Warning. This Menu is for Folks who eat a lil bit of Meat. But I will try to be nice and include a Vegetarian Version too.

For My Meat Eating Sisters:

Breaded Veal Parmesan
Sun Dried Tomato Hummus with French Bread
Tossed Salad and Crutons
Apple Pie for Dessert
And yo choice of dranks is :

That off the chain KOOL AID.
Some French Wine.
Or some of dat Good Ole Arbor Mist!
Some Suthan Sweet Tea
Or Some Dom Perrigon (If you steal it - Joke)

For My Vegetarian Sisters:

Vegetarian Lasagne
Pasta Salad
Garlic Bread
Dessert - Lemon Meringue Pie

And the above dranks.

All Meals come with a dimly light room that has a table for two, with a candle lit, and roses from the door to your seat. It has a thank you card and a rose, the card is thank you for taking out this time to chill wit yo boy Manasiac. Your Favorite Aritist will be playing in the background (Please insert yo ARTIST HUR!). It also has a view of the Atlantic Ocean, here in sunny Jacksonville, Florida.

Thank you for reading.

Hmmmmm...QQ
where the rest of the big talkers at...QQ
with yall's Romantic Menu?

Sounds romantic enough for me...
what time are you picking me up Manasia? :nuts: ...
And be sure to have (these arms of mines) playing on the down low.

thanks for the love yall.

I'm not jailbait anymore...so am I invited?:lol:

Fa-shizzle SWT, what side of the Chi u stay on? I can get my homey Oprah to let me borrow da penthouse downtown or we can do some lakeside action CHI style.

By The Way Queen, the Foot Massage and all of that stuff, that all happens before the romantic evening. That is all inclusive when rolling with Manasiac.

Too bad. I'm married!! lol. Then again, my husband does those things for me although he can't cook to save his life!!! So you'll just have to serve the food and then be gone!! lol

Is Manasiac the only one offering some good cooking and romance? Surely the other men cook too.

By the way, seafood is my meat of choice. :welldone:

tyte food for thoughts here you did it up brutha ......

And still no other man offering a menu..... Makes me think that the brothers can't..umm.. cook! LOL!

Nice menu, Manasiac.

I cook, but only for one woman...sorry ladies! :chef:

I cooked for a woman once. That was the first time and probably the last.

Cooking is a life skill brother Solo, not only does it impress women, but it is necessary to feed oneself. This is definately one thing you want to add to your portfolio...just make sure the lady you cook for returns the favor!

I cooked for a woman once. That was the first time and probably the last.

Brother Solo, is this a pity party or did you discover you didn't know what you were doing........in the kitchen....... :cook: Did you at least offer the woman some dessert? Am I biting off more than I can chew by asking if you wanna tell us what happened?

Queenie :spinstar:

Cooking is a life skill brother Solo, not only does it impress women, but it is necessary to feed oneself. This is definately one thing you want to add to your portfolio...just make sure the lady you cook for returns the favor!

Now you see, I find this to be interesting and very telling! :D

QUOTE: Just make sure the "lady" you cook for returns the favor!!!!

I'm shaking my head over here! Why is it when a man cooks for a women it's a FAVOR but when a woman cooks for man, it's her duty? :help: I don't mean to sound like a :witch: about this, but Brother Pan, I have to put you on the spot over this one....isn't this conditional? :eek:

And since I'm on a roll with this and I have everyone's attention, let's deal with the topic of this thread: It ain't a romantic MENU...the menu can't be romantic....only the people who will eat the meal can be romantic. Shoot, you can feed me a sammich but if you're doing it correctly (according to what I like) it could be the most spectacular evening we've ever experienced. I know....semantics...but sometimes they are important to make sure communication is effective. ;)

Ut oh....I feel a gender debate coming on! :lol:

Queenie :spinstar:

You read too much into that NN...return the "favor" is just a figure of speech. I simply meant that Solo should also seek a woman who will cook for him, as he cooks for her. I know you are from a different generation NN Queen but you'd be suprised at the number of women born in the 70s and earlier that can't cook (and don't intend to learn). You'd be suprised at the number of women who are only looking at what a man can do for them, and not examining what they bring into a relationship. I believe relationships should be partnerships, and that the man should be willing to do for his woman, as the woman is willing to do for her man....cooking is but one example of this.

Oooohhhh my Brother Pan...truly a brother in spirit as well as in our struggle...because I feel that I've known you for a long time, I know you didn't mean anything "out of school" when you made that comment, but you know me, I just had to put it out there so this could take place....more progressive dialogue. See, it's true I'm from a different generation, but based on what you wrote, it seems that it's still very much an important issue to point out how all of us should be thinking and approaching our relationships when we desire them to be productive--regardless of our generation. My younger sisters and brothers definitely need to be paying attention to our messages because someone less enlightened may have interpreted your original statement to mean it's a "*** for tat" situation and I knew that wasn't what you meant.

For me, I don't even think that the reciprocated action has to be the same as that which was originally given either. If a man cooks for me out of love and I may not be a good cook, maybe there's something else I can do to show him my appreciation, love and respect. And hopefully, it would be something that he values and cherishes as well. Loving someone is a give and take relationship, true, but definitely shouldn't be a "do for me because I do for you" type of thing. The advice you gave to Brother Solo was good and now I feel that we're all continuing to grow in our understanding of this gift called "love".

