I FINE MYSELF THINKING //WONDERING
ABOUT THIS THING CALLED LOVE
WHO CAN DEFINE LOVE

LET HEAR YO SIDE OF LOVE
DEFINE IT IN YO OWN WORDS

BLACK LOVE OF ESSENCE IS THE BEAUTY OF SELF
TO SHARE WIT SOULMATE OF LOVE AND BE LOVED
BLACK LOVE IS A HEART OF GOLD WITHIN YA SOUL
IT'S CARING//SHARING//LAUGHTER//EVEN PAIN......
*******L
#O
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OF POWER IS THE KEY ...... HUMMMM!! I WONDER?:heart:

i'm agreeing with you Your $$RICH$$NESS

truly it's about loving self

:heart:

Destee

U HAVE TO START WIT SELF TO LOVE OTHERS
BUT WHEN IT COMES TO OTHERS
WHO'S LOVIN WHO!!????
I THINK BLACK LOVE IS THE LOVE U POSE
INSIDE AND WIT COMPASSION U LET IT
SEEP OUT TO ANOTHER SOUL TO CAPTURE
IT .........WELL I WONDER ABOUT THIS THING
CALL LOVEEEEEE!!!!!.:heart:

Brother $$RICH$$ I'll keep this brief.

Indeed true love comes from within, yet the love I speak of "Blak love" is a connection between a blakman and woman on a level just beneath God. Physical, mental, emotional, spiritual all these individiual levels combined create this and the synergy is wonderful. I thought I was there a couple of times and found I was not but I've seen brothers and sisters on this level. I have yet to find happier people. As you know ain't nothing like a "blak woman" not one who is black a "blak" woman who understands who she is and her existence in relation to the "blak" man.

ya dig. blak

True black Love...
When I read this thread black love I immediately reflected on a statue of a black man and woman intertwine. I see this statue symbolizing the black man enbracing his black woman in complete unity. I don't know if anyone is familiar with the statue I'm speaking of? However, I see black love like that. A black man and black woman so in tune with their blackness, who they are,(individually) where they came from(ancestrally)where they are going(united). Possession of those qualities is the true essence of black love that'll continue to thrive. Do they/it exist? That's another thread.
I know this strays from the thread, but connects indirectly, so I feel the need to mention it. I believe that is why a white man/woman can never truly sympathize with a black man/woman(relationship/marriage) when they come home to share their pain from the cruel conditions society spits out at them in their lives daily. Black men/women deep down knowing that the one they love is indirectly apart of that same society which afflicts mental and sometimes physical suffering apond them and their people, probably never fully open up that side of themselves. I feel the black man/woman need to expell those cancerous emotions and it'll benefit them most, if its to someone who can truly sympathize with them.
This is a good thread.

MadLove:heart: Coco

SURELY U TWO HAVE GIVEN ME SOME LIGHT
TO SEE WITH .........THANKZ YA REPLY IS GREATLY
NEEDED

First, I would have to say true love is rare,
there is many renditons, many definitions and
many interpretations. What true black love means
to me..is first loving your blackness, loving your
heritage and having pride in your heritage and
respecting your heritage, once you experience this love of yourself. You transfer all those feelings into your black partner and vise versa.
But true love is......loving someone unconditionally,
loving what they feed your mind, heart and soul. How they enhance your life, with their presence. How you feel in your heart when you look at them, make love to them, touch them. Love is becoming the spirit of that person, yet maintaining your own spirit. True love is eternal
because it is the mutual meeting of the heart, mind and soul....without greed, envy, deliberate pain, selfishness.
love is the ability to give of yourself without malice or regret.....support without vindictiveness....I wonder how many people can say that they have all these things with the people whom they claim to love? Seems a little impossible, because these are basic human emotions, but thats where mutual understanding and communication comes into play.... You are a fortunate person to find.........TRUE LOVE!

I think as African American men and women, there are a few of these qualities that we can work on in our relationship...but I am a firm believer in mutual respect and I think that is the foundation.....for a male/female relationship to work we have to recognize our roles....Men:
can step to the plate and be a bit more responsible in leading their family and children.....Woman: we can let the man be the head of the household as he should, supporting him...because we are their strength.

Epiphany
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$$$RICH$$$

you know i avoid some of these topics because normally what others write i disagree with. well some things here i do agree with. Black love is a love centered on God with the man being the head and the womanwalking with him. It is clear that positioning is central because the emotions come from the central part of life..our hearts. If a man is not the head of his home then he cannot love a woman the best way. He should not eb led but lead and more important the man should understand that his source of strength is not his mate but God. Both sides should know that if the other is not in relationship with God then they cannot be in relationship with each other. True black love? Knowing your heritage, loving with conditions and acce[pting your mate for who they are and not alwyas thinking you are better than them or they cannot live without you. Relationships are a choice and when one choose to be with you know they can choose to be without you also. If both sides stay level headed, ahve a strong faith system and know who they are in the relationship then true love whether black or otherwise, will be strong and eternal. It takes work, faith and understanding. Respect adn acceptance is key. Honor and cherish of each other is beautiful. hese are all the conditions that make up a love.

