How would you describe your most attractive qualities and how do you know this?

Queenie :spinstar:

How would you describe your most attractive qualities and how do you know this?

Queenie :spinstar:


Hmmmmmm? my resiliency. How do I know? Because I've "died" and come back again! This may not constitute attractive but in my mind it's the most beautiful!

my smile - its only shared for some; those who appreciate it

my intelligence/way of thinkin- when u dont expect somin(good) its seems betta when u get it

My Soul is my best quality, but I only allow a few to see it, thus it always get overlooked.

My Ba-Dunk-A-Dunk. Just kidding. :hot:

I don't know....maybe my humor and the fact that I think differently than anyone I know and probably will ever know. I don't know if that's good or bad. Let's chalk it up as good.

You is off the chain KENTE!!!!!

I have a nurturing loving glow about me. When I love, whether it is family, friends or romantic, I love deep. There is never a doubt of how I feel about you. So I would say that is my most attractive quality because it is genuine.

yo jazzy- do u think lovin deep can sometimes be a bad thing- cus i think i got dta prolem

Daroc,

Sometimes it can be a problem because everyone can't handle it. Sometimes you have to pull back and assess the situation. I had to learn restraint and to release it slowly. I'm not sure of how old you are, but I wasn't doing it in my early 20's, but now, I know how.

Brother Sekhemu, You have this quiet wisdom about you and I believe that you only tease us with little gems of it here and there. :) I've been studying your reply and wonder whether I'm enlightened enough to comprehend your meaning. Will you explain to me what death and rebirth experience you are speaking of? Thank you.

Sister daroc...what does your smile reveal about you that you value so much? Aaahhh..intelligence is definitely a precious gift and you express it well my sister!

Brother Manasiac...your soul...what an unexpected response from you. It definitely says a lot about you. Why are you protective of it and only allow a few to experience your soulfulness?

Brother Kente...you're one of a kind brother! :blush: I do love your sense of humor. Tell us, what is so different about the way you think and why is it so rare?

Sister Jazzymoonchild, I enjoyed reading the way you described your essence...nurturing loving glow about you. What a beautiful way to view one's self. You appear to be comfortable with yourself to the extent you aren't afraid to be open with the way you express your love. Tell us, how do you protect this gem that you possess from being hurt or taken for granted?

Thank you all for responding to this thread and I look forward to reading others.

Queenie :spinstar:

about my smile - those who kno me- say im grumpy and dont smile enough- so when i do i feel that it should be apprecaited and valued b/c it dont come around allot

and queenie- what bout u

NNQueen,

Protecting myself from being hurt is not an easy thing. It has happened alot in my past, some not too distant. However, as much as I try to protect myself, heart and essence, I must remember that I am who I am for a reason and purpose. Whatever that may be. I have been too trusting of people and their motives. Too understanding of some shortcomings. Too patient alot of times, and when I snap, it is a quiet snap, which I am told is sometimes worse! I have to sit back and be more observant, which is what I have been doing as of late. I cannot allow my natural affinity to love to cloud my judgement anymore. This is true for all types of love that I am surrounded with, not just romantic. I cannot change who I am, but I can change how I react to certain things. At first I thought I needed to change me, but I like me, and those who love me, well, love me. :grin: I hope this clarifies things, Queen :grouphug: Much love

daroc, unlike you, my smiles come very easily, and like you, they are genuine. I think my most attractive quality is my personality...warm, engaging and attentive. At least that's how I view myself and that's what I've been told. Sister, why do people say you're "grumpy"? Do you think you're grumpy?

Jazzymoonchild, I can relate to what you describe. People like you who love deep and long have to step outside your comfort zone to take a look see at what's not working, in order to find ways to fix the problem. You love, you trust, you understand, you're patient....almost to a fault because being that way sometimes is not reciprocated by those close to you. Once you find your center though and you feel more balanced, you find you and a sense of inner peace comes with that. I don't blame you for protecting it at all costs.

Queenie :spinstar:

It's not always easy, but you know, I'm a work in progress, Queenie ;)

Queen:

I don't think like "out of this world" thoughts or views or anything like that. I just look at things a little different from people I know. Like there are things that aren't necessarily funny to most people that I think is halarious. Some things that are important to most people, I tend to not really concern myself with. I get joy out of much simpler things than people I know. The only person that gets most of my humor is my brother. I think I just try to keep my life as simple as possible because nowadays I know there are no guarantees with love, money or even health. :peace:

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I've been told that my wit and my eyes are my most attractive qualities. I will agree and say my wit. I make friends with just about everyone and love to put everyone at ease...usually by making them laugh.

Brother Sekhemu, You have this quiet wisdom about you and I believe that you only tease us with little gems of it here and there. :) I've been studying your reply and wonder whether I'm enlightened enough to comprehend your meaning. Will you explain to me what death and rebirth experience you are speaking of? Thank you.

Sister daroc...what does your smile reveal about you that you value so much? Aaahhh..intelligence is definitely a precious <A TITLE="Click for more information about gift" STYLE="text-decoration: none; border-bottom: medium solid green;" HREF="http://search.targetwords.com/u.search?x=5977|1||||gifts|AA1VDw">gift</A> and you express it well my sister!

Brother Manasiac...your soul...what an unexpected response from you. It definitely says a lot about you. Why are you protective of it and only allow a few to experience your soulfulness?

Brother Kente...you're one of a kind brother! :blush: I do love your sense of humor. Tell us, what is so different about the way you think and why is it so rare?

Sister Jazzymoonchild, I enjoyed reading the way you described your essence...nurturing loving glow about you. What a beautiful way to view one's self. You appear to be comfortable with yourself to the extent you aren't afraid to be open with the way you express your love. Tell us, how do you protect this gem that you possess from being hurt or taken for granted?

Thank you all for responding to this thread and I look forward to reading others.

Queenie :spinstar:

To answer your question Sistah. Simply put to live again I first must die. In this ever changing world I have to sort of re-invent myself to stay one step ahead. This is part of the process of regeneration for me

How would you describe your most attractive qualities and how do you know this?

Queenie :spinstar:

My passion! It ignites an endless love-affair for more - passion!

Blackbird

This is a good thread!! I will have to attract more women before I can really know my most attractive quality though....some have said my smile....but I rarely smile though....who knows.

MrBlak, people can be attracted to you for a number of different reasons and those you attract don't always have to be just women.

For example, I find myself attracted, and I don't mean in a sexual way, to women who are intelligent, have self-confidence as well as common sense, charisma, are "go-getters" and are articulate. These are women who I see as role-models and potential mentors.

Don't look to others to validate who you are--if I may be so bold as to make a suggestion.

Tell us, please, what do you like MOST about yourself and why?

Queenie :spinstar:

MrBlak, people can be attracted to you for a number of different reasons and those you attract don't always have to be just women.

For example, I find myself attracted, and I don't mean in a sexual way, to women who are intelligent, have self-confidence as well as common sense, charisma, are "go-getters" and are articulate. These are women who I see as role-models and potential mentors.

Don't look to others to validate who you are--if I may be so bold as to make a suggestion.

Tell us, please, what do you like MOST about yourself and why?

Queenie :spinstar:


This was a hard question to answer...but an important one. I came back a few times to read this post and think on it.

I think the best things about me are that I am really goal oriented....I see where I want to be several steps ahead and regardless who who steps in my path, and how hard it is, and how angry I get with the state of my life, I get that goal achieved. As my mother says to me "you have an amaizing ability to always land on your feet". The other thing I like is that I am freindly and very loyal to anyone who has made it past my defenses to get me to trust them. I will go out of my way to see that all my true friends and fam succeed and have the support, even if all it is, is verbal, to do what they gotta do. I also like the fact that when I have gone thru hell and the decade or so where I hated my life, I still got things done and was on "autopilot" and I aint dead now so that has to count for something.

Wow.....that is a longer list than I expected!!! My self esteem just jumped up.

Thanks :thanks: :toast:

MrBlak

You sound like a genuinely good and grounded person, MrBlak. And those are always atrractive qualities. Much love to you :roll:

Hmmmmmm? my resiliency. How do I know? Because I've "died" and come back again! This may not constitute attractive but in my mind it's the most beautiful!
Yes that is beautiful. I die everyday and come back only to die again and come back hopefully stronger.

MrBlak, it's really nice meeting you because I feel as though you just allowed me to get to know you better and I admire what I've found out.

Hats off to you! :toast:

Queenie :spinstar:

Daroc,

Sometimes it can be a problem because everyone can't handle it. Sometimes you have to pull back and assess the situation. I had to learn restraint and to release it slowly. I'm not sure of how old you are, but I wasn't doing it in my early 20's, but now, I know how.
It is a problem when we want to give someone more than they are willing to receive. Then we have to really discipline our hearts and like you said pull back. I ask myself is my love and respect for this person greater than my need to give? That's about maturity. That's about being a listener.

thanks NNQueen and JazzyMoonChild!!

Greetings,Kings and Queens, my attraction is when i wrap my head, my headwrap is my crown, and it says to men here comes a beautiful queen,my walk says, i don't have tyme for games, my smile says hello to all my brothas & sistas, my eyes says welcome too my kingdom, and my heart which you can see through my actions,says i luv all my Kings & Queens, showing love too one another is the BIGGEST attraction there is. ;) Blessings to all!!

Greetings and Welcome Sister renee'... :wave:

It's so nice to have you join us and what a powerful statement you made as you described your attractive qualities. I hope you enjoy your visits with us and please feel to explore the features we are offering you here. If you like what you see, we hope you decide to become one of our contributors that help to support this community and keep it available.

Thanks for posting your powerful message and I look forward to reading more from you!

Peace,
Queenie :spinstar:

i have no idea what attracts others...what charm i might have..
nor do i think about it very much(sometimes when i have to deal with work i will get into what i look like and how to make that which i have look like what "they" think looking good means) They being those who would give me a job.
yet i know i have "something"that must be attractive...and i just accept that it is. Maybe that is it...my own acceptance of me...
that, however is not what attractive means...because that acceptance can alsokeep people away..

Blessings, Renee! And what a statement! That's the way to introduce yourself. Welcome!

Greetings, sistah,Queenie,give thanx for your warm welcomeing, i plan on stayin for awhile, thanx once again,peace & blessings

i have no idea what attracts others...what charm i might have..
nor do i think about it very much(sometimes when i have to deal with work i will get into what i look like and how to make that which i have look like what "they" think looking good means) They being those who would give me a job.
yet i know i have "something"that must be attractive...and i just accept that it is. Maybe that is it...my own acceptance of me...
that, however is not what attractive means...because that acceptance can alsokeep people away..
Well, there is your compassion, your generosity and love. That certainly is attractive. Like my mama says go where you are celebrated not tolerated. As adults we have the power to make those choices we could not make as children. But I know the pains of childhood can be so deep and hard to break free from.

Renee, your statement read like poetry, very nice to read.
As for me, I'm not certain what my most attractive qualities are to others. So, I'll go out on a limb and say that they are probably those qualities that I like in myself: My smile, which is usually genuine, my patience which is more than most, intuitiveness, sense of humor, and never say die attitude.

If I go by what people say I am intelligent, beautiful, pretty, creative blah blah blah. But sometimes I feel like a waste of good skin. Sometimes I look in the mirror and see my big almond shaped eyes. Other times I look and all I see is nose. Still it is the love of God that lifts me up. He doesn't look at my personality. He looks at my possibilities. He doesn't look at my problems. He looks at my potential and He doesn't look at my past. He looks at my purpose--the purpose that He has for my life. It is through His eyes--not the eyes of men--that I see and feel my beauty.

Sista River,

I can say this, I really appreciate the way that you put your thoughts together. They are elegant, yet powerful. They don't feel artificial or wavering.

You have an awesome presence here.

Because the last person tried to sell my soul for a piece of pound cake queen!!!,

Jus Kiddin.....

dear river
thanks for your words...please note, i didn't say or think i was unattractive...I just said, basically, I don't live on that level ofwhat are my most attractive...etc., because that would mean i would have to be caught up in what others think of me...
I was blessed witha wonderful mother and father... i breast fed until i about 4...from the breast to the glass...I can still remember people saying to my mother...stop that let that child have a bottle...or she's to old...and I remember my mother saying..pay them no mind, you are loved..and you can do and act the way you want..just respect human beings, because that is what you are..don't get caught up in what other people think about who you are.
I don't think I want to break free from that wonderful childhood memory..
I learned from them that you've got to give to receive. that there is a power devine which helps you live and surrounds and protects you...and not to be ashamed of who you are, a slave rooted african-american.... and don't get caught up in judging others ,.
i'm sure i went off the track a bit river...but wanted to clarify so you would / could understand me better
My spirit has sent me to good friends and wonderful energies...including yours...

Jazzy and Deepy,

I will sleep tight tonight knowing that we have ouched one another with a mutual touch.

Deepy, I feel ya, girl. You just never worry about being attractive because you are free.

Manasiac,

Must the next person pay for what the last person did? I paid so now I am debt free.

My sisters are taking this thread to a higher (or deeper) level--very spiritual, insightful and grounded. Seldom do we receive compliments during our daily journey through life and that's so unfortunate. When was the last time someone paid you a compliment that you felt was genuine and you responded, "thank you!"