Queenie :hearts2:

You're not overstepping any bounds or anything by asking me that. I cooked it and she enjoyed the meal, but I've learned that she's more or less the selfish type, and these days I'm just not in the mood to do anything for women anymore. It's not a pity party I seek, don't worry about that. I'm just not going out of my way anymore for these females.

There is nothing wrong with going out of your way for a woman...just don't go out of your way for every woman. Brother Solo you just have to develop the vision to tell when a woman cares for you, and when one is using you. I can't tell you how to do this...that is a skill you have to develop!

I appreciate your comments. I already know how to tell if a woman cares or not, which is why I said what I said. I haven't known any.

This is a bit off topic, but I've analyzed my life a bit recently and I've come to realize that the only time I'm sad or depressed is then I'm thinking about women or wanting to be with one, so I've decided I need to delete the concept of romance and relationships from my existence.

I haven't known any women who appreciated anything that I tried to do, and I haven't met any that wanted to do anything for me. So I ain't cooking them jack.

They can go to Burger King.

You're not overstepping any bounds or anything by asking me that. I cooked it and she enjoyed the meal, but I've learned that she's more or less the selfish type, and these days I'm just not in the mood to do anything for women anymore. It's not a pity party I seek, don't worry about that. I'm just not going out of my way anymore for these females.

I can certainly understand your reasons for feeling the way that you do Brother Solo. In that situation, it's a smart person who knows how to end and when to end a relationship that isn't bringing about the satisfaction that they want and believe they deserve. I agree with Brother Pan too, and adding to what he wrote, it can be a very positive thing if people learn how to be patient and take careful steps as they approach any relationship.

Maybe you thought this person deserved your effort to prepare a special meal for them. Maybe she had you fooled into thinking she was the type of person who you found out later she was not. In the aftermath of this incident, I would probably sit back and think carefully about what I could have done differently to avoid such a situation. Did you rush into it too soon? Did you miss some important signs that she was sending? Were you more caught up into your own desires and failed to see her honestly? Do you tend to wear your heart on your sleeve? Could you have done something different, less expensive, less time consuming, less intimate, to arrive at the same conclusion, such as take her out to a local bistro for a cup of cappacino and conversation or maybe go for a walk and talk?

The more I read about these types of things a question always comes to mind, what DO people TALK about when they are having conversations? What kinds of questions do they ask each other, how well do they listen, do they KNOW the important questions to ask?

If you know what it is that you like and don't like, then it makes sense to me to make sure your conversations ALWAYS are intended to draw out the answers. And, it's smart to ask questions in several different ways to see whether the person is lying or telling the truth. Usually if they are lying, eventually the truth will come out. And isn't it always better to know the truth early before you feel that it's too late?

Just a few simple suggestions. Enjoy your time alone and good luck in the future.

Queenie :spinstar:

Sometimes it is necessary to be by yourself in order to learn about oneself. Just remember this Solo...self pity is not an attractive quality! Stay Positive & Upbeat...you never know who is coming your way.

Don't worry, I'm not going around feeling sorry for myself. Black love simply isn't a reality for everyone, so I can't complain too bad I guess.

I've been by myself long enough to know everything about myself. LOL

But I'm not going out of my way for anymore women. It's just not worth it.

Anything worth having, is worth fighting for. At least that's the way the saying goes. Another way of looking at it is, you can expect to get what you expect to get. In other words, if you have low expectations, then.......right......you get what you expect. Adding to that, you can't soar with eagles when you walk with turkeys. Brother Solo....you may not be feeling sorry for yourself but it does sound as though you've been beat down and feeling a bit angry and a lot of frustration. Have you considered the consequences if you DON'T go out of your way to attract the woman you want? All you may wind up doing is settling for what you can get!

Think about it...... :thinking:

Queenie :spinstar:

Well even tho I am single and lonely, wit da Bio clocking ticking. I still know that their are good Sisters out their. I now realize that I had approaches and tatics that drew some sisters of bad character.

Now I make it a priority to change my thinking about Black Women and the way I approach them and who I approach. I guess I took the time to take responsibility for my own faults instead of always faulting black women.

I cannot expect a woman in the nightclub to want to discuss Diop or Chancellor Williams. Nor can I expect her to want to discuss politics, Science Fiction and Science.

So sisters holla at yo boy, You can get the romantic menu I created plus a carribbean and African vacation before we get married and vactions after :-) if you the right one.

I still look forward to the day that I meet a Black Woman who is my equal, and I know she is out their, I just got to become Mr. Right before Mrs. Right comes.

That is the right attitude to have brother Man!

Thank you Brother Pan I am just tired of always blaming black women, and never finding a solution. After countless hours of playing the blame and self-pity game, I still found myself with the same black women I disliked.

So I figured maybe the problem was also internal and now I am correcting it.

Thank you for the support.

Well even tho I am single and lonely, wit da Bio clocking ticking. I still know that their are good Sisters out their. I now realize that I had approaches and tatics that drew some sisters of bad character.

Now I make it a priority to change my thinking about Black Women and the way I approach them and who I approach. I guess I took the time to take responsibility for my own faults instead of always faulting black women.

I cannot expect a woman in the nightclub to want to discuss Diop or Chancellor Williams. Nor can I expect her to want to discuss politics, Science Fiction and Science.

So sisters holla at yo boy, You can get the romantic menu I created plus a carribbean and African vacation before we get married and vactions after :-) if you the right one.

I still look forward to the day that I meet a Black Woman who is my equal, and I know she is out their, I just got to become Mr. Right before Mrs. Right comes.

That is deep, especially the last sentence. I feel you and wish you the best!