Do you think physical attraction is a big factor in determining if someone is relationship material? Would you ever date or marry someone that you were not physically attracted to? What if that person was everything that you wanted in a mate, minus appearance?

I don't think that in everyone case physical attraction is the divine factor
but the loyal of a person heart and the inner beings which we all seek in a
mate the beauty of a soul not the outter appearance

*male perspective alert*

I don't see a successful relationship if a man doesn't find his woman attractive, so yes looks are important. But there is a misperception about the emphasis that men put on physical attraction. If a man says that he wants a woman who is attractive that doesn't mean that she must look like Bernadette Stanis (Thelma-Good Times), Maia Campbell (Tiffany-In the House), Nia Long, Beyonce, or Vivica Fox. It simply means that his woman must be attractive to him. This is common sense because a relationship is both mental & physical. How can one make love to a woman that they don't find physically attractive?

I too think that there has to be a physical attraction in order to have a strong relationship. I don't mean that a person has to be made-up all the time or a size 2 or anything like that, but I do think there has to ba an attraction physically. I know that the mind has alot to do with a relationship and that has to also be there. I think one of the best things is looking at a woman while she's doing something simple like watching TV or cooking or sleeping. I would definately want the person I am staring at to be pleasing to my eye. It's not a matter of physical perfection either. Natural physical beauty is very important. There are plenty of women that I think are beautiful that others may not. Like they say, it's all in the eye of the beholder. :hot:

...she doesn’t have to be drop dead gorgeous, but it should be ok just as long as there is nothing about her that you have a strong disliking for....lol...if something about them makes you "cringe" or "frown", it probably ain’t gonna work.
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Yeah, a cringe or a frown definately means there is something wrong. Not good at all. :crying:

Hmmm, I think a cringe is far worse than a frown....lol. I always find myself smirking after I read threads like this. I agree though that the person needs to be pleasing to your eye, doesn't have to be an adonis, just pleasant to you. The rest comes from within.

*male perspective alert*

I think it is pretty much acknowledged that men are more visually stimulated than women. Although I can appreciate an intelligient woman. No, intelligience and sweetness are requirements for me. Neither or these attributes are important to me at 7:00am when I wake up & turn to look at my partner. The most important thing at that time is not having to recoil in horror...LOL!

Let's see! This one is kind of tricky. I met quite a few people that were'nt physically attractive. As I got to know them I found them stimulating on an intellectual level. Their physical was'nt as important as the emphasize that society has placed on it. It caused me to take a look at the over all picture. The beauty that lied within the character was phenomenal and surpassed the physical. When I looked at him after I gotton to know him, All I saw was beauty. I Stayed with that person for 6yrs. And still today I find him to be very beautiful where others might beg to differ. I've dated gorgeous guys whom had the IQ of an acorn and the character of a brut. Although I was physically attracted to them, I could not bring myself to go any further than knowing that they were indeed very handsome. Having said that, I guess it all depends on how the individual define beauty and attractiveness.

**Here's how you know something might not be right on the physical level**

Woman: "Hey baby, I'm all ready to go out. How do I look?"
Man: :puke:

**OR**

Man: "Baby, can you come help me with my feet?"
Woman: :puke:
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well, i can honestly say that in the relationship i am currently involved in, LOOKS DID NOT MATTER TO ME!! :toast: (yay for me). When I first met this woman, I was not attracted to her at all (to tell the truth, I kind of found her a little ugly) but because of my strong attraction to her personality, every time I saw her she became more and more appealing. And now it's been 7 months and I think she's the cutest thing I've ever seen (no lie).

:heart: :heart: PLAY :heart: :heart:

Well my best friend is in this situation where his girlfriend is not good looking at all. He says they love each other. But she is a complete WITCH! She runs their relationship. She told him that he can't even talk to me anymore and I figured that was because she's insecure. All of her evil actions are a result of insecurity. They've been together 4 months, he and I have been friends 6 years. He's actually going along with it. So I guess I have to respect their decision and lose my best friend over some 4 month old tail. I hope no one out there gets it twisted. Less attractive people can be mean too.

Hmmm, I think a cringe is far worse than a frown....lol. I always find myself smirking after I read threads like this. I agree though that the person needs to be pleasing to your eye, doesn't have to be an adonis, just pleasant to you. The rest comes from within.

I tottaly agree with your position. Since the first contact anyone has is visual, the person has to have something about them that is appealing to you for you to stop and talk ro at least stare long enuff for them to know you are interested. Then you get to know the person and that is where you find out if they would be good for a relationship or not. Physical is important at the start, but does not count for as much in the long run IMO.

I think physical attraction matters, but not so much. Wait, let me explain. No one wants to be with someone that looks like something the dog found in the back yard, right? But if you base relationship on looks alone, it will end.. and fast. Personality is probably the most important thing to me in looking for a mate (well, when I WAS looking for a mate.. been married now for a year.). I've been with guys that were sooooooooo fine.. but they ruined it every time they opened their mouths. I'm a big fan of conversation, so there goes that. I like to see where someone's head is before i look to see what someone's head is, if you can understand that.

Honestly, I feel that if you love someone truthfully, then looks would be the least of your worries. If you love with the soul, then the mind will follow. Therefore, if you really love this person, then you could surpass the feeling of them not really looking the way you dreamed. Maybe your dream of what your ideal mate should resemble might be a little distorted.

I wasn't physically attracted to my sweetie (thought he was ugly, nerdy, boring) when we first met and started dating, but about 3 months later I saw him naked and :luv: :jumping: :party: I've been in love ever since!

I let my friends talk me into dating this guy who was very sweet, hard working, and dependable. Thing is, he wasn't a lQQker so to speak. I tried to lQQk over his lQQks and get to know him as a person. I knew I had to let him go when I allowed him to kiss me and I quickly ran in the house to wash my lips off ...with bleach...rofl

Wzup peoples,
From past experienceS, I must say that there has to be a physical attraction for relationship/marriages to work well. At the same time, physical attraction isn't everything. I'm the type of guy who always goes beyond looks, and i've found that the leeway given by that sometimes turns out for the worst. For instance, the saying always goes, "to other you may not appear glamorous on the outside, but on the inside your beautiful". Well what can you say about someone who isn't glamorous, and then soon turns out to be ugly at heart too???

I let my friends talk me into dating this guy who was very sweet, hard working, and dependable. Thing is, he wasn't a lQQker so to speak. I tried to lQQk over his lQQks and get to know him as a person. I knew I had to let him go when I allowed him to kiss me and I quickly ran in the house to wash my lips off ...with bleach...rofl

:lol: :lol: :rolling: :rolling:

OKAY NITA......good point. There IS a limit. I can only envision someone being my girl if they are at least "cute" in some way to me. And they gotta take care of them self. It sounds like this guy was dirty or something......either that or you were seriously trippin....

....bleach?????? :lol:

I cannot roll with women who look like James Brown or Luther Vandross Sorry.

I cannot roll with women who look the bottom of my shoe or a used Tampon.

However, I do roll with women that I have some attraction to physically, as long as they are not the size of the white house, and have a great personality, and are willing to work with someone who is working on his self then they cool with me.

I have most definitely dated men I was not initially physically attracted to. I stress initially because sometimes you notice things you like about a person the more you are around them. Things you may not notice in passing.

I really like a more conservative person. Someone who doesn't jump out at me...I'd have to notice him.

When a man is drop dead FINE...I will admire him, but I usually pass that brother up. I'd have to find out his personality was really nice or that he had a humble nature to give him the time of day.