honestly i would say that you should wait and if he's pressuring to have sex with him then you will the know the answer to that but if he don't then he maybe want to be with you. Keep your head up baby gurl and follow your heart




The things you do in the dark will be shown in the light

Hey y'all
this boy likes me alot & i like him too but i get the feeling he's seeing how far he can go wit me. about 2 weeks ago during school he asked 2 meet with me so i did & then he was trying to kiss me etc and he sed "i hope it goes further" and i was like WUT!? i'm not even going out with you yet right now im jus getting to know u. anyway every since then ive been finkin about it so much i like him and i want to continue to get to know him but i dnt want to get used bcos my virginity means so much to me and i dont want to lose it to any boy for now. on the fone hes so sweet to me, hes buying me a giant teddy and he's writing me a song because hes gd at rappin , mcing woteva u wana call it, and thats rly sweet seeing as were not going 2getha but at the back of my mind im thinkin is he tryin to be sweet n do fings 4 me so he can get it my pantiez . & also i've heard rumours about his frend going round to girls and hvin regualr sex wid dem. Neway what do i do? + plus if the kissin and that happens now wot is there to do wen we go out?? coz as i sed i don't want to lose my virginity to nayone right now. Please help yall thanx


Well, if he cares for you he'll wait until you're ready and not cheat on you in the process. And yes, there ARE guys that can geninuely wait for sex. You should NOT have sex with a man for fear that if you don't he'll get it from someone else. I mean, that's the most immature and selfish thing I've heard all day. If he's that horny, he can masturbate... lord knows even when you're married there may be times you won't be able to have sex -- doesn't give a man or a woman any license to stray. Anybody that does that is a loser who obviously isn't emotionally ready to handle a committed relationship.


Your best bet if you want to preserve your virginity until marriage is to find a guy that believes in the same thing. I think religious guys tend to be more understanding about that.

Hello baby shy sis :wave:



How are you my name is libertylady and in the future you will find me as auroraflower..... :wink:


i finaly got some more time to respond to peope here on the forums cause i got internet at home....
cool huh..


Now i readed about youre case....
i first wanted to say to you that you sound like a beautifull sister...:heart:
and its so good to see and to hear that there are sisters who :hearts4: love
theirselfs and their body,s to....
And that frm what i understand you want to share youre self (virginity)
with someone when you are ready for it.....
and you are not now...
And that is beautifull......
I,m so proud of you..
cause what you are saying is that you listen to youre intuition..
(where gods voice speaks to you ..and you feel it in youre heart to)


and you know ....let me get one on one on you.....
there is no age between us....now ok i see you as a person

I was 25 years ...and i was also at this point ......
even than ....on that age i was in my first (that was also my last)
intamate relationship with someone.....

and we were at this point.....
where he wanted ...
let say get in my panties ..... :wink:
and i knew even at that point at that time in my life..
i wasnt ready.....


and i did it eventualy.....
and i regret it...
i was infuenced by my ungle ....he said...
you can not let him wait..while youre living under one roof..
stoopid huh.
. i was,nt strong enough to listen to my intuition..
to listen to me....
and what i want...


and that is inportent to baby shy what you want.. :fairy:



Now even if the world would give you thousands of reasons why you should let him in youre panties....
even if he wrote the greatest poems ever....for you
greatest raps ever He get ........he gets grammy,s for ....lol
you know .....


dont let that overshadow what you want and feel..
when youre not ready youre not ready...


and can give you another good advise...to..

Try to go to youre room somethimes...
and pray to God who always hears you sweet...
and ask him to guide you ..
and what i mean with that is ...
Imagine that you walk with the lord with you holding his hand...
en everywhere you go in everything you do...
even with this guy .....
he will show you .....


:nono:

or yes go ahead :fairy:


:nono:

yes go :fairy:







oeeeeee come here,
sis babycake let me give you a HUG...:heart:


bless you sis







Lovelibertylady :heart: