I see alot of peoples in a serious relationship in a high school, I was wondering should you date around or stay serious

Wel i would say ......Why Not ....

and why not dating...


I have a little cousin and he met his girfriend in highschool...and they still together ,they both go out and stuff....but they are hooked on eachother.
his parents were concerned to ......but in tha other way they think what if they are blessed to find real love in that young state ......well why not lucky them..

but i must say that they are both verry open and honest and they let eachother free..

At the other hand ..

i heard of some people because they have not dated much in their early ages that they dit not knew what they were looking for in a relationship...

than i have another little niece .....and she has her boyfriend to.....age 12 and now she is 16 and they still verry much in love...

but i have also little nieces and nephews who are just dating...



and they ok but i have to play big shoulder for them a lot of times...

and sumthimes it gets heavy







Lovelibertylady:heart:

For me, I decided to date around. I mean you can't get too serious

I think it depends on how the relationship goes. If it looks like it's going in a serious direction, make it serious. If not, don't worry about it.

Now the teacher comes in.

Liberty Lady, I love you like a sistah, but let me say this.

DATING is one of the many resons why our kids are not progressing in school. At 12 years-old, DATING should be the LAST thing on their minds. Now suppose they hurt each other, then what? Being hurt by dating and falling in love at such a young age is the WRONG time to be hurt. Don't you know aqbout school? Our younger kids are failing state tests, and with the state of the economy, it does not look like things will get any better. Dating must be LAST priority AT LEAST until you start college. All of a sudden they know alot about dating and love but nothing about State tests and our fallen economy which will endagnger them?

PLEASE find something to do at such a young age rather than date.

CD

I think that at 12 dating shouldn't really be on ones mind, but above 15 is ok and in high school well i think if u can concerate on skool and having a relationship then good for u. I am 17 and i havent been in a relationship before, simply cos i cant be bothered 2 get into one, but i dont think there is anything wrong if u can be bothered.


Love Valentine

Just feel free and do what yoiur heart wants!Don't care about the others;you live YOU OWN life!No one will live it for you.So... :love:
Peace sis

I say go out with as many people as you can. That way, you will learn more about the opposite sex. You'll learn what you like and don't like in them. And, you will learn that they are not all the same but some of them have the same motives. You will be able to identify those who aren't about anything and those who are...that's only if you actually pay attention and don't make too many assumptions.:D Most importantly, you'll learn about yourself and you won't get stuck on one person when your attention is distributed between many.

Don't get me wrong. In no way am I saying that you should be a playa playa. I'm saying just enjoy yourself. When you focus all of your feelings and emotions on one person, you can get stuck like chuck without a puck to upchuck. :lol: Ok, I lost it for a second...but ya'll get my point. :D

I say look where those serious relationships are at the end of senior year. or the end of that year to say the least.... 1-20 surive high school... i say dae around.. ( not sleep around) if you do.. and there is that spark between u and another.. ull have time to end back up withthat person at one point or another..

I dated around when I was a pre-teen

by high school I was only looking for a serious relationships I say dont waste time with it.

Well, the whole reason you date around is to see what it is you do and don't like in another individual. If in highschool, you find someone that matches the image of that special person, why not get serious? Isn't that the whole point anyway?

Well, the whole reason you date around is to see what it is you do and don't like in another individual. If in highschool, you find someone that matches the image of that special person, why not get serious? Isn't that the whole point anyway?

Sodwn2earth:

I think there are several reasons why you should not get that serious with someone from high school (even if you met someone special). Between the ages of 14-25 (I'll extend this to include college as well), finishing one's education is a bigger priority than finding romance. Indeed these are the years when a person builds the foundation to ensure their sucess in life. If a person does not build a strong foundation during this time frame (obtain the highest level of educational and occupational experience possible), they will find themselves literally "playing catchup" for years to come. Take it from me, that is not a position anyone wants to be in. Quite honestly boyfriends/girlfriends often serve as a distraction during this time. Depending on the person, they can be a drain on both one's time and resources. In addition to those reasons, you don't want to become too seriously involved with someone from high school because as you grow older your taste changes.

Indeed as people grow older their taste in music, food, clothes, and hobbies evolve. Quite simply what you like at 15, you probably would no longer be interested in at 25. Even if you like some of the same things, you'd probably have a different outlook (opinion) of them. In addition during this timespan you will have been exposed to a greater variety of choices, thus expanding what interest you. Similarly what you like at 25 might be different than what you like at 35...45...55...etc. Just as people's tast in music, food, and clothes change as they get older, their taste in people change too. The boy who impressed you in High School because he knew every Jay-Z lyric, always kept in shape, and dressed cool....would probably lose your interest 10-15 years later when he stopped listening to rap, stopped going to the gym, and traded in his tims & wife beater for slacks and hush puppies. Again as people get older the change...they grow...it is rare that two people grow together, especially at such a young age. As a teenager, many people have their moral foundation in place. However they have not yet become the person they will be. They don't have the life experience yet. That is something everyone has to go through.

