Do they?

How come it seems in the early stages of a relationship when the couple starts to have sex, on 4th or 5th time she doesn't want to. After that it’s usually all good then. It happened to me in my current relationship and in my pass ones. Is it some kind of test you females do? Some of my friends said it happen to them too.
If somebody’s (in general) loving is good how can your new mate not want to have sex on the first couple of times?

Then yall ask the 3 dreadful words " Are you mad"? Me personally, I don’t get mad just disappointed but "blue balls" sure does hurt and its uncomfortable!

I try to control my self and have discipline but I lose my upper hand, and that’s when she gets control. lol

Why do yall do this to us brothas?

You have a good point that should be discussed. I believe that you should read this poem (link below) and maybe it will give you a clearer picture as to what may be happening in your particular case.

Ms. Vagina Don't Love Nobody! (http://www.destee.com/forums/showthread.php?p=228618#post228618)

Amen, speak on it brotha. Women do control sex and I think they enjoy it. It's funny because when I stop intitiating sex in a relationship that's when women start wondering if you're getting it somewhere else. Start talking that "what's wrong" crap. Not in every situation, but in a couple. I don't know what it is Lucky, but I know we'll never know what's going on with women and they'll never know what's in our minds either. It tends to backfire though because you can't use sex to control a real man. It won't work.

When you play games you end up alone and :bawling:

GOOD GOD Joyce :jawdrop: That poem was the DEEPEST AND I MEAN THE DEEPEST I've ever read. After reading it 3 times I feel like going to church and getting saved, lol.

SO this explains why females are the way they are, cuz of Ms.Vagina.

I don't know what it is Lucky, :

Ms.Vagina is what it is buddy!

Ms.Vagina is what it is buddy!

Just read it Lucky. Man, you ain't never lied.

indeed to a point they control it and on many different grounds
that poem do express and say why it happens to many bruthas

Yes they do
Its crazy how sometimes you want it
They know how to get you too
make em made that put it on lock
They can go days-weeks without sex
Knowing they want it just stubbourn
I hate when they happens
I just shake my head for real
Look at like ok its all good
Cause woman dont care if you tell them no
They go and get a dam toy
So so sad but true they control it
Unless its so good they cant do without
I think thats my thang when I do what I do
I want to get her to the point where she needs my D
So then when I want what I want she is eager and willing
24/7

my brother,females been controllin the sex since eve,they make us think that we're in charge,why do you think that adam bit that apple[poor boy was booty whipped]!

Let's see maybe once,twice nope I don't beleive I've turned my man down before but they have turned me down before:weights:
You tired wtf? Get yo ***** up and take care of this right now!!!!!:hammer: :hammer:

Let's see maybe once,twice nope I don't beleive I've turned my man down before but they have turned me down before:weights:
You tired wtf? Get yo ***** up and take care of this right now!!!!!:hammer: :hammer:

You Ok Sis
Not liking men lately
I see

You Ok Sis
Not liking men lately
I see

Naw cause there is one in particular that's breaking my heart right now:bye:
but I still like to be broke off if he stops being stingy!:hammer: :hammer:

Naw cause there is one in particular that's breaking my heart right now:bye:
but I still like to be broke off if he stops being stingy!:hammer: :hammer:

A man being stingy
That means he is loosing interest
My personal opinion or is moving on
What you think??

You said you two are going through somethings

A man being stingy
That means he is loosing interest
My personal opinion or is moving on
What you think??

You said you two are going through somethings

Yeah we are but he's not the only one to blame either.
We're good but we're not
I'm too emotionally and he's not and he will not allow me to be when I am
I need to know how my guy is feeling, if he is my guy

Tantrum do you have instant messageing?
poetry4two2002@yahoo

I think its more equal than one might think....of course she makes the ultimate decision if you get to penetrate or not. Believe it or not, she has the right to NOT have sex if she doesn't feel like it. Soo does the man. A man can control sex in the same way. If he doesn't want to have sex and she does, its ultimately up to him whether he decides to penetrate her or not.

The difference is that women take rejection from sex totally different from the way a man will take it. Or so we think! Do women ever bother to ask?

If one or the other partner is not wanting to have sex, then it needs to be discussed....just like everything else. If a man is truly interested in his partner and the relationship, he has just as much as an emotional investment.

Oh yeah and moving on is not an option.
I'm no good for the next man right now!
I just to relax and kick it until I can get this ole heart of mine together.

Yeah we are but he's not the only one to blame either.
We're good but we're not
I'm too emotionally and he's not and he will not allow me to be when I am
I need to know how my guy is feeling, if he is my guy

Tantrum do you have instant messageing?
poetry4two2002@yahoo

No not at work have MSN Messenger at work
tantrumthegreat@hotmail.com

I think its more equal than one might think....of course she makes the ultimate decision if you get to penetrate or not. Believe it or not, she has the right to NOT have sex if she doesn't feel like it. Soo does the man. A man can control sex in the same way. If he doesn't want to have sex and she does, its ultimately up to him whether he decides to penetrate her or not.

The difference is that women take rejection from sex totally different from the way a man will take it. Or so we think! Do women ever bother to ask?

If one or the other partner is not wanting to have sex, then it needs to be discussed....just like everything else. If a man is truly interested in his partner and the relationship, he has just as much as an emotional investment.

True! but not always

You agree, but you disagree????

True! but not always

You agree, but you disagree????

I'm a woman I must challenge you opinion to prove it to be true:1on1:
I'm getting you back for picking on me:hearts4:

seem like u got it all in control cursed heart
often u won't see ya man's emotions but u
should get a feel of him ....it's gonna work out
if not call me !.....lol

seem like u got it all in control cursed heart
often u won't see ya man's emotions but u
should get a feel of him ....it's gonna work out
if not call me !.....lol

Rich you crazy!

Think they don't? .....Of course they do......we only get it because they want to give it.........i just hate it when they try to stall me out......cuz they mad or whatever...........thinking they the only magic box in town trippin.... :) I'm like a dope head when it come to sex ...I gotta get my fix or I get sick......and I ain't going into withdrawal cuz old gal is mad and won't cooperate .........when one drug sto is closed and you need yo meds what you do..........yep go on to the next open sto.........they might even have a better quality product ....



MississippiRed

Think they don't? .....Of course they do......we only get it because they want to give it.........i just hate it when they try to stall me out......cuz they mad or whatever...........thinking they the only magic box in town trippin.... :) I'm like a dope head when it come to sex ...I gotta get my fix or I get sick......and I ain't going into withdrawal cuz old gal is mad and won't cooperate .........when one drug sto is closed and you need yo meds what you do..........yep go on to the next open sto.........they might even have a better quality product ....



MississippiRed

When you're mad that's the best!
It's wild and passionate and I can take it out on you
Mother flucker you know you messed up harder harder dammit that's right suffer,no to the left to the right reverse:tongue3: :killpc:
My exhusband thought I was crazy for wanting to when we argued

Do they?

How come it seems in the early stages of a relationship when the couple starts to have sex, on 4th or 5th time she doesn't want to. After that it’s usually all good then. It happened to me in my current relationship and in my pass ones. Is it some kind of test you females do? Some of my friends said it happen to them too.
If somebody’s (in general) loving is good how can your new mate not want to have sex on the first couple of times?

Then yall ask the 3 dreadful words " Are you mad"? Me personally, I don’t get mad just disappointed but "blue balls" sure does hurt and its uncomfortable!

I try to control my self and have discipline but I lose my upper hand, and that’s when she gets control. lol

(((It's all a "power struggle" and quite frankly I have no problem with women taking control in this aspect of a relationship. Just dont try to throw handcuffs on others aspects of my behavior. I avoid "control freaks" and all attempts to hinder my mobility and free will and I never attempt to control the actions of others unless they are rowdy kids in my classroom of which I AM a "control freak" myself..))))

Why do yall do this to us brothas?

.....:happens:

Do they?

How come it seems in the early stages of a relationship when the couple starts to have sex, on 4th or 5th time she doesn't want to. After that it’s usually all good then. It happened to me in my current relationship and in my pass ones. Is it some kind of test you females do? Some of my friends said it happen to them too.
If somebody’s (in general) loving is good how can your new mate not want to have sex on the first couple of times?

Then yall ask the 3 dreadful words " Are you mad"? Me personally, I don’t get mad just disappointed but "blue balls" sure does hurt and its uncomfortable!

I try to control my self and have discipline but I lose my upper hand, and that’s when she gets control. lol

Why do yall do this to us brothas?

They always have and they always will

I guess we all have our own opinions.......

If females control the sex 100% in a relationship its because we have given her that power. We don't even think about it. It's truly great to be in a relationship, but if you're led by your **** inside of the relationship have we really accomplished anything? Then we complain when she uses her power against us! If our goal is to be spiritually, mentally, and physically balanced...then one person shouldn't hold complete power in any aspect of the relationship.

Just my two cents......

If women aren't having sex on a consistent basis, then it would be best to first talk to her and see where the problem is. If sex is pleasureable to her and she's not tired, sick, overly stressed, etc. she should want it as much as you.

I know for myself, I don't use that as a weapon because I enjoy it. If I turn it down it's because I'm tired. It's not right to assume that every time a woman says "no," she's being manipulative.