Yea, old topic, I know. But....apart from deeper reasons, do black women find white guys physically unattractive? Seems many black women would rather be alone than be with a white guy.undefined

hi anna :wave: :wave: , & welcome 2 destee

sorry, i can't offer any input @ this time, but i did want to welcome u 2 the site.

hope u like it here.

:)

VERY OLD SWEETIE! AS A BLACK MALE I PERSONALLY DON'T FIND WHITE WOMEN MATE MATERIAL. FROM WHAT I CAN SEE, MANY SISTAS SEE A LOT OF WEAKNESS IN WHITE MEN. I DUNNO, MAYBE IT'S THE PINK SKIN LOL. WHAT EVER IT IS, IT'S FINE BY ME. I HAVEN'T FOUND THE SPECIAL ONE YET AND I LUV THE SISTAS :luvv: , SO I DON'T COMPLAIN THAT THE SELECTION IS LARGE. JUST WISH MORE BROTHAS REALIZED HOW LUCKY WE ARE. AND YOU SISTAS WITH GOOD BROTHAS OUT THERE SHOULD REALIZE WHAT YOU HAVE ALSO.

PEACE.

SORRY FOR CALLING YOU "SWEETIE" IF YOU'RE A GUY :driveby:

I think some black women find white men attractive that is their business personally, I hang my Hat in the Carribbean, Canada and other Foriegn nations anyway, so I no longer have to deal with American Women.

I roll cosmopolitan style now. I realized that foriegn black women feel me more anyway.

"I NO LONGER HAVE TO DEAL WITH AMERICAN WOMEN" INTERESTING CHOICE OF WORDS BROTHER. FEELING A LITTLE BITTER?

I think some black women find white men attractive that is their business personally, I hang my Hat in the Carribbean, Canada and other Foriegn nations anyway, so I no longer have to deal with American Women.

I roll cosmopolitan style now. I realized that foriegn black women feel me more anyway.

Unfortunate choice of words brotha

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I think some black women find white men attractive that is their business personally, I hang my Hat in the Carribbean, Canada and other Foriegn nations anyway, so I no longer have to deal with American Women.

I roll cosmopolitan style now. I realized that foriegn black women feel me more anyway.

Yes, it is our business if some of us like white men. I have dated white men in the past and after all, MEN are MEN.

When you hang YOUR hat in the Carribbean, make sure you bring your gloves, too. Some of you black men sicken me with the nasty comments about American women. You probably want to deal with somebody who will be subservient to you and KNOW that you won't get it here. I think American women intimidate you.

If you want foreign women, no loss here....

"I NO LONGER HAVE TO DEAL WITH AMERICAN WOMEN" INTERESTING CHOICE OF WORDS BROTHER. FEELING A LITTLE BITTER?

Sounds like someone "rained on his parade" - LOL

On the Contrary. I intimidate American Women. And on the reasons why I tend to date more forigen women is because the ones I meet are comfortable with my integerity and my honesty. They are not puported folks who make it seem like they are Strong when they are not.

And they are some cool American Women, Triniti and Angelicsage to name a few.

You probably are too boo boo for me anyways ma. Trust me I would never try to holla at you if my life depended on it.

This is my last post on this matter, I do not do cyber wars that is for children.

Sek your comments are respected entirely, because they are spoken as an adult and not a child.

But my opinions will not change anytime soon.

I could be mistaken but this thread is addressing Black women with white men and Black women who appear to prefer being alone rather than have a relationship with a white man. The question was if Black women find white men unattractive?

Personally, it's not so much about their looks although I'm not attracted to the pink skin tone. But more importantly for me, it's what they represent to me and what I associate them with. Meaning no offense to anyone here who has no problem with it, but I think it requires a bit of a split personality to separate from that or not to take that into consideration. But that's my personal opinion.

Queenie :spinstar:

Right Mrs. Queenie sorry for gettin thangs off topic.

Although it has already been established as off topic...I'd like to address the opinion about "foreign women" displayed here. It is a common belief that American men who date foreign women only do so because women from overseas are suppose to be submissive. This is not the case for many people. I am married to a woman from Spain (who's parents are from Africa). She did not come to America until she was 25, and I started dating her a couple of months after her arrival (so she definately counts as foreign).

