Brothas. Would you ever marry or date a woman that couldn't cook? I know for me, a woman that can cook is a huge turn-on. Seeing a woman in the kitchen is HOT. I have a friend that swears she wants to get married, but she wants a man that will do all the cooking.:ohmy: She said there's no need to learn because she will just find a man willing to do it. I told her she'd be single forever then. What if the lady in your life couldn't cook, what would you do? Would you get tired of cooking all the meals or eating out?

bro, f she's got it 2gether n the other departments tht r important 2 me, & we r sharing an afrocentric world view, this wld not b a problem.

1stly, i cn cook. f i do all the cooking, she cn do all the cleaning up afterwards. 2ndly, f it's jus a matter of her not knowing how, i cn teach her or she cn take classes, or, we cn take classes 2gether.

there r simply too many other qualities ahead of cooking on my list: physical attractiveness, honesty, humility, empathy, trustworthiness, dependability, reliability, communicative, unselfish, goal oriented, etc., 4 the lack of cooking ability 2 b a serious impediment. f we really :love: e/o, this wld b something we cn surely work out some compromises on. it's not tht big a deal. i figure f i ever get married it will prob b 2 a forighn born woman anyway, so she will prob b totally unfamiliar w cooking any amerikkkan meals.

of course, i expect 2 b well compensated 4 this deficit! :laugh: :laugh:

bro, f she's got it 2gether n the other departments tht r important 2 me, & we r sharing an afrocentric world view, this wld not b a problem.

1stly, i cn cook. f i do all the cooking, she cn do all the cleaning up afterwards. 2ndly, f it's jus a matter of her not knowing how, i cn teach her or she cn take classes, or, we cn take classes 2gether.

there r simply too many other qualities ahead of cooking on my list: physical attractiveness, honesty, humility, empathy, trustworthiness, dependability, reliability, communicative, unselfish, goal oriented, etc., 4 the lack of cooking ability 2 b a serious impediment. f we really :love: e/o, this wld b something we cn surely work out some compromises on. it's not tht big a deal. i figure f i ever get married it will prob b 2 a forighn born woman anyway, so she will prob b totally unfamiliar w cooking any amerikkkan meals.

of course, i expect 2 b well compensated 4 this deficit! :laugh: :laugh:


Sounds good man. Thanks for replying.
:peace: I hear you on that compensated part.

If I got with a woman who could not cook, I would do it!!

I love cooking (good since I live on my own and aint got a girl), and would handle those duties and also teach her. I would teach any woman, I am building a serious reltionship with, to cook if she couldnt and hope that she return the favour other ways and show me something.

To me this is an issue of consideration, and what do you (the woman) bring to a relatioship. So often we hear women talk about what they want in a man (good looks, well educated, stable financially, etc); however, when asked what they bring into a relationship, many women pause. The usual answer of these types of women are their sexual prowess (which all women have). Despite the advances women have made socially & financially in the past 30 years, many still look for a man to provide for them in a relationship. Because of the advances women have made in the past 30 years, many look at cooking as primative/oppressive, and against their principles. Indeed, I know many women that not only don't want to cook..... but don't even know how to (can't boil water).

Although women still want men to provide...to take care of them, many women don't want to provide an exchange...taking care of their man (which includes cooking for him). This is a lack of consideration...it is selfish. In in my opinion this is one why so many women are either single, or in unhappy relationships. All women should know how to cook for their man, and they should desire to cook for their man. It is a important characteristic for women to have....it is as attractive to men as having a job is attractive to women. This is not to say that a man can't cook for a woman to...I cook for my wife as well. Not only me, but my 2 older brothers cook for their wives also. However, this has to go both ways....no one should dominate any aspect of a relationship. Ladies remember the old cliche: A way to a man's heart is through his stomach.

Brothas. Would you ever marry or date a woman that couldn't cook? I know for me, a woman that can cook is a huge turn-on. Seeing a woman in the kitchen is HOT. I have a friend that swears she wants to get married, but she wants a man that will do all the cooking.:ohmy: She said there's no need to learn because she will just find a man willing to do it. I told her she'd be single forever then. What if the lady in your life couldn't cook, what would you do? Would you get tired of cooking all the meals or eating out?

Brother kente, I would not marry a woman that couldn't cook. It's one thing to learn to cook a certain dish, or to cook a meal to your liking, but not knowing how to cook at all or very little is to me, a person that's not ready for, or interested in, a committed relationship, imho.

If her job or commute prevents her from coming home in time to prepare meals for the family, then most certainly I would do it without a moment hesitation, but for her to not be able to provide a basic necessity for her family is ill-responsible. It's also just as important for a man to know how to cook if simply for the scenario I mentioned...there is nothing more triffling than a man sitting at home waiting for his wife to come home after a long day at work to fix dinner.

Also ditto to panafrica's comments.

Anyway, back to your question...my answer is no.

If her job or commute prevents her from coming home in time to prepare meals for the family, then most certainly I would do it without a moment hesitation, but for her to not be able to provide a basic necessity for her family is ill-responsible. It's also just as important for a man to know how to cook if simply for the scenario I mentioned...there is nothing more triffling than a man sitting at home waiting for his wife to come home after a long day at work to fix dinner.

AMEN to that!!!!!

MrBlak, panafrica, Zero and Lucky, thank you for you comments.

I also think that it is inconsiderate. I think that even if a woman can't cook, she should be willing to pick up a cookbook and try. It's all about effort. I also agree no one should have to do all the cooking in the household, but for a woman to not know how to cook and not want to learn is a big turn-off. I couldn't do it. I don't think it's oppressive, I just think it's like you guys said, showing appreciation and consideration. She definately has to have other qualities besides cooking, but to me that's an important thing. I can cook, but that doesn't mean I'm going to do it all the time because "cooking is not your thang". :nono: Thanks Brothas.

I can cook better than most women. Gender does not determine culinary skill. Women are boo boo at cooking in my opinion.

if i might say somin as a woman- my step dad cooks betta then my moms-which is sad but tru- and i often find myself tellin her not to cook- cuz i love his food more-lol ( but she cant listen til we tell her its nasty)

I can cook better than most women. Gender does not determine culinary skill. Women are boo boo at cooking in my opinion.


Woman are boo-boo at cooking?? manasiac it's been a long time since you got your head hit...you asked for this :smash:
but your lucky, cause I still luv ya. :spinstar:

if i might say somin as a woman- my step dad cooks betta then my moms-which is sad but tru- and i often find myself tellin her not to cook- cuz i love his food more-lol ( but she cant listen til we tell her its nasty)


Hey daroc, that's cool. I have come across some women that were just challenged when it came to cooking. In that case maybe the other half should do the majority of it, for health sake. :puke2:
But at least she tried...right?

I can cook better than most women. Gender does not determine culinary skill. Women are boo boo at cooking in my opinion.

U R crazy man. Watch that hammer, Queen seems to be handy with it.
:driveby:

Forgive me for butting in on this manly discussion, but I'm curious as to what the men that have responded define as "cooking". Fast order cooking or sous chef style as Brother Manasiac described it, culinary skills?

Please provide examples of what you consider as someone who knows how to cook. What's your favorite cuisine?

Thank you :thanks:
Queenie

Forgive me for butting in on this manly discussion, but I'm curious as to what the men that have responded define as "cooking". Fast order cooking or sous chef style as Brother Manasiac described it, culinary skills?

Please provide examples of what you consider as someone who knows how to cook. What's your favorite cuisine?

Thank you :thanks:
Queenie

Hey Queen, I think that simple dishes are cool too. Like rice and vegatables and fish. Or you could cook some lasagne or enchiladas or tacos. Somethin'. I don't expect a woman to cook a 7 course meal or anything like that, but I don't want a "Hungry Man" frozen dinner after work either. It doesn't have to take 2 hours to prepare. It can take 10-15 minutes. Whatever. I just don't think it's cool to have someone come home and you're sitting there on the couch talking bout "what we eating tonight baby"?

Brothas. Would you ever marry or date a woman that couldn't cook? I know for me, a woman that can cook is a huge turn-on. Seeing a woman in the kitchen is HOT. I have a friend that swears she wants to get married, but she wants a man that will do all the cooking.:ohmy: She said there's no need to learn because she will just find a man willing to do it. I told her she'd be single forever then. What if the lady in your life couldn't cook, what would you do? Would you get tired of cooking all the meals or eating out?


"Seeing a woman in the kitchen is HOT" :hot: lol, well get her a fan bruh :laugh:

My wife is a D*#@ good cook, I mean she makes KFC taste like TV dinners :jumping: So not to sound shallow but I wouldn't marry a woman that didn't like to cook. However if she didn't know how to do it, then we can work on that :D

"Seeing a woman in the kitchen is HOT" :hot: lol, well get her a fan bruh :laugh:

My wife is a D*#@ good cook, I mean she makes KFC taste like TV dinners :jumping: So not to sound shallow but I wouldn't marry a woman that didn't like to cook. However if she didn't know how to do it, then we can work on that :D

I hear that man. I think once you've been with a woman that knows how to "burn", it's hard to settle for anything else. I mean, like you said, if not we can learn together and cook together. Sometimes though it's just nice to watch the game while she's in there with a skin tight tank-top and some really short shorts....tearing it up. :uhoh: You know what I mean? Not that it's her job or anything...it's just nice to have some good cooking done for you. And vice-versa.

I hear that man. I think once you've been with a woman that knows how to "burn", it's hard to settle for anything else. I mean, like you said, if not we can learn together and cook together. Sometimes though it's just nice to watch the game while she's in there with a skin tight tank-top and some really short shorts....tearing it up. :uhoh: You know what I mean? Not that it's her <A TITLE="Click for more information about <A TITLE="Click for more information about job" STYLE="text-decoration: none; border-bottom: medium solid green;" HREF="http://search.targetwords.com/u.search?x=5977|1||||job|AA1VDw">job</A>" STYLE="text-decoration: none; border-bottom: medium solid green;" HREF="http://search.targetwords.com/u.search?x=5977|1||||job|AA1VDw">job</A> or anything...it's just nice to have some good cooking done for you. And vice-versa.


WHen my wife wear those type of clothes, I'll be tearing sumfin' up too and it won't be the food. :shades:

WHen my wife wear those type of clothes, I'll be tearing sumfin' up too and it won't be the food. :shades:

Man, I hear that. I love when women make something like Mash Potatoes. Something that forces them to stir it and shake that booty while they're stirring. You know what I'm talking about. That hard stirring that makes it shake left to right. That's where the shorts come in. Man...that's the life. That's why I love women that can cook. You get a show while they're cooking and food when they're done and then a little sumthin' sumthin' after the food. I hope no ladies are reading this. They'll think I'm some perv or something. I just apprecaite women and food.

"I'm curious as to what the men that have responded define as "cooking"."

i hv fairly simple tastes n most things, so my palate is not as sophisticated as som others might b. i don't nd fancy sounding dishes or elaborate deserts prepared 4 me. the emphasis 4 me wld b on balance & healthful principles. it might b tru that the way 2 a man's hrt is his stomach, but it's also tru tht the way 2 a man's heart attack is also thru his stomach. i feel like meal planning (b4 heading 2 the grocery store) shld b a team effort.

simple meals can b enjoyble, economic, efficient, and labor saving. 4 ex., most freash veggies cn b prepared n a pressure cooker, once washed & sliced. these days, i like the meat, when i do eat it, 2 b the smallest portion of serving on the plate. i hv seafood 4 - 5 times/wk most wks. but as i pointed out earlier, i don't c it as a bid deal. what w crock pots, woks, waffle makers, george 4man grills, & most of these devices w timers, meals cn easily b started by whomeva gets home 1st tht day. it's mor important 2 me tht we agree on an overall game plan of what we're going 2 habitully consume, & the choice of preparation method - frying ( :bawling: ) vs. baking :spinn: , than who does the actual cooking.