I don't think it's a "bad" thing to consider what others think of you. We deserve to know; we have earned that. After all, we don't live on this planet alone and we're obviously social beings meant to spend more time with others than alone. Sometimes it helps to have your opinions of yourself, validated by others. I don't mean that you have to be obsessed over what others think about you, but once in a while it helps and who can tell me that it doesn't make you feel good when you're told that you have qualities that people find attractive?

In my opinion, sisters don't get the positive attention they often deserve. Too many times, we hear things about us that tear us down and some of us develop low self-esteem as a result. Now I'm not talking about what we do to contribute to negative depictions, but rather the positive qualities that we have...as people...that virtually go unnoticed because we're Black women.

We're generalized by the media...as though individually, we're invisible, each one of us represents the whole group. People see a Black woman and immediately they think they know who we are. We are made to take on the stereotypes that have been handed down to us ever since we arrived on these American shores. We go from Aunt Jemima to Jezebel to warrior queen. We're either trying to be everyone's mama, or described as sexually promiscuous, then we are eternally strong and able to take on the problems of the world. When do we ever have the opportunity to just be us...women who want what most every other woman wants--love, family, peace and harmony?

There are qualities that we possess that make us and others we're around feel good. We know we possess them. Some of us are aware of them and some of us have never given it an ounce of thought before. But what's wrong in knowing that you are admired and liked --just for being you? Your smile, your walk, your flair, your intelligence, your common sense, your giving spirit, the way you love someone...We ARE beautiful in many ways. We ARE intelligent. We Are Compassionate. We ARE patient. We Are intuitive. We ARE nurturing and giving.

Thank you all for responding to this thread. Continue the praise!

Queenie :spinstar:

My most attractive quality is becoming a mother. I never realized how beautiful I was until I gave birth to my daughter. She released my power of nurturing, the gift of patience and acceptance, the joy of simplicity and humility, and in return I am giving my husband a stronger, more peaceful, even sexier, calmer wife. I've always known these qualities were in me but she made me become what I was destined to be. Thank you, Yemaya for making me the woman that I am today! Mami loves you, mijita!

QbanMami

What a beautiful answer!! I am so very happy for you and yours. Congratulations on your blessings

THIS IS KEITA SPEAKING:You've asked a very good question....and one which I can not honestly answer. It must be "mystique". I was told a long time ago in different words that: They don't know what it is about me, but if they could bottle it, they'd be rich. I just took it as a compliment and stepped. But in recent years I've been trying to grasp it myself. I don't think I can be boxed or labeled and I like that about myself.

I feel ya Queenswana,

Enjoy the mystique. Understanding it reduces it to something that can be bottled, sold, bought and taxed to make others rich like make up and chin tucks. Perish the thought.

QbanMami, I'm not sure that I've greeted you yet but after what you wrote, if I have, I feel I want to do it again. Blessings to you sister and the gift you've shared with us all--humility and a beautiful spirit. :heart:

Brother Keita...you are wise beyond words my brother and a blessing to all who have the good fortune to come into contact with you! There is SOMETHING about you that words can't describe, but one senses when they are around you, that they are in the presence of someone who should be listened to. Please continue sharing your unique gift and let's not fret over giving it a name. :)

Peace,
Queenie :spinstar:

obanmami...
i agree, twas a good response....made me go beyond myself to my daughter...she is an attractive quality of mine...more than attractive a continuing seed..
thanks for taking me there..

I've been told that my mind is a beautiful thing because i don't think like "normal" people (what does normal mean, anyway? *rolls eyes*).. I'm analytical....and there's my smile, because I don't show it to everyone that passes by..... I've also been told that i have a nuturing personality... for people I like, anyway.

NNQueen..we haven't met officially but peace to you sister and thank you for your post. Deep...Thank you, mami!! Sometimes, we just need a little push to become what we are destined to be; whether it's our children, parents, siblings, friends, or lovers. We can't always do it alone!! Jazzy, thank you for your blessings, we need all the blessings that we can receive!! :spinn: Peace, y'all!