Did I seek her because I though she would be submissive? Well it is true that my wife cooks for me without complaint....she cleans....she doesn't argue with me....she is sweet, and is always smiling....she listens to my parents & wants their respect....these might be considered submissive traits. My wife also has a degree in Law, an MBA, and a Masters in International Relations....so I don't think I was looking for someone to dominate. She is more educated than I am (although I am also college educated), and she earns more money than me. Yet she still is proud to "take care of her man". These are characteristics which are common among foreign women, especially women from an African background. Although there are also American sistas with these traits....I am not so sure this is a part of American culture (black or white).

I must admit that I am somewhat confused here. Are we now critising Black men for not dating American? I thought we were critising them for not dating Black women? Brother Manasiac said he was dating Caribbean women...those are most definately sistas. As far as black is concerned, my foreign wife's genes are direct from Africa....no white blood in her whatsoever. If I am to date a black woman...then I couldn't have choosen anyone "blacker" than her. Women from the Caribbean also have less race mixture than Americans...so again there can be no critism about dating black. But if the critism is about not just dating out of the race, but not dating overseas too....I'm sorry, I draw the line there. The "Buy American Campaign" only applies to cars. ;)

P.S. To my sister VJ57....is there anything black men do that doesn't make you mad? Does our breathing irritate you too? Here is a website that might interest you, it is a "white man's" opinion about American women: http://www.nomarriage.com

On the Contrary. I intimidate American Women. And on the reasons why I tend to date more forigen women is because the ones I meet are comfortable with my integerity and my honesty. They are not puported folks who make it seem like they are Strong when they are not.

And they are some cool American Women, Triniti and Angelicsage to name a few.

You probably are too boo boo for me anyways ma. Trust me I would never try to holla at you if my life depended on it.

This is my last post on this matter, I do not do cyber wars that is for children.

And why do you think I would want you to HOLLA at me? Puleeze, boy, don't go there! You need an enema, you are too full of yourself!

If people are happy in their relationships, they could care less about what goes on with another person's relationship. I lose no sleep over a black man dating a white woman or dating a woman from a country other than the US.

I just hate to see ignorant people attack Americans. If you don't want to date American women, FINE. I don't date black men (the guy in my life is Native American - Cherokee). I have a strong preference towards non-black men, but then again, that's my choice. I'm not about to badmouth black men, just choose not to date them. As long as the man in my life is a Christian and loves God first, that's the most important thing.

I just hate to see ignorant people attack Americans. If you don't want to date American women, FINE. I don't date black men (the guy in my life is Native American - Cherokee). I have a strong preference towards non-black men, but then again, that's my choice. I'm not about to badmouth black men, just choose not to date them. As long as the man in my life is a Christian and loves God first, that's the most important thing.

Based on your dating choices & and the views you express about black men (if you don't want to put black men down you must have had a change of heart since your last post).....what gives you the right to criticize anyone's views on dating VJ57? Since your arrival here, you have done nothing but critize black men. You profess religion, but don't like to go on the religion forum. You aren't on voicechat or the poetry forum. Indeed outside of giving parential advise the only topic you regularly contribute to are inter-racial relations (always on the side off dating non-blacks). I openly wonder why someone with your views frequents a black oriented site, where 90% of the people disagree with you? Are you secretly recruiting? Enquiring minds want to know? :help:

There is no recruitment here and you know it. If you took time to read with comprehension (which apparently must be lacking), you would know that I could care less about who people date. Everyone has choices in life, and I make mine.

Just like the dude said he don't bother with American women, I have the right to state my choices.

Someone else commented to him, detecting some bitterness from him. The statements he made were laced with bitterness against American women.

Yet, did you confront him about the statement? No. You assumed that my decision to date non-black men was a sure sign that I disliked black men - which, by the way, I will tell you, is absolutely WRONG.

There are a lot of people who prefer others, meaning not necessarily black. One of my black male friends prefer Asian women (he's married to one), but he's one of the sweetest persons I know.

It is not written in stone that one has to be with a black person because one is black. The bible I read tells me NOT to become "unequally yoked with unbelievers" which is NON-Christians. And if it upsets people that my friend is Native American, they have a problem.