"I'm curious as to what the men that have responded define as "cooking"."

i hv fairly simple tastes n most things, so my palate is not as sophisticated as som others might b. i don't nd fancy sounding dishes or elaborate deserts prepared 4 me. the emphasis 4 me wld b on balance & healthful principles. it might b tru that the way 2 a man's hrt is his stomach, but it's also tru tht the way 2 a man's heart attack is also thru his stomach. i feel like meal planning (b4 heading 2 the grocery store) shld b a team effort.

simple meals can b enjoyble, economic, efficient, and labor saving. 4 ex., most freash veggies cn b prepared n a pressure cooker, once washed & sliced. these days, i like the meat, when i do eat it, 2 b the smallest portion of serving on the plate. i hv seafood 4 - 5 times/wk most wks. but as i pointed out earlier, i don't c it as a bid deal. what w crock pots, woks, waffle makers, george 4man grills, & most of these devices w timers, meals cn easily b started by whomeva gets home 1st tht day. it's mor important 2 me tht we agree on an overall game plan of what we're going 2 habitully consume, & the choice of preparation method - frying ( :bawling: ) vs. baking :spinn: , than who does the actual cooking.

Very true man. Fancy sounding meals don't do it. I don't care if it's just fish and rice...that's good enough for me. Like I said, it can take 10-15 mins to prepare for all I care. I agree that health is very important also. I stay away from fried food now and I don't eat any meat except fish. So guess I'm not vegetarian but I try to limit it to just fish and seafood. Vegetables (perferable green beans) are important to a meal. I like simple meals too because I don't like to wait an hour and a half to eat. Then I'm not hungry anymore. I love my rice cooker and crock-pot. And my Geroge Foreman grill. It's so easy and it's fast too. Thank god for George Foreman.
:lol: Fancy Smancy. Leave all the french sounding names and give me some fish. :shades:

Women who cnt cook? awwww naw, See that will turn me off and she will have to go..lol
Yes I do know how to cook but I love it when my woman cooks for me and I do mean cooks. Not like alot of theese new generation chicks are..LOl
Thinking if they heat up some frozen dinner it all good.
I think most men find it to be an attractive sight to see your woman prepare a meal for them just as well as the women feel that it is sexy for a man to do it also.

their are many women who is a complete cooker making dishies to melt
in your mouth indeed i want a woman like that who can bake cook and make
all kindz of foods she must know how to cook if she want me is to feed me !

I can make a variety of dishes thus I do not need a female to cook for me, I need a woman that can make money, bump a broke chick who cannot cook.

To this I say, the more you can do for self, the better off you will be, in all areas....Yes, I can cook, but I learned to cook for survival, didn't have a man in mind at the time.

Well i can cook and bake and love it..I love to feed my man...point blank!!!!!!
anyway....
I am now teaching my son to cook his chicken is the bomb and hambugers....
I think its a good thing some men know how to cook

I can make a variety of dishes thus I do not need a female to cook for me, I need a woman that can make money, bump a broke chick who cannot cook.

:rolling: What if she is broke, but cooks very well. How bout daaat?

You missed my point Joyce. I prefer a woman with money over one that can cook because I can cook for myself. I need capital not food.

Man, I hear that. I love when women make something like Mash Potatoes. Something that forces them to stir it and shake that booty while they're stirring. You know what I'm talking about. That hard stirring that makes it shake left to right. That's where the shorts come in. Man...that's the life. That's why I love women that can cook. You get a show while they're cooking and food when they're done and then a little sumthin' sumthin' after the food. I hope no ladies are reading this. They'll think I'm some perv or something. I just apprecaite women and food.



you know what?..... a woman DID see that.... :smash:

LOL@SWT AND KENTE!!!!

Anyway... for those that love to feed their men, there are men out there that love to be fed. Then there are men who can and will cook for themselves. Different strokes different folks.

I got news for you, Brothahs,

Not only do you love to watch us cook but we love to throw down for you. See my fish and chicken is so tender you don't need teeth. You can chew it with your lips. When I really know I've put my foot in it something inside me just squeals with the anticipation of watching you enjoy it. :grin:

lol@ yall :lol:

Well I can cook and bake also. I believe all mentally stable woman should know how to cook....lol. Like Pan, I also believe a woman should cook for her mate. I understand in this day and time certain situations may call for the man to be the "cook", and that's cool too. My mother always prepared our meals, but sometimes she had to be away and my dad stepped right in.
Al, I agree with your first reply totally ;)

Peace family

So, Nita, if a woman is not mentally stable, she's off the hook?