My most attractive quality is becoming a mother. I never realized how beautiful I was until I gave birth to my daughter. She released my power of nurturing, the gift of patience and acceptance, the joy of simplicity and humility, and in return I am giving my husband a stronger, more peaceful, even sexier, calmer wife. I've always known these qualities were in me but she made me become what I was destined to be. Thank you, Yemaya for making me the woman that I am today! Mami loves you, mijita!\



That's gotta be the best reply I've ever read.......




the thing that I think is my most attractive quality is my attentiveness....If I'm into someone, I have no probelm showing it and making them one of my top priorites.... I've also been told that my most attractive quality is my smile. , they way I look when I'm laughing with someone

I've been told that I carry a peaceful vibe where ever I go. Now that I think about it, I usually attract alot of attention, most of the time it's settled and calm, and sometimes it's interesting.


Oh and most of that attention comes from women. :shades:

Wow! I didn't realize how old this thread was(like 5months er' something) Anyhow, I'll answer it anyway.I have been told that I have a Positive Aura around me- and it's true!. So, what I think is my most Attractive characteristic trait would have to be my Optimism and Genuinely Friendly Nature. I am almost allways smiling even tho' I can be hurting on the inside. I don't know why but,I derive great pleasure from giving and receiving a smile from ANYONE,No, I'm not desparate for a friendship, just friendly. And no matter what , I will ALWAYS remain this way!.

Hotvirgowoman, a thread never "dies" unless we lock it, so feel free to respond to any that you find interesting. From what I know about Virgo's (my granddaughter is one), they are very social, fun to be around, tend to be leaders in a group setting and are entertaining. The fact that you describe yourself as having a positive and friendly demeanor isn't, therefore, surprising. :)

Thank you for responding to the thread!

Queenie :spinstar:

I would say it would have to be my calming peace which is always seen in the midst of some chaotic situation. People ask me how can I remain so calm and my usual response is: "you can't get mad over something that you caused yourself" and that just allows the individual to take a step back and look at themselves for the turmoil in their lives.

Hotvirgowoman, a thread never "dies" unless we lock it, so feel free to respond to any that you find interesting. From what I know about Virgo's (my granddaughter is one), they are very social, fun to be around, tend to be leaders in a group setting and are entertaining. The fact that you describe yourself as having a positive and friendly demeanor isn't, therefore, surprising. :)

Thank you for responding to the thread!

Queenie :spinstar:


You know Queenie, it's funny, Astrologers say that Virgos are Critical and Negative- Whereas I CAN be Critical at times but Negative? not really. Bossy? Yeah, however, if there is a member who is better off leading the Pack than I am- I am more than Happy to let him/her lead.

VIRGOS ROCK!!!!

the most important --my love for AYAH-actively and TRULY
and my mind!

i'd say on the outside would be my hair....i can do so much with it and on the inside, i'd say my ability to understand where others are coming from even if i don't agree with them.

are her eyes, and flat stomach narrow waist, BBW is OK as long as the hour glass is obvious, from down the block

but what really turns brothers on even a blind man is vivasciuosness

the great qualities are skin deep and in da eye of the beholder
but her great quility is the major attraction her knowledgable mind
through her eyez and deep in her sway

What a great thread. I so enjoyed reading your contributions. In some of your responses I recognized qualities in you that I too find attractive about myself. The queens, the mystiques, the mothers. My mother called me robust a couple of years ago. I didn't agree, because robust wasn't included in the picture I had of myself. But now I would say my most attractive quality is my strength. The strength to follow my own path, to be honest to myself about myself (not the most pleasant thing I've learned and still working on it), to forgive myself, to speak up for myself and let matters be at other times, the strength to give myself room to be insecure when I don't feel so strong, the strength to let go. All things I've grown to learn that still need further development though.
My other attractive qualities in regard to others are a basic, but profound feeling of respect that stems from my respect for all of GOD's creation and my love for people!

Namaste

The most attractive quality of a sister, is her ability to be an as*h**e

NNQueen,

Protecting myself from being hurt is not an easy thing. It has happened alot in my past, some not too distant. However, as much as I try to protect myself, heart and essence, I must remember that I am who I am for a reason and purpose. Whatever that may be. I have been too trusting of people and their motives. Too understanding of some shortcomings. Too patient alot of times, and when I snap, it is a quiet snap, which I am told is sometimes worse! I have to sit back and be more observant, which is what I have been doing as of late. I cannot allow my natural affinity to love to cloud my judgement anymore. This is true for all types of love that I am surrounded with, not just romantic. I cannot change who I am, but I can change how I react to certain things. At first I thought I needed to change me, but I like me, and those who love me, well, love me. :grin: I hope this clarifies things, Queen :grouphug: Much love WOW THAT IS TOUCHING I CAN ATTEST TO THIS SISTER IT SOUNDS LIKE U WERE READING ME.