I have a problem with people who have preferences but choose to put down others. So, this is not a put down because I don't date black men. Just like the kid who don't date American women, it's MY right and I stick with it.

Have a good day and with these comments, I end my discussion of this topic. I pray that God gives you wisdom and understanding and that you end with the criticisms and accusations of me trying to "recruit" because I pray that people find happiness with a mate, regardless of skin color or nationality.

On the Contrary. I intimidate American Women. And on the reasons why I tend to date more forigen women is because the ones I meet are comfortable with my integerity and my honesty. They are not puported folks who make it seem like they are Strong when they are not.

And they are some cool American Women, Triniti and Angelicsage to name a few.

You probably are too boo boo for me anyways ma. Trust me I would never try to holla at you if my life depended on it.

This is my last post on this matter, I do not do cyber wars that is for children.


boo boo? lol :lol:

I could be mistaken but this thread is addressing Black women with white men and Black women who appear to prefer being alone rather than have a relationship with a white man. The question was if Black women find white men unattractive?

Personally, it's not so much about their looks although I'm not attracted to the pink skin tone. But more importantly for me, it's what they represent to me and what I associate them with. Meaning no offense to anyone here who has no problem with it, but I think it requires a bit of a split personality to separate from that or not to take that into consideration. But that's my personal opinion.

Queenie :spinstar:


Wow that is deep, the split personality part. That's something I wonder how black folks who are in IR's resolve. I would figure many of our people would conveniently not discuss the racial dynamic with their parnter for fear of driving them away. But the schizophrenic angle is deep. IMHO I have to agree with ya there Queenie.

Although it has already been established as off topic...I'd like to address the opinion about "foreign women" displayed here. It is a common belief that American men who date foreign women only do so because women from overseas are suppose to be submissive. This is not the case for many people. I am married to a woman from Spain (who's parents are from Africa). She did not come to America until she was 25, and I started <A TITLE="Click for more information about <A TITLE="Click for more information about dating" STYLE="text-decoration: none; border-bottom: medium solid green;" HREF="http://search.targetwords.com/u.search?x=5977|1||||dating|AA1VDw">dating</A>" STYLE="text-decoration: none; border-bottom: medium solid green;" HREF="http://search.targetwords.com/u.search?x=5977|1||||dating|AA1VDw">dating</A> her a couple of months after her arrival (so she definately counts as foreign).

Did I seek her because I though she would be submissive? Well it is true that my wife cooks for me without complaint....she cleans....she doesn't argue with me....she is sweet, and is always smiling....she listens to my parents & wants their respect....these might be considered submissive traits. My wife also has a degree in Law, an MBA, and a Masters in International Relations....so I don't think I was looking for someone to dominate. She is more educated than I am (although I am also college educated), and she earns more money than me. Yet she still is proud to "take care of her man". These are characteristics which are common among foreign women, especially women from an African background. Although there are also American sistas with these traits....I am not so sure this is a part of American culture (black or white).

I must admit that I am somewhat confused here. Are we now critising Black men for not dating American? I thought we were critising them for not dating Black women? Brother Manasiac said he was dating Caribbean women...those are most definately sistas. As far as black is concerned, my foreign wife's genes are direct from Africa....no white blood in her whatsoever. If I am to date a black woman...then I couldn't have choosen anyone "blacker" than her. Women from the Caribbean also have less race mixture than Americans...so again there can be no critism about dating black. But if the critism is about not just dating out of the race, but not dating overseas too....I'm sorry, I draw the line there. The "Buy American Campaign" only applies to <A TITLE="Click for more information about <A TITLE="Click for more information about car" STYLE="text-decoration: none; border-bottom: medium solid green;" HREF="http://search.targetwords.com/u.search?x=5977|1||||cars|AA1VDw">car</A>" STYLE="text-decoration: none; border-bottom: medium solid green;" HREF="http://search.targetwords.com/u.search?x=5977|1||||cars|AA1VDw">car</A>s. ;)

P.S. To my sister VJ57....is there anything black men do that doesn't make you mad? Does our breathing irritate you too? Here is a website that might interest you, it is a "white man's" opinion about American women: http://www.nomarriage.com


The P.S has me :rolling: here. Sorry If I go off the topic a minute here. Panafrica I think you said you're from NY, like me. Last week I was listening to a talk show, and the topic was are SOME sistahs too strong and independent for a strong black man with his act together. It was a call in show, and many sistahs said that after being the only bread winner for all if not most of their adult lives they find it hard to let a man be the Man in the relationship.