Actually that was a lil joke to myself, I work with a woman who can't even make kool-aid now come on?????...and she a lil off too and I get scared when she picks up a fork just to eat her lunch..lol, but when I said that I was jokin to myself :lol:

All men and women should be able to cook, at the least, simple and nutritious meals....

my husband and I are both great cooks. We enjoy cooking together and seperately and I whole heartedly agree with some of the bruthas and sistahs when they say that watching your mate "throw down" in the kitchen is a definite turn on. I can't count the many times that I've been ummmm.... accosted by my beloved while trying to prepare dinner ( "Heeehee... you better stop ... you gonna make me burn these chicken wings...!!!" :blush: ) So it's nice to be the pleaser and at other times be pleased.

Happy Cookin',
Akilah :wink:

River you is silly LOL.

River you is silly LOL.
You mean you just now knowing that?

Ya know LOL.

I got news for you, Brothahs,

Not only do you love to watch us cook but we love to throw down for you. See my fish and chicken is so tender you don't need teeth. You can chew it with your lips. When I really know I've put my foot in it something inside me just squeals with the anticipation of watching you enjoy it. :grin:


Girl, that's what I'm talking about. Don't need teeth, now that's cooking. Women are the :bomb:
I love cooking for women also, because it's also a turn-on to see someone enjoying something that you prepared for them. I don't think women that can't cook aren't HOT or anything, but I'm not sure I'd want to be with a woman that can't cook. It's just something abou it. Like Akilal said, at least simple meals. Come on.....all that takes is a little effort. A simple meal goes a long way with a man.

Well I dont think I would
I know how to cook
Yet what about when I am tired
I would like my woman to be able
To cook sometimes cause I really dont like take out

Hunger is nothing to play with......LOL. Ultimately, if you wanna eat, you better cook. Being that me and my sig. other work , we take turns in the kitchen. From my experience, men take more time in the kitchen, I guess because the role is not exhausted with them.

I love to cook, I cook almost everyday, except for Friday and Saturday nights. I am a southern girl, and I love when my husband tells me how much he loved his fried catfish and boy bread. I was cooking when I was eight years old. I work a nine-to-five, own my own business, and I take care of my home and 3 boys. I remind my husband often that I am no house wife, though, I believe a womens home should be her priority too. The way my husband thanks me for a good meal, is by, washing the dishes, washing clothes, ironing and keeping my yard looking beautiful. I think we compliment each other when it comes to the give and take of a marriage and taking care of your home and children.

Ladies cook if you like, and if you don't, don't. Love the skin your in.

Brothas. Would you ever marry or date a woman that couldn't cook? I know for me, a woman that can cook is a huge turn-on. Seeing a woman in the kitchen is HOT. I have a friend that swears she wants to get married, but she wants a man that will do all the cooking.:ohmy: She said there's no need to learn because she will just find a man willing to do it. I told her she'd be single forever then. What if the lady in your life couldn't cook, what would you do? Would you get tired of cooking all the meals or eating out?

"Would you get tired of cooking all the meals or eating out?"

Not if she washes the dishes and takes out the trash!

:deal:

Brothas. Would you ever marry or date a woman that couldn't cook? I know for me, a woman that can cook is a huge turn-on. Seeing a woman in the kitchen is HOT. I have a friend that swears she wants to get married, but she wants a man that will do all the cooking.:ohmy: She said there's no need to learn because she will just find a man willing to do it. I told her she'd be single forever then. What if the lady in your life couldn't cook, what would you do? Would you get tired of cooking all the meals or eating out?

I can cook my ***** off but just because a woman can't cook doesn't mean the man can't! Heyyyyyyyyyyyy:heart: How about some lamb chops and cheese grits for breakfast! and mint jelly if you have it!:tongue3:

I can cook my ***** off but just because a woman can't cook doesn't mean the man can't! Heyyyyyyyyyyyy:heart: How about some lamb chops and cheese grits for breakfast! and mint jelly if you have it!:tongue3:

Lamb Chops my favorite
Yeah I would always cook cause I also love to cook
Yet I would prefer a woman that can also

A woman should cook most of the time if she's a housewife. However, if she's working and paying the bills, she is no more obligated to cook than the man. It's not fair to expect her to work 8 hours then come home, do the cleaning take care of the kids and cook on top of that. If both parties are working then it's best to take turns with the housework and the chores. When I was working whomever was home during dinner hours did the cooking (we had opposite shifts). And when I was at home with my parents, when mom worked either I cooked or dad did it, especially towards the end of his life when he quit his job to be a real estate entreprenur.

It seems some men want women to do everything. Times have changed and since most women work most will be too tired to cook. If she's by herself then she has no choice, but if she has a husband, live-in bf, etc. then he needs to do his share too!

I can cook my ***** off but just because a woman can't cook doesn't mean the man can't!


I agree, but I could not be with a woman that just accepted the fact that she can't cook...so she doesn't want to try at all. The man should definately help out and cook some of the meals (or all if he's not working or if he wants to cook them), but a woman that isn't willing to learn or make the effort is automatically disqualified (IMO).

People can learn how to cook. Some may not be the best cooks; however, effort and the ability to follow directions can go a long way. I don't think that her not being able to cook should matter as much as being unwilling to learn or try. And being able to cook can only be defined by the person/people doing the tasting... One person may think I can burn. Others may think that they'll pass. BUT I have never had people pass on my cooking. My mother and I are always the one people try to make sure is bring something--and most of the time everything.

On another note. I have found that a lot of young women don't want to learn how to cook, at all. I can't understand for the life of me. I have always cooked because my mother always cooked. she rarely, if ever, told me the mesurements of anything. i watched as she did a little of this and a little of that. And therefore i rarely measure... adding this and that.

I love to cook. I love to try out different recipes from my cook books. Or revamping an old recipe. I take pride in providing my family with the nourishment they need to sustain; however, no one likes to cook all the time. I don't mind doing it; but, a sista will take some help erry now and then. lol

If U "My potato salad goes first at all church functions and family gatherings." Come Softly

LOL...LOL...LOL... Modest I'm not...

a woman that cant cook.. better have a connection with 25 different eateries and chefs aroudn the area.. if she clears away the styrofoam containers and place everything in serving bowls.. then youd never know...



Brothas. Would you ever marry or date a woman that couldn't cook? I know for me, a woman that can cook is a huge turn-on. Seeing a woman in the kitchen is HOT. I have a friend that swears she wants to get married, but she wants a man that will do all the cooking.:ohmy: She said there's no need to learn because she will just find a man willing to do it. I told her she'd be single forever then. What if the lady in your life couldn't cook, what would you do? Would you get tired of cooking all the meals or eating out?

a woman that cant cook.. better have a connection with 25 different eateries and chefs aroudn the area.. if she clears away the styrofoam containers and place everything in serving bowls.. then youd never know...


No woman is going to order out that often....using her own money. We all know that. Plus, I can tell a home cooked meal from a resteraunt meal most of the time.

People can learn how to cook. Some may not be the best cooks; however, effort and the ability to follow directions can go a long way. I don't think that her not being able to cook should matter as much as being unwilling to learn or try. And being able to cook can only be defined by the person/people doing the tasting... One person may think I can burn. Others may think that they'll pass. BUT I have never had people pass on my cooking. My mother and I are always the one people try to make sure is bring something--and most of the time everything.

On another note. I have found that a lot of young women don't want to learn how to cook, at all. I can't understand for the life of me. I have always cooked because my mother always cooked. she rarely, if ever, told me the mesurements of anything. i watched as she did a little of this and a little of that. And therefore i rarely measure... adding this and that.

I love to cook. I love to try out different recipes from my cook books. Or revamping an old recipe. I take pride in providing my family with the nourishment they need to sustain; however, no one likes to cook all the time. I don't mind doing it; but, a sista will take some help erry now and then. lol
If U "My potato salad goes first at all church functions and family gatherings." Come Softly

LOL...LOL...LOL... Modest I'm not...

I second third & fourth that motion with a side of sistah Ifucomesoftly's-knock-ya-into-good-times POTATO SALAD :) THATS the way to go! Go head sistah :read: with that mentality and ya gooooooood cookin made with love I reckon modesty isnt a necessary ingredient ;)