With everything I've stated, I do encourage people to date during this time (if they want to). As you already stated Sodwn2earth, dating is a selection process. However the 1st good thing someone encounters, is not always the best thing. That is a mistake so many teens and young ones make. Only through patience and experience will one truly found what is best for them. That guy you are seeing now might be good, but if you wait a few years...someone else will probably come along who is even better. Give that person a chance, by not giving too much of yourself too early!

Sodwn2earth:

I think there are several reasons why you should not get that serious with someone from high school (even if you met someone special). Between the ages of 14-25 (I'll extend this to include college as well), finishing one's education is a bigger priority than finding romance. Indeed these are the years when a person builds the foundation to ensure their sucess in life. If a person does not build a strong foundation during this time frame (obtain the highest level of educational and occupational experience possible), they will find themselves literally "playing catchup" for years to come. Take it from me, that is not a position anyone wants to be in. Quite honestly boyfriends/girlfriends often serve as a distraction during this time. Depending on the person, they can be a drain on both one's time and resources. In addition to those reasons, you don't want to become too seriously involved with someone from high school because as you grow older your taste changes.

Indeed as people grow older their taste in music, food, clothes, and hobbies evolve. Quite simply what you like at 15, you probably would no longer be interested in at 25. Even if you like some of the same things, you'd probably have a different outlook (opinion) of them. In addition during this timespan you will have been exposed to a greater variety of choices, thus expanding what interest you. Similarly what you like at 25 might be different than what you like at 35...45...55...etc. Just as people's tast in music, food, and clothes change as they get older, their taste in people change too. The boy who impressed you in High School because he knew every Jay-Z lyric, always kept in shape, and dressed cool....would probably lose your interest 10-15 years later when he stopped listening to rap, stopped going to the gym, and traded in his tims & wife beater for slacks and hush puppies. Again as people get older the change...they grow...it is rare that two people grow together, especially at such a young age. As a teenager, many people have their moral foundation in place. However they have not yet become the person they will be. They don't have the life experience yet. That is something everyone has to go through.

With everything I've stated, I do encourage people to date during this time (if they want to). As you already stated Sodwn2earth, dating is a selection process. However the 1st good thing someone encounters, is not always the best thing. That is a mistake so many teens and young ones make. Only through patience and experience will one truly found what is best for them. That guy you are seeing now might be good, but if you wait a few years...someone else will probably come along who is even better. Give that person a chance, by not giving too much of yourself too early!

Very wise words. However, in my own personal opinion if a highschool or college relationship is one of those rare ones that do lead to something serious, I think it should be allowed to flourish. If two people are of the same mindset, I do believe it's possible to still achieve what they need to. The main thing is preventing pregnancy and make sure time is allocated for studies or what not. These are 'feats' that need to be accomplished anyway when one is single and dating.

Very wise words. However, in my own personal opinion if a highschool or college relationship is one of those rare ones that do lead to something serious, I think it should be allowed to flourish. If two people are of the same mindset, I do believe it's possible to still achieve what they need to. The main thing is preventing pregnancy and make sure time is allocated for studies or what not. These are 'feats' that need to be accomplished anyway when one is single and dating.

I don't think it is impossible for one to met their soul mate in high school, it is just "rare"...much more than many young people think. For those that do met that special someone...take it slow, because the years 14-25 are still better spent building ones educational & occupational foundation rather than creating a family.

Posted By KarmashinesVery wise words. However, in my own personal opinion if a highschool or college relationship is one of those rare ones that do lead to something serious, I think it should be allowed to flourish. If two people are of the same mindset, I do believe it's possible to still achieve what they need to. The main thing is preventing pregnancy and make sure time is allocated for studies or what not. These are 'feats' that need to be accomplished anyway when one is single and dating.

This is what I had in the back of my mind when posting. I whole-heartedly believe in learning and have made definate plans for a higher education. I'm going to make sure a relationship with soemone dosen't compromise my academic future. I understand as a teen that I will change, and that has been something I have thought about and accepted. Me and boyfriend have talked about this and are willing to go as far as this relationship will take us. If it dosen't work out then I will just have to chalk this up as a learning expirence. This is my first boyfriend and also my first serious relationship. I'm not intrested in dating around. I feel as if that would distract me more from my education then a select few serious relationships. But I do understand what you posted and I just want to say thank you for your advice. It is definatley being taken into consideration.

hey whazzup yall um im going to be a junior in highschool this year and i kno for myself my "boyfriend" and i are getting serious real fast. i mean i dated around my freshmen and sop. year just to get the expericence but now im mental ready fa a serious relationship ...a friend of mine thats going to b a senior has a "girlfriend" dats going to be a soph. and they are the prime example of real love like they mad young but you can look at them and tell they love eachother ...so basically to me its all of where you at mentally and you gotta pray about cuz you could be getting serious with the wrong person or not giving the right person enough time to show you their real feelings

I luv everyone reply and I agree with PanAfrica that a relationship shouldn't be that serious in highschool because the reason why I wrote this question was because of my ex- boyfriend who happened to be with me for a year. When I was with him my grades slipped because I was trying to scheme to see him and because of that I'm no longer a virgin and he cheated on me with this girl 17 and a woman 24 (he's 19!)