Have you ever felt smothered in a relationship? How do you let your mate know the importance of SPACE?

The only way you get any message across is with honest communication. Unfortunately, not everyone is willing to listen. I have been smothered in a past relationship, and tried to explain my concern. However, the young lady I was involved with didn't agree with my view. Ultimately this was the source of our breakup.

yes more then i like to be and i was very open to say the least
but it was like someone stalking me very scary feeling too i alway
feel the need for every relationship to hold space and time away
from each other i've seen many time where they grow to not like
each other so much with the 24 hour watch left no room to communicate
on any subject because they never apart whewwww!! not fun at all .

Have you ever felt smothered in a relationship? How do you let your mate know the importance of SPACE?

That's the way that person loves. You can say "space" until the cows come home, they will not comprehend your meaning because that concept is foreign to them, and if you try to add "space" to the relationship, they will probably view that as a rejection to the totality of the relationship.

If you're feeling smothered, it might be a good time to re-evaluate...imho

I'm not in a relationship, just asked a question.

I wish someone who I was fond of, would smother my black A** Instead they give me 1 trillion feet.

MANASIAC,
You crack me up!

but what do we or many feel is too close or being smothered ??

is it when your mate seem to be always beside you
or because they can't speak freely or is it that when
time come to be with friends he/she seem to get mad or don't
want you to go out without them is it that the mate always
bugging you????

how do we know if we are smothering our mate in a relationship???

what is the best way to really get a point across that this a problem
and can cause a future break up because the space is not given or
you seem traped ????

I guess the best way is to be honest with your mate and with yourself. Do the two really spend enough time together? Is there something that is bugging you about the spouse, that you are trying to avoid, so you avoid him or her? Seems the best way is to talk it out, without being insulting.

sometime that don't work or seem like the message not going through
i've seen it too many times until anger speaks out or a simple break up!
but being honest is the key but most of all being true to your self .......

I really like smoothering especially from someone I am fond of. I think that if the couples are interested in each other and are truly crazy about each other. Smoothering is actually healithy for them in my opinion and like I said befo:

I wish someone I was fond of smoothered my black *** instead they give me 1 Trillion Feet :-(

If you care for him - be honest. It is the only way.

A few other things crossed my mind regarding this topic. Thinking of the day to day responsibilities of living, you know, working, taking care of kids, running errands, etc. it seems hard to me for most to have the time to smother another. Most folks seem to not have enough hours in the day to do the things they want to do, as opposed to doing what they need to do. I think it is important to distinguish the difference between being actually smothered, and just not wanting to be bothered. The latter could be a problem if it occurs often.

i don't really like to be smothered. i have to make time for friends and work so if i had someone by my side 24/7 i wouldn't like that. i've been in that situation before. i felt suffocated. he was like my shadow. it was quite scary :ghost: