Match.com...Yahoo Personals...has anyone ever tried, or thought about trying an on-line dating service? How was the experience?

I have not tried any of these services but I would also like to hear what others may have to say about their experience. Pan I don't know if you remember Sinnamon from the old chatroom, but her and her husband met online and the last time I heard they were still together.
So I believe love can be found and this form of dating can work for some.

Match.com...Yahoo Personals...has anyone ever tried, or thought about trying an on-line dating service? How was the experience?


I have never tryed such before but i have dated before from off line
and it was a very nice date i may add , not something i would do
every day ......

I have never tryed such before but i have dated before from off line and it was a very nice date i may add , not something i would do every day ......

That's cool Rich! I didn't know about Sinn, Nita....I'm happy for her. Just to clarify people, I'm not talking about people dating after talking to each other for months on a forum or in a chat room. I am talking about folks who go to on-line dating services like Match.com, for the specific purpose of dating. How do you choose from so many people? Where do you meet? What do you say to each other? What is the experience like?

Try lavalifeLava Life (http://lavalife.com)

Yes, BlackPeopleMeet.com...I have made quite a few friends from that site.

I used to belong to Yahoo personals but I cancelled my subscription because the majority of the people who responded were looking for simple, casual relationships, heavily sexual in nature and nothing else. Not my cup of tea. If it were, I could get that from a brotha off the street. But, I have met some nice folks that I chat with from time to time, but unfortunately not the kind of sparks I am looking for. I have an acquaintance who met her husband through match.com and they are still together with a baby.

I used to belong to Yahoo personals but I cancelled my subscription because the majority of the people who responded were looking for simple, casual relationships, heavily sexual in nature and nothing else.

Could you tell this by reading their introduction Jazzy? Or did you find this out after you started talking to them? Also did you find that people misrepresented themselves, or did they pretty much fit their self-description?

Hello, Pan

I found that alot of "gentlemen" misrepresented themselves. My response to them was "If that is what you are looking for, then go ahead, do your thing, but my ad clearly did not represent itself in that way. Neither in the way that it was written nor in the pictures selected." I don't have any ill feelings towards online dating services though, because it actually gives you a broader search. The people that I have met online over the years, I wouldn't have met at the clubs that I used to frequent, nor did we work in or around the same areas necessarily. My overall feeling is that people can misrepresent themselves on the street, club or online. There are knuckleheads (male and female) every where. Stay firm in what you are seeking and don't be bothered with those you don't wish to respond to. :wave:

with my luck ... i'd meet a serial killer ... :eeek:

nawww ... i aint never did this

:heart:

Destee

with my luck ... i'd meet a serial killer ... :eeek:

Man Destee......think positive sister.

I did meet a young lady once after talking for a hour the next day
and we really didn't mix to well she was looking for a sugar daddy
we talked about facts of life and what we want in life on that date
that told me she not the one for me, I did this like maybe 12 or 13
years ago but never tryed it again not saying it was wrong or right
i just felt it wasn't for me to cross into the mystery side to meet a
mate some do fine a nice mate from these date lines but i can fine
my own mate not this computer matchup thing !

Ok here I go again....LOL :laugh:

:rolleyes: Ya'll ready 4 this one???

Yes I have tried online dating services and from a mans point of view I think you can meet a nice young lady without alot of games about her if you take your time and get to know her. How do you pick from a wide selection of women? Well that was the fun part about it to myself. You will choose some and some will choose you but the bottom line is you will make this decision. I just say be careful and be smart when you do this it's just like meeting somone on the street it takes time to get to know the real person at times.
Ladies beware alot of men are only looking for a bootie call and will lie about everything. :laugh:
Ok I think I got through that one ok, I don't think I will gat a :smash: or my :driveby: knocked out my head....LOL :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Man Destee......think positive sister.

lol ... that was the positive ... the negative is i'd fall in love with him on sight ... join him in his murderous splurge across the world ... living in cars and stuff ... get caught and go to prison ... never getting to log on to a computer again ... :wink:

:heart:

Destee

lol ... that was the positive ... the negative is i'd fall in love with him on sight ... join him in his murderous splurge across the world ... living in cars and stuff ... get caught and go to prison ... never getting to log on to a computer again ... :wink:

:heart:

Destee

:ohmy: I worry about you sometimes Destee.

don't worry Brother Pan ... i'm okay ... :nuts:

:heart:

Destee

Yesterday I recommended online dating to a co-worker (divorced mother of 4), who said she had problems meeting men. She was afraid to try it though!

I used to belong to Yahoo personals but I cancelled my subscription because the majority of the people who responded were looking for simple, casual relationships, heavily sexual in nature and nothing else. Not my cup of tea. If it were, I could get that from a brotha off the street. But, I have met some nice folks that I chat with from time to time, but unfortunately not the kind of sparks I am looking for. I have an acquaintance who met her husband through match.com and they are still together with a baby.

Yahoo is 'off the hook', even when you explicity mention that you are not looking for certain things (sex, drinkers, smokers, etc.), those people who are the opposite of what you are looking for will respond.

And in many instances, people do not look like what they describe. The white guy who claimed to be 6'2 was about 5'5 (and I'm very tall) and smelled like a brewery and had no teeth and was shabby looking. I met him at the local mall (no way I wasn't going to a public place).

The fine looking brother I met had some drama. First of all I said NO smoking because I hate the habit. He smoked. And basically was homeless.

Others have been freaks. When talking to them on the phone, they got on the subject of their prowess in bed. Even though I was not looking for a sexual encounter.

Even had a woman respond to me for a sexual encounter and I'm definitely not into a lesbo relationship.

You have to also be careful about some of the Christian dating links.

But I do believe that true love can be found online. Yet, I'm very cautious. And I decided to leave the online dating services alone. I'm not knocking it at all, just not dealing with this issue right now.

Yes I've done that four or five times and am not likely to do it again. Sure people can get lucky but it's like playing Russian Roulette where all the barrels are loaded accept one. Here are my basic rules for anyone who wants to go this route

1. Wear your running shoes
2. Meet in a public place. Close to a police station if possible.
3. Have your own transportation home.
4. Have a big beefy brother lurking nearby ready to play football if the need arises.

In one experience the guy had posted a picture of himself when he was thiry seven. He turned out to be fifty three. There's no short cut to building a relationship. If you go in there with idea that you're saving time by finding a shortcut to instant knowledge you will not give yourself the time needed to really know the person and make a decision based on true knowledge rather than what they typed and said about themselves on the computer and on a date. You're sitting there at a table trying to decide if the person is relatinship material when you don't even know them as a person or friend. It's very backwards and unnatural but it can work for some people I've been told.

1. Wear your running shoes
2. Meet in a public place. Close to a police station if possible.
3. Have your own transportation home.
4. Have a big beefy brother lurking nearby ready to play football if the need arises.

:lol: :lol: gr8 suggestions sister river. but i cn help the sisters eliminate the nd 4 all of those. jus follow the alkebulan method on ur 1st meeting:

almost immediately after meeting the person, like, as soon as ur seated, or sooner, pretend 2 b closely examining a 3" x 4" card & say, "can u believe they charged me $5.00 2 laminate my gun permit? & that's on top of the $12.50 the courthouse charged me 2 register my magnum. u wouldn't know where i can get a silencer 4 it would u? do u nd 2 c it, i've got it right here?' (a firm pat on the side of ur purse is usu sufficient)

alternative:

"sorry i'm a little late, the traffic on the way from the firing range was surpisingly heavy. n the three years i've been teaching there, i've never seen it this heavy. btw, we're doing semi-automatics next wk, u shld com, it'll b fun. later, i'll sho u how 2 make 1 from spare parts around the house".

:laugh: :laugh:

YIKES!!
:lol: :laugh: :nuts:

I think I'd reserve that for the ones I definitely don't want to see again. Oh and BTW for your own safety I can't invite you to my house until the insurance company approves the temperament shots for my three dobermans. They might not do it since they already paid for my pitbull.

I'm registered with a few sites....none of them have worked/helped.

I have the same luck on the internet as I do in real life; BAD.

I would think that online just like in real life, it takes patience to find the right person.

That's right Pan,

The people on the otherside of the server are the same people you meet in real life and just like in real life very few people are attracted to a negative attitude. People tend to pour water on a drowning man and if you let it be known that you are lonely they feel it best to leave you alone. We are not attracted to people who feel they are having bad luck because it makes us feel like a number coming up in a slot machine. It makes us feel like that person is not going to hold his/her end of a real relationship but will blame everything on forces beyond his/her control.

My profiles aren't bad, at least I don't think they are. It's just that I don't meet any women in my area. I probably should move, but that seems like a big step just to meet a woman.

My profiles aren't bad, at least I don't think they are. It's just that I don't meet any women in my area. I probably should move, but that seems like a big step just to meet a woman.

I can fully understand your not wanting to move just to meet a woman Solo, especially if you are doing well in other aspects of your life. However, I can tell you from personal experience that a change of environments can do wonders for dating prosects. There are many reason that cause people to move, from a poor local economy to bad schools. Although dating prospects is not high on this list, many people do at least go outside of their area to find people (with great sucess). You know your situation better than anyone else, but if I were you....I'd at least go outside of Birmingham.

It looks like I'll have to if I decide to try my luck with women (yet again...)

Right now I don't want anything to do with women. Too much trouble and the costs seem to outweigh the benefits. I'm going to try my best to not even think about it and just do what I can to be a better person for myself.

Women is cool, even though they are sometimes stressful, you just got remember one phrase that I say and believe which is seems to fall on deaf ears when I say it around hur, they only seem to remember all my other stuff:

Get your self right, so that when the right woman comes you will be right.

I'm always tying to improve my life, and I hear what you're saying. It's just that after a lifetime of failure you start to want to give up. I feel like I'd be happier if I didn't care about women or wanting to be with one. I really don't know if there is a "right" woman or not, at least not for me. I feel like I'll either have to settle (which is a no no) or stay by myself, which is what I'm used to anyway.

I appreciate the advice given by people here. I apologize for hijacking this thread and making it about me and my crap. I don't participate here enough for that, I just needed to vent.

Sorry.

It seemed to me
That most of the people were
Just desperate souls
Looking for an outreach
Like they havent had human contact before
Like whats your name-How many kids you have
Can we go out-Can I see you
Its like what the hell-I know you want to get to know me
But just dont seem so desperate
Many woman have told me that guys push hard also
Is that your picture-First conversation is about sex
Which for me when a woman talks about sex the first date
I know she likes what she sees-Is not looking for a serious relationship
Wants right there and knows thats about it
I had one good experience though from dating on line
Naw wait my fault that was a dream-LOL

I've been using online dating since '96 and I love it. I started with Yahoo but I found too many fakes on there. I now use www.blackpeoplemeet.com,.

Just cant do it

"Has anyone ever tried an on-line dating service? "

Seems like Destee's is heading in that direction :)

I was once on an internet dating website. Blackplanet.com to be exact. It was very interesting. At the time I was divorced, and a single mother, who didn't club or get out where it was possible to meet quality people. My sister found her then boyfriend there, and she urged me to give it a try. Actually, it was great at first you get to meet so many different people from so many different places that you would never meet in your everday coming and goings. But, after awhile it got to be a bunch of bullhocky. There are some crazy people in this world. I met a gentleman from Blackplanet, at the local mall, after communicating for several weeks. When he approached me, I died, I excused myself to go to the ladies room, and I stayed in there about 40 mins before I got the nerve to walk out and run, I poked my head out, didn't see him, and took off.

You say why? He was missing all of his top row of teeth and the bottom was missing some too, except for the one that once was gold I assume. He had on a yellow top hat, yellow suit, and yellow gators with yellow socks, and a yellow ribbon around his neck. To make matters worst he was carrying a green gator man purse, and had a gold pinky nail.

When he approached me I thought it was a joke and he would start laughing, but he continued to tell he me how glad he was to meet me and how he was excited about getting to know me. The picture on his web page was his son he said, he said he had no updated pictures of himself, and he and his son resembled so much he just used his. He also said he was 38, but he was more like 58.

I guess you live and you learn. I did meet some people who I have become great friends with and we keep in contact often.