Most of the women who called in were professional as well. They said even though they dated men who had college degrees, but if the men made less than they did it posed a lot of problems, on both sides.

Some men are very sensitive when it comes to a woman making more than they do, in fact have very fragile egos as well. While some women have the tendency to throw up their degrees in the man's face as soon as she meets him.

After reading your post Panafrica, you and I have a lot in common when it comes to our mates. LIke your my wife makes more than I do and has more formal education. But she is a true domestic at home.

So I said all of this to say, what is needed is for us to find a way for strong independent black women and black men who feel insecure about how much money they make and level of formal education to find a common ground

Take the focus off careers for a minute, begin to learn what it is that makes us tick as human beings. Then the rest can fall into place, I hope.

When you hang YOUR hat in the Carribbean, make sure you bring your gloves, too. Some of you black men sicken me with the nasty comments about American women. You probably want to deal with somebody who will be subservient to you and KNOW that you won't get it here. I think American women intimidate you. If you want foreign women, no loss here....

Is this not your statement VJ57? This sure looks like a criticism of someone else's dating choices to me...sorry to disappoint you, but my reading comprehension is just fine! :tongue: Since you have not figured it out yet...everytime you make a statement against black men on this forum, I will be right behind with proof of how your White & Red man do the same!!!

Panafrica I think you said you're from NY, like me. Last week I was listening to a talk show, and the topic was are SOME sistahs too strong and independent for a strong black man with his act together. Most of the women who called in were professional as well. They said even though they dated men who had college degrees, but if the men made less than they did it posed a lot of problems, on both sides. After reading your post Panafrica, you and I have a lot in common when it comes to our mates. LIke you my wife makes more than I do and has more formal education. But she is a true domestic at home.

I do live in the NYC area. I was living in Brooklyn, but I am now across the Hudson in Jersey City (I'm actually closer to Manhattan now than when I was in BK). In today's workforce it is quite easy for women to earn more than women....particularly in non-white communities. Indeed I think the old study of women making $.75 on a $1 for men...applies only to white people. Brother Sekhemu...you & I are examples that men are not as insecure about earning less money than a woman, as rumor would have people believe. I live in a two income house...both are necessary to provide for the family. Why would I be intimidated by my wife's success? I am happy for her.

I am going to put myself out limb for a moment, because I'm sure many will not agree with what I am about to say. I think today's workforce (mostly technology & office based) is more suited towards women than men. It is certainly more suited towards black women than black men. While racism & discrimination continue to face black men & women, the barriers are tougher for black men. White executives are less intimidated by black women, and are more likely to hire & promote a black woman than a black man. If you look at a place like NYC, 50% of black men (not women & men) there are unemployed. A quick glance would make some people say...boy those are a lot of lazy men...but an in depth study would obviously reveal a large amount of discrimination at play in this situation. If one factors that this mass unemployment is affecting only the men, and not the woman.....it would be logical to say that women face less discrimination than men.

Getting back to brother Sekhemu's statement. The problem I think many men have about women who earn more money than them is, some women like to make men feel worthless & belittle them because they earn less. If you don't treat your mate with respect, then you will have problems. While I am sure the phones were ringing off the hook on that talk show....with professional women waiting to tell their story about how the yintimidate men. In reality...other aspects of their personality, not the size of their wallets could be what is turning men away.

I do live in the NYC area. I was living in Brooklyn, but I am now across the Hudson in Jersey City (I'm actually closer to Manhattan now than when I was in BK). In today's workforce it is quite easy for women to earn more than women....particularly in non-white communities. Indeed I think the old study of women making $.75 on a $1 for men...applies only to white people. Brother Sekhemu...you & I are examples that men are not as insecure about earning less money than a woman, as rumor would have people believe. I live in a two income house...both are necessary to provide for the family. Why would I be intimidated by my wife's success? I am happy for her.

I am going to put myself out limb for a moment, because I'm sure many will not agree with what I am about to say. I think today's workforce (mostly technology & office based) is more suited towards women than men. It is certainly more suited towards black women than black men. While racism & discrimination continue to face black men & women, the barriers are tougher for black men. White executives are less intimidated by black women, and are more likely to hire & promote a black woman than a black man. If you look at a place like NYC, 50% of black men (not women & men) there are unemployed. A quick glance would make some people say...boy those are a lot of lazy men...but an in depth study would obviously reveal a large amount of discrimination at play in this situation. If one factors that this mass unemployment is affecting only the men, and not the woman.....it would be logical to say that women face less discrimination than men.

Getting back to brother Sekhemu's statement. The problem I think many men have about women who earn more money than them is, some women like to make men feel worthless & belittle them because they earn less. If you don't treat your mate with respect, then you will have problems. While I am sure the phones were ringing off the hook on that talk show....with professional women waiting to tell their story about how the yintimidate men. In reality...other aspects of their personality, not the size of their wallets could be what is turning men away.


Excellent points Brotha! :teach:

Brother Pan, your opinion was well written and highly credible. You get no argument from me on any point that you raised. I too believe that in the, and get this descriptor, "white collar" workplace, even though Black women have their own set of issues to deal with, they are more likely to be employed and to receive promotions than Black men. This has been a fact ever since Title VII and affirmative action was legislated and enforced.

But getting back on the topic, Sister vj57 I know you may not respond to my comments because it seems you're sick of being singled out as a target in this thread. I would be too if I was in your position. But something strikes me a bit curious when I read your views and I wanted to share what I think I'm seeing.

As a strong proponent of our individual right to choose, why do you get "sickened" when a Brother reveals that he prefers to "deal with" non-American women? What is it about that preference that makes you assume that these men want women who are subservient and what makes you think that some African American women aren't or wouldn't be? What is your source of information that leads you to believe that American women intimidate these men? I believe that Brother Panafrica's personal relationship with his wife is a beautiful and inspiring testimony of how this can be a positive and progressive union, but maybe you have access to information that is just as compelling that says otherwise.

Like I wrote earlier, you probably won't dignify my question with an answer, but I hope that you reconsider and do.

Peace,
Queenie :spinstar:

There is no recruitment here and you know it. If you took time to read with comprehension (which apparently must be lacking), you would know that I could care less about who people date. Everyone has choices in life, and I make mine.

Just like the dude said he don't bother with American women, I have the right to state my choices.

Someone else commented to him, detecting some bitterness from him. The statements he made were laced with bitterness against American women.

Yet, did you confront him about the statement? No. You assumed that my decision to date non-black men was a sure sign that I disliked black men - which, by the way, I will tell you, is absolutely WRONG.

There are a lot of people who prefer others, meaning not necessarily black. One of my black male friends prefer Asian women (he's married to one), but he's one of the sweetest persons I know.

It is not written in stone that one has to be with a black person because one is black. The bible I read tells me NOT to become "unequally yoked with unbelievers" which is NON-Christians. And if it upsets people that my friend is Native American, they have a problem.

I have a problem with people who have preferences but choose to put down others. So, this is not a put down because I don't date black men. Just like the kid who don't date American women, it's MY right and I stick with it.

Have a good day and with these comments, I end my discussion of this topic. I pray that God gives you wisdom and understanding and that you end with the criticisms and accusations of me trying to "recruit" because I pray that people find happiness with a mate, regardless of skin color or nationality. there are Plenty of interracial " can't we all get along sites'' It seems to me that you're best suited for those sites. In my opinion, when you go out of your way to be with non-black people, that shows me that you have a dislike for what is most like you. You can never be a part of our struggle in this country, because you're to busy sleeping with the enemy. Do you're thang girl the white man loves you.

Greetings and welcome bigtown! :wave: It's good to have you join our community and we hope you enjoy your stay.

Thank you for posting to this thread although what you wrote is true about there being plenty of websites around that promote interracial relationships, we also open our doors to our people who have a preference for this particular lifestyle, even though the majority of us are afrocentric. One of the interesting combinations that lends to our community being unique is the diversity among our members. You'll find exciting dialogue throughout the threads that demonstrate this.

We're glad to have you hang out with us and hope you take time to visit us in Voice Chat, and Video Chat if you decide to become a PREMIUM MEMBER.

Hope to see you around!

Peace,
Queenie :spinstar:

What would make a black women date outside her race for 5 years with a white man have 2 kids by this white man then come back to dating with black men? Does that mean she loved him or what?

God can only read the mind and heart and He knows for 100% certain that I do not dislike black men. And for anyone to say different makes them a LIAR.

P.S. To my sister VJ57....is there anything black men do that doesn't make you mad? Does our breathing irritate you too? Here is a website that might interest you, it is a "white man's" opinion about American women: http://www.nomarriage.com

I did not check the link; it's NOT necessary, ok?

The only opinion that counts for me is God's opinion of me. Could care less about other's opinions because it's not worth a hill of beans.

Have a good day!

I think that people form opinion (good or bad) regarding certain races depending on their experiences or what others say. Like some women may date white men because their friends say they're more generous or maybe because the white men they have dated were more generous than the black men they have dated. Some may not date white men because people may say white men are not manly enough or that they're too stiff or square. Either way it's nothing but a bunch of opinions. I think if that's how you feel, then go with it. You have to deal with your decisions and no one else. I do think that the more you think you know about people, the more you're just walking blindly. You can't sum up a whole race of men or women, so if you date a partuicular race because they're nicer, generous, smarter, richer or whatever then you're limiting yourself.

I did not check the link; it's NOT necessary, ok?

Why am I not surprised? You do have "tunnel vision" after all!!

Fine if these black women want to date white men that's their perogative. There are still many sisters out there who date black men and love dating black men.

Funny how we always focus on a small group of people and make it seem like it's the overwhelming majority of people in practice. e.g. homosexuals, lesbians, interracial dating people.

I believe that the majority of black people still date other black people. But for the sisters who date white men....go ahead.... do you. It's your burden to bear. Black people are and have always been more socially accepting of other people than whites. If these black women want to date and marry white men then the responsibility falls on them. Perception wise...they're also competing with white women then, for white men. I don't know if white women necessarily appreciate that or even care.

Now what's interesting would be to see what income brackets the white men that these black women date and marry fall into as opposed to the black men that these black women have dated in the past.

From the black women that I've personally known who date and marry white men... the white men they dated were always in a higher income bracket than the black men they've ever dated or were married to.

Interesting thing would be to see if these black women would have successful relationships if they dated a white man that made less than them or a black man that made more than them...

I could not marry or date a white man. The thought of being intimate with one makes my skin crawl. The city I live in has more than enough interracial couples...White men dating black women, black women dating asian men, asian women dating black men, and black men dating everyone. What ever floats your boat - is fine with me.

But I have to agree with NNQueen.

Personally, it's not so much about their looks although I'm not attracted to the pink skin tone. But more importantly for me, it's what they represent to me and what I associate them with. Meaning no offense to anyone here who has no problem with it, but I think it requires a bit of a split personality to separate from that or not to take that into consideration. But that's my personal opinion

I just dont see where I'd have much in common with a white man on any level...be it sports, music, education, family, or traditions. Considering I grew up in all white neighborhoods...I know first hand how annoying it gets trying to explain why blacks say or do things "that way" or why we think "this way".

I remember back when I was 11, a few white kids from school came over to my house and when they walked in they marveled at how nice our home was. They thought my house was going to look like the apartment on GOOD TIMES. They thought my dad was in jail because he worked on the NOAA ships...they assumed his long absences were due to something negative. Their ill thoughts are what drove me to achieve...and vow I'd never cross that line. Once I got old enough to date there was no attraction there anyway.

I love black men and that is all I've ever been attracted to...even if I'm still waiting for the right time to indulge. :love:

i am not dating (too old, too broke, etc.)
back in the days when i did date, i dated individuals.

black, white, tall, short, whatever.

i have never dated a group or a class.
they were all individuals who i connected with.

for a black woman to date a white individual is her business.
for a black woman to date white men is pathological.

the reverse is also true.

I gree with CarrieMonet. Her story sound identical to mines all I see is interracial dating. I don't have anything in common with a white man and I never will. We could start off good but there is going to be that point where we are going to disagree completely on something whether it is politics or how to raise our child and will be because he wasn't born black and I wasn't born white. We will always look at life differently. I am also not attracted to white men at all, I am not attracted to pig tone skin, the look of naked white people on TV or movies sickens me, especially when they show thier saggy butt's :puke2: :puke:. But that's just me.

Aisha

Hmmm...interesting...

funny how these topics always seem to resurface lol...

I believe sista Queenie voiced it best...

personally...I am truly "alone" if I allow myself to be with the same "white man"

who has oppressed the blood that has birthed me. To my sista vj57...I have quietly

watched these threads and sista...i respect your opinion truly...though i have one

small question...if the Love of God has moved you so much and "blessed" you so...why

do you seem so antagonistic? I do wish you happiness my sista i mean that sincerely

for I know I am not possible of finding that in anything BUT the brothas that share our

ancestral essence. In my humble opinion...if you are truly "happy" you have

accomplished quite the historical feat indeed.

Though I can't speak personally from a womens perspective, I understand the deep rooted feelings or should I say the lack of feelings for persons outside of our race. What influcences our choice for a mate? I believe a lot of our values are formed by the way we are brought up from childhood. During our childhood many myths and stereotypes are introduced to us. Until proven otherwise many of these myths and stereotypes will be driving force of our opinions of people outside our race. I believe a woman asks herself certain questions to find that suitable mate. Some examples are; Does he love me or does he lust me? Can I trust him? Will he protect me or let me fend for myself? Will he make me feel good or will he hurt me? Will he take care of me? Is he involved with someone already? etc..... Some questions are answered upon first encounter like; Is he fine? Is he sexy? Is he well groomed? etc...... My point is enough positive answers to these question will determine a suitable mate no matter their race. I definately don't think it's a good idea to be alone. Personally I'm married to a sister but there are attractive white women, I just wouldn't marry one.

Peace

Radical Faith

Get Him Vj57! Late in the game and old topic, but...I don't know what sista put Manasiac's clothes in the car and burnt them? or threw hot grits on you, but that one comment sure did reek of "Bitterness". Sometimes the very things we run from in life...catches us later on in a head-on collision! I think we have enough foreign women right here in America! And some of the women in these other countries you hang your hat in? -don't forget are Americans too. We are everywhere you run to to get away from us. Including right here in this forum. -And not all evil. to answer question posed. Don't prefer whitemen at all.

PERSONALLY, I'D RATHER MARRY A BLOW UP DOLL THAN A WHITE WOMAN LOL
SISTERS ALL THE WAY!!! I DESERVE THE BEST.

THAT'S MY "BIG" OPINION.

So, what do yall all say about a black female with natural hair dating a white man then having 2 kids (which are mixed of course) by him, then vowing to "never date white man again"?

BTW how come mix kids of black and white couples never look nothing like either parent. They just look……….like, like, like I don’t know.

THEY HAVE PUERTO RICAN KIDS (LOL) ARE YOU SPEAKING FROM EXPERIENCE LUCKY?

Oh yeah I love me sum black females cuz you have more choices to choose from then with white females.
Black females look better even at old age and their butts aren’t all flat.

naw I was just asking

"He even reserves special ire for Asians who have sex with whites.
Asian American women form a statistically higher number of this group — they marry outside of their ethnic groups far more than Asian American men do.
"You are what you ****," says Hamamoto. "And if you're an Asian American who has sex with White people, that's in essence what you are despite physical appearances . . . There is no color-blind anything, even at the level of the emotions."

seems like every one has the same problem. :nono:

Hey brother James, I am not quite sure why the 4 letter word in your post was not ****, but I edited your post to remove the curse. Thanxs!

Man I don't care who dates, cheats with, backdoors, or whatever with who...Black women,men with white men,women...Asian, Spanish, whatever...not my business nor do I wish to make is so..my kids mama..well my wife is Filipino, and during the past 10 years or so I've been with an Ethiopian, Puerto Rican, Korean, Vietnamese, Mexican, Black, Laotian, and a lovely young woman that I love to death that was half Shoshone half Paiute Indian..(man if I can ever find that girl again I promise I won't be a hee haw..donkey)...so I say men, women, love em ..the way I look at it is the world is like Baskin and robbins but there's more than 31 flavors ..and I love ice cream...like to taste the different flavors mix em and match em...I'm a half breed myself so what do I know......personally I don't care what other folk do as far as dating outside their race..it's not my business even a little taste....life is too short to worry about what other folk are doing especially when it doesn't have any effect on me...
Mississippi Red

Why don't the government spend some of that money that they send overseas in Mississippi, we are the closest thing to a 3rd world country that we got.. :devil:

so I say men, women, love em ..the way I look at it is the world is like Baskin and robbins but there's more than 31 flavors ..and I love ice cream...like to taste the different flavors mix em and match em...

I hear that man. I love ice cream too.:lips: There are tooooo many women to just concentrate on one type simply because of their race. It's interesting learning about women and their different culture and stuff that we never see or experience. Plus different women have different traits that are attractive once you get to know them. I'd kick myself if I didn't experience different.

Why don't the government spend some of that money that they send overseas in Mississippi, we are the closest thing to a 3rd world country that we got.. :devil:
you haven't seen north Philly lately , have you?

Nah I've never been to North Philly but I know some little towns in Mississippi that are just now recently in the last 8 years or so are getting running water and electricity in a state whose educational system has ranked last or second runner up to last since I was in headstart. The poorest state in the Union with one of the highest child mortality rates in the country ....I do know however that a lot of the places we as a people call home need them funds man many more that I've never heard of....but folk seem to care more about what happens cross the water the right here at home

Mississippi Red

Kente that's it exactly man exactly , each with something different and beautiful to offer....

Mississippi Red :grin:

Well with me, I just consider white men to be there. I don't find them attrative except a few famous ones like Brad pitts and few others, however I'm strickly into black men. I just because I find about three of them attrative doesn't mean I would be with one. I don't roll that. I believe there is enough black men out there, they just need to stand up and let us know where they are (LOL) When I say black me I mean just that my personal preference is chocolate me, ummmm there is nothing finer than a nice looking, well groomed chocolate man. LOL, so to answer your question, No!!!!!!

For the dude that basically stated he don't do American women, like stated before there is no loss here. It's just ashame you can't handle us, because we are to hot for ya. But anyway, love your race, I believe each race should stick with each other when it comes to relationships, because face black peoples culture are completely different from whites. My friend date a white guy before and they were very serious, I didn't agree with it, but hey it's her life as for I say no.

POETIC_DIVA

YOU'RE MY KIND OF SISTA DIVA. BUT HEY, WHAT ABOUT US CARAMEL BROTHERS?

It's just ashame you can't handle us, because we are to hot for ya. POETIC_DIVA

I love when women use that line. :lol:

Bigtown, thanks man, didn't mean to discriminate against the carmel brothas. I got mad love for ya'll too. You know ya'll some fine brotha's too. Much love, Peace.


Poetic_Diva

interracial

Well with me, I just consider white men to be there. I don't find them attrative except a few famous ones like Brad pitts and few others, however I'm strickly into black men. I just because I find about three of them attrative doesn't mean I would be with one. I don't roll that. I believe there is enough black men out there, they just need to stand up and let us know where they are (LOL) When I say black me I mean just that my personal preference is chocolate me, ummmm there is nothing finer than a nice looking, well groomed chocolate man. LOL, so to answer your question, No!!!!!!

For the dude that basically stated he don't do American women, like stated before there is no loss here. It's just ashame you can't handle us, because we are to hot for ya. But anyway, love your race, I believe each race should stick with each other when it comes to relationships, because face black peoples culture are completely different from whites. My friend date a white guy before and they were very serious, I didn't agree with it, but hey it's her life as for I say no.

POETIC_DIVA

I think that guy earlier meant he didn't like white American women. Well at least that's what I think. Black women is where it's at. American, Carribean, Latin, African.

tim

I wonder why this INTERRACIAL thread has not been closed down yet?!:confused:

ch wheres the topic going???? yes a black women can finda white men or its also possible tht a black men can find a white women. theres no restirction at all, it depends on how much u love ur partner, black or white dosnt matter

This is an old stale @$$ topic!

"BIG"

This is an old stale @$$ topic!

"BIG"

Amen Big. Big Ups On Dat Response

Why is this topic still here? I thought it was locked!!! Where is that siggy-not this s*** again!!?? When you need it?