I disagree wiht one statement i read. While women are strong, they are not a man's strength. that places the man in a position to take his eye off of God and look to another person as his source. That cannot be. Black woman are storng but to think that a man is strengthened by a woman is a little shallow. A woman is his help-meet in other words she completes what was left incomplete, but it is not his strength. The man must be strong in order to be with a strong black woman because a strong black woman don't want no weak man. BALANCE and equality is key but understand the strenght of a woman is one who can be led by a man of God. Understand this: A STONG BLACK WOMAN IS ONE WHO CAN BE LED BY A DEEPLY ROOTED BLACK MAN. This means for woman to step back and allow the man to do what he is created to do. Be the provider as the woman is the nurturer.

I have more but i just wanted to get this off my chest...

Let's stop changing the roles and accept your position. Keeping your eye on God and not a person prevents the problem of worshipping a person over GOD which will be a quick demise of a possible good relationship.

Be careful with your words because "thou shall have no other God before me..."

ya made a statement of strong points
thank u

I agree wit ya in many way their is no other before GOD
and love come from him through us all ....ya right
u have made it clear to see ............thankz a million

I have to say, you took my single comment way out of context. I would never imply that "We" are before God.
God comes first before all things....
When I used the term strength, what I meant is
support hand and hand
stand by that man
share in mutual decisions..etc.

The definition of strength is:

1.the state and QUALITY of being STRONG(I believe these were your words "Strong Black Woman").
2.The power to resist STRAIN or STRESS, durability.
3.The ability to MAINTAIN a moral or INTELLECTUAL position firmly.
4. One that is regarded as the embodiment of protective or SUPPORTIVE power.

So I am quite aware of what I meant. God is the begining ,the middle and the end of who we are.....


Epiphany :heart:

Forgive me but this has occurred many times on this board before you have entered so if my words seemd harsh well, so be it. I am quite like many others who post. I strongly beleive in writing what you mean. Now i too am a culprit of confusion myslef which is why i can note these things but the words are clear. Your words were:

"Woman: we can let the man be the head of the household as he should, supporting him...because we are their strength"

As for me taking it our of context? Not so for my response was a general statement that has been spoken in such so many ways before. While i believe that wehat we say is what we mean there is really no other way one could take such a statement. While i agree that woman who feel they can do it better than men should allow the man to thier rightful posistion i also feel that one gender is not stronger than the other. I was also speaking of a Godly relationship as it pertains to submission which is one of the key factors to the downfall of the family structure. The whole concept has becaome a dilusional practice of "i the better species or i'm the stronger type" when in reality strength comes from submitting to the will of God.

Now my main problem with that statement was the placement of one's strength. As many woman have spoken in life, "They don't need no man to define who they are." the same goes for men. What my reaction was that a person's strength lies in their faith, discipline and obedience to GOD for when that occurs it doesn't matter who is the strongest. When we place qualities as such in a person and not GOD then we are deifying that person. Moreso we must be carferul how we word our statements. Black man already deal with the stigma of being weak in the eyes of Black woman so when your statement was put out there, it is very easy to see it in the same manner. Forgive me if my response was harsh but i wanted to express clarity on where a PERSON's strengths lies first.

In other words, black men do not regard their women as their strength but their gift and a reason to reach a goal. They are an inspiration, nothing more. BLack love comes from understanding who you are first and not how better you are than your mate. Yes i do have a problem with putting strength in one over the other because if we took your comment literally then how would you interpret a relationship where the woman is weak-minded and confused. Where is the man's strength then...

While i understand you knew what you meant that doesn't always come across to the one who reads it. As you can see what you meant was not what was read nor written. In basic terms, never took it out of context, just took it as it was stated.

as man be of head surely woman be da back bone
yet GOD is the power which both endure in life
forth he is the one.....and true black love can be
defined in wayz from others point of view
truely i'm reading up on this thing the word call LOVE.:heart:

my thing is definding the word call L~O~V~E
love as i can see is of many kinds but if it's all
about love why do we hurt each other
love can be blind
love can come from da heart
surely GOD gave love to his begotten son to love
and love also will hurt ya emotional state of mind
yet love makes u happy so some say love is defind
like this >>> love is two people in heart as one whom
care in a devoted way ......... and the other one say
Love is a myth of self emotions
but i do agree wit ya that love can be beautiful if u
choose the right mate at share it with so see it's not
about black but love itself.......thank u for yo imput !:heart:

of many but u gotta start wit GOD den self
lovin he whom paved da way for u then lovin
self to love another defining da word love has
many ways to express
:confused:

no color don't have a thing just it was a title
as i said before i seek the thing called love
and the true meaning of it not the creed nor color .....

NO COLOR PLAY NO PART AT ALL JUST DA WORD ((LOVE))

JUST TERMS OF WORDS PEACE BE WITHIN
IT'S HOW I FLOW .....LEARN ME ..

BLACK LOVE IS A TERM OF DA DARKNESS OF LOVE THAT HIDES
INSIDE THE SOUL OF EVERYONE EVEN U.

WORD UP!!:toast:

SHUT UP!!! THAT WAS NOT NICE AT ALL PLEASE DON'T MAKE
IT HARD .......THIS BE OF FREEDOM SPEECH HERE I SAY AS PLEASE

IF U CAN'T UNDERSTAND A POET THEN NOT SAY ANYTHING AT ALL
THIS HOUSE WE LOVE NOT SHUT UP!! .....END .